Post: #1

Would you leave a slim girlfriend you have lived with for nine years and who paid for your food, housing, and expenses BUT hasn't had sex with you for three months because she was angry? Would you throw away a girlfriend if you weren't ready for marriage, but didn't want to regret losing a good girl? What would you do?

Just curious.

Post: #2

(03-19-2010 07:48 AM)weblinks Wrote:  Would you leave a slim girlfriend you have lived with for nine years and who paid for your food, housing, and expenses BUT hasn't had sex with you for three months because she was angry? Would you throw away a girlfriend if you weren't ready for marriage, but didn't want to regret losing a good girl? What would you do?

Just curious.

Question for first scenario. How willing are you to cheat? Question for second scenario. How willing are you to cheat and how effectively can you hold off marriage?

Post: #3

I would leave a girl if she made a comment I didn't like.

Post: #4

(03-19-2010 07:48 AM)weblinks Wrote:  ...hasn't had sex with you for three months because she was angry?

YES!

Post: #5

(03-19-2010 07:48 AM)weblinks Wrote:  Would you leave a slim girlfriend you have lived with for nine years and who paid for your food, housing, and expenses BUT hasn't had sex with you for three months because she was angry? Would you throw away a girlfriend if you weren't ready for marriage, but didn't want to regret losing a good girl? What would you do?

Just curious.

It all depends on your situation whether you have kids and can afford to live on your own. If you your finances aren't on point, I suggest you become a little domesticated and learn to cook, clean, take care of kids and serve the dick right. Hopefully, this will buy 6 to 8 months to plot your escape.

Post: #6

(03-19-2010 02:17 PM)Princeton Wrote:  

(03-19-2010 07:48 AM)weblinks Wrote:  ...hasn't had sex with you for three months because she was angry?

YES!

I'd start fucking her sister or her best friend - then leave. But I'm just an asshole like that.

Post: #7

(03-19-2010 12:44 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  I would leave a girl if she made a comment I didn't like.

Lol. I do the same shit.

Post: #8

(03-19-2010 12:44 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  I would leave a girl if she made a comment I didn't like.

True, but this guy's situation sounds like he depends on her financially. So he may have to creep around while staying with her while he gets his shit together.

Post: #9

a good girl... dude wake up.. have you tried telling her to get her shit together or you leave?

Post: #10

I am stuck. I have thought about this a lot.

If I leave my girlfriend, I will have regret.
If I cheat, I will feel guilty because I have a conscience.
If I stay, I don't have any sex.
If I get a job, I think we could have sex sometimes, but the economy is bad.

My GF is clingy and is abusive, but are a good match because we are both pretty conservative. She
also says sex is painful, but doctors haven't helped her. I
keep this relationship going by doing housework and giving her massages. When she threatens to throw me
out, I tell her that she is my soulmate and cry, beg, and say that I don't have any money.

I know it's ironic to want to play around with other girls, but try
to save a relationship with a girlfriend. I want a new girlfriend, but I
am trying to keep my old one. We have invested a lot of time
in this relationship and she really is a good girl. I want my girlfriend and I want sex.

I feel pretty depressed about this. I don't know what to do.

Women. Can't live with them. Can't live without them.

Post: #11

You are starting to make me depressed.

If you leave my girlfriend, you will have freedom
If you cheat, you will feel good.
If you stay, you will kill yourself (and the rest of us here).
If you get a job, you will have CASH. Which buys freedom.

Post: #12

(03-23-2010 01:52 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  You are starting to make me depressed.

If you leave my girlfriend, you will have freedom
If you cheat, you will feel good.
If you stay, you will kill yourself (and the rest of us here).
If you get a job, you will have CASH. Which buys freedom.

Well said G!

Dump her. It will only get worse as time passes.

Post: #13

three months? Are you serious?

I wouldn't even wait 1min after she said no. I'd call her on her shit.
"This is going to end up in a break up/divorce, if you can't do your job then you are taking up someone's space", that's what I would tell her.

I really don't see the logic of having a gf/wife that doesn't fuck. Among other things like cleaning, laundry and etc.

Post: #14

Good points.

Now I have lots of free time, but zero sex. I am thinking that if I was single I
would need to spend all my time making money and chasing second-rate girls.

Another option I have is to wait my girlfriend out. She gets horny, too. I don't care if she wants to wait four months or six months. I have porn.

Post: #15

Who said anything about her waiting. While you think she is waiting, she might be fucking someone else behind your back. She is already second rate if she is not fucking you.

This behavior of her, approved by you makes it harder for the rest of the other guys. She will think just because she can do this, she can do it to guys after you. You think she is playing a little game, she is not. You just handed her the pants of the relationship. Dump her before she dumps you catastrophically. Or worse she marries you and the only time you get to fuck her is to impregnate her.

Post: #16

Man, reading your last couple of posts completely changed my perspective on the situation. You need to get out of this and on your own two feet asap.

Post: #17

i am surprised why SHE hasnt dumped you yet.

look at yourself dude,she was bearing your expenses for nine years,sounds very beta to me.

Post: #18

She might be cheating on me, but I highly doubt it. She works at home,
has a cyst on her uterus, and was a 25 year old virgin when we met. I
have cheated on her before, but she wants me to come back every time I leave.

I know this sounds weird. We are both getting something from this relationship. I guess
we deserve each other.

Post: #19

this is sad indeed this sound so dysfunctional and wrong, please dont have any kids.

Post: #20

You won't dump her. You don't have it in you. Or do you?

She'll either dump you, looking for an alpha (which she may find, but not be able to keep) or keep you around as her gopher/houseboy/cook/cleaner/maid. Either way, you will suffer betrayal and treachery.

Either start seeing other women, get a job, move out, buy some clothes, go to the gym, etc, or endure the living death of being co-tenants who don't fuck.

It's YOUR choice - no-one here can make you take one route or the other.

Post: #21

Reading this thread has just made me sad.

I really doubt you are doing the cleaning and giving the massages and begging and crying in a multi-million dollar mansion.

The scenario you describe usually seems to take place in 1 bedroom apartments near the airport.

Making your way in the world strictly by sponging off of someone else never leads to great success.

You have lived with this girl for nine years. You don't know how to read her that well after so long?

Do you really think you aren't having sex because she's angry?

No, it's because of the cyst on her uterus. She's probably in pain. It probably screws with her hormonally.

It's important to remember that women are people too. Sometimes people get big cysts on their uteruses (uteri ?).

What woman in her right mind wouldn't throw out some freeloader pestering her for sex on top of the value meals she already buys you when her vagina is throbbing is beyond me. I guess you found her though?

Aloha!

Post: #22

Leave her for your own sake. If not for yours, for hers. If you want to have a happy life you will have to eventually break up. The longer you wait, the harder it gets.

"When she threatens to throw me
out, I tell her that she is my soulmate and cry, beg, and say that I don't have any money. "

Dude this is no way to live! Be a man. Seriously.

Post: #23

I have never heard of a man who makes excuses suceeding in anything. Get up off your ass and do something. If you dont like the status quo, shake things up. Look at what you want and go for it.

Im sorry if that is harsh but people wallowing in self doubt irk me. Face it man, you want something, you have to give something up. If you want change, you need to break out of your comfort zone. Any other discussion is moot.