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MY DETROIT PLAYAS · 2015-06-25 12:03:00 · #5651
(06-24-2015 05:21 PM)hwuzhere Wrote:  
(06-24-2015 05:04 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  
(06-24-2015 03:58 PM)hwuzhere Wrote:  Weed made her horny as fuck and next thing you know she's feeling up on me, but you know what my friend decided to unintentionally cockblock me by not getting the memo and getting the fuck out.

That's brutal man. There was no way you could have made an excuse to take him aside and tell him to get the hell out while you went to work? Or at least give him the "get outta here" head jerk when she wasn't looking?

He was too dense and I was too high. I also would need to have to low key pass him my keys so he could drive home and that would have been hard to pull without the girl noticing.

If ever you find yourself in this situation again, try excusing yourself to the bathroom and text your buddy to peel off for awhile (insert built-in excuse if needed) as a way to smoothly play it off

Sometimes guys can't take cues well, especially under the influence

Speaking from experience
WestIndianArchie · 2015-06-25 13:11:00 · #5652
Interesting factoid from Vice.

The story is about only children

Here's the game related quote

"Put these kids in groups in school, and very often what you find is that the leader of the group is the only child.

The reason for that is that the kid does not want to be bound—doesn't want their performance determined by what other people do.

They'd rather try to govern the group so they can gain a level of performance that works for them"
Chunnel · 2015-06-25 20:31:00 · #5653
930 east coast time, push and pull between staying in and rolling out solo... What you guys do to give yourself an extra little umpf to go out and not crash on the couch??
kaotic · 2015-06-25 23:35:00 · #5654
(06-25-2015 08:31 PM)Chunnel Wrote:  930 east coast time, push and pull between staying in and rolling out solo... What you guys do to give yourself an extra little umpf to go out and not crash on the couch??

I always workout after work before my dates or going out.

I feel a bit bigger, confident, but relaxed.

Getting read with music always help, reading the forum also.
Roardog · 2015-06-26 00:14:00 · #5655
(06-25-2015 11:35 PM)kaotic Wrote:  
(06-25-2015 08:31 PM)Chunnel Wrote:  930 east coast time, push and pull between staying in and rolling out solo... What you guys do to give yourself an extra little umpf to go out and not crash on the couch??

I always workout after work before my dates or going out.

I feel a bit bigger, confident, but relaxed.

Getting read with music always help, reading the forum also.

Yep, always gym before dates. Puts me in a good mood and makes me feel pumped up.
~wrIghter~ · 2015-06-26 00:34:00 · #5656
Bad girls | Flakes & a camera

I woke up earlier than usual because of my brother’s interview and soon returned to sleep, only to awake at 9. I was excited, I’d finally have my chance to smash my first blonde! I groomed, and showered myself until it was soon enough to fire off a confirmation text.

“meet me at XX Park @3…see you soon”. Assuming the sale, I was convinced she’d be receptive and accept my proposal. She replies about an hour later.

“Hm, okay! I guess I’ll head back to XX until then.”

I try to keep it cool, calm, and collected. I don’t want to seem overexcited or seem to invested. As guys, we really get excited when theirs a chance that we’d be balls deep in an attractive female, whom we’ve only just met the same day. My first date post-game date.

“cool, bring something to sit/lay on”

Her text are kinda hip, familiar lingo.

“Ok I got u”

After getting dressed, packing away Nikki (my camera…don’t judge me), some props for shots I wanted to do, rubbers, and etc) I head out to the local grocery store and buy some gum and chap stick. (Don’t want to make out with chapped lips, also fresh breath is the best breath.) Big Red was my choice of chewing gum.

My trip gets off to a rough start as my funds haven’t taken to my card and I need to present the driver with a receipt and reference number. As I go to pull it up on my 3G phone (not fast at all), the driver becomes impatient. I’ve pulled up the receipt and this butch, spiky fro b*tch starts to give me shit for not having it ready. She kicks me off the bus and tells me to wait for the next, breaking company policy.

I remained cool and went to the closes stop with shade. It was fucking hot. Days like this I’d rather be some place cool or at the beach. I catch the next bus and soon the first train northbound toward my destination. I listen to the playboy playlist on my iPhone to lighten my mood and to prepare me for what was sure to be an exciting day. I reach the station and take a seat the near the stairs. I’m about 15 mins early.

While I wait and continue to burn through my playlist I see a foreign girl, Indian…middle eastern maybe. I try to catch her eye contact but she passes my bench for the next one. Later a blonde 8 joins me at my right side. I honestly regret not opening her. I had faith that my date wouldn’t disappoint. Two girls I didn’t approach….damn it, better be worth it.

My phone buzzes in the pocket of my jeans. I extract it to see what’s up. I’ve got a text.

“Shit man, I’m not gunna make it”

(Bish, were all gunna make it!)

This is all too familiar from the many of stories I’ve read of disappointed potential bangs from elusive sloots from both the web and cold approach alike. I feel my frame is shaken. I need to save this.

