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Trying to get back out there after a harem collapse. There's a solid 8 that I've seen around school with her friend. She's in the classroom next to me now. I think I'll ask her out after this. Since girls always hang out in pairs at school, I've been tinkering with a new idea for asking them out when I catch them slippin'. What do we think?

"Hey. Could you tell me your friend's name again...? I was going to ask her out... but I guess you'll do. Are you free for a drink next week?"

I think if the delivery is good, it could work well. Any thoughts?
11-20-2013 11:48 PM
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Update: Going out for drinks on Tuesday. I'm upgrading her to an 8.5.
11-21-2013 01:12 AM
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Got an approach when I opened with a chat about this hit...





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So I went to a bar/restaurant I usually like going to on Thursdays due to the special they run: Buy a burger and a side, get a free beer.

I saddled up at an empty seat near the bar and saw a group of girls next to me, one was wearing a Saints jersey (5.5) and watching the game.

Ordered my food and beer, then tapped her on the shoulder.

"How long have you been a Saints fan?"

"Since I was 5."

"Well, my favorite thing that happened to the Saints was when Reggie Bush got destroyed by Sheldon Brown in the playoffs back in 2005."

"You're not an Eagles fan, are you?"

I hooked in from that moment.

We shot the shit the rest of the game and I came up with a drinking game we played throughout the second half. Near the end she said I should chug a beer since the Falcons were about to lose and I told her, "If you tell me the name of the guy who hit Reggie Bush, I will. If not, just find me out later and we'll make it happen."

She couldn't remember who it was, but called out the teams, year and what round it was in the playoffs. Good to know she liked football. Got her number and rolled out soon after.

Later in the night we got in contact and we barely missed each other. Told me she would stay out, but she didn't have a ride. Found this a perfect opportunity and pounced and she told me she would, but she was just heading home with friends and she wouldn't want them to think bad of her if she stayed out after them.

Me: "You need to stop worrying. Life is too much fun to do that."

Her: "I know. It's not that. I'm wondering what my boyfriend would say."

Never mentioned her boyfriend previously and that's fine.

Felt positive about the interaction and I know I can do this.

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11-22-2013 03:51 AM
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19 year old , insta date

i did about 3 approaches before this, none successful

Noticed are girl checking me out , right as i passed her on my way upstairs to the train station,
I instinctively turned around

me: excuse me do you speak english ?
her: no (stops walking and is smiling)
me: ok how about japanese ?
her: her yes
me: i just saw you by chance just now , you looked cute i wanted to say hello
her: smiling thanks
me: you look young how old are you?
her: (in english) 19
me: nice, you don't look like you are from here
her: yes , i'm from here
me: ah i see, so like you probablly eat natto and speak ibarkiben everyday
her: (laughing) thats not true

anyways just chatted with her for about 10mins, she had a coffee drink in her hand and I just took a sip of it while we were chatting, then i asked her to go to starbucks with me.

her:but i've got a coffee so i dont need to go!
me: it's ok , you can drink your coffee and watch me drink
her: (thinking)
me: look it's no big deal , i'll order cocoa , it's cold outside your bus doesn't leave until awhile

we go to starbucks, sit down chat, i tell her i'll give her a ride home, because the bus must cost like 10000$ (just joking but trying to see if she might take the offer), just trying to see how far i can get. Offer to go to karoke to sing a song she likes because i don't know it, couldn't go anywhere , so I take her phone number , walk her to the bus , and that was it.
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11-23-2013 01:42 AM
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(11-22-2013 03:51 AM)Blaze Frazier Wrote:  So I went to a bar/restaurant I usually like going to on Thursdays due to the special they run: Buy a burger and a side, get a free beer.

I saddled up at an empty seat near the bar and saw a group of girls next to me, one was wearing a Saints jersey (5.5) and watching the game.

Ordered my food and beer, then tapped her on the shoulder.

"How long have you been a Saints fan?"

"Since I was 5."

"Well, my favorite thing that happened to the Saints was when Reggie Bush got destroyed by Sheldon Brown in the playoffs back in 2005."

"You're not an Eagles fan, are you?"

I hooked in from that moment.

We shot the shit the rest of the game and I came up with a drinking game we played throughout the second half. Near the end she said I should chug a beer since the Falcons were about to lose and I told her, "If you tell me the name of the guy who hit Reggie Bush, I will. If not, just find me out later and we'll make it happen."

She couldn't remember who it was, but called out the teams, year and what round it was in the playoffs. Good to know she liked football. Got her number and rolled out soon after.

