Distant Light
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Troll or not, dude mentioned that other sad case who off'd himself. I read the whole thing because no way I will overlook someone who is in a similar headspace. YOU need to expand your reality!!!!!
FIRST OF ALL, do you not realize the amazing life you've already had? You...
- Went to montreal to livr
- Roadtrip U.S
- Lived in a forest
- Worked on a farm
- Dabbled in politics
- Went to india
- Went to SEA
- Went to costa rica
- Lived in a tent in florida
I'm reading your post and thinking "this guy was clearly on an adventure" but you fucked up your own experiences obsessing over women in hopes of filling some void. You want loving companionship GET A DOG they will love you unconditionally.
Also in that whole wall of text, not once have you mentioned giving women the opportunity to be sexual with you. Not a single opportunity for her to kiss yiu, flirt, be isolated or play around. ANOTHER MAJOR RED FLAG...
You do cool shit but it doesnt sound like you were doing it for the fun, memorable, enjoyment of it all. You practically are living your life for the sake of hopefully finding a woman to fill your illusionary void. It also comes off very selfish because NOT ONCE did you mention anything from the perspective of GIVING women an experience. All you 're thinking about is "I, I, I".
What I advise...
- Like my good friend travolta mentioned focus on making some money (preferably online)
- Go explore SEA
- You say you did lots of spirtual stuff, read "My Big Toe" by Thomas Campbell (free on google books)
- Stop obsessing over women, calm down, your serious/logical cause n effect mentality is what is killing the vibe. HAVE FUN and bring people into it, show people your world and give women the opportunity to have a sexual experience.
For me reading this type of stuff is MIND BOGGLING because I value being single and being alone. I am very skeptical about which girls I'd allow to have a close bond with me just because not all women have the same level of consciousness.
All this "seeking women for psychological fuffilment" is unhealthy. It clouds the actual experience of actually binge an adventurer who is "high on life" and happens to meet, socialize, and flirt with a woman who has come along.
Just take a step back, do you not realize you have made women to center of your life. They have total control of your emotional state without them even knowing it. As I always say to people, what happens when you get the girl? You can die now because life is complete? Its irrational.
As for friends, have you ever gave people the opportunity to come into your life for the sake of HAVING FUN IN A SHARED EXPERIENCE? You dont have female friends because you were obsessing over TRYING to get women. Women are not mystical THEY WANT TO HAVE FUN in a non-pressured relaxed environment. How the hell will she be able to do that if she feels a hidden agenda of a guy who is acting like he went all in on a high stakes poker game.
Women arent going anywhere your 28, you've had an amazinf journey so far, its just you cant see the good because you childishly and immaturely focused on such a small aspect of life.
Action Plan... (Its sad, you dont even realize how money you are)
1. Go out just having genuine fun of actually being out able to socialize with people (You coulda been born in fucking syria forced to no longer even go to school due to civil war...be grateful, some people over there would trade shoes in a heart beat)
2. Keep interactions short just have some fun socializing
3. The chicks who peak your interest, screen/challenge/test them about yoga. In a way that is congruent to you sort of challenge/encourage/incite them to try some yoga at your place with a few friends. Add that you might cook food after or your favorite smoothie.
4. Give them your number for SOCIAL REASONS, in this case yoga n smoothie/food with friends. (Have them text you their name)
5a. Do this with 10-15 chicks
5b. Pick 8-12 chicks in the night who you are meshing well with. In your own congruent way imply that she is starting to peak your interest and your interested in seeing where things potentially go since she seems like fun...GIVE ALL 8-12 CHICKS IN THAT NIGHT A KISS...If you kiss, find out logistics and tell her straight up that you might be willing for HER TO TAKE YOU HOME.
6. Look online how to make a smoothie or refreshing light meal (salad, tapas, apps) and practice making it
7. Invite all 10-15 girls to come over for yoga n refreshments after (those are your other friends you said would be coming along)
8. Do it, express your enjoyment and the idea of possibly doing this weekly, bi-weekly, monthly
9. The girls who peak your interest just do step 5b
NOTE, this isnt going to work if your vibe is still of a guy obsessed with wanting female affection. BE a man who is already fuffilled and simply sharinf HIMSELF TO THE WORLD. Bring these women into your life, show them what you'rer about. HAVE FUN LIVING YOUR LIFE!!!!! I can guarantee you 100% if I spoke about living in a tent with 7 brazillians chicks wouldve loved it because I am addicted to fun ans adventure...NOT BECAUSE OF WOMEN...but because i genuinely believe people should make their lives memorable for the sake of their enjoyment. Also I've told many women about the idea of camping which again was a perfect way to exchanfe info.
At the end of the day always ask yourself...
- Did I give women a chance to meet me?
- Did I give women the opportunity to come along into my life?
- Did I provide an opportunity for women to flirt and/or be sexually playful with me?
