Post: #1

Hey guys, it's been ages since i posted on this particular forum, and I am in real need of some advice right now.

Here's the background - I've been dating this girl for a while and it had its bouts of both incredible and shitty times. On the plus side, she is everything i ever wanted... on paper. She is pretty, feminine, incredibly smart and educated, caring, etc. Every time i go to Roosh's site, or any other sites in the "manosphere", I always found great relief at the fact that there is absolutely no way my girl was like the dreadful american turbo skank (also, she was not american, go figure).

Now, right now we are on a "break", which is an interesting time for be because I need to figure out if i want to get back together with her or not. Because to be honest, A lot of times i feel like i was with her because there was simply no better option. When I went out, all i saw was fatness, stupidity, lack of femininity and an overall lack of good girls suitable for marriage (which is something that i would ultimately like to do). I am not worried about how to terminate this break. Here's what im worried about.


How do i re-enter the dating world?

It seemed like while being with a good girl and simultaneously reading all the manosphere shit made me really really hate random chicks around me, before I really get a chance to know them. How do i get over this mental barrier that good girls dont exist?
Is there an environment which higher concentrations of good girls?
Any other advice for the newly single?
I feel really lost right now. Especially since my usual ultra positive style has become a chick repellent in the months that ive spent with this girl.
My goal is that if i choose to get back together with this girl, it will be because i really do miss her, etc, and not because im a loser that cant meet anyone else.

Post: #2

Sorry you're having what sounds like an unpleasant experience. I've had this a lot until I understood how totally dishonest, non-insightful, and insincere most women are.

Sounds like:

1) you fell in love with her without knowing what to look for, if she was equally serious about you by making her do things to prove herself.

2) She ditched you, calling it "a break" to allow you to save face, maybe she's skilled enough to have made you do that, and to make her feel like she was being "nice." She's already fucking at least one other guy, or might as well be. When she thinks of you, it's as history.

3) You are too naive to figure this out. Yet. If you stay naive it will keep happening, and the pain will end your naivete.

4) You will protest this is wrong and keep hoping for quite a while. This time.

5) Later you will adapt so you do not expose yourself so naively, or when you are in a subservient position you will at least recognize it.

6) You will get over being ditched in the future faster, and hopefully learn to get a new bitch faster. You will learn to recognize submissive women who will not game you and ditch you with talk about "breaks"

7) This really belongs in the newbie section, I don't mean this to be insulting, but the problem with being a newbie is that you don't know you're a newbie, like if you're at a poker game-- if you don't know who the sucker is, it's you.

Post: #3

oops dupes

Post: #4

There are two issues here. 1) you're having a hard time getting over this girl - as shown by how you consider other girls you see out there inferior 2) your game is rusty because you haven't been sharpening it.

Possible solutions -

1) get over this girl, either go out and fuck everything that moves or make a concerted effort to meet higher quality girls. Daygame is the way to go here since dealing with shit from a bunch of boozed up barsluts is unlikely to make your outlook more positive.

2) Because your game is rusty after the relationship you may have to lower your standards until you're fully back in action. Coming out of a relationship is like coming out of a dry-spell in that respect. Sometimes you just need to slam whatever comes along before you can begin to concentrate on quality.

Hit me up if you want to get out and wing in NYC.

PS. In terms of wanting to find a good girl for marriage - this is something you'll only be able to do after a ton of experience in the dating market. You're setting yourself up for failure if you're only looking for girls to marry. Roosh explains it well in a recent blog post http://www.rooshv.com/the-i-have-standards-excuse

Post: #5

My advice is to drop all feelings of guilt, then make your decision. No testing the waters, gotta jump in with both feet. Make your decision and stick with it.

Post: #6

iknowexactly is right, this belongs in the newbie section

You sound pretty young and inexperienced (not to be taken as an insult, just a fact). Get out there and experience your freedom and women in general. It will definitely help you to develop a sense of what you want and what you don't want when it comes to females. Any chick that uses the "I need a break line" is 9/10 fucking another guy. Hell, I just plowed a "I need a break" girl when she took a few weeks off from her bf, it was some of the best sex of my life.

GL