Post: #26

(08-13-2011 01:24 PM)MiXX Wrote:  Last night, I was gaming a girl (about a 9 in looks) with my playful-cocky, arrogant dick game.

It was going well, but she kept telling me how she is ONLY looking for "friends" and would like to have my friendship.

I laughed and told her I don't give out my friendship to random strangers I meet at bars; secondly, friendship is something I only value if both parties have earned it.

She laughs " well, all I can offer is my friendship!"

Mixx:"Seeing as how you only know me ten minutes and want to give me your friendship, it must no be a very valuable one"

Target:"Man, what an ego you have, you are truly are difficult!"

Mixx:"well I'm certainly not easy like that chubby guy over there very eager to be your friend I'm sure"

Target:"you seriously gave a huge ego, if you don't want my friendship fine, you truly think you are the prince of England don't you?"

I'm along the same lines as G. But rather than tell you to change your play style, here's what I think you could have done without altering your personality too much. Your next move:


- Grab her on the sides of her hips, make her face you directly. Put on a dead serious face. Pull her in closer, but not too close. Look directly into her eyes. Talk softly, and say,

Mixx: "Do you really think I have a huge ego just because I desire you as a man?"


Now the target will be off-guard. Instead of bantering, you'll be placing her on the defensive because you've switched from attraction building into comfort building.

I believe this would work because she clearly was attracted to you, as her responses to your cockiness indicated, so all she needed now was something to make her trust you more. Judging from her conversation with you, she was scared that you would hurt her and therefore wanted "friendship", aka she doesn't want to be pump and dumped. She was likely a pump and dump victim to some other alpha before you, and needed some sexual healing.


GAME ON BROTHA

Post: #27

(08-15-2011 06:09 AM)Samseau Wrote:  

(08-13-2011 01:24 PM)MiXX Wrote:  Last night, I was gaming a girl (about a 9 in looks) with my playful-cocky, arrogant dick game.

It was going well, but she kept telling me how she is ONLY looking for "friends" and would like to have my friendship.

I laughed and told her I don't give out my friendship to random strangers I meet at bars; secondly, friendship is something I only value if both parties have earned it.

She laughs " well, all I can offer is my friendship!"

Mixx:"Seeing as how you only know me ten minutes and want to give me your friendship, it must no be a very valuable one"

Target:"Man, what an ego you have, you are truly are difficult!"

Mixx:"well I'm certainly not easy like that chubby guy over there very eager to be your friend I'm sure"

Target:"you seriously gave a huge ego, if you don't want my friendship fine, you truly think you are the prince of England don't you?"

I'm along the same lines as G. But rather than tell you to change your play style, here's what I think you could have done without altering your personality too much. Your next move:


- Grab her on the sides of her hips, make her face you directly. Put on a dead serious face. Pull her in closer, but not too close. Look directly into her eyes. Talk softly, and say,

Mixx: "Do you really think I have a huge ego just because I desire you as a man?"


Now the target will be off-guard. Instead of bantering, you'll be placing her on the defensive because you've switched from attraction building into comfort building.

I believe this would work because she clearly was attracted to you, as her responses to your cockiness indicated, so all she needed now was something to make her trust you more. Judging from her conversation with you, she was scared that you would hurt her and therefore wanted "friendship", aka she doesn't want to be pump and dumped. She was likely a pump and dump victim to some other alpha before you, and needed some sexual healing.


GAME ON BROTHA

Nice. I like that.

Post: #28

All hot chicks do this. Constant shit tests until they fall hopelessly in love.

Post: #29

You did pretty good Mixx,

I would have just agreed and amplified. She probably wasn't that into any there or had other reasons why she wasn't down.

Agree and amplify is so effective it isn't even funny.

Mixx, i wrote a post about using female shaming language in game. I would have said back, "Wait you want to go watch movies and not talk for a few hours? That's hella creepy."

Or the like. You did a good job. She was probably on that special time of the month.

Post: #30

It's totally impossible to know Mixx's situation without seeing the body language and knowing Mixx and all of the context. Here's my take based on the info.

On the one hand, the chick MAY have had a valid point about you having a big ego. ("Ego" meaning a fake persona you put out that isn't congruent with your authentic personality.) We could argue about what is authentic but that's a different can of worms...

If this is the case, I'd argue that she'd tracked you down because she didn't have enough time to sniff out if it's the REAL you or if you're faking it. This drives women crazy and it's very mysterious. Hence the "odd" attraction...

On the other hand, If that's *REALLY* your style and it's congruent with your inner world and just how you interact, then this girl is talking out of her ass.

In this second scenario, she could be projecting onto you. Women have made judgments and statements about me that when I honestly evaluated them and checked with myself as objectively as possible to see if they were true, were totally, utterly false. We all have blind spots - no doubt - but if a girl says something that just isn't true and seems to insist on it aggressively, it might be a classic psychological projection. I.e. SHE is the one with the big ego and puts her dislike of her own personality traits onto other people as a coping mechanism.

Another possibility that a lot of posters already mentioned, is that she's doing what women do so well: using words to befuddle. She's trying to shake your reality by making you question who you are ("am I really egotistical? Wait, maybe I am...NO, I'm not...am I?") and leave the present moment in order to introspect. If she can do this, then she's affected you, and many women get a kick out of rocking a guy off his center (and also tend to lose attraction for him when they do) Women a want a rock. And my experience both with myself and others is that truly egotistical people are easily shaken because the defense structure they've erected to protect themselves is threatened and they overreact by barricading.

I guess you could call her statements a shit test. I just call it a ridiculous question that I don't have answer just because a woman asks it. Women ask all sorts of crazy shit.

My approach to these situations is something I kind of starting doing independently but funny enough, Don Draper does it all the time on the show Mad Men. Basically, if a woman says something that makes no sense to me or poses an absurd lose/lose type of question to me that I feel zero obligation to answer, I just look at her. That's it. I just look deep in her eyes with a perfectly polite smile on my face.

Usually she'll get a bit uncomfortable and either a) change the subject, in which case problem solved or b) pose the question again, at which point I respond with something like "what do you want me to say...?" <== this is gold Jerry, GOLD! (this is the bit I took from Don Draper).

I mean, what DOES she want you to say? It's a double bind. "Does this dress make me look fat?" Yes = you're an insensitive prick. No = you're a phony people pleaser. Women don't ask questions to get answers. They ask questions to befuddle and to manipulate emotions / ping for weakness.

Her: "OMG you have such a big ego don't you?"
Me: "I honestly don't know..." | [stare...] "what do you want me to say?" | "I don't know...ego is just a word, I don't really what it means. I'm just myself, that's all. What you see is what you get."