Post: #1

Drop your stories here of every time your being in a LTR has cost you some pussy.

I have a bunch of these unfortunately since I always get suckered into an LTR. It is the single most part of me that I am trying to fix.
I am above average in looks, and fit. I have less and less approach anxiety every time I go out. I have never received a negeative response from a girl I approach. May not always get a number or interest but never a bad response and mostly great. I have had 3 new notches (online game) since my last LTR ended about 5 weeks ago.(my LTR was a solid 8, best looking girl I've ever banged and it wasn't stellar sex)

So here's one to start off:

I was invited by a co-worker to a B-day party he was throwing for his wife. The plan was to pre-party at his house and take what they call a "fun bus" from there to a party club one town over. (a service the club provides for a fee)
I was going to tell my girlfriend it was a guy thing but another invitee had his girl going with and the girls know each other. (fuck me)
So we go, me with girl in tow but we skip the pre-party so I'll have my transportation with me when needed and just meet them at the club.
At the club, 1 girl of the party (Half Japanese little 7) was birthday girl's best friend up from CA without her husband and found out later from co-worker that their marriage is open. (son of a bitch!)
1 other girl there was pretty drunk (tall blonde 8), and had recently broken up with her LTR. She passed by me at one point when my girl was out dancing and said "too bad you're taken".......( i'm crying inside at this point, maybe I cried on the outside too!).....maybe a 2% chance I could have banged her in the bathroom of the club??....I don't know
At any rate, my co-worker tells me at work the next week that the 2 girls got a little wild with each other on the fun bus ride home and they kept partying after reaching his house. (please kill me now!)

Now, I'm not against and have taken opportunities to get some on the side when in an LTR but when she's with you at a venue?.....Stupid!
I have wasted so much time in LTRs collectively, that it makes me sick to think of all the notches I missed out on.
I have more of these stories I will share later.

Post: #2

Potentially every day man. That's opportunity cost. But I'd say worth it so far and for the foreseeable future, in my case.

Post: #3

My wife cockblocks me constantly. It's really annoying.

Post: #4

I have tons of stories for this, but I'll give you my earliest one:

I was 18 or 19, dating my longest LTR. A friend of mine was going to a community college in our hometown and met a cool chick in one of his classes who became part of our circle of friends. This chick had an older sister (20?) who I met once or twice in passing just going to her house here and there. So this girl ends up telling me and my boy that her older sister thinks I'm hot (her and I are both taken).

Fast forward a couple months and all 4 of us are hanging out - my boy and the college friend of ours are hooking up, so this is practically a double date but I'm convincing myself it's nothing like that because I'm a good little boy who is faithful to his whore girlfriend who unbeknownst to me at the time would go on to cheat on me at least 3 times. My buddy and this other girl are in my room doing who knows what and I'm on the couch in my living room just chilling with this chick.

She confesses that she thinks I'm good looking and is showing crazy fuck me signs, and I'm like "don't you have a boyfriend?" () and she goes "Well yeah... I mean I would totally never cheat on him or anything and I know you love your girlfriend... but like if we were both single or whatever I'd totally go out with you."

She was arguably better looking than my girl too. Now she is married and has 2 kids and a house. Super white-picket fence 1950's American dream life and still looks great ... the girl I was seeing back then is now a burnout drug addict cam girl and "battles" an eating disorder that she deliberatly created for herself as an attention whoring tactic years ago that she still milks for social validation.

Charge it to the game fellas.

Post: #5

Oh if I had a nickel for every damn time. I was a raging white knight throughout high school and my first years of college. But my biggest banging regret? Strap in boys here we go.

Back in college in my sophomore year I joined the theatre club (which in my college was 75% aspiring young actress wannabes looking for approval and 25% artsy dudes) and in 2 weeks started banging a shit face but nice boobs 6. After a while it turned out that she was very close friends with another shit face nice boobs 6 that I was banging over the previous year. This girl (from the previous year) was absolutely fucking wild and at times she actually would talk to me about this friend she had in high school and used to joke about hooking us up ("hey Thing you're a boob guy, you'd like me to hook you up with this girl wouldn't you?" and showing party pics etc) but of course being a crazy hoe bag she would never. Anyway these two girls turned out to be best friends from high school, in the end she got jealous and started seeking commitment and I decided time to move on to bigger and better things.

