(03-10-2018 01:42 PM)griffinmill Wrote: 1) It was a given that I paid for 95% of things (dinner, movies, everything and anything) and if she wanted something she often dropped hints
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4) Shapeshifting; had emotional swings not corresponding with the actual situation
5) High drama; even admitted she liked provoking arguments
6) Made hurtful, belittling comments and admitted as a matter of pride that she had done this to previous boyfriends as she knew their weak spots
7) Demanding; constant demands related to their insecurity about feeling wanted and desired
8) She expects you to be THE MAN at all times, no exceptions, and I'm afraid this means treating them like a subordinate and never conceding any power or taking any shit whatsoever
Now, the positives:
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5) Could be very sweet and caring
The numbered points of yours I've kept in relation to emotional instability/vulnerability vis-à-vis femininity/sweetness are what I continually notice.
For Poles and Czechs, (4), the first part of (5) (a propensity for high drama but not necessarily by provoking arguments with the man) and (7) (more general insecurity than demanding nature, though) stand out the most.
These are just my experiences, after relations/relationships with perhaps 25-30 West Slavs. Could be more.
I have a habit of telling people to fuck off when I do not like them, so it's almost certain I have screened out some of the real Slavic psychos or users out there. Even though I've had less East Slavs than West Slavs, I haven't had relations with many classically materialist Slavic women and definitely no hyper-materialists. Any relations with an obviously over-materialist girl ended pretty quickly, usually because I put my foot down fast.
I had an ex-girlfriend in CZ, virginal, marriage material, and capable of the most intense openness and vulnerability with me, who would, due to a combination of personality traits and problems in her childhood, fly into an emotional spin when her sisters did not do the dishes or somehow left their parents' home untidy. This was just one of many examples about how very unmet expectations of family support from her past would resurface. She had to tow the line publicly and emphasize how nice her family was, yet there were serious problems beneath the surface. Strangely, however, in many ways these problems were far less retarded than the problems, say, single motherhood causes in the West.
She hated arguing with me ("I always lose when I argue with you!") and her blow-ups were very, very rarely aimed at me (and even then, they were extremely mild by the standards for female histrionics I've read about on this forum). But there were tears and incidents that match certain numbered points above.
Generally speaking, the Russians are more outwardly volatile, whereas the Poles and Czechs tend to be more reserved, despite otherwise being closer to the West European baseline. Bear in mind, however, that the Russians we come across are usually either emigres or have an emigre mindset. I know a number of girls in the suburbs of Moscow or St. P, or out east in Chelyabinsk, Simbirsk, Kazan, Samara etc, who are harder to access (fewer trips abroad and more stable home lives with parents etc that take up their time), but are nevertheless more docile.