Post: #26

"Dr, my friend has a really bad case of erectile dysfunction..."

Post: #27

(03-14-2016 12:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(03-13-2016 06:22 PM)pitt Wrote:  The girls in my social group are all impressed with this story. I am seeing things from another perspective and thinking of the downside of altruism. I usually like to help people but I think this guy went over the top. Sacrificing his well being over the child of a slut. According to the pictures, the 15 year old boy looks like a cool kid but for fuck sake, I think this guy took the wrong decision.

Of course the women will say publicly what a nice man he is and how honourable he is for what he has done, the last thing they want is to be seen in a negative way.

Chicks "Awww that so sweet...what a special guy"

Poll taker "Would you fuck the guy?"

Chicks "A kind caring man is so sexy"

Chicks meeting him in real life "Ewww...he's creepy"

Post: #28

(03-13-2016 07:15 PM)RIslander Wrote:  Is compassion beta?

Discuss.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But if you know you are compassionate, you've got to take extra step to protect your heart. That means helping out single moms is really dangerous if you like kids and quickly bond with them.

Post: #29

(03-14-2016 07:27 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(03-14-2016 12:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(03-13-2016 06:22 PM)pitt Wrote:  The girls in my social group are all impressed with this story. I am seeing things from another perspective and thinking of the downside of altruism. I usually like to help people but I think this guy went over the top. Sacrificing his well being over the child of a slut. According to the pictures, the 15 year old boy looks like a cool kid but for fuck sake, I think this guy took the wrong decision.

Of course the women will say publicly what a nice man he is and how honourable he is for what he has done, the last thing they want is to be seen in a negative way.

Chicks "Awww that so sweet...what a special guy"

Poll taker "Would you fuck the guy?"

Chicks "A kind caring man is so sexy"

Chicks meeting him in real life "Ewww...he's creepy"

Don't be silly...if he's broke or underdeveloped from taking care of another man's spawn, he's simply invisible to them and they likely won't even have an opinion on "who?".

Post: #30

(03-14-2016 07:42 PM)DarkTriad Wrote:  

(03-13-2016 07:15 PM)RIslander Wrote:  Is compassion beta?

Discuss.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But if you know you are compassionate, you've got to take extra step to protect your heart. That means helping out single moms is really dangerous if you like kids and quickly bond with them.

This is very true, and to add....if you date a single Mom you shouldn't even meet the kids. Those kids will always be trying to win you over for their Mother. When the relationship with her ends and you're gone, the kids think it was their fault, that they did something wrong.

Children feel this way because they have an undeveloped sense they are the center of the Universe and everything that happens in it is a reaction to something they did.

Thus when they get older they are more likely to have problematic relationships. In short, they may unconsciously push people away or get involved with people who will leave them so they can affirm, "Hah! I knew they would just leave me."

So if you care about those kids heart's and future, don't meet them until about 2 weeks before the wedding.

Post: #31

Questions on the situation:

1: Is the kid his child?

2: If the kid is not his, how is the kid allowed to stay in Spain legally?

3: Did the mother abandon her own son in Spain?

Post: #32

I wouldn't get myself in this guys spot but I cannot hate on him. He is raising a kid which is a good thing. The posters who say he is "beta" kind of crack me up. They seem to think that they are all hard. I picture people from that gay ass haircut video in Denmark when i read those comments. The guy who is raising the kid gave
up a lot but that was his call to make.

Post: #33

(03-13-2016 06:22 PM)pitt Wrote:  The girls in my social group are all impressed with this story.

"You're such a nice guy, I'm sure there's someone out there for you."

That said, if he's happy with the situation and isn't doing it because of social pressure then I'm happy for him and wish him and the kid the best.

Post: #34

(03-14-2016 09:15 PM)EvanWilson Wrote:  Questions on the situation:

1: Is the kid his child?

2: If the kid is not his, how is the kid allowed to stay in Spain legally?

3: Did the mother abandon her own son in Spain?

1. That is not his kid of course, I am not even sure if you read the thread.

2. I don't know how they did it but once a child is in a country, its not that hard to make them legal, specially in Europe.

3. Actually the guy moved out first. Later, she didn't have money to pay for her rent and she was getting thrown out, she called this guy and told him about her situation, he said he could stay with her son till she fixes up her accommodation problems. He ended up staying with the kid till today.

Post: #35

(03-14-2016 07:27 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

(03-14-2016 12:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(03-13-2016 06:22 PM)pitt Wrote:  The girls in my social group are all impressed with this story. I am seeing things from another perspective and thinking of the downside of altruism. I usually like to help people but I think this guy went over the top. Sacrificing his well being over the child of a slut. According to the pictures, the 15 year old boy looks like a cool kid but for fuck sake, I think this guy took the wrong decision.

Of course the women will say publicly what a nice man he is and how honourable he is for what he has done, the last thing they want is to be seen in a negative way.

Chicks "Awww that so sweet...what a special guy"

Poll taker "Would you fuck the guy?"