I started attending the theatre club again. This time I got close with this absolutely gorgeous 18 year old 5 ft 10 half Turkish half Serbian girl. She was really into Shakespeare and I decided well I'll definitely let this one shake my spear, so we started going out. On the third date the weather was shit outside so I said hey why don't we go to my place I make us dinner and we hang out (I make absolutely gorgeous gourmet dishes and have always used this to my advantage) We went home, candlelight dinner and wine but problem was she only had 2 boyfriends before and had slept with neither of them (so virgin) and wanted to save it for someone special. (I didnt even get a blow job just hand stuff and make out) I said well two can play at this game, decided this girl was worth waiting for and just went along with it.

The only problem was she was very childish, she'd text me 30 times a day, expecting instant replies, and want to speak to me every night for an hour. For a few days it was OK but 1 week into this relationship, on a Thursday night, on the phone when I was about to hang up she interrupted "hey Thing haven't you forgot to say something?" I played dumb like what is it and she said "that you love me so much" I lost it at that point but kept it cool like "maybe I prefer the first time to be face to face" but I was burning up inside so I didn't respond to her calls or texts the next few days.

Anyway come Saturday night. Me and a friend at that time used to take on these freelance translation gigs. We spent the entire day in my apartment and powered through whatever was left and spent the rest of Saturday night chilling out. Around 3 am while we were trying to keep our eyes open watching the end of Star Wars episode 4, I got a call from this crazy hoe bag (that I was banging the previous year) I mentioned earlier. She said she's been out drinking with the girl I was with before that relationship I had, and another supposedly very slutty girl (I had heard quite a lot about her too) and she said they were piss ass drunk and needed a place to crash (I used to live alone in a very central area of Istanbul so my place was first resort for anyone who lived bum fuck nowhere and had been out drinking) She was speaking very suggestively and even said "Don't worry we will make it worth your trouble!" I told them I'd call them back in a few minutes then started thinking about the 1-week-long LTR that I was having, and whether if I was doing the right thing or not. I realized years later that, of course I was, because damn. I woke the dude up and told him about the thing and he said "your call bro, you know what I'll get out of your way". He had a LTR too and wasn't interested, even though I insisted "wait a second we can hang out the five of us" he left. I called the girls back and said yeah come on down.

The three girls came in about 20 minutes and they all were drunk out of their minds and all dressed very hot. The third girl I've never seen before was a very, very fine piece of ass too. They were all giggling and whispering to each other's ears. I greeted them in, and for some reason, in a condo packed full of Captain Morgan and Smirnoff, I decided to offer them tea. Yes, plain old fucking black tea. To this day I don't know what was going through my fucking mind and finally decided it's best left for archeologists to decide. I made the tea, they didn't have any and the two girls I had banged before said "we're just going to crash in your bedroom I hope its ok for you" I said why not and the two giggled away. I sat down on the living room couch fired up star wars episode 5 and the third girl lied face down next to me and started asking silly questions about the movie like "why is there so much ice" and "whats that guy riding". For some reason I didnt make any moves and just blew off her questions.

This went on for like 10 minutes, accompanied with loud giggling coming out from my bedroom. She finally got up jumped on me and started kissing my neck and ears. I didn't respond in any way. Then. Right when she went for my lips, in such a stellar way that would shame even the whitest of knights that lurk this forum; even though I'd love to believe an unholy force took over my mortal body and made me say them, these words came out of my lips:

" I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND I CAN'T DO THIS "

She jumped off me and said "whaaaaaat?" and to this day this very "what" echoes in my darkest dreams, wakes me up at nights covered in sweat and regret. I said "yeah" then gave her the couch, then went to sleep on an air mattress on the floor. Didn't even go into the bedroom to check out what was going on.

The next morning when I woke up, they were all gone. I never talked to any of them again.

