Post: #1

Guys-
I've been on here for a while - not often but every once in a while.
this is another married game thread. Let's please leave judgements at the door - or you can skip this thread. It's a fact of life in today's society.
Full disclosure - I'm married. Good looking guy with a big sex drive and need more than home can provide. And I do like younger women. I'm early 40's - can still pull attractive early 20's. Not that I do often....but anyway

Getting to my question: The question "are you married?" comes up - part of me says be honest and some girls won't care, some will, and those that won't (the ones I really want) just want to have fun and that's perfect. Those that will care I should move on. But sometimes I admit to see if I can just fuck her once then move on. Get in, get out, move on.

How do you married guys answer? - so you don't seem apologetic, or like you're trying to hide anything - and move on past the issue.

Thanks

B

Post: #2

Tell her what she wants to hear.

Post: #3

I believe it was Ben Hur where Charleton Heston asks an arab he is staying with if he has a wife. He replies, "I have four wives. Would you like to meet them?" then leads him to a tent that reveals--- four HORSES. Laughs ensue.

So next time they ask, tell them: four wives, and send a pic of four horses.

Post: #4

Anytime I get a serious or interrogating question, like what I do for a living, my last name, how old am I, if I have a GF - I always turn it into a joke like above. Then deflect or change the subject it leaves more mystery.

Post: #5

"It's complicated"

Post: #6

(10-09-2014 12:18 PM)bradz Wrote:  Guys-
I've been on here for a while - not often but every once in a while.
this is another married game thread. Let's please leave judgements at the door - or you can skip this thread. It's a fact of life in today's society.
Full disclosure - I'm married. Good looking guy with a big sex drive and need more than home can provide. And I do like younger women. I'm early 40's - can still pull attractive early 20's. Not that I do often....but anyway

Getting to my question: The question "are you married?" comes up - part of me says be honest and some girls won't care, some will, and those that won't (the ones I really want) just want to have fun and that's perfect. Those that will care I should move on. But sometimes I admit to see if I can just fuck her once then move on. Get in, get out, move on.

How do you married guys answer? - so you don't seem apologetic, or like you're trying to hide anything - and move on past the issue.

Thanks

B

What's the context? In your hometown? Out of town? Are you wearing your ring? etc.

Out of town, it's best to just not wear a ring, claim you're not married, and use a fake name.

Post: #7

I think you kind of have to judge what the woman wants to hear. Some want plausible denial, some don't care, and some find it a turn on to get boned by a high-value, married man. I think most women will communicate to you with their body language the answer that they're looking for, but it probably takes some experience to be able to read it reliably. I've tried all strategies: being open and honest, being evasive, outright lying, and combinations of all three. All three have sometimes worked and all three have sometimes failed.

I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her, much to my complete surprise. I've also had apparently slutty women refuse to have anything more to do with me after I told them I was married. I'm still trying to figure it out.

Post: #8

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her, much to my complete surprise. I've also had apparently slutty women refuse to have anything more to do with me after I told them I was married. I'm still trying to figure it out.

Remember to tell us when you figure it out.

Post: #9

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her, much to my complete surprise. I've also had apparently slutty women refuse to have anything more to do with me after I told them I was married. I'm still trying to figure it out.

Do you worry about these women dobbing you into your wife or trying to blackmail you since they have actually met your wife? That is what would put me off from hitting on women who know I am married/LTR'd.

Post: #10

(10-11-2014 01:47 AM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her, much to my complete surprise. I've also had apparently slutty women refuse to have anything more to do with me after I told them I was married. I'm still trying to figure it out.

Do you worry about these women dobbing you into your wife or trying to blackmail you since they have actually met your wife? That is what would put me off from hitting on women who know I am married/LTR'd.

Not these two women. Actually, I knew they were into me before they met my wife. I could tell by the way they related to me and her that they weren't going to say or do anything uncool, and they never have. With other women who have given me IOIs (my sister-in-law, for example. Yes, no shit, my wife's sister once asked me to fuck her) I have elected not to pursue anything because with them I wasn't sure I could trust them about it. So, so far, I have been able to successfully read women in that way.

Post: #11

"Do you think I would meet other girls if I were married?" and change topic. If she asks again and wants a clear answer, just tell her what she wants to hear,
"No".

Post: #12

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her

This reminds me that there is a whole Japanese porn sub-genre called NTR devoted to this.

For some women, the challenge of getting the other woman's guy is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.

Post: #13

"Yes. My first wife died, my second one ran away with all my money, and the third one used to be a man."

Post: #14

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  For some women, the challenge of getting the other woman's guy is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.

How would you pre-qualify this type of women?

Post: #15

(10-11-2014 11:46 PM)Sharkie Wrote:  "Yes. My first wife died, my second one ran away with all my money, and the third one used to be a man."

I like this one, great way to deflect it.

Post: #16

What about if the girl you are hitting on knows you are married and raises it as an objection/shit test, despite showing interest?