One more thing, Male and Female sexual dynamics IS NOT SERIOUS AT ALL!!!! It is fun, playful and almost child-like. Look for behind the scenes of porn sets, it is a relaxed atmosphere and most likely someone is being flirtatious and sexually playful. Most community dudes problems stem from not having fun and beinf logical, formal, serious. Just look at the difference between serious pickup companies youtube channels and the prank/troll/pickup channels.
All in all, dont give up on life just because of your lack of companionship, if you change your perspective you will naturaly experience women being drawn to you and sex occuring because your giving women the chance to do so. You will never get laid if you arent giving women the chance to be sexual. Only exception is if your so much fun and enjoying life so much that she is compelled to want you.
Were all on our own journey dont let your mind dissuade you into negativity. You already lived a rather sick life, far more interesting than my own life. Ironically its because of the realms I am apart of BUT for me the most memorable thing is the MOMENTS i've had with other humans. Seeing a guy break up with his girlfriend because he was partying with me and having so much fun, that he realized his gf wasnt a goos person to have in his life. In all honesty, i'd probably trade my ability to attract women just to be able to go on an adventure with my good friend. (travolta) The world is a big place beyond the small petty mindless problems dont let your mind create a dark fantasy where you cant see all the GOOD.
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MdWanderer
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Thegreenman, from one Baltimorean 1985 baby to another who has had the same problems in the past (you're basically my Jewish brother lol) you're main problems are:
1. Not escalating (yes it's been mentioned several times by members in this thread but this is by far what's holding you back the most. As some quote I read goes "if all men waited for women to make the first move the human species would cease to exist".) You need this beaten into your head. I could've had a lay count well into double digits by now if I would've pushed more towards sex instead of just a makeout and expecting things to fall from the sky.
2. Putting women on the pedestal. Think of this, these women that are rejecting you are going about their lives, enjoying their friends and families and not giving a shit about you, while you let them hurt you and mess with your mind. If they don't care, neither should you. Focus on a common interest and make the focus towards having fun with BOTH sexes (I talk to guys as much as I am talking to women when I'm out macking). If you're a football fanatic like me, invite some girls (and guys) over to a tailgate to try some of your food and go from there. There are no "special" women because there are no "special" men, they don't think of us in that way. You see women with six figure salaries and world travel behind their belts dating basement bums instead of "nice" guys who have that same travel experience and bank account.
Hope this helps. Realize your life could be much worse. If being rejected by females is the worst thing you got going on right now then your life is pretty damn good.
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Roosh
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Quote:Things are serious now. I can see myself turning into him eventually, if this problem isn't solved.
Your IP is logged. If you are making a threat against other people or are suggesting that you can kill, I have to forward your details to law enforcement and they can investigate if you are capable of causing harm to the public.
Are you being dramatic or not?
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Roosh
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Quote:Roosh likes to call people trolls for complaining about their situation and not doing anything to fix it. But I HAVE done stuff to fix it. I've tried everything. I've gone to the ends of the earth.
For a small percentage of men, no amount of "game" or approaches can work, but then again we have no idea what type of game you're using. You would have to hire an expert to diagnose the problem.
If I were you, I'd just go to SE Asia. If you still can't get laid, then resort to prostitutes that give the girlfriend experience. If you are having violent or suicidal thoughts, you must seek professional help. Suicide hotline: 1-800-273-TALK. Your problem (depression) does seem to be beyond the scope of what this forum can offer, but you already received much actionable advice.
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lowside
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
i refuse to believe that if a man gets in the trenches on a path of self-improvement and game for a period of 10 years, he still comes out with nothing.
CrashBangWallop Wrote:Surely nobody is insane enough to write all that for the purpose of trolling??
So what happened at 11.00pm then?
You just answered your own question: a troll would be insane enough!
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I've been through depression. A mild one, but still. The path of self-improvement is so incredibly broad that we are missing the point here. Self-improvement even incorporates the very basic steps for getting out of depression (excersise, healthy diet, taking action) but first and foremost: if you don’t like where you are, take action. Which in a case of severe depression would mean: seeing a professional who could help.
(This post was last modified: 06-05-2014 06:53 AM by lowside.)
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STLMO
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
I skimmed this epic diatribe yesterday, a few thoughts....
Too lengthy and desperate for trolling, this was a life story from a sad person.
You have more than three obvious strikes, you're short, bald, spoiled by your parents, not one mention of starting a weight training regimen, and you're Jewish
Being short can't be fixed.
Your balding, you have to bic your head
Your parents have funded so much of your life, it's impossible to fund all that travel otherwise in your predicament. Ditch them entirely. Chics like men, you're stuck as a child with them in your life. Don't accept shit from your parents any longer.
Start lifting seriously, your shaved head will look silly if you don't. This is mandatory.
Not an anti-Semite, but chics are. I have a good friend who was a Jew, and a self made millionaire by 19. Still couldn't get laid. Personally, I would rather be Asian or Indian. You need to hide this to Gentile women, and start going to synagogue, not for the spiritual advice, but Jewish chics should be easier for a Jewish man. I'm not Catholic, but my drummer is big time. I have started going to mass with him occasionally, and have been positioning myself to exploit his catholic circle of friends. Not many religious types, nowadays. Women who are, are looking for good men. Easily exploitable.