The first time what the hell I did that night actually hit me was when I told about it to my bro on Monday. While I was trying to put the events of that night to words, it came to me that what an inaugural retard I had been, and I fucking kid you not, I could not put what I did into speech, my words actually got stuck in my throat and in the middle of that coffee shop we were sitting at, I burst into tears and cried for the first time in my adult life. I tried to get up from my seat and go to the restroom but couldn't my knees just gave way. There I was on my knees in the middle of the coffee shop, my eyes full of tears, and people staring at us probably thinking we were some gay couple and I just got dumped. I felt my brain disconnect from the rest of my body and just stood there on my knees for a while.

Then I came back to reality when my LTR called me. I answered. She said, "hey Thing, what's up, I haven't heard from you in a while. Didn't you miss me?" Snap! I came back to reality, and said "hey can you come to that starbucks down the street where I live? We need to talk"

She came in an hour. We sat down for about 20 minutes. I gave her the good old this is not working out and left.

There you go guys, the story of how I blew off the organic 3-girl foursome handed to me on a silver platter, to save an 11-day old 'long term relationship.'

After that event I never said 'no' to any girl who was DTF. I think I cheated on every single girlfriend I had since then. But I never got the 3-girl foursome opportunity ever again. Btw, aftermath: last summer I met up with that LTR girl in the story and finally got to bang her. Even though she put on a lot of weight and wasn't nearly as hot anymore, I gulped down 2 20mg Levitras and fucked the shit out of her until that shit was like sandpaper. Yes I got my revenge fuck, but the point of the story is: never turn down a notch for a LTR boys.

[Meta: For some reason I couldn't post it in one part. I got CloudFlare errors. It wasnt a character limit issue I just had to rephrase one part. I don't know what that was about.]

Post: #6

(10-02-2015 10:11 AM)the Thing Wrote:  I started attending the theatre club again. This time I got close with this absolutely gorgeous 18 year old 5 ft 10 half Turkish half Serbian girl. She was really into Shakespeare and I decided well I'll definitely let this one shake my spear, so we started going out.

Bravo.

The OP sounds like he just shouldn't be in a LTR.

Moto sounds like he gets it. There's an opportunity cost with every LTR. You have to weigh all the positives you get from a potential LTR with the negatives of not being in a LTR. The girl I'm in a LTR with is easily a 7 or better, checks the vast majority of my other boxes for a LTR and has very little downside if any to speak of, so for me it's an easy call turning down other opportunities and focusing on improving elsewhere in my life.

I've never been averse to commitment, but now I'm vastly, vastly more discerning on what qualifies a woman for commitment with me.

If you don't want to be exclusive with a girl, don't be. In today's society it's not that hard to spin plates, even while being up front with them. You have to build and maintain your value, though.

Post: #7

Happens often. Just this week, I invited a new girl to come to my home, very high bang potential, but I had to cancel because my LTR said she was coming "tonight" with her parents to show my new house. I tried to postpone the new girl, but she is colder now.

Post: #8

(10-03-2015 05:12 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:  Happens often. Just this week, I invited a new girl to come to my home, very high bang potential, but I had to cancel because my LTR said she was coming "tonight" with her parents to show my new house. I tried to postpone the new girl, but she is colder now.

Post: #9

I have a rule now, if I am on a date with a girl and I pass one girl where my stomach churns because I am on a date with this girl compared to going after the other girl I'm out. Can't LTR that girl. She has at least be enough of my type that there is a slight twinge instead of a dagger.

Post: #10

Trav, I know that feeling

Very dangerous rule though because there's ALWAYS going to be a prettier/more exotic girl lurking right around the corner (especially if you travel much). Happens all the time when I'm out...as men we love and appreciate variety. Maybe I'm speaking for myself

Different women bring out different carnal responses from me, at this point I don't even think I have a "type". I tell women as much when they ask.

I try not to make a habit of it, but as a single man I don't feel beholden to any women to allow myself to be cock blocked. I won't be blatant about it or go out of my way, but if the opportunity arises-I will take it. If I feel like there's something to be gained by putting my bid with a beautiful woman, then I will do so.

I used to feel a overwhelming urge, but when your tastes mature I suppose your contentment grows with it.

