Post: #1

I've recently been getting myself together after quite a anti-social lifestyle i had.

One of my problems is that I get sad, or even angry, after I see a pretty girl.

I'm not sure where this comes from, but my mind gets built up with bad thoughts on how come I never can get a girl like that, or I'm not good looking enough for a girl like that even though I want one etc..

Please do let me know how to fix this problem because I know it's not good and helpful

Thanks you

Post: #2

No. Seeing hot girls makes me excited. Grow some balls and talk to the next hot girl you see. How do you expect to get hot girls if you don't even talk to them?

Post: #3

Read more Game subforum.

Post: #4

Start with average girls and work your way up. Nobody is going to be smashing 9s right out the gate.

Post: #5

This used to happen to me. The only way I was able to take women off the pedastol was to have sex with them. Go to EE as many times as it takes to be cured.

Post: #6

You're on the bottom rung. You need to commence personal development (self-improvement), in all areas of life (especially being sociable), with full force, immediately.
Yes, I felt precisely all those things, many years ago. Those are ideas are now so foreign to me that I don't consider that young man to be the same person as me.
Perhaps if you could lay out more details of yourself we could be of more assistance.

Post: #7

It depresses me when I see ostensible 8's with a just-smelled-a-plate-of-shit expression (a.k.a. bitchface), which lowers them notch or two.
All too common nowadays.

Post: #8

I get sad when I see what pretty girls I knew at 20 have turned into by 40.

Post: #9

Nah, as my grandpa used to say, "pretty girls' butts stink too."

Post: #10

(04-05-2015 01:07 AM)Sombro Wrote:  It depresses me when I see ostensible 8's with a just-smelled-a-plate-of-shit expression (a.k.a. bitchface), which lowers them notch or two.
All too common nowadays.

Nowadays it is a pretty good chance that they actually did just smell a plate of shit.

Post: #11

Use the anger, but don't let it go to hate.

Use it to learn Game, to work on yourself - your body, posture, looks and then to approach girls. The only anger you may then feel is for yourself for letting a pretty girl go by without approaching her.

It is within you to either become a better man who actually bangs pretty young girls or to become a hateful Red-Pill-basement dweller who thinks only looks, height and money/fame can get you women. You walk upon a path that leads you either to become an Eliott Rodgers or a warrior who buries his lightsword deep inside some willing hot girl's pussy.

Post: #12

Hey Meany,
Look I've been there. You know what that is? Those feelings of unworthiness in your subconcious mind. They used to be nervousness and now its worse. You HAVE to start approachinv those pretty girls man. DON'T EVER SETTLE!
Creme of the crop!
You can't be a Meany you gotta be a Manny and go crush some hot chicks man!
Don't answer this on the thread, but look buddy. You been fappin? Lol its cool man. Just cool out, and go approach!
That pretty girl is down to do all that freaky porno stuff. You'll find out when you start gettin some. But you can't get some if you settle for 5's to work your way up. Screw taking the stairs buddy. Here's a Bobba Fett jetpack-go say hi ask her how she's doing tell her your name ask her her name.
START THERE! Thats it. Thats all guys.

Post: #13

(04-05-2015 12:21 AM)Meany Wrote:  I've recently been getting myself together after quite a anti-social lifestyle i had.

One of my problems is that I get sad, or even angry, after I see a pretty girl.

I'm not sure where this comes from, but my mind gets built up with bad thoughts on how come I never can get a girl like that, or I'm not good looking enough for a girl like that even though I want one etc..

Please do let me know how to fix this problem because I know it's not good and helpful

Get some professional therapy. I recommend NLP with TimeLine Therapy to get rig of negative emotions.

Don't try to "fix" it by hanging around the forums on the internet. That is all.

Post: #14

(04-05-2015 06:37 AM)CaptainCrazy Wrote:  Don't try to "fix" it by hanging around the forums on the internet. That is all.

Actually hanging around forums like this can help greatly. By associating with successful men you will eventually start to become like them.

If that's the only thing you do it isn't gonna help but being around in combination with taking action in the appropriate areas (you know what they are) will help.

Only time I get/got pissed was when I saw a very hot girl and didn't/can't approach.

