Post: #26

(06-24-2013 03:22 PM)soup Wrote:  

(06-24-2013 02:05 PM)scorpion Wrote:  When are guys going to realize that simply by sitting there and wondering about how best to respond to a girl's text, they've already lost?

This applies especially to a girl you've already fucked, and extra especially to one you're dating.

Put simply: if you're even remotely concerned about the text games you're playing with a girl, your frame with her is weak. You should be able to confidently text her whatever the fuck you want. If you can't do that it means she has hand in the relationship.

Make her react to YOU, not vice versa.

Yes there is too much game talk here that focuses on what to do in a corrupted situation. Guys should be focusing more on preventative game, and making themselves cooler so these newbie problems don't come up.

You have set down the rules the moment she see's you. It's not even a verbal thing. The first time she lays eyes on you, she's got realize that you aren't a guy to be trifled with.

I know i should of just not text or seen her. What you recommend in this situation. As she has said before twice i did not react to it so she obviously is not going to associate it with "bitch"

So kinda hard to go on the radio silence

Post: #27

The advice is to have more girls in your life.

Post: #28

(06-24-2013 03:56 PM)soup Wrote:  The advice is to have more girls in your life.

So you would just dump the girl if she said that to you. Even though she pays for everything you hardly ever text her yet she does everything you ask?

Sounds to me like you need to lighten up if that's the case when she is clearly joking yet a shit test indirectly. You cant be spinning many girls if you get rid of a girl just because of a shit test.

Post: #29

(06-24-2013 12:41 PM)Player88 Wrote:  Obviously joking around. Best way to handle if text a question and has bitch attached

Eg "When can i see you this week bitch?"

Guys?

1. at some point, you let this chick get way too comfortable and didn't put her in check
2. is the situation salvegable? Can you put the fear/respect of God back in the bitch?

^that's the question your asking.

There's at least 2 schools of thought on this.

The pimp side is basically, "if a bitch even thinks of fixing her lips to say some bullshit like that, you've already lost". Which means, you have to basically take her back to the woodshed - basically you drop her, or you come at her with some mind blowing soul crushing shit.

And then there's the David Deida side of things, which is sort of inline with the pimp mindset but softer - I'm testing you to see if I can get rise out of you.

Clearly she got a rise out of you cause you're posting about it.
She got to you by calling you a name.

There are lingering questions about whether she's doing this consciously and maliciously, or unconsciously and maliciously.

Bitches love to put a dude in a can't win situation. It's what they live for, it's how they test your G.

If you ignore it, she thinks she can say anything she wants to you.

If you get all aggravated, she knows she can fuck with you, and she loses respect for you.

Now in theory you could scan your memory banks for some soul crushing shit like, "you wasn't saying all that when you was @ the abortion doctor killing your unborn" - but chances are you don't have that kinda dirt on her.

You could just slowly withdraw your attention from her and put it on the next chick in the rotation. Standard red pill advice, cause the thing that gives a chick oxygen to breath is your attention. And you're supposed to be above these bitches, not mixing it up with them on texts. Chicks bringing you down to their level is unbecoming of a player.

Ahh, but the schemer in you wants to put the slow screws in the chick. Let her think she got away with something, and then SURPRISE BITCH, you hit her from left field with something.

In essence you have no good options because at some point she got it in her that she work the pants in the relationship. The fact that she has monetary power over you as well as pussy power over you, gives you a weak objective position. But since she hasn't dropped you and moved on, you've got something that she wants.

You've got to figure out what it is you provide her, and that's what you use to put her back in her place.

What is it about the attention you give her that she can't get from the next dude?

I don't know if we can solve this problem w/o more data.

WIA

Post: #30

(06-24-2013 11:50 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(06-24-2013 12:41 PM)Player88 Wrote:  Obviously joking around. Best way to handle if text a question and has bitch attached

Eg "When can i see you this week bitch?"

Guys?