Now more often than not the passing hottie only gets a glance through my shades

Post: #11

^ What I am talking about there are some 6.5's with nice personalities. If I feel like a loser inside all the time out with her looking at hotter girls this will not last no matter how nice she is.

Now if a girl gets into the 7 range and the sex is really good, well seeing those other hot girls again is a twinge and not a dagger screaming that you are settling.

Post: #12

Overall LTR is a bad thing for bangs, it's going to ruin more opportunities than it creates.

That said when your in a LTR and your not "thirsty" you don't give off any needy vibe and actully probably give off more of a I don't fucking care vibe which actually helps. I notice I have more effortless not even trying hookups when I'm with someone but then the fact that I'm with someone gets in the way of my actually following through.

Post: #13

(10-02-2015 07:29 AM)C-Note Wrote:  My wife cockblocks me constantly. It's really annoying.

Post: #14

Was my 21st birthday party and I invited a chick I met from college. She lives miles away and booked a hotel room that night so I definitely know she was into me. I don't invite this other girl I was fucking but during the night when we bounced from the house to a nearby club the college started dancing on the pole (I'll skip a lot of unnecessary story) I stupidly text my fuck bitch about this other girl. At about 4am when me and college girl are upstairs in my room starting to get in the groove fuck bitch comes over. My mum shouts up the stairs and I knew there and then I was not going to fuck the college girl. Not so much as being cockblocked by an LTR but cockblocked by a fuck buddy. Worst thing is I never invited her over, she just showed up and walked in as the party was still going.

Post: #15

If you can pull a 3+ some, go for it. If not...

Appreciate being the really attractive guy chics are into. I have a friend who's in a happy LTR who still gets into this. He loves getting chics worked up and into him, just to leave them wanting. He'll end up at their place, and them being all about him and try to impress them, then leave em with wet panties (maybe get a blowjob in the process...maybe not). And he's been doing this throughout his entire near decade long relationship.

Who cares if you fuck them or not. It's like a girl giving you a blow job and being disappointed she didn't have sex with you. Who cares.

I had a one-off one night stand a couple weeks ago with a hot chic who had a boyfriend who lived out of town. I ended up fucking her, but after I left I thought, why didn't we just keep fooling around sans p-->v, have her finish me off with a blowjob, and be on my way. Maybe leave her wanting a little. Nothing wrong with that.

Don't get me wrong, I'd have been disappointed too. The best thing would have been if the two girls got wild in front of you *for you*, to impress you. That's the sweet spot.

That said, it sounds like you cock blocked yourself. Is she friends with these people? Why was she invited? Was it a couples thing? Why did she go with you?

Post: #16

(10-08-2015 07:42 AM)JordanH Wrote:  Was my 21st birthday party and I invited a chick I met from college. She lives miles away and booked a hotel room that night so I definitely know she was into me. I don't invite this other girl I was fucking but during the night when we bounced from the house to a nearby club the college started dancing on the pole (I'll skip a lot of unnecessary story) I stupidly text my fuck bitch about this other girl. At about 4am when me and college girl are upstairs in my room starting to get in the groove fuck bitch comes over. My mum shouts up the stairs and I knew there and then I was not going to fuck the college girl. Not so much as being cockblocked by an LTR but cockblocked by a fuck buddy. Worst thing is I never invited her over, she just showed up and walked in as the party was still going.

Bummer. You should make it clear to girls that they need to announce before coming. I had a few girls show up unannounced, and even if I was available, I turn them away.

Post: #17

(10-08-2015 07:42 AM)JordanH Wrote:  Was my 21st birthday party and I invited a chick I met from college. She lives miles away and booked a hotel room that night so I definitely know she was into me. I don't invite this other girl I was fucking but during the night when we bounced from the house to a nearby club the college started dancing on the pole (I'll skip a lot of unnecessary story) I stupidly text my fuck bitch about this other girl. At about 4am when me and college girl are upstairs in my room starting to get in the groove fuck bitch comes over. My mum shouts up the stairs and I knew there and then I was not going to fuck the college girl. Not so much as being cockblocked by an LTR but cockblocked by a fuck buddy. Worst thing is I never invited her over, she just showed up and walked in as the party was still going.

Why would you do this?