Later in the night we got in contact and we barely missed each other. Told me she would stay out, but she didn't have a ride. Found this a perfect opportunity and pounced and she told me she would, but she was just heading home with friends and she wouldn't want them to think bad of her if she stayed out after them.

Me: "You need to stop worrying. Life is too much fun to do that."

Her: "I know. It's not that. I'm wondering what my boyfriend would say."

Never mentioned her boyfriend previously and that's fine.

Felt positive about the interaction and I know I can do this.

Good to see that you're still around dude.
11-23-2013 11:50 AM
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(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I think the main reason I'm stuck in my head is I'm being outcome dependent, wanting an reaction from the girl

Good self-analysis. You have identified your sticking point. Now, try to fix it..

Let me offer my advice on this..

THIS IS ABOUT YOU. This is not about the girl. The girl presents an opportunity for you to become more authentic in who you are. It doesn't matter how she reacts. What matters is the fact that you do the approach with courage. If you do that, you have succeeded.

As a beginner, you are not approaching for sex, you are approaching for the practice of facing your fears. Sex is a by-product of this fear elimination. When you have removed your fear of talking to women, sex will come.

The outcome does not matter, being brave is all that matters.

Approach for your own personal development. Approach to get in touch with your masculine powers. Some girls will like you, some won't. It doesn't matter as long as your get stronger with each approach.

In time, you will become more and more attractive to girls as your fear dissolves and your inner confidence grows.

Numbers, dates, and bangs are not the goal. Fearlessness is..

(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I care too much of what other people think around me when I approach, especially when there is a lot of people around.

Yeah, this is a tough one. I also get a little embarrassed if a lot of people can see and hear me approach a girl.

I have learned to talk quietly but loud enough that the girl can hear me. I often approach a girl in a crowd but I keep calm and speak in a soft voice. Many times, the people around don't know what I'm taking about. They see me talking to her but maybe they think that we already know each other.

I will just walk right up to her and softly say -- "excuse me, can I tell you something, you look nice today, are you European?"

She will most likely smile and laugh and it will not look strange at all because people only see us smiling and laughing.

I also try really hard to catch girls while they are walking or sitting by themselves so that no one will be able to hear what I'm saying.

If a girl is in a crowd of people, I will often wait until she leaves the crowd and is in a better position for me to approach.

Don't approach girls to impress them. Approach girls to impress yourself!
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11-23-2013 02:04 PM
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I like the strategy described by Giovonny, who as usual provides true, efficient, intelligent methods of gaming.

I also agree about his advice here, because it is given to a (unless I am mistaken) beginner in the 'game'.

But, after a while, when you have grown more confident, the approach in itself should not be enough, nor should be your goal. We are not looking for perfection or aestheticism, after all Wink .

Example : This week I did a brave cold approach in the street, zooming in on a very cute woman, in a group of 4 friends. I made her laugh, we talked a bit in my native language even... I got a number... but I had to leave without her. Dodgy

So, I was feeling alright about the cold approach on a chick chatting with her friends in the street, which is difficult, but, I also thought : still, you did not pulled her with you... so, I think after a while, the result is the goal, the bang is the goal, at the end of the day.

(reason I was mad at me is, I sensed I could have picked up the chick if I had persevered, talked even more, insisted more... the approach was great but the closing, not... I almost won but almost is not good enough)
11-23-2013 03:20 PM
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How about two girls walking together (very common)?

(11-23-2013 02:04 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I think the main reason I'm stuck in my head is I'm being outcome dependent, wanting an reaction from the girl



(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I care too much of what other people think around me when I approach, especially when there is a lot of people around.

Yeah, this is a tough one. I also get a little embarrassed if a lot of people can see and hear me approach a girl.

I have learned to talk quietly but loud enough that the girl can hear me. I often approach a girl in a crowd but I keep calm and speak in a soft voice. Many times, the people around don't know what I'm taking about. They see me talking to her but maybe they think that we already know each other.

I will just walk right up to her and softly say -- "excuse me, can I tell you something, you look nice today, are you European?"

She will most likely smile and laugh and it will not look strange at all because people only see us smiling and laughing.

I also try really hard to catch girls while they are walking or sitting by themselves so that no one will be able to hear what I'm saying.

If a girl is in a crowd of people, I will often wait until she leaves the crowd and is in a better position for me to approach.

Don't approach girls to impress them. Approach girls to impress yourself!
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11-24-2013 12:03 AM
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(11-23-2013 11:50 AM)pheonix500000 Wrote:  
(11-22-2013 03:51 AM)Blaze Frazier Wrote:  So I went to a bar/restaurant I usually like going to on Thursdays due to the special they run: Buy a burger and a side, get a free beer.