1. at some point, you let this chick get way too comfortable and didn't put her in check
2. is the situation salvegable? Can you put the fear/respect of God back in the bitch?

^that's the question your asking.

There's at least 2 schools of thought on this.

The pimp side is basically, "if a bitch even thinks of fixing her lips to say some bullshit like that, you've already lost". Which means, you have to basically take her back to the woodshed - basically you drop her, or you come at her with some mind blowing soul crushing shit.

And then there's the David Deida side of things, which is sort of inline with the pimp mindset but softer - I'm testing you to see if I can get rise out of you.

Clearly she got a rise out of you cause you're posting about it.
She got to you by calling you a name.

There are lingering questions about whether she's doing this consciously and maliciously, or unconsciously and maliciously.

Bitches love to put a dude in a can't win situation. It's what they live for, it's how they test your G.

If you ignore it, she thinks she can say anything she wants to you.

If you get all aggravated, she knows she can fuck with you, and she loses respect for you.

Now in theory you could scan your memory banks for some soul crushing shit like, "you wasn't saying all that when you was @ the abortion doctor killing your unborn" - but chances are you don't have that kinda dirt on her.

You could just slowly withdraw your attention from her and put it on the next chick in the rotation. Standard red pill advice, cause the thing that gives a chick oxygen to breath is your attention. And you're supposed to be above these bitches, not mixing it up with them on texts. Chicks bringing you down to their level is unbecoming of a player.

Ahh, but the schemer in you wants to put the slow screws in the chick. Let her think she got away with something, and then SURPRISE BITCH, you hit her from left field with something.

In essence you have no good options because at some point she got it in her that she work the pants in the relationship. The fact that she has monetary power over you as well as pussy power over you, gives you a weak objective position. But since she hasn't dropped you and moved on, you've got something that she wants.

You've got to figure out what it is you provide her, and that's what you use to put her back in her place.

What is it about the attention you give her that she can't get from the next dude?

I don't know if we can solve this problem w/o more data.

WIA

monetary power is incorrect. Its more i said "Your paying" or she offered its called getting her invested in me. I got my own money.

I provide cock/attention

Post: #31

(06-24-2013 04:14 PM)Player88 Wrote:  

(06-24-2013 03:56 PM)soup Wrote:  The advice is to have more girls in your life.

So you would just dump the girl if she said that to you. Even though she pays for everything you hardly ever text her yet she does everything you ask?

Sounds to me like you need to lighten up if that's the case when she is clearly joking yet a shit test indirectly. You cant be spinning many girls if you get rid of a girl just because of a shit test.

You don't have to dump her, but I'd bet that if you had a lot of girls in your life, you'd be less likely to start a thread on what to do if some girl in the states called you a bitch in that way.

Post: #32

It might not be the best way, but my instinct would be that if you're not going to respond to it like I mentioned (wrong number or gay), would be to ignore it until you see her next. Then you fuck her and totally dominate her. Get her all worked up, but before you let her come, you take her from behind, get her either bent over the bed or laying face down on the bed with your dick buried inside her, your body completely pinning her to the bed and a superman hold on her hair. Then you tell her she owes you an apology. You tell her that you don't mind that she jokes around with you but you will not tolerate her calling you a bitch/disrespecting you, ever. If she doesn't apologize and say she won't ever do it again, then you get up, say "you fucked up, we're done" then get dressed and immediately leave.

But she won't fail to apologize. She wants to submit to you.

Post: #33

Just play it cool and fuck the shit out of her like this next time while asking her "how does this feel bitch"

Post: #34

I'm a dog not a bitch.

Post: #35

(06-24-2013 12:41 PM)Player88 Wrote:  Obviously joking around. Best way to handle if text a question and has bitch attached

Eg "When can i see you this week bitch?"

Guys?

