Post: #1

Hi guys,

as a foreign student living in Brazil now (Sao Paulo), I have a sometimes complicated life. I started approaching many girls 3-4 months ago. Got a lot of numbers or Facebook, few big rejections. Some of those approaches turned useful for sex, some others for social networking and/or preselection. Why avoid befriending a fat girl when she knows many cool events and more attracting females ?

My life is currently both cool and complicated. I have time to read, write, experiment many things and of course maintain some relationships. This last part creates some complexity, because I am sleeping with several girls and try to avoid almost each of them to know about the others.

One of those girls is a married, 23 years old student.
On the outside she's slightly sad and with low self esteem. Though, she is curious and has this typical Brazilian physique I love. Her openness and curiosity with me made possible some kind of deep dive in her, both psychologically and physically. It turned out she is a bipolar girl filled with insecurities. She both dreams of a better life (she lives in a little place not that close to Sao Paulo, near from a campus currently in construction) and fears a lot of things. She fears I would forget her or sleep with other girls.
I want to stick with her as an amante. In bed she is absolutely incredible. When we get past the door of my bedroom, her sad and insecure side almost disappears and she turns warm, passionate. We have intense moments and the bed makes a lot of noise hehe.

The problem is twofold.
First, her constant insecurities lead her to seek reassurance from me on Facebook almost every night (when we are not physically together) and I have already spent many hours doing projections, bold talk, telling about my past sufferings as a way to mirror hers... but all this makes me go to bed pretty late and I have no idea whether it can be efficient on the long term or not. It would be great if this reassuring side followed a decreasing trend, with less and less need of this stuff, to just keep the maximum of good moments.
Second, we started to plan some things (two little travels on cities in the state of Sao Paulo, with large spaces of wildlife and beaches), but her imagination is running too wildly and she says she would like to be only with me, not her husband. Our relation as something secret, hidden but intense, is perfect for me. But if I tell her straightly I just want this, couldn't it lead her to crash emotionally, blocking the good moments to come?

So, my question is essentially this: any idea of how such a girl can be manageable on the middle-term?
And also, do you think she could successfully ignore the other girls I sleep with as long as I remain discrete (and as long as she can't access my Facebook hehe)?

Thanks

Post: #2

You crazy, bro??

You're already invested way to deep...in a chick already married!

Make tracks.

Post: #3

Depends on what you call "investing". I am not investing for something official, serious, nice guy way. Nor am I investing money, actually she invites me every time we go eat something (although I never asked this), and being an athlete I eat 2 or 3 times more than she does.

Nah, what is attractive here is the adventure and wild-sex side.
But I didn't think her insecurities and wild imagination would be so hard to handle.

Post: #4

Wrong subforum.

Don't do it. Try to avoid bipolar girls as much as possible. Go for girls who're emotionally healthy. Bipolar chicks are a no-no. They will try to use you for validation as much as possible. If she's bipolar and married, get the fuck away from her. You'll be dealing with a pissed off husband.

Instead go for chicks in bars, house parties, etc. If oneitis is bad, oneitis for a married bipolar chick is more terrible than terrible.

But seriously, you're in Brazil. Why aren't you hitting the bars and spinning plates? Shit, I wish I was in your shoes man. Make the most of your opportunity, don't squander it on some bipolar adulteress.

Post: #5

Yeah, best advice anyone could offer: bail. Run. Eject. Escape. Get the fuck out

Post: #6

She will tell her husband you raped her. The guy that married a bipolar chick has either a saviour complex or is a tool. Either way He will believe her and him and his equally sharp buds still come for you

Post: #7

Echoing what others have already wrote, and what people will write after me, the solution is clear: run. She could go crazy and do you some damage. Her husband can find out and do you some damage. The most likely scenario if you continue is you'll have been done some damage.

Post: #8

Cuidado, cuidado.

Kiril, I think many of the other posters here don't really understand that the amante culture in Brasil is strong, and that girls (yes, even married ones) are just as much players as the guys are. Brasileiras can be big cheaters, period. It goes with the territory.

Accept it for what it is.

That said, realize that you can't make her something she's not. You have to take her as you find her. Don't pine away expecting this or that. Enjoy it for what it's worth, in the narrow boundaries in which it exists, and realize it will end at some point.

Cover your ass, be very careful, and don't get too attached.

Post: #9

Best get to steppin son. Bipolar girls are not to be trifled with. Get out before she drags you down into some unpleasantness that nobody wants.

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Post: #11

(06-08-2014 12:28 PM)calihunter Wrote:  She will tell her husband you raped her. The guy that married a bipolar chick has either a saviour complex or is a tool. Either way He will believe her and him and his equally sharp buds still come for you

Read this post.^^^^^ Several times. Let it sink in that this isn't just some random advice. This IS true.

A married woman who is Bi polar has to be the worst bang prospect EVER. Not just because of her but because of her husband.

Post: #12

You have to keep such women at arm's length. But that shit can be difficult since they're so needy.

I was just writing about this on another thread, funny enough: "It's because you call late at night with whiny pseudo-problems when I specifically tell you no calls after 10 p.m."

What I did was a cancel a date last-minute which annoyed her and caused her to back off. Next, I'm just going to go back to saying the workload at my job is too great to have her call me so much and so late. Dunno if I can pull this off, since she knows that's probably not true, but we'll see.

You can try these things. A good, solid "I'm busy" in words or actions should do the trick.

Post: #13

My advise to Kiril : pull out.

I know from first hand experience that these women are wildly emotional and unpredictable. They love deeply... and hate deeply. Not the kind of women who are discrete. When you try to end your relationship with her, you might be surprise of the extra drama she will give you... that might involve her husband.

Post: #14

I just read the Bi Polar and skipped your whole post man. It's simple just go away and leave that!