I saddled up at an empty seat near the bar and saw a group of girls next to me, one was wearing a Saints jersey (5.5) and watching the game.

Ordered my food and beer, then tapped her on the shoulder.

"How long have you been a Saints fan?"

"Since I was 5."

"Well, my favorite thing that happened to the Saints was when Reggie Bush got destroyed by Sheldon Brown in the playoffs back in 2005."

"You're not an Eagles fan, are you?"

I hooked in from that moment.

We shot the shit the rest of the game and I came up with a drinking game we played throughout the second half. Near the end she said I should chug a beer since the Falcons were about to lose and I told her, "If you tell me the name of the guy who hit Reggie Bush, I will. If not, just find me out later and we'll make it happen."

She couldn't remember who it was, but called out the teams, year and what round it was in the playoffs. Good to know she liked football. Got her number and rolled out soon after.

Later in the night we got in contact and we barely missed each other. Told me she would stay out, but she didn't have a ride. Found this a perfect opportunity and pounced and she told me she would, but she was just heading home with friends and she wouldn't want them to think bad of her if she stayed out after them.

Me: "You need to stop worrying. Life is too much fun to do that."

Her: "I know. It's not that. I'm wondering what my boyfriend would say."

Never mentioned her boyfriend previously and that's fine.

Felt positive about the interaction and I know I can do this.

Good to see that you're still around dude.

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11-24-2013 03:07 AM
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Just did my first ever daytime cold approach. I saw a cute Asian girl on the bus but she got off at an earlier stop so I changed my focus to some Indian girl (solid 7) who was sitting on the bus as well. Once the bus got off at my university we were both walking in the same direction but I was having hesitation. My class was nearby as well and I was late so I knew the only thing I could do was go direct. At this point I realized that I cant keep hesitating and I need to at least make an attempt. Since I pussied out from an approach yesterday I just forced myself to tap her on the shoulder and she looked towards me.

I told her: "Hey I just wanted wanted to let you know I saw you on the bus and I thought you were really cute how about we go get a coffee sometime."

She looked absolutely petrified and replied with: "No I have a boyfriend." Then before I could say anything she jetted it and walked away pretty much as fast as you possibly could, without actually running.

It was a bittersweet experience. On one hand it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders now that I've finally been able to get that first cold approach during the day since I usually don't open girls unless they're in my class and when I do make small talk I never go for the number. On the flip side it kind of sucked that I wasn't able to seal the deal but I guess my approach was pretty shitty so I shouldn't have expected anything from it.

Its definitely a start though.
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(11-26-2013 12:37 AM)Jazzman92 Wrote:  It was a bittersweet experience. On one hand it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders now that I've finally been able to get that first cold approach during the day since I usually don't open girls unless they're in my class and when I do make small talk I never go for the number. On the flip side it kind of sucked that I wasn't able to seal the deal but I guess my approach was pretty shitty so I shouldn't have expected anything from it.

Its definitely a start though.

Congratulations on approaching and describing your experience.

Direct is really the most difficult especially in the daytime when both you and she were rushing to get somewhere b/c it seems that you went straight for the proposition before getting any feedback or expression of interest from her.

Probably, your next approach will be easier, and you will find a way to make it smoother. You may think about one or two things that you would do differently, but I would NOT get down about NOT sealing the deal b/c the odds were against success with such a direct approach.
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(11-26-2013 12:37 AM)Jazzman92 Wrote:  Just did my first ever daytime cold approach. I saw a cute Asian girl on the bus but she got off at an earlier stop so I changed my focus to some Indian girl (solid 7) who was sitting on the bus as well. Once the bus got off at my university we were both walking in the same direction but I was having hesitation. My class was nearby as well and I was late so I knew the only thing I could do was go direct. At this point I realized that I cant keep hesitating and I need to at least make an attempt. Since I pussied out from an approach yesterday I just forced myself to tap her on the shoulder and she looked towards me.


She looked absolutely petrified and replied with: "No I have a boyfriend." Then before I could say anything she jetted it and walked away pretty much as fast as you possibly could, without actually running.


Its definitely a start though.

Terrible beta error : taping her on the shoulder. Do not do that again, to get her attention, please. Be subtle, no shoulder tapping...
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(11-26-2013 01:14 AM)Arg expert Wrote:  Terrible beta error : taping her on the shoulder. Do not do that again, to get her attention, please. Be subtle, no shoulder tapping...