Get back in to yoga, teach class for pay again, start free yoga meetup in a park. Invite your paying students. Younger, poorer chics will follow. Don't neglect your weight training though. Chics want muscles, yoga will not provide the type you need.
Start playing ukulele, then eventually, the guitar. You need something to think about other than your involuntary celibacy. Uke will get you acclimated to a stringed instrument. Then get a classical nylon stringed guitar. Nylon strings, much easier on a beginner's fingers. It will be good for your mind, but if you follow the path far enough, develop some proficiency, there is no greater poosy magnet.
Most importantly, lift some fucking weight, you faggot ass bitch
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eradicator
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
(06-05-2014 11:09 AM)STLMO Wrote: I skimmed this epic diatribe yesterday, a few thoughts....
Too lengthy and desperate for trolling, this was a life story from a sad person.
You have more than three obvious strikes, you're short, bald, spoiled by your parents, not one mention of starting a weight training regimen, and you're Jewish
Being short can't be fixed.
Your balding, you have to bic your head
Your parents have funded so much of your life, it's impossible to fund all that travel otherwise in your predicament. Ditch them entirely. Chics like men, you're stuck as a child with them in your life. Don't accept shit from your parents any longer.
Start lifting seriously, your shaved head will look silly if you don't. This is mandatory.
Not an anti-Semite, but chics are. I have a good friend who was a Jew, and a self made millionaire by 19. Still couldn't get laid. Personally, I would rather be Asian or Indian. You need to hide this to Gentile women, and start going to synagogue, not for the spiritual advice, but Jewish chics should be easier for a Jewish man. I'm not Catholic, but my drummer is big time. I have started going to mass with him occasionally, and have been positioning myself to exploit his catholic circle of friends. Not many religious types, nowadays. Women who are, are looking for good men. Easily exploitable.
Get back in to yoga, teach class for pay again, start free yoga meetup in a park. Invite your paying students. Younger, poorer chics will follow. Don't neglect your weight training though. Chics want muscles, yoga will not provide the type you need.
Start playing ukulele, then eventually, the guitar. You need something to think about other than your involuntary celibacy. Uke will get you acclimated to a stringed instrument. Then get a classical nylon stringed guitar. Nylon strings, much easier on a beginner's fingers. It will be good for your mind, but if you follow the path far enough, develop some proficiency, there is no greater poosy magnet.
Most importantly, lift some fucking weight, you faggot ass bitch
This is all great. OP also needs to get a good shrink. Not just a psychologist, but a psychiatrist who can prescribe anti depressants. He also needs to makeover his style most likely. Assuming he will have any sort of musical ability is a stretch, but learning guitar could be fun for him.
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RXB
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Three guesses about the OP if he isn't a troll:
1. Morbidly obese.
As Shoe Money once said "when girls see a guy the notice his hair, clothes, and eyes. When girls see a fat guy all they see is fat." There's a difference between being out of shape and obese. If you are obese no amount of game is really going to save you. A 400 lbs. man could spit tight game but he's, in the majority of situations, never going to overcome the fact that he's a whale. It's like how Lindy West could cook you dinner and iron your socks, but she'd still be ugly.
2. Socially retarded.
Doing 3,000 approaches means nothing if you're saying garbage. If you walked up to 3,000 girls and said "will you be my girlfriend?" you'd get nothing. While approaches sound good on paper they mean nothing when done poorly. It's like those girls who are in the gym for three hours a night, but sit on their phone the whole time and don't get any real exercise. I'd rather do 30 good approaches and swoop two or three girls than run 3,000 trash approaches that leave me with a tube sock and bottle of KY.
3. Horrible personal traits.
There's a guy on here who had a thread called "Game works for the facially disabled" it was really inspiring. However, having something that was caused by a birth defect or accident is a lot different than damaging yourself in some way. Not brushing your teeth until they are rotting and green, never bathing, picking your nose, having horrible breath, and hundreds of other issues could easily add up and make you repulsive. These things would only be made worse by either of the other two factors I listed.
Instead of focusing on game so much try and develop a lifestyle. Get to the gym. Learn how to talk to people like a normal person. Develop some hobbies. That kind of stuff will take you a lot farther than what you are doing now.
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MdWanderer
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
(06-05-2014 11:09 AM)STLMO Wrote: Not an anti-Semite, but chics are. I have a good friend who was a Jew, and a self made millionaire by 19. Still couldn't get laid. Personally, I would rather be Asian or Indian. You need to hide this to Gentile women, and start going to synagogue, not for the spiritual advice, but Jewish chics should be easier for a Jewish man. I'm not Catholic, but my drummer is big time. I have started going to mass with him occasionally, and have been positioning myself to exploit his catholic circle of friends. Not many religious types, nowadays. Women who are, are looking for good men. Easily exploitable.
Another good piece of advice. Many incels I know constantly try to game girls from a different racial group. While that may work for some people you tend to get the best responses from your own.
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