“what happen”

Simple question right? Did you get stuck somewhere, make other plans? Change your mind? Girls only think about themselves.

“I’m just not even home yet.”

It was around 11pm when she had told me she’d be heading home before coming to meet me. 2hrs after confirming that she’s down, I get a text message that many of us have grown to loathe and curse. I’m still in the mindset that I can save this. I’m going to meet this girl. It’s hot and I want to get into something.

“ i’ll come to you then.”

The plan? If I go straight to hers, good chance of securing the bang and spending less. She doesn’t text back for a while. I take out my camera and walk out into the scorching heat towards the park. I’m upset. My frame has been shaken, I’m thinking how stupid her explanation is and I want to meet. I’ve lost patience. I’m not calling her phone or sending hundreds of text. Just gathering my thoughts.

I go to sit on a porch swing near the lake. While I gather my thoughts, new text arrive.

“What do you want to do? My friend wants to go shoe shopping! lol”

(You forgot that I wanted to meet at the fucking park?)

“Neflix…booze”

She neither confirms or deny

“Its so nice out!”

I play along, I’m bored. What’s frame mate? Wot the fuck is it?

“yea, i’m chilling at the park at the moment”

She doesn’t text back for a bit. I go off to shoot more photos and check my phone after a few minutes. Sandman was right, I’m a bit too invested in this hoe. I just wanted to swim in good pussy, that drought can be quite long and arduous.

“Do you smoke”

There might be a chance! Game gods, are you listening? Am I really going to get laid after smoking with this elusive blonde stoner?
I answer that I do indeed, but only the green trees. She tells me that she’s smoking and I ask that she saves some while I make my way over. She text back that “Maybe later? I’m currently exploring XX__Points, looking for a permanent home” The messages become more spaced out as time goes on, but this gives me the chance to take more photos and explore the park a bit.

Not many girls were around, but teenagers and a few joggers. I’ve become frustrated, with the way my day has been going and the gnats, feeling my sweaty aesthetics. I text back that if she’d be down for tonight, that would be fine, but if not let me know. I don’t want my day the day to be wasted. I wanted to spend the day doing something different, meeting a new chick, getting new pussy.

After several apologies about hoping she didn’t waste my day, she decides to text “Do you, don’t let anyone ruin your day. I’m not good with plans, I do what I want. (emojis followed)” after wishing her day well, I deleted my text conversation and finished up in the park. I found some shade near a few bars and restaurants. A lot of gay couples were out. Its that side of town.

I sat on my phone swiped a couple potentials on tinder, called an old lead, who made an excuse to get off the phone, and messaged a few friends. On the way home, I tried opening another blonde 7 with an interesting shorts/dress outfit. She ignored and kept walking. She wasn’t bad, but I think the black guy ahead of me probably ruined my chances by doing the same thing, ha!

TL;DR

Goes to meet Blonde HB 7 from tinder, bad girl flakes and makes up several excuses. Feels like beta days Confused .
Ingocnito · 2015-06-26 03:00:00 · #5657
This is "I have a friends with benefits" response I dealt with today. Went on 1 date with a 5' ginger I'd give a 7 rating. Post date texts were positive, we made out at end of date, great kisser. A few days later (today) she tries shit testing me. I made a sexual connotation and she replied:"Sounds like you're looking for a FWB, am I right?"

Me:"I don't go on dates with girls I plan to make my buddies, why are you labeling shit?"
Her:"Well it seems like you're all gamble and nothing's black and white. I have a FWB that I'm not sure I'm ready to let go so." (my vagueness intrigues)
.... I went cold since she can eat shit after that FWB dread game threat....
.... She starts firing off worry-texts throughout this afternoon like she might have scared me off, and I replied with short 1-2 word texts to her 20+ worders...standard text game kickin in.....
.... I wait an hour and she replies to her own text without me responding....
Her:"You're a tough nut to crack Ingocnito."
Me: "47% of the time the gambler wins. Those are your odds."
Her: "I like those odds, I'd take that gamble on you, you're definitely worth it."

The hamster 2-step. Time to bore out some freckled Irish hop trolly. I love when you've got them interested, hearing them think out loud.

This year I've seen more than ever, the value of true abundance. The more women I've got rotating, interested, dating, etc.. the quicker each one's petty bullshit bullets melt when they hit me and they make themselves look so dumb, they answer their own questions and retract their own shit tests on cue.
Dalaran1991 · 2015-06-26 08:09:00 · #5658
(06-26-2015 03:00 AM)Ingocnito Wrote:  This is "I have a friends with benefits" response I dealt with today. Went on 1 date with a 5' ginger I'd give a 7 rating. Post date texts were positive, we made out at end of date, great kisser. A few days later (today) she tries shit testing me. I made a sexual connotation and she replied:"Sounds like you're looking for a FWB, am I right?"

