Post: #1126

Dont get a job with jet. Your basically a monkey for children and will have to work in the country side. Sure you get more days off because of school holidays as well as public holidays. But at the end of it did you really learn anything?

Im working in an eikaiwa atm and love it. While i only plan to do this for 1-2 years, my school and staff are amazing and im getting invaluable life experience. Also i got to choose the city i work in and got a mon to friday gig with pretty good pay. Unlike jet, i teach my own classes and each week i am getting better and better at identifying where students can improve their english and the best way to teach them. This skill could definitely transfer to teaching students privately either in japan or another country.

I recommend teaching for a private company if you're going to do it!

Btw what does ちゃん chan mean? Nothing comes up in google translate :/

Post: #1127

(10-06-2015 12:18 PM)DumbfromBirth Wrote:  Nothing comes up in google translate :/

That's because it's google translate. You have better luck shredding a paper dictionary and randomly forming sentences from the shreds.

Post: #1128

Google translate isnt that bad. Normally it will come up with some kanji characters and then you can figure out meanings. You just cant directly translate phrases or sentences.

Post: #1129

ちゃん is read as -chan and u add it after the name of cute stuff or girls. Just google 'when to use chan, kun, san' and u will find a lot of good explanations.
I use it with girls because it seems we are closer that way compared to san. After a short while I just drop it and only use her first name. If they help me with japanese I also use it like ありがとうＡちゃん先生、which is obviously wrong but by joking that way, it helps avoiding creating a gap between us because of the lack of language skills, if that makes any sense to u guys lol

Post: #1130

(10-06-2015 04:25 PM)DumbfromBirth Wrote:  Google translate isnt that bad. Normally it will come up with some kanji characters and then you can figure out meanings. You just cant directly translate phrases or sentences.

It's fucked man. Sometimes I'll put in a simple 4 word sentence, and it blows it up to some incomprehensible garbage that even I can tell is wrong. Even putting in a single word makes people look at you with the confused face.

Now I don't even bother trying. Google translate works OK for European language (reading auto translated Russian is pretty good), but in the East people just look at you funny. I now rely on using an offline dictionary such as Jsho, together with what Japanese I know, alone.

Post: #1131

I will be in Tokyo till November. Would be nice to meet with some of you guys.
Today I confirm my date with a J-girl for tomorrow. After the shock with the asian-american it can only go better.

Post: #1132

So some conclusion. I don't have that many bangs as I want, but I also don't go out hard regular. When I go out I get in contact with girls easy, more tricky is to pull then for a date / meetup. I run more girls that I have at least two meetings in the week. Whats a little tricky is the long planing ahead and well the radio silence. But I did read about it so I'm aware.
Next issue is I kind of let a girl wait for nothing because I get stopped by the police, lets see if she want to go out again.

I will head to Roppongi soon again, saturday I go to a private party. Lets see what happen there. Ah and I drink to much, its easy to get lost in a nomihodai.

Post: #1133

I agree with Phoenix, Google Translate is really bad. However, while texting I sometimes copy in Line messages in which I cant read the Kanji because Google Translate shows you the reading of the Kanji too in addition to the really bad 'translation'. Often just the reading is enough. If you have an iPhone, I recommend IMIWA? as a dictionary. For Android users JED is pretty good. They don't even require Internet Connection to work.

@Parzival are you the one always starting the conversation on Line? I do get some conversation starters from time to time but mostly its me initiating the conversation. After that it keeps going pretty well though. My guess is they start to take the initiative after sex happened, what did you guyd experience?

Post: #1134

For Line they have the Thai-English translation 'friend' you can invite in the chat. Seems to work decently well but I'm not sure if they have it in Japanese.

Post: #1135

At the moment its me that start the conversation. Only had one girl that respond me after I went a few days silent.
My line contacts I get by going out, bars, even in the last train and so on. So its mixed. Because often the girls are busy and / or I get from an other girl a positive reaction. So I drop them and maybe contact them some time later.
After the sex, one girl said she will write. She didn't. She used me lol. A week later I asked for go out but the weather went bad. So I give her next week an other try. Approached 3 girls yesterday, one date today and an other one at Monday. Hope to close the deal today.

I also tried Tinder and still do it. Get some matches, had two meetings. One was good with a london girl, the other a nightmare with an asian-american. The other matches often go silent.

And I write in english, often they can read it but not speak it.