Post: #15

Being 40, usually when I see a hot or cute girl, I just enjoy the "scenery". Sometimes I play a mental game trying to figure out whether older women were cute when they were younger. It's too bad most of them waste it.

Remember the ancient proverb: "No matter how hot she looks, some man, some where, is sick of putting up with her shit."

Post: #16

The only time I feel sad about a pretty girl is her beauty going to waste riding the cock carousel or remaining single for life leaving no descendants.

Otherwise they just excite me.

Post: #17

Yeah sometimes, after she told me she's been to Dubai...

Post: #18

Hit the gym 10x

Post: #19

(04-05-2015 06:37 AM)CaptainCrazy Wrote:  

(04-05-2015 12:21 AM)Meany Wrote:  I've recently been getting myself together after quite a anti-social lifestyle i had.

One of my problems is that I get sad, or even angry, after I see a pretty girl.

I'm not sure where this comes from, but my mind gets built up with bad thoughts on how come I never can get a girl like that, or I'm not good looking enough for a girl like that even though I want one etc..

Please do let me know how to fix this problem because I know it's not good and helpful

Get some professional therapy. I recommend NLP with TimeLine Therapy to get rig of negative emotions.

Don't try to "fix" it by hanging around the forums on the internet. That is all.

While you can learn from the forum, for something like this I recommend therapy, or if you can't afford it, some kind of self assessment on WHY you feel this way.

I think there are variations of this. I grew up with this idea in my head that I was not allowed to talk to women I was actually attracted to. It took me a look time to figure out that although yes, feminization of men had hit me hard, my father was absent, mother was just trying to "help me"...

The biggest reason was because my mom did foster care and took in teenage girls. I look at pics of them now and think "eh, not THAT pretty" but for the time? Oh yes. Oh yes they were THAT pretty to 12-16 yr old me. And I was not allowed to touch them. My mom did good work with those girls, but man did I ever pay a price. And yes, it was fucked up because they were called my "foster sisters."

Let me be really clear, taking in young teenage girls into a house, and then telling the teenage boy in that house that they are his sister, when they most certainly are not is actually some form of cruelty/child abuse. (IMO.)

So take that, and then yes, not being tall enough, going bald early, not having money, then I learned from society that I just wasn't valuable enough to attract the kind of women I wanted. I just wasn't allowed to talk to them. And if, by circumstance I was talking to them, well then I certainly didn't do anything like you know, actually make a move on them.

I've worked past it a lot, but man I wish the game part of the manosphere existed back in the late 90s/early 00's because I really could have used it. I can improve now, but it's already too late, I married someone I really shouldn't have.

Post: #20

(04-05-2015 12:21 AM)Meany Wrote:  I've recently been getting myself together after quite a anti-social lifestyle i had.

One of my problems is that I get sad, or even angry, after I see a pretty girl.

I'm not sure where this comes from, but my mind gets built up with bad thoughts on how come I never can get a girl like that, or I'm not good looking enough for a girl like that even though I want one etc..

You probably feel this way because you have high qualifications and feel "entitled" to have these pretty girls by now.

Do you get extremely high grades? Or are smart in general? Funny around your friends? Get super high scores in your favorite videogame? Sadly a pretty girl doesn't come as a prize for being a "good person". You think you deserve them as a gold star but they don't fall in your lap, and that can be frustrating. Getting their attention (and love) is an entirely new skillset, which, based on your posts, is going to take 2+ years.

so get on it.
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Post: #21

The only thing that makes me "sad" about stuff like this is when you see a girl who could be an 8 or 9, but just has let her weight go. You want to tell them that their lives would be so much better if they would just improve themselves.
But of course you can't really do that.

Post: #22

I only feel sad when I see pretty girl leave my bed in the morning, because then I have to get up and call another one to take her place.