Me:"I don't go on dates with girls I plan to make my buddies, why are you labeling shit?"
Her:"Well it seems like you're all gamble and nothing's black and white. I have a FWB that I'm not sure I'm ready to let go so." (my vagueness intrigues)
.... I went cold since she can eat shit after that FWB dread game threat....
.... She starts firing off worry-texts throughout this afternoon like she might have scared me off, and I replied with short 1-2 word texts to her 20+ worders...standard text game kickin in.....
.... I wait an hour and she replies to her own text without me responding....
Her:"You're a tough nut to crack Ingocnito."
Me: "47% of the time the gambler wins. Those are your odds."
Her: "I like those odds, I'd take that gamble on you, you're definitely worth it."

The hamster 2-step. Time to bore out some freckled Irish hop trolly. I love when you've got them interested, hearing them think out loud.

This year I've seen more than ever, the value of true abundance. The more women I've got rotating, interested, dating, etc.. the quicker each one's petty bullshit bullets melt when they hit me and they make themselves look so dumb, they answer their own questions and retract their own shit tests on cue.

I would be interested in a date report of this girl if you don’t mind, here or on PM. I suppose the date must have gone well for her to get invested like that.

As much as I agree with abundance mentality, here in Paris the cute girls have abundance in abundance Tongue so most of the time aloof game doesn’t work, if you answer “k” they don’t answer at all. If you go radio silence they do too. Playing mysterious doesn’t do you shit either because every Parisian guys wearing dress shirts with a scarf in the summer are also playing that game. Fucking land of intrigue my ass…

But asking nicely/sending a nice restart text always get a positive response and sometimes result in bang. I had to learn how to next girls emotionally but not mechanically like Gio said.
Ingocnito · 2015-06-26 14:24:00 · #5659
(06-26-2015 08:09 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  
(06-26-2015 03:00 AM)Ingocnito Wrote:  ..........

I would be interested in a date report of this girl if you don’t mind, here or on PM. I suppose the date must have gone well for her to get invested like that.

As much as I agree with abundance mentality, here in Paris the cute girls have abundance in abundance Tongue so most of the time aloof game doesn’t work, if you answer “k” they don’t answer at all. If you go radio silence they do too. Playing mysterious doesn’t do you shit either because every Parisian guys wearing dress shirts with a scarf in the summer are also playing that game. Fucking land of intrigue my ass…

But asking nicely/sending a nice restart text always get a positive response and sometimes result in bang. I had to learn how to next girls emotionally but not mechanically like Gio said.

Will do. Gio is wise beyond his years. It's not his words that convey his wisdom, rather his actions speaking out loud. Re. what I bolded above, that's precisely how the 7.5s+ around here act. I lost a 9 going silent after her shit testing put me awry, and I'm not sure if I conveyed much mystery perceptively to her or not. The last thing I heard from her is she promised me the best blow job I'll ever get. Mmkay bitch. Actions. Every shit test or question she asked was presented as a game-over method to disqualify me. Any answer I gave, no matter how witty, or agreed and amplified, or just ignored and/or was vague about, she turned into a lose-lose for me. Fuck that. Sure I gained respect, but my dick isn't wet for doing so. Literally ALL the 8s+ here expect to make alpha males into their puppy dogs, and many alpha-ish guys become that despite their machismo. The thirst is immense here, and plenty of jacked guys I know who do worse than I do in this area, so you're not alone in Paris man.

This one as well as 2 others I'm workin on are slow movers due to hectic work/family schedules. The funny part is lately I've been my usual obnoxious self with most prospects (I live in Ohio), but I'm finding many expect traditional courting behavior leading up to finally fucking them. After which I realize every time what I suspect all along, they're just as hypergamous as all the rest around the states. I chalk it up to a higher "slut defense mechanism," in this area. They have less tolerance for feeling like the slut they are deep down. Whatever it takes to circumvent that, and still get laid is how things run here with "decent" talent.

+1 on a blond 5'4" blond 6.5 last night. Pretty face, so-so body, half Mexican half French Canadian/Irish. She required the same. I don't like dipping below a 7 anymore, and putting all the extra up front work makes my cost in time/money per bang lower than usual, but it's guaranteed sex and she lives a mile away from me. Like the saying goes, you have to spend money to make money... same applies with time and attention with women where I live. If I put up-front a month to 6 weeks of effort texting and dating a girl I'll fuck for the next 3-6+ months, sometimes the investment is worth the time/effort.

Again however, re. the ginger, they're just words thus far, but promising sounding anyways. I only respond to actions. In doing so, the ones that are only good for sex slot themselves into that category automatically, as their words forever mean shit.
WestIndianArchie · 2015-06-26 15:02:00 · #5660
I DIDN'T TRY TO PULL THE WAITRESS.

It would have been a Hail Mary, but it would have cost me nothing. Something about Habeshas.