"I think you have the wrong number. Call again when you are feeling better"

Post: #36

"Bitch? You must've mistaken me for some chump who gives 2 shits about what you say. You're buying the drinks next time we meet. Bitch... Please. Try harder. Fail."

Post: #37

(06-24-2013 12:41 PM)Player88 Wrote:  Eg "When can i see you this week bitch?"

Don't over-think this:

"Thursday nite. We'll see who's the "bitch" then."

Pound it out. End of story.

Post: #38

Honestly, lots of these are terrible advice. This is probably a 20-24 yr old thinking its cute to drop slang. Forget about it.

If she said it to your face, I would re-asses by non-verbal cues. This texting shit lacks a lot of info.

As stated- I would say bring a bottle of wine/beers, see you on xxxxx.

Post: #39

(06-26-2013 01:13 PM)DVY Wrote:  Honestly, lots of these are terrible advice. This is probably a 20-24 yr old thinking its cute to drop slang. Forget about it.

If she said it to your face, I would re-asses by non-verbal cues. This texting shit lacks a lot of info.

As stated- I would say bring a bottle of wine/beers, see you on xxxxx.

Sorry, Brother, but COMPLETELY disagree.

Put her in her place quickly. Be done with this bullshit.

No woman's going to refer to me as "bitch." Not gonna fuckin' happen. If you're a man and you do that shit--we're gonna have a fucking problem. Why do I let a girl get an "escape" card. She can call me "bitch" but I wouldn't tolerate it from another man??? Not gonna happen.

Call me a bitch to my face and see what happens, fool.

Call me a bitch by text--fucking own that shit--jump on it. Correct it right away. You are setting yourself up for failure if you don't don't.

Just my $0.02

Post: #40

If she's calling you a bitch, even jokingly get out of that situation. Find another bitch! Don't try to act like a magician and word play your way back into a position of respect, it's a bullshit mentality. Find a chick that does not even think of doing something so stupid.

And look for girls that are comfortable with you calling THEM bitch, slut. There are girls that LOVE that shit.

Post: #41

Wow. A lot of really sensitive guys here, eh? LOL

Vorkuta had it. Until Tuthmosis took it. Didn't see anything else that made any sense besides these two. Choose one and go with it.

Post: #42

(06-27-2013 09:15 AM)ImmoralPsychology Wrote:  Wow. A lot of really sensitive guys here, eh? LOL

Vorkuta had it. Until Tuthmosis took it. Didn't see anything else that made any sense besides these two. Choose one and go with it.

Negative, Bro. It's not about being "sensitive." Or overly-sensitive, is what you are probably implying. I, politely, disagree with all of the above advice and I'll explain why:

It's the Broken Windows Theory of relationships. Think about it. You live in a house that someone breaks a window. You don't replace it. Soon, some passerby thinks it's cool to break another window. So, they do. Again, you do nothing. The next prick that walks by launches a rock through another window, like it's cool. Pretty soon your house is shit.

See the correlation? If someone you are in a relationship with, is casually given a free pass to disrespect you, it's gonna set a precedent and build a pattern. If this is some broad you could give two shits about, so be it. Yeah, you're right. "Whatever," would be a great reply. But, the OP said it's his GF. Presumably, someone he is currently in a relationship with, that may have the possibility of progression into many years of companionship or, God-forbid, marriage... See the problem, now?

Don't ever let your girlfriend disrespect you. You need to own that shit and correct it swiftly and without hesitation or it will grow and grow over the course of many years.

Besides that, she'll love you more in the end when you drop a nuclear negative on her shit tests. All girls, deep down, want a man who is not some pushover chump who's going to be disrespected by some female.

Post: #43

A good hard spanking, otk, followed by a good hard fuck.

Post: #44

(06-28-2013 11:29 AM)Dulceácido Wrote:  

(06-27-2013 09:15 AM)ImmoralPsychology Wrote:  Wow. A lot of really sensitive guys here, eh? LOL

Vorkuta had it. Until Tuthmosis took it. Didn't see anything else that made any sense besides these two. Choose one and go with it.

