Post: #1

This happens to pretty much every man at one point or another in his life, and since I've noticed that some members posting here seem to be focused on one particular girl, or lamenting a breakup, I would like to offer some advice.

First things first, you should realize what you are up against. Love/close attachment is no different biochemically than hard drug addiction. There have been studies done with MRIs of active centers in people's brains to confirm this.

"These studies also involved MRI tests for individuals who are in love at the beginning. She published a study in the Journal of Neurophysiology in the July of 2005 issue detailing the results. The ventral tegmental area (VTA) of the brain becomes active, and this is the same part of the brain that is active during a cocaine high or high from some other drug or activity."
http://www.invigorate360.com/reviews/stu...addiction/

Now that you realize what you are up against, you can attack your problem directly and systemically with 3 simple Ds:

1. DELETE
You should delete her phone number, any messages and emails, photos, momentos, block or delete her from any social networking sites, etc. Cut off all contact whatsoever, banish her from your mind.

2. DETOX
Take some time off, a week if you are able, or just a long weekend. You should avoid drugs and alcohol, and a healthy/cleansing diet is the best. Good ideas are your hobby, or nature, or hiking, etc.

3. DISCOVER
Do not get back into another relationship. Focus on self improvement and new experiences. You will have plenty of free time for both. By this point you should be feeling centered again, and should be at the top of your game for hunting new pussy.

Post: #2

I would add: 4. Keep Busy.

I came out of a 2 year relationship and being busy for even just a few weeks constantly let me get through it pretty much unscathed; even though it could have been a serious low for me it wasn't. Friends, gym, plans, new hobbies; suprising how little keeps you so busy when you want it to.

Post: #3

The best way to get over one girl is to get under another one

Post: #4

Interesting

Post: #5

You can distract yourself but sometimes you've just got to go through the pain.
Hobbies ,keeping busy etc will help but they don't fix the problem:you've lost somebody you wanted to be with,and whichever way you cut it that's not easy to deal with.

Having gone or still going through it, I now realise why some people just "check out" of life,because it's the reason they were going through all the graft of life for is no longer there.
So,what's the point to carry on.
I was always dismissive when I heard such things but now that it's happened to me I can see why people shut themselves off from life,maybe gradually and turn in on themselves.It's probably chemistry which is doing it.

I forced myself to go running in the morning to prevent myself from sinking into a constant funk...your body wants to shut down,but you need to fight it and keep active.
It won't change what you have to deal with but it will help your body chemistry and make you feel more positive,although the despairing thoughts will be there.

It's like a death...a future that is not going to take place,plans that aren't going to be made real.Disappearing dreams of yesterday...there's no getting round it ..It's painful....there's a reason all those songs and books have been written about loves fuck ups.

If there's no reconciliation and no going back it's just a case of ploughing on until some light shines through.

Post: #6

I usually need to feel a sense of hate for a girl to get over a break-up. If its me doing the breaking then I really don't give a shit and move on quickly.

The best way to handle relationships is to treat girls like fuck buddies. You can say they're your "girlfriend" or whatever label you wanna give them. Doesn't really matter.