Well it's dc, I'll see another one in ten minutes

WIA
kaotic · 2015-06-26 16:59:00 · #5661
(06-26-2015 12:34 AM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  Bad girls | Flakes & a camera
.....

“Shit man, I’m not gunna make it”

(Bish, were all gunna make it!)

This is all too familiar from the many of stories I’ve read of disappointed potential bangs from elusive sloots from both the web and cold approach alike. I feel my frame is shaken. I need to save this.

“what happen”

Simple question right? Did you get stuck somewhere, make other plans? Change your mind? Girls only think about themselves.

“I’m just not even home yet.”

It was around 11pm when she had told me she’d be heading home before coming to meet me. 2hrs after confirming that she’s down, I get a text message that many of us have grown to loathe and curse. I’m still in the mindset that I can save this. I’m going to meet this girl. It’s hot and I want to get into something.

“ i’ll come to you then.” not a bad response, hail mary

The plan? If I go straight to hers, good chance of securing the bang and spending less. She doesn’t text back for a while. I take out my camera and walk out into the scorching heat towards the park. I’m upset. My frame has been shaken, I’m thinking how stupid her explanation is and I want to meet. I’ve lost patience. I’m not calling her phone or sending hundreds of text. Just gathering my thoughts.

I go to sit on a porch swing near the lake. While I gather my thoughts, new text arrive.

“What do you want to do? My friend wants to go shoe shopping! lol”


That's ground for an immediate next, I don't play games and would've deleted her number right then and there.

(You forgot that I wanted to meet at the fucking park?)

“Neflix…booze”

Never ever say that directly, that means one thing to a woman, hey I want to fuck. You always have to trojan horse it, especially with online girls, how many guys you think message her asking to watch netflix or have a drink ?

She neither confirms or deny

“Its so nice out!” damn right she ignored it, she's already outside with a friend.

I play along, I’m bored. What’s frame mate? Wot the fuck is it?

“yea, i’m chilling at the park at the moment”

She doesn’t text back for a bit. I go off to shoot more photos and check my phone after a few minutes. Sandman was right, I’m a bit too invested in this hoe. I just wanted to swim in good pussy, that drought can be quite long and arduous.

“Do you smoke”

There might be a chance! Game gods, are you listening? Am I really going to get laid after smoking with this elusive blonde stoner?
I answer that I do indeed, but only the green trees. She tells me that she’s smoking and I ask that she saves some while I make my way over. She text back that “Maybe later? I’m currently exploring XX__Points, looking for a permanent home” The messages become more spaced out as time goes on, but this gives me the chance to take more photos and explore the park a bit.

She's slowly and politely pushing you out of the picture. She had NO intention of meeting up with you.

Not many girls were around, but teenagers and a few joggers. I’ve become frustrated, with the way my day has been going and the gnats, feeling my sweaty aesthetics. I text back that if she’d be down for tonight, that would be fine, but if not let me know. I don’t want my day the day to be wasted. I wanted to spend the day doing something different, meeting a new chick, getting new pussy.

The minute a bitch gives me any kind of excuse I either call her on it with humor OR go radio silent.


After several apologies about hoping she didn’t waste my day, she decides to text “Do you, don’t let anyone ruin your day. I’m not good with plans, I do what I want. (emojis followed)” after wishing her day well, I deleted my text conversation and finished up in the park. I found some shade near a few bars and restaurants. A lot of gay couples were out. Its that side of town.

I do what I want (read: I don't care about hanging with you)

Some questions:

What was the time from match to supposed meet ?
How often did you text her between that time ?
Did you get her on the phone ?
Did you specifically suggest meeting at the park ?

This girl didn't even seem to have a care in the world that she had plans with you, I always make girls promise (so I have ammo to use if they flake). Ex. a girl flaked on our second date, now she's promised to have me over, cook dinner, and "watch netflix"

Bitches are erratic, and even more so online, they don't give a shit, hyper gamy is at its best with online game, just like with us guys. We'll drop a 6 we know we can bang for an 8 we've got a lower chance of banging.

Sandman's right, you were way too invested in this chick.

I nexted 2 chicks just this week.

One was this cute black 8 - 2nd date, she literally is the laziest person ever, and didn't want to drive. I knew I was going to run into LMR, and I did, I got tired of it and deleted her number without replying to her. I had another cute mixed black 8 but with a kid. She didn't want to drive past a certain city, I called her on it, but she said she'd feel bad if she flaked. I didn't respond and ignored her. BUT I got 4 new leads in the past 2 days so I don't care.
~wrIghter~ · 2015-06-26 17:41:00 · #5662
(06-26-2015 04:59 PM)kaotic Wrote:  
(06-26-2015 12:34 AM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  Bad girls | Flakes & a camera
.....

“Shit man, I’m not gunna make it”

(Bish, were all gunna make it!)

This is all too familiar from the many of stories I’ve read of disappointed potential bangs from elusive sloots from both the web and cold approach alike. I feel my frame is shaken. I need to save this.