Post: #1136

(10-16-2015 03:59 PM)Mentavious Wrote:  For Line they have the Thai-English translation 'friend' you can invite in the chat. Seems to work decently well but I'm not sure if they have it in Japanese.

1. Start LINE and tap [More] > [Official Accounts], scroll down to [News/Tools] and add the [ENG-ESP translator] as a friend.
2. If you want to translate something, tap [ENG-ESP translator] on your Friends list and tap [Chat]. Once in the chat-room, you can type the message you want to get translated.
3. If you want the [ENG-ESP translator] to translate chat-messages between you and your friends, please select [Add Friends] from the chat-room menu and add the [ENG-ESP translator] to your chat. You can also invite the [ENG-ESP translator] to your groups in the usual way.


Check that for Japanese, I would be surprised if they didn't.

Post: #1137

Question: what bang spacing do you guys experience in Japan?

I.e. for any individual girl who you keep seeing, how often do you meet them to bang on average? Once a week, month, every other day?

In addition, how much and how often do you text them in the interim, or how often do you just wait for her to text?

Post: #1138

Phoenix,
For me this depends on how many girls I have on hand at the time. If I've got a steady rotation of around 5 then I'll see 2-3 a week and change it up the next week, depending on my schedule of course.

When I have less then 5 girls I'm usually out looking for more. I usually stop at around 5-8 because at that point, things start getting stupid, i.e. girls catching feelings, cutting into my schedule, etc.

As for texting, I'll answer if they text me but for the most part I text them when I want to bang.

Post: #1139

Phoenix,
For me this depends on how many girls I have on hand at the time. If I've got a steady rotation of around 5 then I'll see 2-3 a week and change it up the next week, depending on my schedule of course.

When I have less then 5 girls I'm usually out looking for more. I usually stop at around 5-8 because at that point, things start getting stupid, i.e. girls catching feelings, cutting into my schedule, etc.

As for texting, I'll answer if they text me but for the most part I text them when I want to bang.

Post: #1140

^ I mean not how many per week, but for any particular girl, how often will you bang her on average? I'm trying to guage their average "fuck need", since if you go beyond that they'll get scared off because you're too demanding, and if you let it lapse too long it'll be interpreted as the standard Japanese "silent breakoff".

Post: #1141

From my 2010-2013 experiences in Japan, the spacing of meets depends a lot on the girl and how the relationship is framed. I usually had 2-4 in my stable, and I met some of them weekly or even more often (semi-GFs) while others were every 4-6 weeks. The ones you see every month you can assume have no illusions about the relationship, they know you have others and are likely banging other guys too. You might have a semi-GF who wants to be exclusive but is so busy she sees you only twice a month. Most girls who are into you want to meet weekly, and it's easy to claim busyness so they don't come around more than that.

In short, I found the time management aspect of seeing a few girls relatively easy in Japan. For the most part they are not clingy. The other side is that they can just as easily have other guys as you have girls. But most of us around here can accept that.

I remember one year on my birthday, as the clock ticked midnight I got a happy birthday text from one girl. Then there was a knock on the door and another turned up as a surprise birthday present (one of the hottest ever too, 22 year old super kawaii girl and here's me at age 38). Couple of hours after she left in the morning, a third girl turned up at my door. Very sweet but I was lucky to get away with it. But usually they don't turn up unannounced.

Post: #1142

Ah I should have been clearer, when I said 2-3 a week I meant I'll see each girl once a week then switch off. So each girl once every other week. Of course it isn't set in stone, I will sometimes see the same girl twice a week. I tried to stick to this pattern to avoid clingyness.

What I noticed happen was the girls I was with were looking for a relationship, which I clearly established I wasn't from the get go, so I guess they were hanging on in the hopes of me changing my mind, them convincing me how great they are, the earth is actually flat? I don't know but it worked for me.

Clear cut answer I tried for once a week or ideally every other week. Every other week is doable because sometimes shes the one who has plans and can't make it but there were times I saw the same girl twice in a week. Meh I got needs, sue me.

Post: #1143

After you bang them for the first time, do you invite them direct to your place for the other bangs or go out with them first?

Post: #1144

Sometimes I actually want to go out with them, i.e. No ones up for dinner, previous engagement fell through, or even just bored, but I always invite them straight to my place because I don't want them to start getting expectations.

Post: #1145

Had you guys some success with first bangs in the week? Or all the first bangs at the weekend?
Sometimes for me its tricky, I go out with them but they have to work the next day. I guess its more a matter of better timing, bang them and send them home before the last train or?

