Post: #1

Any tips you'd give to a beginner who's looking to develop a more reality-based RP mindset? I'm in no way looking to become a cold-hearted dark triad type or some kind of misanthrope overnight through suggestion alone. I need more real life experience before I can make those kinds of decisions and judgements myself. Truth be told, I like some women. I don't always like what they do, but in terms of who they are, I've met some good hearted women on the way and I believe viewing life through the catch-all lense of misogyny wouldn't be beneficial for any kind of meaningful relationship. Hookups, yeah probably. But I'm also trying to think long-term here and even make some good friends.

That being said, I've also pierced the veil more than a few times. Gone from believing those beautiful illusions to seeing how quickly she'll toss one back in the freezing water if it's just not good enough.

Can you post tips, beliefs, and supporting experiences that back up those pieces of advice for the guys reading this? What I'm asking for it a dose of reality. I know none of you pussyfoot around anything so I'll be glad to hear it from whatever angle you have, so long as it's real.

I'll also see if I can contribute anything worthwhile, based on the level of responses you give.

Auf Wiedersehen

Post: #2

The best dose of reality will be one the you experience yourself.

It's too easy to write off the experiences of others.

If you want to expand your understanding of women, well, boilerplate Game advice for almost any situation applies:

Go approach more girls.

Post: #3

There are over a million posts in nearly 50 thousand threads on this forum. Whatever the subject, I'm sure it's been discussed. You'll learn way more "reality" if you just take the time and just read some of them.

You want advice? "RP mentality" starts with taking action. Use the search functions

Post: #4

Places to start:
1. Entertainment - if you are watching TV or movies, try to look at reacuring themes. You will find that men are villified (for example). Compare it with your real-world exeprience.
2. Look at what people do and compare with what they say - best RP advice. You don't need to have a "catch-all" view.
3. Look at LTR's that last and are succesful - and I mean realy succesful. Not those in which you find out that they are "business partners" (= no sex). See how it works and why.
4. Read - Classics, novels and byographies. See what YOU can make out of it.

Don't get carried away in "one-size" fits all world view. Game and RP are about understanding the true nature of the world. It is up to you to interpet it.