“what happen”

Simple question right? Did you get stuck somewhere, make other plans? Change your mind? Girls only think about themselves.

“I’m just not even home yet.”

It was around 11pm when she had told me she’d be heading home before coming to meet me. 2hrs after confirming that she’s down, I get a text message that many of us have grown to loathe and curse. I’m still in the mindset that I can save this. I’m going to meet this girl. It’s hot and I want to get into something.

“ i’ll come to you then.” not a bad response, hail mary

The plan? If I go straight to hers, good chance of securing the bang and spending less. She doesn’t text back for a while. I take out my camera and walk out into the scorching heat towards the park. I’m upset. My frame has been shaken, I’m thinking how stupid her explanation is and I want to meet. I’ve lost patience. I’m not calling her phone or sending hundreds of text. Just gathering my thoughts.

I go to sit on a porch swing near the lake. While I gather my thoughts, new text arrive.

“What do you want to do? My friend wants to go shoe shopping! lol”


That's ground for an immediate next, I don't play games and would've deleted her number right then and there.

(You forgot that I wanted to meet at the fucking park?)

“Neflix…booze”

Never ever say that directly, that means one thing to a woman, hey I want to fuck. You always have to trojan horse it, especially with online girls, how many guys you think message her asking to watch netflix or have a drink ?

She neither confirms or deny

“Its so nice out!” damn right she ignored it, she's already outside with a friend.

I play along, I’m bored. What’s frame mate? Wot the fuck is it?

“yea, i’m chilling at the park at the moment”

She doesn’t text back for a bit. I go off to shoot more photos and check my phone after a few minutes. Sandman was right, I’m a bit too invested in this hoe. I just wanted to swim in good pussy, that drought can be quite long and arduous.

“Do you smoke”

There might be a chance! Game gods, are you listening? Am I really going to get laid after smoking with this elusive blonde stoner?
I answer that I do indeed, but only the green trees. She tells me that she’s smoking and I ask that she saves some while I make my way over. She text back that “Maybe later? I’m currently exploring XX__Points, looking for a permanent home” The messages become more spaced out as time goes on, but this gives me the chance to take more photos and explore the park a bit.

She's slowly and politely pushing you out of the picture. She had NO intention of meeting up with you.

Not many girls were around, but teenagers and a few joggers. I’ve become frustrated, with the way my day has been going and the gnats, feeling my sweaty aesthetics. I text back that if she’d be down for tonight, that would be fine, but if not let me know. I don’t want my day the day to be wasted. I wanted to spend the day doing something different, meeting a new chick, getting new pussy.

The minute a bitch gives me any kind of excuse I either call her on it with humor OR go radio silent.


After several apologies about hoping she didn’t waste my day, she decides to text “Do you, don’t let anyone ruin your day. I’m not good with plans, I do what I want. (emojis followed)” after wishing her day well, I deleted my text conversation and finished up in the park. I found some shade near a few bars and restaurants. A lot of gay couples were out. Its that side of town.

I do what I want (read: I don't care about hanging with you)

Some questions:

What was the time from match to supposed meet ?
10 days.
How often did you text her between that time ?
On Tinder, I got her number in 4 messages. It was an easy hook after mentioning her seeing the city.
Did you get her on the phone ?
I never called her. Only text. I tried this with the stoner chick before, but not with this one.
Did you specifically suggest meeting at the park ?
I suggested meeting at the station so that we could go to the park from that point. My plan was to have a fun touristy kind of date. Also with sort of a model/photographer role play. The plan was to switch venues after shooting at the park for a bit, and then suggest drinks.

This girl didn't even seem to have a care in the world that she had plans with you, I always make girls promise (so I have ammo to use if they flake). Ex. a girl flaked on our second date, now she's promised to have me over, cook dinner, and "watch netflix"

Bitches are erratic, and even more so online, they don't give a shit, hyper gamy is at its best with online game, just like with us guys. We'll drop a 6 we know we can bang for an 8 we've got a lower chance of banging.

Sandman's right, you were way too invested in this chick.

I nexted 2 chicks just this week.

One was this cute black 8 - 2nd date, she literally is the laziest person ever, and didn't want to drive. I knew I was going to run into LMR, and I did, I got tried of it and deleted her number without replying to her. I had another cute mixed black 8 but with a kid. She didn't want to drive past a certain city, I called her on it, but she said she'd feel bad if she flaked. I didn't respond and ignored her. BUT I got 4 new leads in the past 2 days so I don't care.

I did find my self too invested. In the end I hadn't booked a plan b or c. She text me earlier apologizing after mentioning a show by a rising artist from the city. Currently radio with her.

I think making them promise is a good way to go about it. I guess this girl is somewhat interested but I really don't know what to think of it. Bitches are erratic indeed. I'll let the orbiters have their shot and go for new leads.
kaotic · 2015-06-26 18:05:00 · #5663
I think you should've phoned her, and should've been more specific about what you wanted to do. Not just meet at the station.

