Post: #1

Do any of y'all have this issue?

It's weird, but for me...after fucking a girl for so long (a couple of months) it gets gradually harder to get my dick up for a particular girl. The first few months it's great, multiple rounds. But then it's two rounds, one round and that will be it, then my dick will get up at times, and finally my dick will limp or not get hard at all. I still like the girl and she looks good, guys check her out; but for some reason I can't get myself to fuck her.

It happens with every single mini LTR, I've been able to increase the time span gradually.

Mini LTR 1: 4 months
Mini LTR 2: 5 months
Mini LTR 3: 8 months
and so on, but there comes a time where my dick will hardly turn on for her.

Perhaps its the "end" of the honeymoon period and since now I'm arguing with them it puts me in a bad mood and doesn't get me in a fucking mood. The weird thing is, I can fuck other girls and go multiple rounds as if nothing were wrong. But once I'm back to my miniLTR, all of goes away. This only happens with girls I've fucked for months.

Not sure how to fix it, or if anyone else has experienced this issue before.

Edit: The bad part for me is when girls get used to getting fucked so much that they complain and tell me "you fucked me daily, what happened?" and then the miniLTR goes downhill from there because they expect dick. Shit, I just realized that I'm being objectified.

Post: #2

TL;DR: My dick works, but it won't work if I see a girl after a certain time span...it gradually stops working.

Post: #3

I usually delve a bit deeply into possible primordial biological factors.

I wonder if your DNA is simply telling you "no kids yet, so this bitch must be barren. Move on."

edit: I would have initially said that the thrills/rewards of the hunt was diminishing, but I ruled that out since you've been going longer per LTR, not shorter (so to speak).

Post: #4

It's pretty normal. Usually your dick can tell you a lot about a chick that you may not catch mentally right away. I think it's a physical sign that it's time to end it with whatever particular chick it is.

There's no point in really fixing because it always leads to thinking afterwards "why am I still fucking her."

Post: #5

(10-17-2016 09:28 PM)Cattle Rustler Wrote:  TL;DR: My dick works, but it won't work if I see a girl after a certain time span...it gradually stops working.

Its usually the opposite for me, for some girls. My last LTR I could barely get it up in the first few times, then it gradually got better. The relationship sucked. But for some girls, most in fact, I never have this issue. I think there is a lot more to this mental/DNA thing. Funny how smart the body actually is. I should have listened!

Post: #6

CR:

Do you still want to see this girls? Does it bother you that you that your dick doesn't want to fuck them?

What I mean is, are you just keeping these particular girls around for sex, or do you actually enjoy spending time around them when you aren't fucking?

If you don't actually LIKE them, I'd say maybe you just need more emotional attachment (for lack of a better term) to a girl to really get you horny for her. I'm like that, to a degree, i.e. I only really want a fuck a girl multiple times a day if I am into her outside of the bedroom, being hot is no longer enough.

If you DO still like them and are having this issue, then I don't really know. It's an interesting problem to say the least.

Post: #7

Time to visit the dick pill thread I think.

Being able to sustain multiple sessions in the honeymoon period is normal, as is the taper off in sexually activity with the same chick in the months afterwards - not being able to get hard for a chick that is objectively attractive and you're comfortable being around isn't.

Post: #8

Something else that might work…only fuck the girl one time a week and DON'T jerk off in between the times that you see her. When I was in my mini LTR (6months) I stoped jerking off all together. Just by doing that kept me stiffer than a dragon

Post: #9

Isn't this a signal to drop her ?

Post: #10

Basically i call this "A girl losing her shine"
It's not bad but the novelty of fucking a new girl wears off as you spend more (non-fucking) time with her.
The drive to explore her body and dominate her goes away as you've spent more time exploring her body and dominating her. Some guy are more mental than physical when it comes to LTR. I think you fall into that category CR.

Post: #11

(10-17-2016 09:25 PM)Cattle Rustler Wrote:  since now I'm arguing with them it puts me in a bad mood and doesn't get me in a fucking mood.

Don't continue relationships with girls that argue with you and put you in a bad mood.

The way into a girl's pants is most definitely through her mind (getting certain parts to turn off and others to turn on), but men being able to get hard is also heavily dependent on the mind as well. The vast majority of men's performance issues (who are not grandpas) is mental.

Post: #12

It's absolutely normal, it's just the Coolidge Effect in action.

I get tired way too quickly as well but if I actually like a girl and want to be with her in a longer relationship what I do is only see her occasionally, preferably only once or twice a week, otherwise I'd be tired of her way too fast.

Post: #13

You just described the sex arc of every STR and LTR I've had. I never understand how guy's chick's withhold sex, I'm always the one who gets burned out on fucking them I can't imagine the inverse.

Post: #14

^ Agreed, I get tired of the sex a lot earlier than the girl. I never had one threaten to withhold sex but if that happened I would just laugh. There have been many times I wish girls really would withhold sex so i could get a break from them.

Post: #15

It´s normal.

I think the problem is in this age. People are being teached, that it is normal to use someone for pleasure and once it´s used, throw it away and get new someone. And it´s also probably much easier and more socially acceptable than before.

I think that what could help if really interested in meeting one girl, is maintaining noporn/no fap, cutting from social media full of pictures of different girls, avoiding places where a lot of other pretty girls can be easilly approached and doing stuff unusual way.

On the other hand, I spent too much time with one girl that I wasn´t attracted to longer time and it really affected my sexual life (libido drop, I was like 50 years old guy who avoided sex). I put too much emphasis on mental part of relationship and put away physical. It was my first love, but in the end, I found out it wasn´t okay physically and neither mentally.