(01-19-2015 08:59 PM)The_CEO Wrote:  For anyone thinking of giving up.. def. experiment with photos.
I was about to quit for good but tried a new photo based on stuff I read in this thread and it turned it around for me
I'm not killing it or anything but getting some nice matches now.

And don't sweat b.s. like height. Put it out of your mind. Have faith that statistics are in your favor and eventually someone you like will like your look.

I'm considering doing the same. What did you change them to?

I have a good body but not really any good pictures of it. Mirror selfies are tacky IMO but short of waiting until the summer and getting a pic at the beach I'm out of ideas.

How would you guys handle a girl from tender asking to see a headshot? My pics on FB (and hence Tinder) are mostly of me doing things, either kayaking, climbing, hiking, playing guitar or out with friends... basically not super up close.

I just told her that I don't do selfies and she could feel free to pull up my fb profile (gave her my last name, profile is open).

I'm a reasonably handsome 29 yo guy, and not ashamed of my looks or anything. I just wasn't cool sending a picture of myself to a girl I haven't even met yet. Do you guys think I handeld this ok?

Thanks,

OSL

(01-19-2015 10:11 PM)ordinaryleastsquared Wrote:  How would you guys handle a girl from tender asking to see a headshot? My pics on FB (and hence Tinder) are mostly of me doing things, either kayaking, climbing, hiking, playing guitar or out with friends... basically not super up close.

I just told her that I don't do selfies and she could feel free to pull up my fb profile (gave her my last name, profile is open).

I'm a reasonably handsome 29 yo guy, and not ashamed of my looks or anything. I just wasn't cool sending a picture of myself to a girl I haven't even met yet. Do you guys think I handeld this ok?

Thanks,

OSL

Why not just switch out your face pic for one of your other pics? Would you immediately swipe right on a girl where her face isn't visible and it's unclear which one is her?

(01-19-2015 09:46 PM)tallandblonde Wrote:  

(01-19-2015 08:59 PM)The_CEO Wrote:  For anyone thinking of giving up.. def. experiment with photos.
I was about to quit for good but tried a new photo based on stuff I read in this thread and it turned it around for me
I'm not killing it or anything but getting some nice matches now.

And don't sweat b.s. like height. Put it out of your mind. Have faith that statistics are in your favor and eventually someone you like will like your look.

I'm considering doing the same. What did you change them to?

I have a good body but not really any good pictures of it. Mirror selfies are tacky IMO but short of waiting until the summer and getting a pic at the beach I'm out of ideas.

Up above in the thread, someone describe the "right" kind of photo and it made sense to me (douchebaggey + alpha). Just after that, I came across one that fit the bill.
I also think less is more unless you have a lot of good photos in interesting scenery, on vacation, showing you in various settings or doing something cool (surfing or whatever). For me I just have a few including a close up of face.
When I first signed up I got basically zero matches and hated the app.
Now with new photos I don't get as many as I thought I'd get but I swipe really selectively and still manage to get a few a week (not including an inevitable bot).
Like I said, my results aren't off the charts or anything, and two girls I recently matched with unmatched before I could message them so that is not good...
But compared to when I first started, it seems worth sticking with for a while.

(01-19-2015 10:11 PM)ordinaryleastsquared Wrote:  How would you guys handle a girl from tender asking to see a headshot? My pics on FB (and hence Tinder) are mostly of me doing things, either kayaking, climbing, hiking, playing guitar or out with friends... basically not super up close.

I just told her that I don't do selfies and she could feel free to pull up my fb profile (gave her my last name, profile is open).

I'm a reasonably handsome 29 yo guy, and not ashamed of my looks or anything. I just wasn't cool sending a picture of myself to a girl I haven't even met yet. Do you guys think I handeld this ok?

Thanks,

OSL

Can't you crop one of those wider shots into a close up and load it onto Tinder?

Those are what you'd call ugly girls? Fuck those are 6s in my area.

Here's what I started using for my bio:

Quote:The outdoors. Camping, getting dirty. 6" 2"
Bunch of emojis
Snapchat: address

(01-19-2015 09:46 PM)tallandblonde Wrote:  

(01-19-2015 08:59 PM)The_CEO Wrote:  For anyone thinking of giving up.. def. experiment with photos.
I was about to quit for good but tried a new photo based on stuff I read in this thread and it turned it around for me
I'm not killing it or anything but getting some nice matches now.

And don't sweat b.s. like height. Put it out of your mind. Have faith that statistics are in your favor and eventually someone you like will like your look.

I'm considering doing the same. What did you change them to?

I have a good body but not really any good pictures of it. Mirror selfies are tacky IMO but short of waiting until the summer and getting a pic at the beach I'm out of ideas.

I'm considering doing the same. What did you change them to?

I have a good body but not really any good pictures of it. Mirror selfies are tacky IMO but short of waiting until the summer and getting a pic at the beach I'm out of ideas.
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Scroll up for some great comments from some other guys on body pics.

The two best approaches seem to be:
1) you are proud of the work you put in, not the result
2) you are addicted to the high you get from the gym, not for the looks
3) your body is art (for this one, crop the eyes out)

I understand where you're coming from but it's 2015 and mirror selfies are officially no longer tacky. Sorry I don't make the rules hahaha.

If you're out of ideas then search instagram and steal some ideas. There must be tens of thousands of guys who are posting body pics with style, you can go and do likewise. Here is a hashtag to get you started http://websta.me/tag/gymjunkie

(01-19-2015 10:40 PM)The_CEO Wrote:  

(01-19-2015 10:11 PM)ordinaryleastsquared Wrote:  How would you guys handle a girl from tender asking to see a headshot? My pics on FB (and hence Tinder) are mostly of me doing things, either kayaking, climbing, hiking, playing guitar or out with friends... basically not super up close.