I meant how often did you text her, did you get to know her a bit, make her laugh, make some similar connections.

I'm assuming she's just visiting your city, she doesn't live there ?
Brosemite · 2015-06-26 18:55:00 · #5664
I'm at the point where daygame can be awfully unsuccessful if it's all I focused on.

It's as if...I need to go out and do some night game & partying because it's one of those activities that gives me the adrenalin to day game with more confidence.

Or maybe..I need to be engaged in a fun lifestyle where I can enjoy myself that will trigger more gaming vibes.

Anybody ever dealt with this type of dilemma?
~wrIghter~ · 2015-06-26 20:35:00 · #5665
(06-26-2015 06:05 PM)kaotic Wrote:  I think you should've phoned her, and should've been more specific about what you wanted to do. Not just meet at the station.

I meant how often did you text her, did you get to know her a bit, make her laugh, make some similar connections.

I'm assuming she's just visiting your city, she doesn't live there ?

I followed the advice to keep the texting to a minimum. It was used mostly for setting the date and logistics.

After getting her number, we flirted a bit. "Hey, its wrIghter, your handsome tour-guide from Tinder" (attached fly photo).

She responded in kind "Hey, its XX your sexy tourist, though I'm not a tourist, I'm moving here lol."

From there we text back and forth and spoke about places in the city. After trying to set something up over the weekend, she told me she would have to go home that weekend.

During the week we texted just about every day up until when we were supposed to meet. The start of it was us getting to know each other a bit, some jokes on my part, and an idea for our meetup.

I originally proposed that we hang around this significant part of town, check out the park there, and see a movie. She seemed totally down for it.

We spoke about our siblings and what she's doing for work. Sometimes the responses were like a day late but I wasn't tripping. I asked her what day would be good to meet and she gave me Thursday.

I thought it was perfect. We'd both still have time to do things over the weekend. After setting the date, she'd ping me to ask what I'm up to. I kept things short. "Shower, what's up?" She mentioned just having done the same and having a beer.

I followed with "You're doing it right Wink" I later assumed it was an invitation but tried to seem like I wasn't thirsty. "I'd like to join ya xx, but that there last minute is the kicker."

I text her a day or two later after no response. I pretty much told her to wear something light, but cute, and that I'd be bringing my camera.

She seemed excited, but I didn't text much. I said "cool"

She mentioned the location and that if we'd still meet there. I informed her that we will. My guess now is that she wasn't too fond of it because she works in the area.

After setting the logistics I shot off the confirmation text and then we go into the report.

She works here, but is currently looking for a permanent place. I'm not sure if she was staying in a hotel or what before. If she mentioned smoking I'm guessing it could of been a friend's place or perhaps AirBnB or something.

No plans for the weekend, but I'm not exactly too eager to pursue this one. She is a blonde HB 7, but that doesn't mean I'll take what she did lightly.
DonnyGately · 2015-06-27 18:49:00 · #5666
(06-26-2015 06:55 PM)Brosemite Wrote:  I'm at the point where daygame can be awfully unsuccessful if it's all I focused on.

It's as if...I need to go out and do some night game & partying because it's one of those activities that gives me the adrenalin to day game with more confidence.

Or maybe..I need to be engaged in a fun lifestyle where I can enjoy myself that will trigger more gaming vibes.

Anybody ever dealt with this type of dilemma?

Keep working on your day game. Smile at everyone, say hi, look them in the eyes, you'll get a good feeling and lots of feedback, start picking up little tells in body language. When you see a HB you'll be ready to go.

SB, bookstore, campus, parks, waiting for a subway, you can pull anywhere. That's why daygame rules. And the bitch shields are down.
philosophical_recovery · 2015-06-27 20:21:00 · #5667
Most of what I thought was good text game was complete bullshit. Waiting to text x minutes, getting anxiety over what to send. I'm tired of feeling anxiety about it. If I can't flip that and push the anxiety onto her, it ain't happening. I love that palpable feeling of her anxiety slowly building when you thought her interest was low.

Her - It's pride weekend...[exclaimation about how terrible it all is]
Me - Yeah, no thanks, I'm avoiding that
Her - Lol it's terrible
Me - I'll be celebrating straight pride this weekend
Her - Lol oh yeah? How're you doing that?
Me - That's a secret
Her - Why?
Me - You'll see
Her - Oh dear...you going to be good?
Me - I'm always good
Her - That's a lie [She did put up lots of resistance on our other date]
Me - You caught me
....
....
Her - What are you up to?
...
...