Ya I definitely wont do that again and I know that it looks beta but it was something that I just needed to do.

Its like what Gio said in an above post "Approach for your own personal development." The last few days I've wanted to do some approaches but I just kept hesitating and then I would over-analyze the situation and not approach. I was even over-analyzing this approach which was why I just said "fuck it" and tapped her on the shoulder because then she would turn to me and I would have to respond with something. Now that I've gotten that out of the way I feel a lot more comfortable. I was even making small talk with many people yesterday too. Its a very liberating feeling to finally do something that you've always been afraid to do.
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Jazzman, you can consider this approach a success, because you acted against your fears. That is I think the main objective as you start approaches. Face your fears head on and act anyway. Keep the momentum going and you'll see a rapid reduction of AA. You showed some balls, so congrats!

Your skills need some work, but that is expected whenever your learning a new skill.

Two things you can correct quickly are 1) no touching to get attention 2) talk a little longer before asking for digits.

Being touched in public when your not expecting it is scary for most people. A few months ago I was walking down the street and some tourist grabbed my shoulder from behind and asked for direction. It's startling and causes a fight or flight response. I thought it was rather rude too.

Work on extending your conversation more too. You went for the digits in your first sentence. Most girls need to be warmed up a bit longer.
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For what it's worth, doesn't Roosh advocate a tap on the shoulder to open during night game? Is it really that big of a difference?
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(11-26-2013 02:58 PM)Checkmat Wrote:  For what it's worth, doesn't Roosh advocate a tap on the shoulder to open during night game? Is it really that big of a difference?

I think that guys are going to come to varying judgements about this.

I touch and grab girl's shoulders all the time in clubs, especially if I already know the girl, and sometimes I do it with girls that i do NOT know very well, just to push her buttons. However, that is in a dance scene in which touching is part of the expectations, and usually various touching like that does NOT screw up my ability to get these girls to dance. Also, my thinking is that if she cannot take a little pre-emptive shoulder grabbing (touching), then she is NOT going to be predisposed to following me in dance. Accordingly, I do NOT want to dance with any girl who is NOT ready and willing to follow me.

Sometimes, I can tell that these girls are really annoyed with my touching or grabbing their shoulders in the club b/c sometimes I do it in such a way to really get their attention with a bit of a squeeze on the shoulder. 95% of the time, they still dance with me, and in that scenario, I calculate that the shoulder grab does NOT affect the girl's decision NOT to dance with me (it is some other factor). That dance scene scenario is special.

However, I view touching a girl's shoulder in public on the street to be much more difficult (especially if a guy does NOT know the girl and the atmosphere is on the street). However, you may be able to get away with it, if she has already given you IOI or maybe in a cafe or something. However, in my opinion, generally, it would too much too soon to start with that in public on the street with a girl who has NOT given IOI. I think the better practice would be to walk in front of her and to say hi or something like that.

Surely, mileage may vary, and probably, the shoulder touch/grab could work well with some girls in certain scenarios, especially with guys who are fearless and have hundreds of approaches under his belt.... or if he has some other apparent DHV.
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My friend (a girl who I banged once pre red pill, but now we are friends) invited me to this car show tonight (night before Thanksgiving). I figure I'll go,there might be some talent.

I get there before my friend, and I'm disappointed because it's mostly ugly old people. The younger girls didn't even look so good. There was a young 6 who was talking to a real old guy, and I was going to approach her, but their conversation was going on and on.

Then I see a totally hot one. Young, wearing all black including a long black skirt which I could kind of see through when she walked. Mediterranean looking. Petite. Long black hair with curls at the end. Just how I like them. An 8. She looks to be all alone too.

I figure out my hook. I'm going to talk to her about cars.

I stalk her for about 5 minutes as she walks around, until I'm in a good position to approach.

Me: What's your favorite car?

Her: I like them all. ha ha.

Me: My favorite is the Rolls Royce over there. It cost $500k. Let's check it out.

<walk over to the RR and talk cars for awhile. exchange names. she's a sophomore in an art college. 20 years old. she asks me a lot of questions too, like what do I do.>

Me: Are you from here?

Her: I'm from NJ.

Me: I thought you would say Greece.

Her: No. ha ha.

Me: Are you Greek?

Her: No, half Italian half Puerto Rican.

Me: That's a great combination!

<blah blah.>

Me: You have a great smile.

Her: Oh thank you!

Me: Yeah, hey it looks like they have iPads built into the back seat of the RR.