And not speaking japanese really sucks more and more lol
I miss so many opportunities. Keep on practising.

Post: #1146

Apologize if this has been answered, but seems like there are no westerners in Second tier cities in Japan. The south seems to have some large cities that no one has visited. Can anyone comment on what the reception is like down there? I've always wanted to visit, want to see if its worth my time....I feel like exotic factor has to be quite high

Post: #1147

Ive heard mixed feelings, from average friends though. Personally I've rather enjoyed just how much is available in the cities.

With that said, I'm in Tokyo now and would love to hear some good spots to isakaya -> hotel a girl. I've got no idea where the best places are to do that in Tokyo. Would appreciate any info, pms are awesome if you have a spot you don't want made too public.

Post: #1148

(10-28-2015 10:27 AM)godzilla Wrote:  Apologize if this has been answered, but seems like there are no westerners in Second tier cities in Japan. The south seems to have some large cities that no one has visited. Can anyone comment on what the reception is like down there? I've always wanted to visit, want to see if its worth my time....I feel like exotic factor has to be quite high

You mean Fukuoka? Fukuoka is a fantastic city - just right in size and seen as the most liveable city in Japan with plenty of green space. It's not true that there are no foreigners, though. There's a decent number of expats. Exotic factor is definitely higher than Tokyo though and the people can be more friendly when first meeting. Still, it's Japan and you'll have to put in the work to be successful.

Not sure if you mean the cities of Kansai (Osaka-Kobe-Kyoto) by "the south" but they're well-known destinations for travelers and expats second only to Tokyo, and have been covered a lot on the forum.

Hiroshima, Kagoshima, Okayama etc are more like third-tier cities and it's true that there are few foreigners there apart from JET teachers and a tiny sprinkling of others. You could find a niche in places like those if you speak Japanese and establish yourself e.g. play in a band, own your own English school, etc. You would stand out for sure.

I'm biased as most of my Japanese experience is in Kobe and Osaka, but I think that's where the sweet spot is for being in a big city while still having some exotic capital - and having lower expenses than Tokyo.

Post: #1149

So two months are over of my Japan stay, one more left. I really like the country and everything. Still I'm not sure if I want to work here. At the moment I don't speak Japanese so there are no good jobs anyway. Get better ones in Germany, even when I get one in Japan I don't like the working culture here.

It is mention here and its absolute true. When you don't speak Japanese you are out in 70 - 80 % of cases. Still I manage to get a lot of contacts but they flake a lot. Some cancel the date and say sorry. Then they never respond for a different appointment. But in the text messages before they write me how they looking forward to meet me. Either my text game is weak or its the flake mentality. One girl wrote me yesterday after we had sex and she went silent for 3 weeks. She want to hang out, but it was after Halloween so I just said she can come to my place. She did not, so I did not waste my money and time as I see it.
That I'm 2 months here made it possible to build some trust with english J-girls I meet. Hope it will result in some more bangs. At the moment I just had 3 bangs with 3 girls. One of them I see kind of regular.
Also meet one girl where I can think about a relationship, but had no bang yet. Before the bang, you have nothing. So no deeper thinking about this now. She is this week in Korea for vacation - maybe she do a sex trip like the J-men too lol

A lot of contacts I get from an international bar I hit regular. There they are speaking english. I get a little cold now and the buildings are so thin, the rooms get cold now. And then you just have the AC to heat it up.
Anyway later I have a date with a Chinese girl, its kind of a set up date from an other girl that I approached but has a boyfriend.

The men here are cool. Some are more open, others have the shy mentality. Make it sometimes more hard because I'm kind of outgoing. But I did hang out with some. Sometimes if feels like they are gay but its just the way how they are lol
Also get stopped by the police because riding a bicycle in the night. After 4 hours at the Koban they let me go, I did not steal the bike.

So Japan is a great country to visit and maybe to live too. But its for sure not a easy bang country in Asia. Hong Kong and China had been more easy. When you speak Japanese, have a stable social circle here, then you can sure pull a lot of girls on the long term. So I plan to come back.

Post: #1150

I had forgotten how expensive love hotels get on weekends and holidays.

On the plus I was reminded just how entertaining it is when the girls ask you how to say big dick in English and then spend the next few minutes asking you to fix their pronunciation. Oddly enough, I think that expression they try the hardest to get right. It also seems that all my foreign buddies have had that experience several times as well.

Must be a cultural thing.