(06-07-2014 02:48 PM)BigBoyPants Wrote:  18 Actually.

" that's what your mom said. "

Winged for my boy last night, drank till 5am she was cool, slapped her ass pulled her hair a few times playing pool, she nudged mr a few times, wasn't really touchy feely tho, she lost the bet was running down the street naked or twerk naked, obviously she pussed out.

I slapped her ass hard, i also missed and her back accidentally. She kept saying how I was going to giver her a back massage.(we couldnt do anything at the pad) IOI?

Turns out we vibed about clean eating, organic food blah blah.

Got her number, she followed me on instagram first, texted her tonight went like this:

Kaotic: Hey Brat don't think i forgot about that bet you lost this morning !
Girl: ?
Kaotic: Fine i wont do my part of it then. Hope your back hurts ?
Girl: Your so mean ? I have literally been in bed all day..I can't hang like I used to haha
Kaotic: I think a thankyou is on order for all the booze we got you all. You wouldn't guess where im at right now
Girl: Thank you!!!!! I owe you a drink or 2. (IOI?)
Girl: I'll guess x bar from last night again?
Kaotic: Perfect you can buy me those drinks later this week.
Kaotic: Actually I was at x organic grocery store (we talked about this)
Girl: Nice! My spot.
Kaotic: No no thats MY spot. You didnt answer me about owing me those drinks
Girl: Because I don't like to plan I go with the flow.

Rejection, excuse ?

How should i react and respond ? Ive got the night to sleep on this.

just my two cents but I think you gave her the opportunity to lead the conversation by saying "You didn't answer me about owing me those drinks." while I see the overall purpose of it, you should've lead the convo from the start.

Kaotic: I think a thankyou is on order for all the booze we got you all. You wouldn't guess where im at right now (I understand that you vibed with her well about organic foods but you should save that for when you meet up with her for drinks so that you have a story to tell.)
Girl: Thank you!!!!! I owe you a drink or 2.
Kaotic: Perfect you can buy me those drinks later this week. (this is ok, but the subsequent texts is where I think you fucked up. "cool, I'll let you known when I'm ready for them" would've been a good alternative)
Girl: (some form of agreement, e.g., ok, alright, cool, etc)
Kaotic: (a couple of days later) I'm ready for those drinks. let's meet at x bar later.

as for the actual question, just wait a few days and respond. her last text was obviously a shit test and you don't want to fall into her frame, so just say something along the lines of "my type of girl I could use that drink though, lets meet up x bar later."

(06-09-2014 09:36 AM)game_ethic Wrote:  just my two cents but I think you gave her the opportunity to lead the conversation by saying "You didn't answer me about owing me those drinks." while I see the overall purpose of it, you should've lead the convo from the start.

Kaotic: I think a thankyou is on order for all the booze we got you all. You wouldn't guess where im at right now (I understand that you vibed with her well about organic foods but you should save that for when you meet up with her for drinks so that you have a story to tell.)
Girl: Thank you!!!!! I owe you a drink or 2.
Kaotic: Perfect you can buy me those drinks later this week. (this is ok, but the subsequent texts is where I think you fucked up. "cool, I'll let you known when I'm ready for them" would've been a good alternative)
Girl: (some form of agreement, e.g., ok, alright, cool, etc)
Kaotic: (a couple of days later) I'm ready for those drinks. let's meet at x bar later.

as for the actual question, just wait a few days and respond. her last text was obviously a shit test and you don't want to fall into her frame, so just say something along the lines of "my type of girl I could use that drink though, lets meet up x bar later."

Very good points, i swear every little thing you say has to be strategically placed, i've been reviewing my text game alot lately and fine tuning it. Back to back texts was def a bad choice.

I'm not going to fall into her frame by replying this morning.

I've got dates lined up the next few days, I'll throw her a text weds and see whats up.

I wish I could've gotten a better feel for her, but my wing's ex completely cockblocked all 3 of us dudes, but I got some great lines I can use on this chick.

Thanks, much appreciated Ethic !

Banged new girl last Tuesday (first meet). Next day was her bday- sent text at night (Wednesday): 'happy bday miss X- we sure know how to celebrate'

She wrote back ~5 hrs later: 'Lol, thanks!'

