RE: Where oh where in China
A user asked me this in PM and I thought I'd post it for everyone's benefit.
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What methods do you use to discipline your older students?
With the young ones I stick the points on either side of the board. (Really gets them to shut the fuck up in my experience).
But the older ones probably won't take to that, and will see through my 'reward' of a lollipop to the winning team members after six weeks.
Thanks,
Rooshuser.
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Kids in China only ever get rewards, its time to dole out some punishments. BTW smile when you dole out their 'new' rewards and walk into class with a completely new attitude. Watch Sgt. Slaughter from GI Joe, or Starship Troopers, Aliens... any movie or show with a hard ass drill sergeant. Never drop your new persona
Rewards are as follows:
Say this with a straight serious face: 1 team will get VERY small erasers if they are VERY good. (no screaming, shouting or moving body parts. They sit military style, hands in front at all times). Show them some of those ultra small angry bird erasers. The first class you show them, they might 'poo poo it, or say BIG DEAL?!?!', that's my favorite response. Demonstrate this with your TA:
Say 1,2 and within two seconds if they don't have this done, take a point off the board. Then say "STAND UP" and the TA should stand, salute and at the top of her lungs scream "YES SIR!". Try this with the children, the first two times will be half assed. By the 40th time, the kids will have it down pat and doing it in unison. Don't stop until they have this shit ingrained in their heads, eventually you should only need to whisper with a stern look and a class of 50 kids will be standing at attention within 10 seconds. No more candies. Do it every class, at the beginning and at the end. Walk through the rows for 'inspection', once you get this perfected, the other teachers will be in awe of you.
Now as for the teams/rows who lose... announce with a big smile, "FOR THE REST OF YOU LOSERS! YOU GET HOMEWORK" and not a little bit, a fuck load of it and you should be sadistic when handing it out. Smile and tell them you loooove losers and bad children and you love giving homework. Find that one little fuck in the row that causes shit and give that row homework EVERY SINGLE FUCKIN TIME he steps out of line. They will cry, scream, pound their feet. The more they do this the more homework you pile on. You gotta have fun too right, so I gleefully walk around the class listening and watching for even the slightest hint of disobedience, I only need to turn my head when I'm writing and like dominoes they are sitting there with eyes forward, arms folded. My classes look like 50 soldiers standing at attention. Strangely enough the kids absolutely LOVE THIS. They FIGHT to compete against each other because essentially the winners are GIVING the rest of the class homework, and one thing Chinese love to do is gain power/face over another.
Prizes do not motivate children as much as RAW FEAR. If those kids are afraid of you, they respect you. If you play the 'nicety nice western teacher' they don't give a fuck about anything you say or do. You know Chinese do this, they look for the weak in society and then stomp on them or take advantage of the situation. Do not give these fvckers and inch. Make a threat, and carry through with it. That's the secret, don't threaten to punch students or anything physical, just say, you'll get homework or stand in front of the class. The kid will test you, as soon as he does, the punishment kicks in, I don't even hesitate. You need to be in control at all times, they will eventually defer to you for everything. You sound like a young guy, cause I notice a lot of the 20 something, young guys around the city wearing hipster fashion. When I first started, I was a nice guy with students and found eventually they would take advantage of that, when I became the drill sergeant (I went to school for policing) the kids started treating me with an immense amount of respect. I am the highest recommended teacher in my schools and currently run a training program for the other teachers. Women teachers don't agree with my methods, so I promptly tell them to fuck off and go home. You have to be the MAN and the one who makes the rules. There is no kissing, hugging or emotionally charged bullshit in my class, if a TA tries that with a student, I tell her she can leave. Stick to your guns and never back down.
Also bro, talk to the parents and talk to them like you talk to a child. I look them straight in the face and tell them they have FAILED as parents and their children will FAIL in life because of it. I don't pull any punches, the parents need to know that what they are doing is seriously fucking up their children and that they need to take responsibility as parents or later their children will grow into failed adults. The real kicker is when the parents agree with you and back you, so the kids are shitting bricks if they are reprimanded in school.