I just told her that I don't do selfies and she could feel free to pull up my fb profile (gave her my last name, profile is open).

I'm a reasonably handsome 29 yo guy, and not ashamed of my looks or anything. I just wasn't cool sending a picture of myself to a girl I haven't even met yet. Do you guys think I handeld this ok?

Thanks,

OSL

Can't you crop one of those wider shots into a close up and load it onto Tinder?

You probably did fine but from this seat it looks like maybe you could have done better. She could be thinking "why does this guy take himself so seriously?" which could be good or bad.

When a girl asks for more photos it usually means one of two things 1) she is hooked but doesn't think your profile is real, 2) she is DTF but and doesn't want to waste her time rejecting you.

Personally, I usually don't send photos when girls ask because it feels like work and i am lazy sometimes, but sometimes I do. My attitude is if I am willing to show her my dick I am willing to show her my face. And honestly plenty of girls have seen my dick so who the fuck cares?

I just unmatched from a 6' blonde.
Karma's a bitch ladies...

Was going well for a while... I think asking for her number scared the cat. This was two days ago. Any ideas on how to reintiate?

(01-20-2015 02:03 AM)Slacker101 Wrote:  Was going well for a while... I think asking for her number scared the cat. This was two days ago. Any ideas on how to reintiate?

That looks like a conversation I'd have with one of my friends. There's nothing playful or flirty about it, and it's a bit analytical. You're qualifying yourself, too.

Find out something she's good at that she could show you is better if you're going to have this kind of talk.

Stun, I can do the youngblood style of messaging easily and have had some success with it. Other than that I think I'm terrible at flirting through text. Not the best in person either honestly. It won't let me quote your post from mobile strangely.

(01-20-2015 01:32 PM)Slacker101 Wrote:  Stun, I can do the youngblood style of messaging easily and have had some success with it. Other than that I think I'm terrible at flirting through text. Not the best in person either honestly. It won't let me quote your post from mobile strangely.

Well think of flirting as being playful, and mixing interest with disinterest.

You are just having a regular conversation and it's not fun.

I would say try to find out something she is good at, instead of talking about your cherry stem, if you want to take that approach to the chat. Then have her teach you whatever that is.

Try to think of examples of mixing interest with disinterest, and using them on girls as practice. Ex. to the pizza delivery girl: You're pretty cute - for a delivery girl.

AND IRON RULE: Interest must be subtle, disinterest must be PLAYFUL.

(01-19-2015 04:27 AM)Slacker101 Wrote:  You'll have to reenable PMing mate. You seem to have it disabled.

Sorry for that. Should be good now if you still want to send.

As for me. It's become clear now that it is in fact my location and not the app itself. So whoever called me living in the burbs as the reason I get zero...literally zero...matches, you win.

I've spent the past 48 hours in my area: 0 matches

Went to the city tonight for an hour. Late night too. 6 matches in 1 hour.

It's clear. Suburbs, bad. City, good.

Bittersweet to know that I can only get matches when I'm in the city. For that I might as well save myself the trip and day game approach around my house.

Slacker try be more playful when you text.
E.g. she asks about the cherry stem is their a secret?
You: Well my greatgrandfather taught my grandfather and its been passed down.

And if you wanted to ad something sexual.
"You've got to have strong tongue muscles for this type of thing. There are some really good ways you can practice"
She might start thinking of you going down on her. But she doesnt know if you were also thinking it which creates curiosity.

That was the first thing I thought of but you get the idea. Be playful Be fun, and also dont use an excuse to want to meet her. She knows why you want to meet her.

And btw that line she will probably ask " like what way to practice?" Because she is curious. Then you can say whatever you want and mention were you thinking of me going down on you then blame her for having a dirty mind

(01-21-2015 01:43 AM)Mister X Wrote:  

(01-19-2015 04:27 AM)Slacker101 Wrote:  You'll have to reenable PMing mate. You seem to have it disabled.

Sorry for that. Should be good now if you still want to send.

As for me. It's become clear now that it is in fact my location and not the app itself. So whoever called me living in the burbs as the reason I get zero...literally zero...matches, you win.

I've spent the past 48 hours in my area: 0 matches

Went to the city tonight for an hour. Late night too. 6 matches in 1 hour.

It's clear. Suburbs, bad. City, good.

Bittersweet to know that I can only get matches when I'm in the city. For that I might as well save myself the trip and day game approach around my house.

You probably should just approach, but you could also just change your phone's location.

http://www.mandatory.com/2015/01/21/this...on-tinder/

Good example of Tinder game?

I just rejoined tinder. One of the first few girls in my feed was a hobbit. Legit couldn't help laughing her hair was like one from Lord of the Rings.

^ I'm particulary happy with my Tinder game

Nice man, one of the things I find it hard to get past is the girls that get way too many matches and therefore never respond to my first message or take a day or two to log back in and reply a second time. Im going to try using just emojiis I like it.

LouEvilSlugger, where did you find these emojis?

This guy is doing it right. Everything is more fun with emoji. You can go plenty further. Look through all the emoji and think about what you can use when. You'll know you are doing it right when you remember where all your best emojis are. Whatsapp's best feature is the recently used emoji tab.

I just got a new phone.
For Whassapp... the only one I saw to download is Whasapp Pro - is that what I want?

(01-21-2015 12:34 PM)bigbait Wrote:  You probably should just approach, but you could also just change your phone's location.

Well I'm waiting on Tinder Plus for that. I downloaded one of those automatic liker apps that lets you change your location and it didn't work.

Plus will allow people to change their location. Just a matter of when that's coming and how much it'll cost.

won't the auto likes get you nabbed as a "bot"?

I notice they throw in (I think) decoy pics to get you to swipe left on them