Friday afternoon I sent a short callback humor message. No response. Waited until after the weekend, and hit her with a restart message Monday night: 'how was your weekend missy'

Got a text back ~8 hrs later: 'Great, I've been in DC. You?'

I usually don't have an issue with post-bang texting, but she doesn't seem very enthusiastic. Her texting pre-bang was similar syntactically and she would take anywhere from 1-3 hrs to respond, but I'm surprised by the same tone and even longer response times. Do I go for logistics now or ask when she'll be back in town/have her hit me up when she gets back?

(06-07-2014 02:48 PM)BigBoyPants Wrote:  18 Actually.

The more neutral version:

"Just curious: if you don't care what I think of you, then why write a five line paragraph telling me exactly how you want me to think of you? Especially when it's a pile of immature coping skill drivel that makes you sounds like a YA novel fucked a Pop Song."

What I'd Actually Think, But Never Say:

"Meh, that's just Therapy Girlspeak. Which means, best case scenario, every guy you've fucked in the past has pump-and-dumped you. Worst case scenario: your dad or uncle diddled you, in which case, I'll pass, because Freud would suggest you're seeking guys whose qualities remind you of them to recreate the abuse.

But If it's the former, well, that's all I was planning to do anyway, which, by your logic, should make you even more strong and empowered as you cope with the realisation that yet another man has failed to girlfriend you up after sex."

(06-07-2014 02:48 PM)BigBoyPants Wrote:  

Possibly better, because I guarantee you this is what she's doing:

"OK, here's what I Think Of You: You eventually copy+paste that block of text celebrating your 'strength' to every man who shows interest in you on here, because you have no sexual or emotional power over the men who constantly disappoint and frustrate you in the real world. So, to compensate: attract men on here, viciously reject them as being beneath you, get a dopamine reward from having power over them, which encourages you to repeat the process. Hey, if that's your thing, go for it. It just seems like a game of self-delusion for weak and bitter little girl to me, and a guaranteed self-fulfilling prophecy of never having a man 'you don't need'."

Obviously, if you go down this kind of route, put it in your own words, and break it up across multiple messages by asking leading questions. You can pretty much let girls dig their own hole.

What to say when a girls says she's DTF?

"Where you at?"

(06-07-2014 02:48 PM)BigBoyPants Wrote:  18 Actually.

Would LOVE to see how you responded to this bent bitch.

Look at the her:him text ratio. If she's typing more than he is, then she's obviously getting a rise out of the conversation. Good replies from the man as well, strong but inoffensive.

Chick and me had plans to meet up at her pad.

She ends up telling me she's gonna be in my town for her sis's graduation and "maybe when your off and maybe after dinner I can go to you."

I call her out and say "why didn't you tell me this before"

girl "cuz it's not a big deal?" "you beeter not bail! cuz i even got called into work and said i was sick so I didn't have to hear you say "retard""

12:45 I call her out and say " you just said maybe after dinner I can go to you. Sounds like you're the on whose going to bail" (she's bailed once before)

-no response-

7:22pm i hit her up and say "what's the deal tonight" -no response-
9:13 she hits me up and asks I'm in town
9:15: yeah i am i say
she then says
"you're mad at me"

i haven't responded , i almost want to reframe and ask her, "why would I be mad ?"

any thoughts or suggestions ?

^You're getting into text debates. Bad idea.

When she said she'd like to come see you tonight a proper response would be:

"cool" or "k" or possibly "sounds good"

Casual, calm, slightly aloof.

(06-11-2014 11:47 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^You're getting into text debates. Bad idea.

When she said she'd like to come see you tonight a proper response would be:

"cool" or "k" or possibly "sounds good"

Casual, calm, slightly aloof.

alright but now I'm stuck at her saying "You're mad at me"

I have no idea what to say to that....just play it cool and say "why would I be mad ?"

(06-11-2014 11:48 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-11-2014 11:47 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^You're getting into text debates. Bad idea.

When she said she'd like to come see you tonight a proper response would be:

"cool" or "k" or possibly "sounds good"

Casual, calm, slightly aloof.

alright but now I'm stuck at her saying "You're mad at me"

I have no idea what to say to that....just play it cool and say "why would I be mad ?"

"yawn"

Then tell me what she texts back

(06-11-2014 11:50 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

(06-11-2014 11:48 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-11-2014 11:47 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^You're getting into text debates. Bad idea.

