Post: #1

Hey everyone, ran into a girl that I dated back in my undergrad college days. We chatted for a few minutes and she quickly picked up on my alpha attitude and teasing (which, of course, I developed over the years since we broke up). I told her about a big international trip I'm leaving on soon. After she asked how I can afford all my traveling I told her about all the money I made in the stock market. She asked if I still had her number which I didn't. Since she broke it off with me I told her to take my number.

A couple of days went by and then she texted me this:

"Did you really become this pompous and arrogant??? Wow.
Hope you have fun and learn some humility on your trip."

Any suggestions on how should I respond to this? It seems like a blatant shit test and I'm at a bit of a loss.

Post: #2

"It's part of my charm, stick around to see Act II, its a cliffhanger"

or

"Did I miss something? Or were we not filling each other in on what's going on in our lives? Here I was happy to see you.."

Post: #3

The best thing to do, imo, is pick up the phone an call. So I would answer with a quick text:

"As antagonizing as your text sounds, let's talk about what bothered you. So, rather than cold texting, dinner at my place at 7pm; I'll cook"


Really, do not play a text messaging game of approvals, and games...get her in front of your face, and quickly in your apt. so that you can escalate kino, comfort and go for the BANG.

Worse case, she texts back trying to prove herself to you....but deep in her genes, it's your alphaness that she wants". However, she also wants to see your sensible side, which she has not seen....too much alphaness comes off as arrogance, and that closes legs up fast, very fast.

Never apologize for being alpha, and put the guilt on her for not having a strong character indirectly. Just make sure you are indeed being Alpha, and not incredibly arrogant to the point of pissing her off and walking away from you.


let us know how it turns out.


Mixx

Post: #4

Damn that is better ^

Post: #5

(12-19-2010 03:28 PM)Fisto Wrote:  Damn that is better ^

Still props for the text lines you provided, I always find them amusing

Post: #6

There's a girl I text now with crazy shit, like I'll ask her when she's going to blow my dad, I can do this because I've banged her regularly the past 2 months. I could probably text her anything I want to and it doesn't matter, because she's just happy to get attention from me. When you're trying to restart with a girl or starting fresh, I just can't advise going the joke route. The girl may not pick up on your humor/sarcasm, etc and then you've made more work for yourself or maybe even killed the lead.

I'd use Mixx's strategy and just invite her over. I'd have to know how much history you have to advise any further than that though.

Post: #7

My response to that would be: "What's your point?"

It''ll go over well, seriously. Try it. Its perfectly fine to be arrogant with women (be cool with guys), as long as you aren't apologetic for it. An insecure arrogant guy, on the other hand, is tough to love. But also be sure there is a playfulness to your arrogance. If you come off as standoffish, and don't have the people skills to go along with some friendly arrogance, then you are better off being nicer/less arrogant. Although, you will still pull validation whores if you are unmercifully arrogant. But those are girls with problems, on the extreme end.

Post: #8

I would not take the bait. I would move on and bang other girls who are smart enough to get with the program.

Some girls call me arrogant but I just heap it on even more and they seem to love it. She's trying to knock you down a peg because she probably sees you are above her.

If you do reply, I would just text her: "Thanks for the tip! " that conveys her comment didn't hurt you at all and that you are having fun with it. It also gives her a second chance to rethink getting with you. In other words, if there is interest there, she'll come back with "You're welcome ". That is a direct IOI and then you could play if off from there.

Post: #9

Mixx... what if she just turns his invite down? Doesn't he lose alpha-cred with her?

Post: #10

A good response is: "you will have to get used with that" and you can add "all my ex girl-friends did" .

Post: #11

(12-20-2010 01:10 AM)bigbootyluvr Wrote:  I would not take the bait. I would move on and bang other girls who are smart enough to get with the program.

Why? A quick text takes almost none of your time, and the possible outcome here is sex. Course I don't know if he was banging her when they dated before.