Post: #23

(04-05-2015 05:08 AM)AlonzoNites Wrote:  Hey Meany,
Look I've been there. You know what that is? Those feelings of unworthiness in your subconcious mind. They used to be nervousness and now its worse. You HAVE to start approachinv those pretty girls man. DON'T EVER SETTLE!
Creme of the crop!
You can't be a Meany you gotta be a Manny and go crush some hot chicks man!
Don't answer this on the thread, but look buddy. You been fappin? Lol its cool man. Just cool out, and go approach!
That pretty girl is down to do all that freaky porno stuff. You'll find out when you start gettin some. But you can't get some if you settle for 5's to work your way up. Screw taking the stairs buddy. Here's a Bobba Fett jetpack-go say hi ask her how she's doing tell her your name ask her her name.
START THERE! Thats it. Thats all guys.

Grown men do not speak like this

Post: #24

(04-05-2015 12:55 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  You're on the bottom rung. You need to commence personal development (self-improvement), in all areas of life (especially being sociable), with full force, immediately.
Yes, I felt precisely all those things, many years ago. Those are ideas are now so foreign to me that I don't consider that young man to be the same person as me.
Perhaps if you could lay out more details of yourself we could be of more assistance.

Yes, sorry about that I didn't do an intro post. I just started posting randomly.

Well I'm 25, live in NYC, I recently graduated University (debt free!), and I'm pretty much a skinny nerd with a lot of "stay indoors" experience.

I was raised mostly by my mom, and she always kept me int he "safe" zone, i.e. "don't do this you're going to get hurt" "dont go there it's dangerous" always been stopped to do something and I certainly know this has had an extremely negative outcome in me. I guess she was overprotective of me bc my dad was an a-hole and hardly ever around.

I was also bullied a lot in elementary to middle school. I think that also has caused negative affects on my personality and made me stay away from people. I know it's probably a lame excuse to not talk to people...

I have all kinds of friends, yet I still stay mostly to myself.

I don't party much, because I don't know how to party. I've tried going to clubs and pick up girls...that didn't work too well and i felt uncomfortable and out of place.

I had only a few dates and they didn't last long.

I'm more of a reader and analyst type, I use reason over emotion even though at times emotions build up and come out (i.e. this thread).

It's not hard for me to talk to people, but I just don't know what to say to them. I think I'm a boring person (I've been told this also) compared to those who are all sociable and getting involved with relationships.

I just want to enjoy my life and not feel pity for myself...I'm not trying to gain sympathy. I just want to see if others were/are in my current situation and how they got out of it.

I recently bought new clothes and slowly changing my style. I started exercising at home mostly, and eventually will have the courage to join a gym since I feel like everyone is watching my skinny body lifting weights hahah. Yeh I know it's silly.

I need to get contacts or find cooler eyeglasses...

Hmm what else should I say?

Post: #25

(04-05-2015 12:21 AM)Meany Wrote:  I've recently been getting myself together after quite a anti-social lifestyle i had.

One of my problems is that I get sad, or even angry, after I see a pretty girl.

I'm not sure where this comes from, but my mind gets built up with bad thoughts on how come I never can get a girl like that, or I'm not good looking enough for a girl like that even though I want one etc..

Please do let me know how to fix this problem because I know it's not good and helpful

Thanks you

I used to be like that, but once you go from being a man that women may not have ever showed sexual interest in, to being the man fucking those women, your whole mindset changes.

I used to be a scrawny, nerdy looking guy, and my confidence and general style was shit. I bulked up (150 to 185), lost my glasses, improved my style and eventually started trying every method I could to get laid. The hardest part is breaking through that barrier and seeing yourself actually fucking a hot girl. It's easier said than done, but once you realize that women don't really care for looks, it's a matter of gauging their interest and building connection.

To reiterate, women care about looks, but they care about connection more. Looks are just a pretty advertisement for the person you may or may not be, but whether you as a product delivers is yet to be discovered by her. The more you anchor yourself on looks however, the less likely you'll get laid. I do suggest improving your looks, and speaking to attractive women in general, so you can realize that the fear's you have are irrational, but improve your looks so you feel more comfortable with taking that step towards speaking to attractive women.

A simple exercise, next time you start feeling sad or doubtful, try focusing on the sexualization in your mind instead. Think about yourself with her. Think about her engaging sexually with you. Think about her naked. Fantasize, you're a man, it's your biological prerogative. Don't be sad. Women get sad about failed attempts. Men should focus on getting amped up instead. Going out, and hunting.