Negative, Bro. It's not about being "sensitive." Or overly-sensitive, is what you are probably implying. I, politely, disagree with all of the above advice and I'll explain why:

It's the Broken Windows Theory of relationships. Think about it. You live in a house that someone breaks a window. You don't replace it. Soon, some passerby thinks it's cool to break another window. So, they do. Again, you do nothing. The next prick that walks by launches a rock through another window, like it's cool. Pretty soon your house is shit.

See the correlation? If someone you are in a relationship with, is casually given a free pass to disrespect you, it's gonna set a precedent and build a pattern. If this is some broad you could give two shits about, so be it. Yeah, you're right. "Whatever," would be a great reply. But, the OP said it's his GF. Presumably, someone he is currently in a relationship with, that may have the possibility of progression into many years of companionship or, God-forbid, marriage... See the problem, now?

Don't ever let your girlfriend disrespect you. You need to own that shit and correct it swiftly and without hesitation or it will grow and grow over the course of many years.

Besides that, she'll love you more in the end when you drop a nuclear negative on her shit tests. All girls, deep down, want a man who is not some pushover chump who's going to be disrespected by some female.

This is what I meant by sensitive. The idea that a girl who makes what she thought was a joke is some big insult and a huge disrespect that requires an atomic response. It seems to me like some guys are terrified of being perceived as beta for even one second. Life isn't like that, IME.

Truth is, being called a bitch isn't as much about disrespect (when she's clearly joking AND it's her first offense) as it is about the guy feeling hurt and angry because he feels it's an insult to his masculinity. If this is where his response is coming from, it doesn't matter what he says, it's going to bleed through and she'll pick up on it.

I liked Tuth's reply because it was also light and there was more to it. What I had in mind, which I should have written was, later when you meet her, you can at some point get into a play fight situation and then when you're holding her down and tickling her to the point of peeing her pants or spank her ass or maybe pinching her thighs where it's a bit painful (not too much - you're trying to show her who's boss, not make her cry) and then say, "who's the bitch now, huh?" When you make it clear that you dominate her and that yes, she will feel some pain for insulting you, she'll stop. (Again, I emphasize, it's not to the point of abuse but to the point where the 'pain' is uncomfortable enough to teach her not to insult you.)

It's hard to describe in words. I could show you but I can't describe it well if you don't know what I'm talking about already, it's probably best not to try it. LOL

Post: #45

@Houston, that damn gif has me laughing every time I see it./ @OP- Some good advice has been posted but in my opinion Tuthmosis dropped a gem here. Analyze his resonse "Thursday nite. We'll see who's the "bitch" then. " It's short and simple but extremely effective. From a women's perspective she can presume he didn't even waste 2 seconds of thought and effort typing this due to grammatical error of "night". This response is also direct & full of authority while leaving the girl wondering what exactly will happen on Thursday which only works to your favor. This is how texts should always be executed with women.

Post: #46

Start calling her a cunt in response.

Jokingly, of course.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #47

She's probably one of those chicks with a little mean streak of BDSM in her. Experiment with domination/chokeholds type shit and see how she responds.
If she's not teasing you because of some particular incident or having a small dick or something (?) then this is her way to tell you that she gets off on a little abuse.

Post: #48

Look, its not about the word "bitch." Its about the action. The action is her texting you asking when she's going to see you again. The action is her investing in you. The "bitch" part was her way of making herself feel comfortable with the fact that she's investing in you and the fact you exercise some control over her. Respond as if she didn't say bitch. You aren't giving anything up by ignoring it. However, if getting playfully called a bitch does bother you, don't reward her behavior with any type of reaction. Ignore the message until she texts again in a way that isn't obnoxious. If she doesn't text you again, then who cares, fuck some other girls.

Post: #49

Amplify until she gets emotional/offended..

"Nothing much, trash/cunt"