Granted, they can always flake, but fuck it, I'm tired of worrying about that shit. I did it far too much and let it wreck my days.
Mentavious · 2015-06-27 21:42:00 · #5668
Mystery man game works!
holdoncallfield · 2015-06-28 03:57:00 · #5669
had an OKC date tonight, here's the breakdown. I'm still a relative newbie but I'm proud of this one for where I am in the process right now.

text game leading up to the date: since it was booked 4 days in advance (tuesday mid-day for Saturday evening), i was waffling between sending a confirmation text either the day before (Friday) or the day of (Saturday). I ended up just saying fuck it and sent off the text on Friday confirming with her the location, which I had been withholding up to that point. she confirms, i confirm the time, all good. I make sure to not text anything during the day of and lo and behold, she indirectly confirms our meet up by pushing the date back 15 minutes. no problem, she saved me the trouble.

I get there right around 7:15 and she is already there and has secured a table, which was probably not the BEST that could have happened but I couldn’t have done anything else about it besides having shown up earlier. granted, the first venue is one I’ve been to once and liked but hadn’t really scoped out that well myself so i was pretty much going in as blind as she was (she had never been there before), so we get stuck at a table sitting interview style. She doesn’t stand up as I greet her, so I give her a quick hug while she is sitting down (in my head I’m thinking not the greatest sign). she calls me out/shit tests me about lying about my height (i'm 5'7", profile says 5'8"), which I deflected by citing the "every guy on the internet lies about 2 inches", she doesn't make a big deal about it and tells a story about a 5'6" dude she met claiming he was 5'10", so I think I was fine. we talk about OKC, jobs and school inevitably get brought up but I try to steer the direction of the conversation away from that. South Park comes up and I get noticeably excited (i have a big thing for south park). we talk about musicals, the book of mormon, etc. she seems cool. at the same time, she also tries to limit the date by saying she can only have one drink because of a half-marathon she’s running tomorrow. I don’t really say anything about it when she brought it up, just continue as usual. when we’re done with our drinks around the 45-1hr mark, I bring up another drink, suggesting a venue change to a bar down the street where I know the bartender. she hesitates, but then talks about jenga after I ask her if she’s been there before (the bar is known for having board/card games to play). thankfully I caught onto this (admittedly, unconsciously, will need to work keeping this in the forefront of my awareness) and gave her the plausible deniability that we were just going to go there to play jenga. so off we go down the street. I didn’t feel like I had built enough comfort to extend a hand/elbow, although I did notice she kept her purse on the arm opposite me i.e. she probably wasn’t closed off to the idea of a hand or elbow to hook (will need to work on working up the necessary balls to do this confidently).

we get to the second venue, which is much lounge-ier, darker, etc. my bartender friend pulls through for me and impresses her, and she makes a comment about how it was a really good idea for us to move to this venue. good signs. we sit at the bar. I do notice that throughout the majority of the date (i’d say 75% of the time) her legs are facing toward the bar and not toward me. the remaining 25% is at a 45 degree angle towards me, which is where my legs were in relation to her 75% of the time there. lukewarm signs, we did touch legs every once in a while but probably not nearly enough. Up to this point I had really avoided kino, but at the bar it was much easier to start and soon enough I’m kino-ing her while we’re talking, back of the hand against her forearm, fingertips on her shoulder, fingers and some of the palm on her upper-mid back (think lats). BIG thing to work on here: escalating kino to the erogenous zones (lower back, legs, head/hair, etc), I stuck with the comfort ones too much. the kino was reciprocated, i'd say 60/40 me to her, so not bad but could have been better. Another thing I know I should probably work on: smiling less. I was genuinely having a good time talking to her, but I feel like my face was in a permanent grin and I smiled really easily. conversation wise, there were some gaps/silences. we were both relatively quick to ask questions of each other to fill in the space, i’d say around a 50/50 ratio. Played a modified question game, keeping it to mostly rapport/comfort building questions. I tried to bring up my childhood a lot thinking it would invoke emotion, but I think I probably should have worded it in a way where she could have linked it to her own childhood? e.g. instead of saying “I remember when I was a kid..” something along the lines of “remember when you were a kid and…” In terms of answering the questions myself I think I played it relatively well; acted like I had to think about it and gave it enough pause to make it seem like I was, but I definitely had pre-canned answers of stories I’ve told dozens of times that I have down. Got good responses, some decent laughs, etc.

Finally around 10:45 she pulls the plug and says she needs to go in the next 10-15. I don’t really have any reason to doubt her at this point, she’s been straight up and she stuck it out with me for 3+ hours, so I know she was having a decent enough time, no phone checking, etc. As we walk out of the place (I paid at the 2nd venue, she snagged the first) i’m thinking kiss close is the most I’m gonna get, but we stand right at the corner where she says she’s gonna hop on the train. I offer to give her a ride home as we were actually heading in the same direction, but she refuses. She then says out loud that she had a good time, which I guess is a good sign? I freeze up at this point and don’t verbally respond to that, which was not the best reaction as it removed any plausible deniability of my intentions. will need to work on being more casual about rejection.

the corner has shitloads of people sitting at tables and milling about, so I naturally puss out and go for the polite cheek kiss. I make sure to have my hands at her lower back/top of her ass. Should have probably let the hug linger a bit. Looking back, although it may have been a bit beta, if I could redo the entire goodbye interaction I would have offered her the ride, then offered to walk her to the train for a better chance to isolate.

