Post: #1

Looking for insight on how to keep the ball rolling when you get introduced by your friends to some hotties.

I find it hard to get past that moment when we've both shook hands/ said our names even though they show attraction; not opening with my lines kind of throws me off I guess.
What usually happens is the conversation dies out and she resumes her previous topic of discussion with whoever she was talking to. I sometimes throw in some questions but I'm not sure they're working and it's more difficult as far as I've experienced to build rapport while there's your friend (he/she who introduced you) "overseeing" your conversation.

Post: #2

Take control of the conversation and start some threads, talk shit.

"hows it going"
"so where do you guys know each other"

There's no magic pill, you just have to be in a talkative mood. As long as you're talking it's good.

Post: #3

(09-13-2012 06:32 PM)reino341 Wrote:  Take control of the conversation and start some threads, talk shit.

"hows it going"
"so where do you guys know each other"

There's no magic pill, you just have to be in a talkative mood. As long as you're talking it's good.

if it's two or three girls, 'where do you guys know eachother' is so easy, its money. it keeps the focus on them, everybody is comfortable. during those first few seconds of meeting where everyone is seizing everyone up, this is a great place to be, especially if you're new to this and unsure. keep the focus off you and on them. when it shifts to you, do answer, but keep it VERY simple, and mysterious like. then shift it back.

then again, words matter little. its the little smile you have behind them that matters more.

Post: #4

you need to learn how lead conversation overall. not just with hot girls but with people in general.

also this I sometimes throw in some questions but I'm not sure they're working implies some deeper issues.

learn to talk to people and hold conversation with all of them. in the meantime check VERBAL SKILLS in my sig

Post: #5

I think of hot social circle girls as non-entities. It's weird but even if I'm talking about the weather they know I totally want to fuck them. I actually avoid them and think about going out at night and doing some colds. This is probably somewhere I could improve and actually make an effort but neither me nor my dick can be arsed.

I have never pulled from social circle for this reason, I either piss everyone off and annoy the girls or I become this uber chode.

Post: #6

i remember watching and listening to some of krauser's day game clips and being struck by how inane most of his conversations were
70% of it was just him rambling on about nothing in particular, just keeping the conversation flowing, and only here and there did i notice a witty comment or comeback
but many of the women involved were lapping it up
it taught me to relax more in these situations, and not worry about what the girl thinks, so long as you're able to be social and hold a normal conversation even if it's about something as obvious as what the weather's like, you're already 50% of the way to making a connection with the girl
to take it from 50% to 100% is where i find that a couple of 'go-to' funny stories come in handy, (and some light kino) but even then, i only throw those in if it feels right
your initial social vibe can sometimes be enough to get her to open up and be receptive to bouncing to another venue with you, or moving to another part of the venue where you can have more 1:1 conversation and potential to close

Post: #7

(09-14-2012 05:59 AM)Ramon Zarate Wrote:  I think of hot social circle girls as non-entities. It's weird but even if I'm talking about the weather they know I totally want to fuck them. I actually avoid them and think about going out at night and doing some colds. This is probably somewhere I could improve and actually make an effort but neither me nor my dick can be arsed.

I have never pulled from social circle for this reason, I either piss everyone off and annoy the girls or I become this uber chode.

I tend to have the same problem, I usually come off as an asshole or succumb to betas that jump in the conversation giving the girl all the attention she wants.

Post: #8

(09-15-2012 12:25 PM)Snowflake Wrote:  

(09-14-2012 05:59 AM)Ramon Zarate Wrote:  I think of hot social circle girls as non-entities. It's weird but even if I'm talking about the weather they know I totally want to fuck them. I actually avoid them and think about going out at night and doing some colds. This is probably somewhere I could improve and actually make an effort but neither me nor my dick can be arsed.

I have never pulled from social circle for this reason, I either piss everyone off and annoy the girls or I become this uber chode.

I tend to have the same problem, I usually come off as an asshole or succumb to betas that jump in the conversation giving the girl all the attention she wants.

what happens to me:

1. i talk to the girl and i really want to fuck her. this turns me into a flirt. she usually enjoys this.
2. the next day some guy in the circle will say to me 'why were you hitting on her, shes my friend. thats not cool'

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Post: #9

God dammit, you guys.

Do you really have nothing to talk about?

Look- don't listen to me, because I have no game. I fail way more than I succeed and I habitually blow easy pussy in the worst ways imaginable.

But if you have nothing to say, fall back on saying what you actually think and feel. Things that go through your head every second are more honest, and funny, and ballsy, and better game than anything you could ever concoct in a lab.

Wake up 45 minutes before you have to wake up for work. Create a Microsoft Word or Google Docs document called "journal." Make your fingers move on the keyboard for 45 minutes every day, and no one is ever going to read it. Not even the imaginary person looking over your shoulder. Just type your actual stream of consciousness into a word document every morning for a couple weeks.

If you do this honestly for one week, it will give you enough conversational material to maintain conversations with girls for a fucking year.

If you do it for a year, it will give you enough material for a lifetime.

And if they're not into the honest insights you're pulling out of your ass every morning? To hell with them.

Post: #10

Minor input: "So how do you know X?" is a *great* line for a lot of situations as noted above. Most recent girlfriend was excellent at social situations and I got lots of comments about how nice she was from a bunch of people, so I actually watched her to see what she did, and that was one she used a lot (particularly at social events, birthdays, and the like). It almost always will get them to remember good times and start telling stories, and people LOVE to tell stories about old times. It doesn't leave you with as much time to demonstrate your own social value, but there'll be time enough for that if they're already regarding you with positive emotions.