(12-20-2010 03:31 AM)Bukowsky Wrote:  Mixx... what if she just turns his invite down? Doesn't he lose alpha-cred with her?

It doesn't matter, if she turns him down he can just forget about her. Nothing gained, nothing lost.

(12-20-2010 03:53 AM)Jack_007 Wrote:  A good response is: "you will have to get used with that" and you can add "all my ex girl-friends did" .

Please don't use this line.

Post: #12

(12-19-2010 03:11 PM)GrumpStar Wrote:  "Did you really become this pompous and arrogant??? Wow.
Hope you have fun and learn some humility on your trip."

Were you being pompous and arrogant? Don't over do it.

The text back to the one above I thought of was either: "Did u really learn all those big words?" or "Why all the big words?" or if she's dirty "Big words for a slut".

Aloha!

Post: #13

There have been some developments here. First, I found out from her friend that she doesn't actually live here any longer... she was just visiting last weekend! Also, I was being a bit pompous and arrogant but not overly so. The other girls hang on every word with the same attitude. In reality, I think she's just insanely jealous because I'm now doing what she's always wanted (travel the world with some money in my pocket). Anyway, she's also gained some weight (went from 9 to 6) and judging from FB she's now dating a guy who's tits look bigger then hers (which would require an impressive amount of Chipotle consumption).

Since I found out she was only here for the weekend and Monday, I decided against MiXX's invite game and just texted her this:

"It's part of my natural charm Good thing you don't live near me because you'd be unsatisfied by every other man in a 300 mile radius."

Post: #14

I wouldn't text back or call back. I don't need to be offended by someone who was away for long and think that knows me or something like. If go try for attention somewhere else. Don't care.

Post: #15

Too long, too much of an attempt to be witty. Too "too".

Practice makes perfect though.

Post: #16

Unless you are intent on hittin it again, I would even bother.

But if you must, I wouldn`t even acknowledge her accusations. I would just text`It was great seeing you the other day. Keep in touch.` Don`t get sucked in (explaining yourself just makes you look weak....after all, she is not your standard bearer). The ball will be in her court after the gracious bone you threw at her feet. She will likely stay in touch on a more positive note (you are on her mind, she was compelled to send a text in the first place).

Make sure you respond hours later.

Post: #17

I have been switching up my game since November and I have been less verbose in my correspondence with women. I naturally have a lot to say and I have great depth to my character (too much for some women at times) but now I took time to reflect on what I have been accomplishing with my correspondence.

Do I want these women as friends? No, most of them are not deep enough to keep my attention for an extended period of time and even those who claim friendship, eventually try to fcuk at some point (which is why I don't keep friends with women I'm sexually attracted to).

I just want to fcuk them. So if our conversation detracts from that agenda (and if it becomes too long winded), I will nip that one short.

I had a phone convo with this lizard I'm trying to spin out last night.

She's been trying to recover from a slight case of cough or whatever and she also wants to lose some pounds in the next few months.

In regards to her getting well, I told her I have some vitamins that will get her back on her feet. This alludes to that song that some of you may have heard called "Vitamin S" in which the S stands for sex.

I left it at that.

In regards to her losing weight (by the way, she isn't fat but she just wants to tighten up for a vacation), I told her I have some exercises that will have her heart racing and send the calories flying off.

She said, I know what you mean and it's not happening.

I had to use plausible deniability and say I'm not sure what you mean but I've been involved in human physical development for a decade now.

Then I left it at that and remained silent to allow her to fill the quiet moments.

That has been my new flex now because I think in the past, I've been talking far too much and it has not gotten me what I want. I have no desire to impress nor impart information on those who do not want to be impressed nor imparted upon.

Post: #18

(12-20-2010 03:31 AM)Bukowsky Wrote:  Mixx... what if she just turns his invite down? Doesn't he lose alpha-cred with her?

AS CJ wrote: "nothing gained, nothing lost"...You only lose alpha-cred with someone you truly give a shit about...and with her, I won't. NEXT!