Chicks "A kind caring man is so sexy"

Chicks meeting him in real life "Ewww...he's creepy"

It's not that he could be creepy, it's the other woman's child that they covertly get turned off by.

In nature another's young are often disregarded, or worse, when a new pairing takes place.

Human men have accepted the conditioning that tells them it's OK to raise another man's child.

Women on the other hand can barely hide their contempt.

Post: #36

(03-15-2016 05:09 AM)pitt Wrote:  

(03-14-2016 09:15 PM)EvanWilson Wrote:  Questions on the situation:

1: Is the kid his child?

2: If the kid is not his, how is the kid allowed to stay in Spain legally?

3: Did the mother abandon her own son in Spain?

1. That is not his kid of course, I am not even sure if you read the thread.

2. I don't know how they did it but once a child is in a country, its not that hard to make them legal, specially in Europe.

3. Actually the guy moved out first. Later, she didn't have money to pay for her rent and she was getting thrown out, she called this guy and told him about her situation, he said he could stay with her son till she fixes up her accommodation problems. He ended up staying with the kid till today.

1: I did read the thread, but was trying to clarify that what I understood, was correct, since it didn't make any sense to me as to why a mother, in this situation, would leave their son with someone they were not even seeing anymore. In my area, it would cause all kinds of problems taking care of a kid that was not yours or you did not have legal guardianship for, since you would not legally be able to make any decisions for the kid or act in place of a parent. Plus, what happens if the mother completely disappears and refuses to be found? How will he do anything for the kid then?

2: In the United States, unless there is a path to permanent residence for the mother, there would be no way the son would be able to legally stay within the country. While I did not think Spain was the same as the United States, I would expect that someone from another country wouldn't be allowed to leave their child in Spain without living with a parent.

3: It sounds like the mother really wanted some place to abandon her son. In this situation, the son should be placed with the closest relative in the blood line, not dumped off on someone that the mother happened to 'run into' over the years.

Post: #37

A man in his prime that wifes up promiscuous single mothers and raises their children even after they bail signals that he does not value himself. The colombian girl is a degenerate loser and the signs were there from day one. The OP's friend was not made sucker, he already was one.

Post: #38

Yes, unfortunately he was taken big time.
He may be a good person, a good father, he may even have wanted the kid, however the sad fact remains that the columbian girl used him, she didn't want the kid and got rid of it to carry on riding the carousel.
The ironic thing will be if she returns in a few years wanting to come back together with the guy.
I hate to say it but he will probably take her back...

Post: #39

The guy got played like a violin but it was a nice thing for him to do. Would I do it? At this point in my life, no, at least let me have the memory of cumming raw in the sloot if I'm to be so honourable..

Post: #40

Sucker. The woman was just looking for a dude to take the leftovers. Dating a single mom is like:

- Paying full price for a meal, giving it to the dude who bangs your wife, and eating the cold leftovers
- Taking the expired pint of milk to the counter and offering to pay triple for it
- And so on. You get the picture.

He should abandon him at the nearest police station and leave. It's not his kid, he's got nothing to do with some other dude's leftovers. Sad for the kid, but we have enough single moms in this world. How many opportunities did he miss with cute girls because of this bastard spawn... saddening.

Post: #41

I think the thing that is missing from all of this, is that the guy hopes (or had hope) to eventually get back together with the mother, and hopes that by taking care of the son will create an opportunity for this to happen. I do not expect that will happen, but believe the guy hopes it will, even after all of these years.

After all of this time, I do not expect that will happen, unless the mother is so broken down and her SMV has declined to the degree that she has no other options. I would not recommend getting together with the mother after all of this time, considering how she treated her own son. It would be a disaster to have a child with someone who would abandon them because it was inconvenient having them around.

Having said that, I do think the guy should continue to take care of the son, since the son has been with him for years and does not deserved to be abandoned by the only family that he has ever known.

While I do not know what the future will be, the son is now 15 so in only a few more years he will be either working in a trade or starting college and not be living there anymore. After that the guy will be on his own again and in his late 30s, so it is not like he would be too old.

Post: #42

(03-15-2016 03:18 PM)EvanWilson Wrote:  I think the thing that is missing from all of this, is that the guy hopes (or had hope) to eventually get back together with the mother, and hopes that by taking care of the son will create an opportunity for this to happen. I do not expect that will happen, but believe the guy hopes it will, even after all of these years.

After all of this time, I do not expect that will happen, unless the mother is so broken down and her SMV has declined to the degree that she has no other options. I would not recommend getting together with the mother after all of this time, considering how she treated her own son. It would be a disaster to have a child with someone who would abandon them because it was inconvenient having them around.

Having said that, I do think the guy should continue to take care of the son, since the son has been with him for years and does not deserved to be abandoned by the only family that he has ever known.

While I do not know what the future will be, the son is now 15 so in only a few more years he will be either working in a trade or starting college and not be living there anymore. After that the guy will be on his own again and in his late 30s, so it is not like he would be too old.

Hmm? Do you think he did that hoping to get back with his mother? How old are you?

Post: #43

She just set him up.