Post: #1

A few months ago I tried out tantric massage in my city. The girl was 23/24 years old, super cute and seemed a bit lonely. I would rate her body a 9/10, but due to some skin problems I´ll give her 7,5 or 8 in total.

I managed to get her number and had a coffee with her the day before she flew home to Eastern Europe. Most of these girls are traveling and working abroad for 7-14 days in a row to stack up some serious money while they´re living in a low cost country.

A month later she was back and texted me one evening. I visited her after she was done with work for the day. We started kissing and she was comfortable with being touched. I did not push to hard on the bang, since I figured that I would have plenty of time to do this later, and I had only known her for about 1 hour.

A few days later I took her on a guided tour in my city, during daytime before she again went home.

Recently she was back, and I discovered her on tinder. I then sent her a message on FB, but even though she saw my message, she waited about 1 week with a reply. It´s necessary to mention that these girls work from 0900-2200 7 days a week, so it´s not like she can go in a 3 hour date in the afternoon whenever she feels like it.

Not long ago, she texted me and apologized for the late reply. She wanted to meet, so I took her to a coffee shop, and later to my place. We had about one hour of good conversation and she was laying over me on the couch, while I was stroking her and building tension.

When I went for the kiss she said «Sorry, I can’t right now». She followed up with a story about how she always sleeps with guys too early, and that she has decided to make some changes within that part of her life for the future. I know that this girl has some fucked up background and a bad relationship with her father (she mentioned this on the first coffee date). She elaborated that she has a difficult relationship with men, and that she always feel sad when guys dump her after a bang. This is definitely a red flag for a promiscuous past and a high notch count, but I don´t care since she gives me value and it´s not like Im going to marry this girl.

I didn´t take the rejection too hard, since she is very interesting and different from the girls I usually date.I do think its a bit weird, since I´ve already had a quite intimate evening with her, but I´ll accept it for now. We continued talking for about one hour, before she took the airport train.

Before she went, she begged me to come visit her in her home town and stay at here place.

Since I have a lot of bonus points on my credit card, I could get the plane tickets for free, so I made an impulsive decision and booked a 2,5 days trip in a couple of weeks.

Relevant to the story is that my game is intermediate, Im not so much older than her and I do have other girls I’m currently involved with, so it´s not like I’m over investing. I will certainly do my best to get the bang when Im there, but if it turns out that she is using me for some validation or has some deep issues, I will not consider the trip a failure, simply two nice vacation days in a beautiful european city.

I made this thread to share an interesting story and to get some thoughts or constructive feedback.

This post probably doesn´t belong in the «newbie forum» but since Im still quite new on Rvf, I though that I would try it here.

Cheers.

Post: #2

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FAILURE. TO. ESCALATE.

Been there. Remember the exact moment that I was too lame to take the bang like it was yesterday - even though I was drunk and it was over 20 years ago. Morning after she told me how happy she was we didn't fuck, cause it meant she wasn't a slut...

To me this is the absolute worst. She is a slut. Tells you she's a slut. Just not a slut for you.

Here's your bitch moment.

(04-16-2017 04:38 AM)Bateman Wrote:  ...We started kissing and she was comfortable with being touched. I did not push...

Here's how it happens - She's down. You don't put out, or otherwise present like a bitch, and then she owns you. That means you're either dumped, friend-zoned, or bore-friended. In your case, bore-friended.

Very hard to get back in control once you show your inner bitch like this.

Next time escalate, and, if you want to see it again, make that pussy sing when its offered to you.


BTW - Not sure this issue rises to the level of "intermediate" game, but what do I know, I'm a total newb.

Post: #3

The big question is, what did the "tantric massage" entail?

My opinion is the best sexual experience for women could be described as "tantric" as far as it being full-body touch, sort of extended foreplay in which there's no clearly defined start and endpoint. Since this isn't what most women have ever experienced, if that's what you gave to her, you would not get the response you're reporting.

If the context is you paid her to massage you then she's a glorified prostitute (the sort of thing I was recently schooled on in the camgirl thread).

Post: #4

Isn't a tantric massage code word for her stroking your cock?

Post: #5

Mate, this is a chick who sexes dudes up all day for cash.

I personally wouldn't enter into a relationship with her.

I would normally say go see another city, have fun, get the bang.... but I can tell you are catching feels for this woman and it's going to hurt you.

If you can remain detached go for it. Every time you start catching feels, visualise her stroking other dudes cocks... That should keep everything in perspective.

Post: #6

Thanks for feedback. I definitely not getting any feelings, I perceive it more as a thrilling quest for a new flag, which I failed to get in the first round.

Post: #7

(04-16-2017 05:56 PM)Bateman Wrote:  I perceive it more as a thrilling quest for a new flag, which I failed to get in the first round.

Does that mean you indeed met her by paying her to yank your crank?

Post: #8

Eerily similar to that Camgirl thread.

Post: #9

(04-16-2017 11:54 PM)Cobra Wrote:  Eerily similar to that Camgirl thread.

Post: #10

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Post: #11

As an aside guys, I can highly recommend going to get a Tantric massage at a temple.

Give you a contrast to how sex can be other, than the choking and spitting in their mouth that seems to be de-rigueur on this forum....