I text her after I get back to my car that I had a good time as well, I felt like a dick for having ignored her saying she had a good time. She responded with a much longer response and brought up a place we had mentioned previously and how she was thrilled about our mutual love of the place. Haven't responded but I’m not really sure where this ended/where it can go from here. My gut tells me the likelihood is not that good for a 2nd date but that it probably won't hurt to suggest another meetup in 3-4 days.

thoughts/feedback/analysis would be much appreciated!
DarianFrey · 2015-06-28 06:32:00 · #5670
holdoncallfield, I'd actually invite her straight over to your place and make dinner together. You've showed her you're not a serial killer and you really have to escalate at this point IMO. Have a bottle of wine ready when she shows up.

Text her in 3 days, fluff talk for 2 texts and then drop "So I have this bottle of XXX I've been dying to try out. Why don't you drop by Friday at 8 pm for dinner.. you'll get to show me your cooking skills".
redbeard · 2015-06-28 13:53:00 · #5671
I spent the weekend in Austin but did not get enough data to warrant a whole post...I only went out one night. Instead this is a RVF redbeardPUA players log EXCLUSIVE WRITEUP!!!!

1. There are pretty girls in Austin. I would say that girls are friendly here.

2. It seems that in order to gain residency here you have to have a tattoo. Even the non-hipster girls are tatted up.

3. There are a lot of options when it comes to bars and there's something for everyone. It should be very easy to make dates (oh I go to xxx bar to get this weird drink!). That being said "mixology" is booming here which is as gay as it gets. If you see a bartender with a handlebar moustache prepare for the worst. Austin is smart (unlike Houston) in that they cluster bars in areas so that they all benefit. No matter what your scene it should be easy to find a fit...so for me, looking for older college girls, west sixth is where it's at.

4. I really think I could kill it here. People say if you live here you're either a hipster or a fitness junkie. I would definitely fall in the second party but would be able to leverage my non-tattooed clean cut look well here with college girls and fit girls.

5. Robreke is a solid dude and although we are far away in age, ran well together. He doesn't look his age and can definitely punch in a younger weight class.

6. There were bachelorette parties everywhere. I've tried to pull girls from bachelorette parties before and have had little success but this was another level. These were big groups. Looking back it would have been a great way to number crunch and meet later but I am still very bearish on bachelorette parties.

7. Area I definitely need to improve on: getting numbers. Just because an interaction wasn't golden early on doesn't mean I can't get the number and try later when she's drunk. I only had one night so I wasn't trying to play the numbers game but it might have been useful to do so. This is due to my "short term memory loss" mindset.


Overall Austin is fun and I'm surprised there aren't more members/posts about the city. I plan on returning and could see myself living there in a few years.
DonnyGately · 2015-06-28 18:04:00 · #5672
Bachelorette parties in my experience are a negative 69 out of 10. Doesn't matter if NYC, Vegas, Miami, Houston, you name it.
~wrIghter~ · 2015-06-28 20:41:00 · #5673
Spoke with the blonde from Tinder earlier, seems pretty chill...almost too chill. She reminds me of one of those stoner chicks from the movies that wants to be one of the guys. She's leaving Thursday, so we made a day to chill at her spot (hotel) before she flies out. I tried to get her to commit (promise/props to Kaotic) that she'd follow through, but she mentioned not being able to because shit comes up or whatever.

I'm going to pursue other leads and try to double book this one just in-case. If all goes well I could possibly get the bang, but I'm not getting my hopes up.
Comte De St. Germain · 2015-06-28 23:59:00 · #5674
^Any girl that is leaving and meets a guy off Tinder wants to fuck. If you don't get that bang if she meets you it would be quite bad on your part as well as completely your fault.
Spiritus · 2015-06-29 07:21:00 · #5675
I went to a nice day-festival the other day, and tried some 'game' (I'm also relatively new). Got a bang in the woods within 15 minutes of meeting a girl, which is a personal record for me.

Did a few approaches before this girl (all went relatively well, got some #'s), then spotted her and activated my cock-hungy radar (Too bad she was only a 6/7). Did a 'come here' motion with my finger, acted a bit cocky but nice-guy, went for a quick sudden kiss to check her reaction. Went to touching quickly and told her that fucking in the bushes with a random girl is on my to-do list. She was laughing with it, but I said: "fuck it, let's go". Bang sealed.

I feel like I'm not bad at getting 6/7's (when I put in some effort), but I really have problems in getting really attractive girls. Could it be because I'm not in shape or have excellent style? Don't get me wrong, I'm not *ugly* or dress bad, but I wonder what it is that I have problems with 8+'s. Confidence isn't really an issue tho.

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On another note, has anyone here tried interpals.net to get with women? There's a lot of potential there.
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