Post: #17

How about using the question for giving some disqualification?

"No, my boyfriend says that we should live together longer before we decide."

"No, it would make my boyfriend jealous."

"Yes, as soon as the state made it legal, my boyfriend and I were first in line at the courthouse."

Post: #18

(10-13-2014 05:29 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  What about if the girl you are hitting on knows you are married and raises it as an objection/shit test, despite showing interest?

If it's a shit test, either
1) treat it like a shit test: "It's complicated" works.
2) Treat it like it doesn't matter. Either way, you need that frame. If you're freaking out over it, she's probably not going to be comfortable with it, unless she's got some reverse-cuckolding fetish.

That really depends some on the level of "knows". Does she actually know your wife, or did she just see that you have a ring?

Post: #19

When I get asked 'how many girls have you slept with here?' I usually respond with something like 'about 600, it was exhausting'.

The beauty of this answer is that it is a non-answer. I have answered with a joke, but she still doesn't have any information. It is the lowest risk answer. If you answer 'none just you', she will think you are lying or appeasing her (bad). If you answer '16' or whatever the number is, she will think about you just wanting her as another pump and dump (which may or may not be the case), also bad. If she pushes, I might say 'that's private information'. A non-answer is the best answer.

Same will probably apply here. Perhaps the best answer is 'I have 3 wives.. but I am looking for fourth', or 'I can't remember, I will check when I get home', or any teasing bullshit that doesn't answer the question.

Post: #20

(10-14-2014 10:42 AM)RockHard Wrote:  That really depends some on the level of "knows". Does she actually know your wife, or did she just see that you have a ring?

I was thinking more like someone who was an aquaintance and knew you were married/LTR'd because it is public knowledge. Like someone who works in the same company as you, friends of friends, on the same sports team, etc.

Post: #21

(10-15-2014 08:47 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(10-14-2014 10:42 AM)RockHard Wrote:  That really depends some on the level of "knows". Does she actually know your wife, or did she just see that you have a ring?

I was thinking more like someone who was an aquaintance and knew you were married/LTR'd because it is public knowledge. Like someone who works in the same company as you, friends of friends, on the same sports team, etc.

In that case, it's a shit test.
1) Plausible deniability - "I objected but it just happened"
2) She wants you to display that "I don't give a fuck" attitude.

I believe part of this is it's a big ego boost to a woman - "he was married, but he just couldn't resist ME".

Post: #22

distraction, diversion and division - DEFLECT to something else. Just because their mind could not come up with something at the moment, let it not get stuck there.

Post: #23

I'm divorced. I'm largely divorced because I had a hunger for the game and left my wife to pursue it.

Ultimately, if a girl asks "Are you married," that means you're giving off a vibe of being married (or you're wearing a wedding ring, lol). When I've volunteered that "I'm divorced" - usually as a tactic, they always take it by surprise because I give off zero provider qualities (it's even difficult for me to fathom, lol). It actually makes me more attractive to them because they see me as even more mysterious. That's a game rule: don't be predictable.

I wouldn't say a girl asking if you're married is a shit test. It is however an indicator of interest, but not one that you want to deal with frankly...

Optimize your look so you give off the right qualities of a bachelor.

So maybe that didn't answer your question completely... but those are some things to think about.

(10-09-2014 12:18 PM)bradz Wrote:  Guys-
I've been on here for a while - not often but every once in a while.
this is another married game thread. Let's please leave judgements at the door - or you can skip this thread. It's a fact of life in today's society.
Full disclosure - I'm married. Good looking guy with a big sex drive and need more than home can provide. And I do like younger women. I'm early 40's - can still pull attractive early 20's. Not that I do often....but anyway

Getting to my question: The question "are you married?" comes up - part of me says be honest and some girls won't care, some will, and those that won't (the ones I really want) just want to have fun and that's perfect. Those that will care I should move on. But sometimes I admit to see if I can just fuck her once then move on. Get in, get out, move on.

How do you married guys answer? - so you don't seem apologetic, or like you're trying to hide anything - and move on past the issue.

Thanks

B

Post: #24

I just tell them I'm in an open marriage. My problem right now is that am running into tons of girls that want to sink their meathooks into a man long term. They want committment and see me as an anomaly. Who would of thought dirty sluts now in their late 30's won't fuck without at least the possibility of marriage in the future? They are idiots one and all. I think I am just going to hide my ring and lie. I am not going to stick around long after sex anyways.

Post: #25

(10-17-2014 09:24 PM)rpg Wrote:  I just tell them I'm in an open marriage. My problem right now is that am running into tons of girls that want to sink their meathooks into a man long term. They want committment and see me as an anomaly. Who would of thought dirty sluts now in their late 30's won't fuck without at least the possibility of marriage in the future? They are idiots one and all. I think I am just going to hide my ring and lie. I am not going to stick around long after sex anyways.

The problem is, you are in the US, where women are delusional psychos. Get out.