Post: #26

I was in your situation when I was young and I lost a wonderful girl because I "got bored" with everyday routine with her. Go alone on a vacation for two weeks and the fire will be back.

Post: #27

Read Roissy's article, Getting Rusty. He writes that too much time away from the hunt and in the confines of a LTR will cause one to regress to beta and ultimately the woman will leave because she cant stand the stench of beta. Stay hunting to sharpen your skills. When it all falls down she can get a man instantly and you're stuck with oneitis. Keep two in the kitty!

Post: #28

I detect there may be more to this girl than your post says.

I am not saying nor sure this applies to you, but every time a guy friend has stated by telling me a girl is the "sweetest" with no detail, there is more to the story. More to the story could mean she is "manipulative sweet," or even an outright abuser. Again, not sure if this applies to you but it just raised a huge red flag when I read it.

Please tell me I'm wrong.

Post: #29

(07-19-2015 07:10 AM)offthereservation Wrote:  I detect there may be more to this girl than your post says.

I am not saying nor sure this applies to you, but every time a guy friend has stated by telling me a girl is the "sweetest" with no detail, there is more to the story. More to the story could mean she is "manipulative sweet," or even an outright abuser. Again, not sure if this applies to you but it just raised a huge red flag when I read it.

Please tell me I'm wrong.

There may be some some truth to this, but come on, don't be so melodramatic.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #30

(07-19-2015 07:36 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(07-19-2015 07:10 AM)offthereservation Wrote:  I detect there may be more to this girl than your post says.

I am not saying nor sure this applies to you, but every time a guy friend has stated by telling me a girl is the "sweetest" with no detail, there is more to the story. More to the story could mean she is "manipulative sweet," or even an outright abuser. Again, not sure if this applies to you but it just raised a huge red flag when I read it.

Please tell me I'm wrong.

There may be some some truth to this, but come on, don't be so melodramatic.

Edit:
Since quite some time has passed since this was originally posted, what has happened?

Post: #31

^ Good question.

I'd wager the OP is probably single now or on to another girlfriend.

But as someone with a record of dragging relationships eons beyond the point I should have myself, I have to admit you never know.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #32

That's how it goes... the Universe rubs all this opportunity in your face when you finally meet a good one.

Don't mess it up... times are always better when you got a real keeper

Post: #33

I think its a "grass is always greener on the other side" type of situation.

When youre single you think chasing girls is a waste of time and money.

When youre in a relationship you wish you were still chasing ass again.

Post: #34

(05-26-2014 12:18 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  Go approach but don't escalate things further

Or, approach and escalate things further, but just don't get caught.

Post: #35

Now matter how sweet she is, do her actions provide the results you want after adjusting slightly to determine her value?

Is she "sweet" but not a giver in general? Is she sweet and genuinely appreciates you by proving it with her actions?

Answers to those actions-oriented questions may provide you with an answer to if it's:
1) Worth the risk of suggesting 3-somes
2) Worth the risk of cheating on occasionally
3) Not worth the risk because she checks most the boxes you want.

I for one, just told a sweet girl tonight I've been seeing the most for the past few months now (I wouldn't call her my main just yet), that I'm not willing to reduce my lifting schedule which is teetering on substantially reduced from what it was a year ago due to a string of small injuries.

She seemed compliant and understanding. How ever sweet she may be, and pretty good sex, girls that are clearly one way or the other (sweet & supple<<<<-->>>>>bitchy & crazy), I always keep a close eye on their behavior.

My goal in life is to strive for balance. Too much time with an unbalanced girl throws off my balance too. I might even go as far a number closing a few cute girls to loosely keep in contact with, because you never know when Mrs. Sweet pulls some left field shit like: "So me and the girls are going on a girls vacation to Dickville."

And numbers are something you can weasel out of, especially if you've been wise and haven't let her scour your phone.

Post: #36

(05-26-2014 06:13 PM)Veloce Wrote:  Every guy is different and has a different philosophy.

My personal end-game is gf/wife with affairs. I like having a gf. I also like new pussy every once in a while. Combine the two. Hey, magic!

It's doable, just requires that you set things up in a conducive manner. It's also stressful, so you'd better be able to deal with stress well and lie through your teeth without getting any pussy-ass guilt trip about it.

Unless you're one of those guys that's cool with open/poly relationships then I don't see any other alternative.

The best way to cheat is to establish your own habits and boundaries early on. If you have friends that live out of town that you visit on a regular basis, then there's no reason for your gf to suspect anything when you tell her you're leaving for the weekend. But if you're a homebody that never leaves the house and all of a sudden you go radio silence on her, she's gonna know something is up. Make yourself scarce and unpredictable early on and it will make things easier for the rest of your relationship. It helps if you're a natural introvert and have already expressed your need for "alone time" or going out on hikes by yourself.

I'm not even going to address the whole ethics/morality behind cheating or lying. If you're stuck on that shit you shouldn't even be reading this.

This. Just know how to compartmentalize your feelings, and stay on top of your FB/IG/Phone all the time.

Post: #37

Op?

Post: #38

Ahhh...One woman or new pussy?

Oldest rub in the book.



I personally don't think there's anything particularly satisfying or "thrilling" about the "hunt". But that's just me

Banging new / strange pussy on the other hand is on the other hand...well very fucking satisfying.

Post: #39

at 23 years old you need to be having fun, fucking as many girls as possible. Settle down/up later.
Trust me. And any other 40 yr old guy. Just have fun now.

Post: #40

I was in the same situation. I made my decision because I was tired of thinking about doing it or not. So I dumped her. I'm now looking confidently at the future.