(03-17-2015 10:16 PM)w00t Wrote: first of all its kinda strange that you defend this line of work so much. after all you said that you were barely working for years and even though you were making 100+ dollars an hour you were repeatedly going broke, since you couldnt even get yourself to do any consistent marketing and client work.
AND youve quit freelancing completely since you got too burned out on it and would rather take a huge cut to your paycheck instead of continuing it.
so it seems were kinda on the same page no? or am I missing something here?
Woot, feel free to point out to me where I was "defending" this industry because I think my post made a specific effort not to do that. If that's what you read, I'm afraid you're the one misreading.
I spoke of it positively in maybe one short paragraph. And what I said was true. Ask any of those guys who are supposedly so miserable about what they're doing to go back home and get a dayjob and what do you think their answer will be?
You are currently in Thailand enjoying yourself on your time off. Are you ready to trade that and go home to get a job yet? If I'm not mistaken, I believe you even have a thread around here somewhere offering a bit of advice on making it happen, so having issues with the industry doesn't appear to disqualify someone from offering advice.
I haven't stopped yet. I still do it enough to get by. And I'm grateful that I have the ability to do so - I may gripe but I also constantly find myself returning to the realization of how cool it is that I can live like this. I can still hop on Elance and churn up a grand of work when I need it.
Most importantly, I also haven't given up on my own projects. My main issue with what you said is that you're ragging on working for others while also saying you don't want to work for yourself. That line of thinking doesn't get anyone anywhere.
Quote:im not waiting for a bag of money to fall from the sky. and I really dont think a lecture on the merits of hard work or entitlement is called for here. lets just assume Im familiar with hard work myself. I certainly didnt just wake up one worning with a location independent income that allows me to travel indefinitely... what I do have a problem with is channeling my energy into something I couldnt care less about and that doesnt move me forward at all. except from saving up money freelancing is like treading water, youre getting nowhere and building up zero assets.
again its kinda strange that you go on about hard work and commitment when youve been hardly working the last years by your own admission. maybe a bit of projecting going on here?
Buddy, reread what I quoted from your post. You act as if I jumped in and made those assumptions out of nowhere. If you can't see how you gave that impression, I'm afraid this conversation is going to go in circles.
The only reason you got the "lecture" was because you said this:
Quote:i dont care about being creative or doing something meaningful. doing your own projects is cool but even that is something I could do without. I just wanna have enough money to retire. having to work for a living is so stupid
Try starting a thread with that sentiment instead of inserting it here and I guarantee you I won't be the only one to feel it's an unproductive conversation. Go state that in the copywriting thread. Try going into a thread about working out and making a post about how lifting to get fit sucks and you could do without it.
I don't think anyone likes it when someone pops in with such a defeatist post in a thread about making shit happen. It just isn't productive and it drags the conversation down.
It is a bit frustrating when someone pops in the convo just to rag on this type of work and try to discourage everyone from doing it - or if it's not that than it's Elance as a source of work. This isn't the first time you've made such a post. If you want to gripe, cool, but at least offer alternatives.
A lot of the guys trying for this hate where they're at and what they're doing - working a dead end job is bad enough, working a dead end job with people you don't like telling you what to do and stuck in a particular location is even worse for someone who just wants to see the world.
I've been doing this for about 7 years, much longer than I wanted to or would have had I been more productive. That isn't to say you can't make a career out of it - most people won't want to, but it doesn't take much looking around online to find people who have. Hell, you've known me long enough and gotten a close enough look at enough of my projects to see that my problem is one of productivity, not a problem with what I do for a living specifically.
Anyhow, I still continue to give people advice here and in the real world on doing it because for many it's still a very nice thing to have. People constantly tell me how just knowing what was possible has changed their lives because for most this reality doesn't even exist.
I always recommend people work on something else too, I've said it throughout this thread. But when you need something like this, it doesn't help to have guys ragging on it all the time and saying what a grind it is.
We all understand it is a grind. No one is in this thread looking for a get-rich-quick scheme or their eyes wouldn't be looking in this corner of the internet to begin with.
Quote:but back to what I was trying so say... i think youre missing a key distinction here.
yes i think HAVING to work for a living is stupid. and yes most of the people on this planet have to work for a living but so what? most of the people are just one paycheck away from being broke, stuck in unhealthy relationships and so on. average is not something we should strive for.
I don't think I'm missing the distinction. I didn't say it was a good idea to shoot for average - in fact I said:
Quote:I'm not saying to not pursue your dreams - I actually would encourage the opposite.
What I was saying is that even people who love what they do and are passionate about it have to slog through the grind. They had to in order to get where they are - there were no guarantees when they began working on their own projects.
My point is that complaining about having to work for a living and saying you don't want to work on your own projects, and yet not offering any other ideas of another way, especially in a thread where people are trying to get their grind on, comes across as entitled and defeated. At the very least, it isn't very helpful.
We don't disagree even one bit about finding your passion being an ideal path. For me that passion is writing. Not freelancing but writing books.
I'm currently living in Cambodia on a fraction of what I could be making either back home or working for others so I can take the long-shot at becoming a full-time, well-paid published author. I'd say that's the epitome of someone who has fully taken that idea to heart.
I've sacrificed a lot to continue chasing that dream. Even if I've been very slow about getting shit done, I've clearly got a vision I am pursuing.
So again, we are not on completely different pages. What I take issue with is you saying that and then griping about how none of your own passions make the cut and working for a living sucks. Come on, Man, that's nothing but negativity.
The real question is are you letting that belief/knowledge propel you to find or do something? Or are you just using it as a reason to stand still?
Quote:Quote:btw one more thing... about work giving you a purpose in life. today I spend three hours writing about furniture. ya I can totally see how it would throw me into deep depression if I couldnt rely on this meaningful activity anymore 
That is your choice. Not that I love the work, but I can't remember the last time I wrote drivel about furniture.
One forum member on here made it a policy to only work on stuff that interested him and he's done better than any other guy I've spoken too since this thread started.
Working on something you truly hate will most certainly not make you happy. Giving up on any idea of even having your own projects in life, on the other hand, will make you unhappy in the long term, even if you could suddenly retire. Whatever you feel about that idea, the science is there.
In any case, for most of us, working as a freelancer will be a beginning and nothing else, and it can lead a lot of directions. I'm not here to argue it's what everyone should do. I never have. And as you pointed out, I mentioned the negatives myself.
But acknowledging negatives is a lot different than repeatedly complaining about this line of work and then saying you don't want to work at all but want to be able to retire now. I'm not entirely sure why you can't see how what you wrote would inspire the type of reaction you received. You've stressed now that you meant retire so you could find your passion. Great. It wasn't clear in your other post.
I think if you struggle to find a path in life now, though, you'll probably struggle to find one even if you have the money. And would just let time slip by and become stagnant and unhappy as a result. That's just how humans are - you can't wait for a perfect time where you're all set up to find your passion.
Instead of getting defensive and feeling like you've been attacked, I encourage you to consider that you could have posed your idea a bit differently and been better received.