Treat teens no different. I say do a roleplay, they fuckin do it. Teens, especially asian teens are socially awkward. So what do we do in the game with socially awkard nerds? We MAKE them sarge and do 100's of number closes, eventually they drop that shit. What do I do with teens, put them through 100's of role-plays and make them talk about embarrassing shit on the spot, in front of the class. If they don't do it, I tell admin or faculty, I'm quitting, that usually gets a prompt response from the school. They hate me for the first half of the class because they don't understand WHY you are making them do this when no other person in their life has ever made them do anything they don't like. You do this until they are so comfortable that they walk up and do it naturally as if its nothing special. I also give them homework to do and by that I mean, they have to do something socially awkward outside of class and report back on it. It could be as simple as walking into a crowded elevator, facing the crowd and staring at all of them while the elevator descends. Later they get more challenging... I recommend you learn how to dance, breakdance/popping and locking work especially well, then make your class go home and learn ONE move. They have to comeback and demonstrate it infront of the entire class AND teach them. At the end, all of your kids will know how to dance. This is highly usual for asian teens and they get a lot of enjoyment out of it. You must keep the challenges going every class, you are going to break them and rebuild them. Whatever you ask of them, you have to be able to do yourself, with a straight face. You have to be something that these children ASPIRE to become. Asian kids are awkward and they WANT more than ANYTHING to be more socially in control, you as a red piller/PUA can offer them this.
Then you take them into the field. I teach my kids how to sell shit (same as pickup) to random strangers. My first field class is to give them freedom to go out in groups (which I select) and they must come back with 20 phone numbers/emails of people they APPROACHED and made English conversation with on the street. I stay close enough to watch them, some of them fuck off to McDonald, that's ok... as long as they get the work done. In the second class they give a report and act out the funny situations infront of the others to see (field-report). I usually give them an opener to work with, the goal is to make conversation: "Hey did you see the fight over there!".
Second class, I give them all pencils and erasers and they have to go out and sell them (beg) for a dollar each and convince people to give them money, believe me, it works. then a field report...
Third field class I give them GARBAGE out of the bin, tell them to sell it and get a dollar for it. By that time they are confident in who they are and it becomes a competition. Teens will respect you because you are giving them LIFE SKILLS, not just reading from some damn book. Teens 16+ love this shit.
Again you have to be that drill instructor and when they say "I hate you teacher" its gotta roll off your back because eventually they're gonna say "I love you teacher". You are giving them something they've never had before, guidance. I give my kids nick names, at first they don't like it but eventually they'll be refferring to one another by that name to a point where they'll respond to that name over their regular name. For instance I currently have a group of 5 children:
Sucks-Man
Ladies-Man
Garbage-Man
Mega-Man
and
Jingle Bell Jack
Even the other teachers call them by callsign. It gives them an identity among the group and something to feel like they can own that's all theirs. No different than what we call each other in the forums. If its a large class of 40 or so kids, I don't address anyone individually or give them names. They are all known by their rows or teams. I say to them when they get points "WHO ARE YOU?" and a child will promptly yell back "RED TEAM!". Children who were enemies previously are die hard comrades by the end of the semester. They will suffer the same consequences and share in the same rewards as their fellow teammates.
Once you learn to teach kids like this, each NEW 'unruly' class becomes a project and both Chinese and Western staff will be absolutely blown away by your level of skill and control in the classroom. What you do will look effortless but when another teacher tries to take the reigns and pull that nicety nice crap, they will only get chaos. Teachers are LEADERS and you must develop leadership skills, your followers are depending on it.
I learned this from the nicest phillipino teacher you will ever meet. He'd walk into a class, yell "sit nicely" and the kids would be at attention. When he would show a 'reward' like half of his peanut butter sandwich the kids would cry, and go nuts for the chance to win it.
(This post was last modified: 12-20-2013 09:34 PM by BadWolf.)
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