Post: #1

I currently live in a hostel/co-operative house where about a hundred people live in their separate rooms, and eat dinner together

There are tons of girls around, one of whom I was sleeping with for some months. The point is, since we broke up (crazy LSE chick), I haven't been able to get proper rapport going with a lot of the other chicks (even though a lot of them are cute, single, and alone on Friday nights..you get the point.)

Since I don't want to lose this resource of plentiful pussy, could some of you guys suggest some ideas to get my social status up to scratch, and help me approach girls w/o activating their ASD? (I'm assuming my ex won't interfere)

Some of my own thoughts in this direction, which I've been trying to implement are:
- Mix socially within the house, but don't get your life tied down in it.
- Turn down invitations to some activities once in a while
- Try to initiate close, emotional, one-on-one rapport with some girls while remaining sexual to avoid being LJBFed
- (Your suggestions here)

Thanks,

Drachenfels

Post: #2

Hummm. You are giving your ex way too much power over you mentally, and it shows.

Tell ya what, PM the address if said hostel with abundant pussy supply and I'll come over and build your social proof.


Mixx

Post: #3

@MiXX : You are probably right. I think my deficiencies are mainly in Inner Game (which probably caused my breakup) and I am working on that as well.

However, I think it might be good to hit on girls while I'm working on it and try to bolster it up if possible. I'm pretty sure my personality is fairly engaging as I get girls hooked and talking in a flirtatious manner in a short amount of time. Transitioning this to f-closes is not happening that easily though, mainly because of my unwillingness to escalate fast in an environment where I'm known to have recently broken up.

If you have any concrete suggestions at all relevant to gaming in this social setting, put them out there. I could use 'em

Post: #4

I'm curious where/what is this co-op with a hundred people? How does it work?

Post: #5

(10-15-2010 08:06 PM)gringoed Wrote:  I'm curious where/what is this co-op with a hundred people? How does it work?

They have them all over. Berkeley and UCLA have pretty big ones, as well as other schools across the country.

Check this out: http://www.nasco.coop/

It would be great if they had them for young adults who want to work and live with other young adults, which would be really nice when moving to a new city because you would build a social network pretty damn fast.

Anyway, as for gaming in a place like this, it's obviously not too difficult meeting girls at a place like this, the only question is how you're going to maneuver your way around all the girls.

What's the dynamic like at your dorm? Is it cliquey? What kind of events? Give a little more info about the place if you can.

Post: #6

It is a bit like a dorm, but the atmosphere is more free, friendly and open. Not very cliquey. Parties sometimes, but pretty tame affairs where not a lot of lays happen. The best chances are by developing an emotional "connection" with a girl, getting to her room, and going for the lay.

There are several single girls, the problem being that if I choose one and try to go for the f-close, the others might know about it almost immediately, thus reducing my reputation. Similarly, no chance of dating multiple girls within the same place.

The reason I ask is that I might learn from other people on here who have had similar experiences, since it seems a shame to go out and hit up bars when there are a number of single girls right within your reach. I guess selectivity is a good thing, as is (probably) starting from the top down..(i.e. game the hottest available chick, and if rejected, go downwards.)

Post: #7

Is it a college dorm? Or a true hostel with international travelers? Do they have a web site?

Post: #8

Girls don't mind sleeping with a guy who they think sleeps around a lot. They just typically don't like being seen as "one of those girls" who sleeps with a guy who sleeps around a lot (in a dorm like setting). So if they know you sleep around a lot, it's not necessarily a bad thing, girls in college particularly have a thing for that (it's like a touch of status). What you have to do is maneuver your way around being friendly in public with the girl, and then step up the game in private. You can flirt verbally, or whatever, just keep the physical game for other times.

Think of it like a small village where everyone wants to keep up appearances.

The best way I can describe it right now is, be friendly flirty in public (with subtle escalation) and leave the real escalation for later. You just gotta get the girl to your room (to watch something on your laptop for instance). Beyond that, the girl knows what's up.