Post: #26

All the above tips are nice, but they're useless unless the OP throws out his television.

Post: #27

I'm always amazed how productive and social people become during a power outage.

Post: #28

I'd rather be lazy and smart than stupid and motivated.

Post: #29

(10-16-2013 08:08 AM)MidniteSpecial Wrote:  I'd rather be lazy and smart than stupid and motivated.

I think it was MickCF who mentioned once, "You can either work hard or work smart, but not both."

Post: #30

(10-15-2013 11:11 AM)cardguy Wrote:  I wish somebody would invent a pill to stop you being lazy.

Somebody did. It's called Adderall.

Post: #31

(10-14-2013 11:26 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  You might be constipated. Seriously. Easiest thing to do is straighten your diet. You should be pooping like 2-3 times a day. Drink more water.

This.

Clean up the diet, try cutting out gluten, take psyllium husks and a probiotic tablet in the morning.

Post: #32

My comment about the pill was a joke.

I need to work on my comedy.

Post: #33

This book also helped me out a lot:

"Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement"

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060393...03_s00_i00

Post: #34

(10-17-2013 08:42 AM)Tytalus Wrote:  This book also helped me out a lot:

"Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement"

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060393...03_s00_i00

Can you elaborate on how it helped you?

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #35

Laziness depends on your upbringing more than anything. My brother is lazy as fuck, I'm not. It's mostly due to the fact that I grew up in economic strife, yet my brother grew up in the years of plenty, especially when he was a teenager and I'd left home by then.

But you CAN change your life. I have todo lists about a mile long, and never run out of tasks to do.

Post: #36

I am pretty lazy. And not ashamed of it. The first thing I do when analysing a job or task is ask myself if it really needs doing.

Alot of people waste their lives doing useless shit just to keep them occupied.

To continue this theme. I want to repeat a joke I have shared before...

Quote:There is this story of an American expatriate in Nigeria. He takes a cigarette break at 10 am and sees a young man lying under the palm tree. He is flabbergasted. He approaches the young man and the following conversation ensues:

American: What are you doing?

Young man: (waves his arm around) Lying under the palm tree

American: What do you do for a living?

YM: I am a fisherman and I am done for today

American: At 10 am? You should put in some more hours.

YM: Then what?

American: Then you will make yourself more money.

YM: More money? Then what?

American: Then you can buy yourself a trawler and do deep sea fishing

YM: Trawler? Deep sea fishing? Then what?

American: Then you would really make a lot of money, and can go to the Bahamas and lie under the palm trees!

Post: #37

I have gone through the same thing and turned my life around for the better. It took about two years to do it and I still regress every now and then. Some keys where hitting the gym and eating healthy. Concentrating on one goal at a time and putting my full effort towards it. I stopped hanging out with my friends that were not really going anywhere and started hanging out with more successful people. Its all about what habits you have too, if you wake up every morning and watch tv or play computer games you need to break up that routine. Its not easy to do, but you just need to do small things everyday and one day you wake up and you don't have to force yourself to work or write a paper you just do it cause its part of who you are.

Anyway this is a good video for people who are not goal type people like me and you,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kyhXttVakk

Post: #38

(10-19-2013 02:25 PM)cardguy Wrote:  I am pretty lazy. And not ashamed of it. The first thing I do when analysing a job or task is ask myself if it really needs doing.

Alot of people waste their lives doing useless shit just to keep them occupied.

To continue this theme. I want to repeat a joke I have shared before...

Quote:There is this story of an American expatriate in Nigeria. He takes a cigarette break at 10 am and sees a young man lying under the palm tree. He is flabbergasted. He approaches the young man and the following conversation ensues:

American: What are you doing?

Young man: (waves his arm around) Lying under the palm tree

American: What do you do for a living?

YM: I am a fisherman and I am done for today

American: At 10 am? You should put in some more hours.

YM: Then what?

American: Then you will make yourself more money.

YM: More money? Then what?

American: Then you can buy yourself a trawler and do deep sea fishing

YM: Trawler? Deep sea fishing? Then what?

American: Then you would really make a lot of money, and can go to the Bahamas and lie under the palm trees!

true, but I dont recall anyone laying under a palm tree anywhere inventing the light bulb, the car, the radio, the airplane, the personal computer, modern medicine, .. .. ..

Post: #39

Was it Bill Gates who said...
"I always give the hardest jobs to the laziest people, because they always find a easier way to do it"

Post: #40

(10-14-2013 03:16 AM)Videl Wrote:  Go to specialist aka psychologist. First thing you need to acknowledge is that you are what you are because you are conditioned your whole life by your parents and surrounding. Your brain has circuits that are not easily changable. You will need a lot of willpower. I'm working on this myself too. Good book on this:

http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Your-B...1583334831

Must read I must say.

Just ordered this last week, and I think I will go see a counselor. I think it's funny how it all goes back to inner game.