When she said she'd like to come see you tonight a proper response would be:

"cool" or "k" or possibly "sounds good"

Casual, calm, slightly aloof.

alright but now I'm stuck at her saying "You're mad at me"

I have no idea what to say to that....just play it cool and say "why would I be mad ?"

"yawn"

Then tell me what she texts back

She texted right back, just a stupid:

EDIT: "My family is here for my sisters grad party & i tried leaving and then the fireball came out....and now I'm here"

Ignore.

She sounds like she's just trying to get attention.

Let those fireballs set in. Once she's drunk she'll probably say she wants to see you. If she does, text her your address and nothing else. If she shows up cool, if she doesn't eject.

(06-12-2014 12:03 AM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Ignore.

She sounds like she's just trying to get attention.

Let those fireballs set in. Once she's drunk she'll probably say she wants to see you. If she does, text her your address and nothing else. If she shows up cool, if she doesn't eject.

Thanks man, I appreciate the fast response play by play.

I swear your text game has to be tighter than ever to get these bitches to comply.

Short story: chilling with a milf(30 years old, I am 19) here and there, made out once with her.
Have been trying to go for a new date, but she has flaked on me 3 times now. She constantly apologizes very bad. Had a date with there in an hour and she texted me:

"Hi dear, you sure dont want to date with me again, and i can't help it, but I have to cancel it again. Mij sister came unexpected without asking me, so you cant come over"


2 years ago I would go crazy and call her names and block her if she even flaked at the first date, but luckily I know now after improving a lot, that isnt going to help me. What do you guys think I should text back? I feel like that I cant ask for another appointment over and over again, that will look like im a joke and needy.

Thanks.

(06-12-2014 04:25 AM)anonymoX Wrote:  Short story: chilling with a milf(30 years old, I am 19) here and there, made out once with her.
Have been trying to go for a new date, but she has flaked on me 3 times now. She constantly apologizes very bad. Had a date with there in an hour and she texted me:

"Hi dear, you sure dont want to date with me again, and i can't help it, but I have to cancel it again. Mij sister came unexpected without asking me, so you cant come over"


2 years ago I would go crazy and call her names and block her if she even flaked at the first date, but luckily I know now after improving a lot, that isnt going to help me. What do you guys think I should text back? I feel like that I cant ask for another appointment over and over again, that will look like im a joke and needy.

Thanks.

Let it go. She needs to come back to you. Reply uninterested and in a short manner.

If you're cool enough and she wants you she will come back (being 19 and her 30 I kinda doubt it). You can't generate the attraction back through texting, that has to be done in person. Texts can only make her want you more for what you have done in person and keep her wondering.

Good luck

Hi wroclove,

First of all, thanks for your comment. I already had replied to her before reading the comment of yours.

What i basically said, was: "actually, it's also better for me because I just woke up 15 minutes ago(which i didnt, but i lied) and have to go now. Maybe we'll meet up another time".

Rightafter my reply she basically kept texting and I adjusted wisely by switching to another subject. Then I said that I had to go and that I would speak her another time and finished it off with a funny sentence which she liked.

I'm going to text her back in 7 days, so it will look like i'm not needy.

Thanks.

Maybe it's just me, but the kind of game I like is very intense in person and then radio silence. Just text to actually meet. It's less work and it works for me

Hope you score bro, but careful with those in their 30s.

blonde chick from Tinder, maybe a mid to high 7:

Me: What's up girl
Her: Heyyy
Me: Were gonna skip the whole tinder pickup line routine k. how are you
Her: I'm great thank you for asking!
Me: I'm awesome thanks. So are we bf and gf now or what
Her: Bahaha u r awesome. I literally slept all day today. I got up around 8
Me: You bum
Her: Lol i feel so good though. bum bum. Wtf r u doing when r we meeting up you kook.
Me: Sooner the better. Tomorrow night
Her: R u gonna murder me
Me: Na the judge said if i do that again i go back to jail for a loooong time
Her: Bahahahaha


I'm housesitting my parents place in the burbs (Chi) all weekend and want to get her to come out and kick it with me.

What should i text next.

Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

Be playful, she is 50/50 on this.

I went with this a few times and can either work 100% or fail 100%. ; "find out how old I am when you can't walk straight"

She more than likely has a shitload of suitors apart from yourself Stalin so whats to lose?