Post: #41

(10-14-2013 11:19 AM)Flint Wrote:  How much porn do you watch?

I quit that shit 45 days ago and I must say my life has changed for the better ever since. I also went the first month without any masturbation but now I'm back at fapping thrice a week tops. In the process, I only think about women I interacted with in real life.

I don't think it's a panacea for everything wrong in your life, so you should combine it with other measures (working out, to-do-lists, socializing with as many people as possible, traveling, etc.). Looking back, though, I realize how it had made me unneccessarily inert over the years as well as self-complacent and lazy when it comes to approaching women in many situations.

I suggest to give it a shot and to check out the NoFap-Thread for more information. Many dudes seem to report similar positive side effects (whether they are placebo or not) such as a deeper voice and feeling more active.

I have actually stopped looking at porn for about 3 months now(maybe more), and I believe it has helped me to be more active in all aspects of my life including approaching more women. I haven't been able to totally throw out fapping from my life successfully though.

Post: #42

I adopted a very solid routine in the morning, beginning by ensuring you're getting enough sleep by getting to bed at a reasonable time, or napping on days I'm intending on heading out. find your own way of making sure you don't hit snooze and get up early, preferably a couple of hours prior to when you need to be some place(work, college, whatever), be it visualizing your morning before sleeping like Roosh, or moving your alarm far enough away that you have to physically get up to switch it off. My morning routine goes water, cardio while listening to a language program, food while reading notes/memorizing something, supplements and vitamins, stretching and mobility exercises while thinking about whatever I've memorized, then bathroom for shower/teeth brushed/getting pretty. This is a solid routine that takes around an hour and sets you up to be productive that day.

The next step to to tackle the most pressing task of the day, I run an omni-focus system where I write down everything I need to get done, however there are apps and such to have a more modern to do list. Pick the task that you're least likely to do and do it, some production guys call this 'swallowing your bull frog'- the goal is to do the hardest task of the day first. Habits and routines are way more effective than randomly taking care of business. If something takes longer than an hour it should really be a project rather than a task. Assign spare days to take care of projects.

I mapped out the 5(now six) areas of my life that mattered most to me, expanding on each area in my journal. They are body, mind, skills, social, and finance, I later added romance when it didn't feel right to have game under skills/social. Then I wrote the 5 things I spend most of my time doing, facebook, tv, clubbing, swing dancing, and working. If you aren't spending most of your time working on the areas that are most important, then by definition you aren't being effective. Every day I choose to do activities/habits that help me in my chosen areas. Be it habits like Roosh's one approach a day, or hobbies like swing dancing, hitting the gym, and going clubbing. Later on you can expand this idea by ridding yourself of everything that harms your development in your chosen areas, so improving your diet, cutting out tv, not wasting money on consumption, and drinking less.

You currently have an initial rush of inspiration, use it to push yourself into choosing to be productive.

Post: #43

(10-14-2013 11:26 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  You might be constipated. Seriously. Easiest thing to do is straighten your diet. You should be pooping like 2-3 times a day. Drink more water.

I'm ony pooping every 3-4 days, is that bad?

Post: #44

(10-21-2013 04:49 PM)Videl Wrote:  

(10-14-2013 11:26 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  You might be constipated. Seriously. Easiest thing to do is straighten your diet. You should be pooping like 2-3 times a day. Drink more water.

I'm ony pooping every 3-4 days, is that bad?

Come on. You're full of shit!

Post: #45

join the Marine Corp

Post: #46

Instead of focusing on not being lazy, it is better to focus on creating an environment that allows for an active life.

1) Make a list of goals
- Every year, on the day before my birthday, I write down my goals (4-5 max.) and why and how am I going to achieve them
- I also analyze my past year's goals, reasons for trying to achieve them, & reasons for achieving or not achieving them

2) Consistent action
- 1 day at a time. Doing this makes me feel that my life is long, and there is a lot I can do in it (this makes me happy)
- I make a To-do list as part of my daily journal. Every time I complete a task from it, I put a tick next to it (wanting these ticks makes me overcome my laziness because I want to show my journal to my sons one day, and so I want it to be perfect and complete)

3) Eliminate distractions
- This has been the key
- No TV, phone calls, texts, movies, games, alcohol, drugs, or porn etc. when I'm working. Not having these reduces my choices, so now I have nothing else to do other than completing my task head-on

4) Take breaks
- Wednesday is my day off. I don't even make a journal for Wednesday. The only thing I do on Wednesdays is to plan out the next 7 days of my life (food to eat, tasks, & make appointments etc.)
- I go to work merely to give attendance. I play video games, watch movies, meet people, and just relax

5) Get your nutrition in control
- I'm a fan of the keto diet. It really works for me. I feel more energetic, calm, and confident. It has also improved my physique
- I plan out my weekly meals on Wednesdays