<blah blah, Ipads, cars, etc.>

<I'm feeling things are going well and I should quit before I can fuck it up.>

Me: Hey, I better look for my friend. You seem cool, do you want to hang out some time.

Her: Yes, that sounds good.

Me: <gave her my phone> Put your number in here.

she puts her first and last name and number in.

Me: With the holidays, I'm kind of busy and I have some travel for work, but we can get together in a week or two. I'll text you so you have my number.

Her: That sounds good. Have fun!

Shook hands and she looked up at me with puppy dog eyes.

She isn't old enough to drink! I usually take girls out for a drink, so I have to figure out where to take her (if she doesn't flake).

Take care of those titties for me.
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THis might be a bit shitty but I want to rant a bit while describing a typical train approach in my life.

I've been approaching more lately but none I feel of worthwhile value to this thresd because no resultant bangs as of yet. And, what, if not that, is the main key here, that's how I see it for myself.

Scene one.

Late night waiting for a subway train in the city.

Sit down on a bench with no one on it but a girl sitting at the end. Bold X is me.

X 0 X 0 0

She is nodding off it is late. I have my arm over the back of the bench, sitting comfortably.

When she wakes up momentarily, I look over and make eye contact, her eyes kind of light up.

I casually ask something like "How are you feeling?"

She responds well and we talk for a bit.

The train comes.

She gets up and gets on and I follow her on about four steps behind casually.

She sits down and I sit down close to her.

0 0 0 0 0 0 XX 0 0 0 0

I'm doing well because at some point she says:

"I'm glad you're here because you woke me up and now I feel better."

She's a cute seven. Latte colored skin. Dominican.

I say:

"Me too."

I tell her my deal and work on getting logistics.

When does she get off work tomorrow. We'll meet up and well get drinks.

She takes my phone and puts her number in. I barely had to ask.

I grab her hair for some reason and give it a little tug.

She says at some point:

"This is feels so natural."

We get off at the same spot where we transfer to different trains.

I put my arm around her and squeeze her to me while we're walking. She loves it.

I say: "You are a little midget\."

I let go and we go our separate ways, say our goodbyes.

In my mind a gorgeous, almost movie quality "pick up."

Scene 2.

I text her. She's down to get together.

Something romantic, wine and a movie because it will be raining and she is undrage.

Text game is annoying, kind of goes bonkers.

I cut it off and decide to call her today when we're supposed to meet.

She picks up,

but flakes on the meet up.

Conclusion:

I am so tired of this shit. I am upset at myself for not going harder initially. I can push it farther.

I have reached a tipping point of this shit. No more flakey numbers. It is such a fucking waste. I need to push more.
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11-28-2013 01:28 AM
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So Im trying to get back into the game after losing all my motivation and drive for a while. Ive passed up on so many opportunities and even girls approaching me, I could kick myself.

So last night I put on my gangster jacket and went to a little bar with attached dancefloor, sort of a cavernous setup with several small little rooms. There wasnt much going on but the dj was actually bumping some pretty decent electronic music. I hung out at the bar had a bar and had a beer, talked to two chicks who ordered next to me. But it didnt really stick.

Made a round through the place and I saw this black chick dancing all by herself, she had caught my eye when I came in already because she had a huge afro.
Not really a fan of the hair but she had a nice body and I just love black girlsl. She was dancing all the time so I just went up to her, grabbed her shoulder and told her that I like her style and I wanna get to know her. "come with me so I can talk to you, its so loud here".

But she wanted to dance and said "lets just dance for 2 minutes, the music is so nice right now". So I said ok and was dancing next to her for a couple of minutes.
I think other guys mustve seen that because then a whole swarm of them came and started dancing around her. It was really weird.

I was just dancing for a couple of minutes but I realized its getting late and I have to go and catch my last train. So I went up to her again through the circle of these weirdos, grabbed her and told her "listen I gotta go catch my train, but I really wanna get to know you. Give me your number" and handed her my phone. She typed in her number and I asked her where shes from. She told me shes from out of town and not here often. I noticed while I was talking to her one dude that was doing his mating dance before had stopped and was watching me. It was really weird.

Then I had to go and had to run, barely catched my last train home.

Conclusion:

- Stupid logistics!
- Those guys were weird as fuck, dancing around her in a circle and looking for her attention.
- Im not very smooth but I got more balls than everyone else in this place.
- I think that girl was DTF, she was out of town and all by herself and seemed really friendly. Stupid logistics!
- I had 4 beers which is ok but almost too much. Im trying to drink less and less but alcohol turns off the whiny bitch voice in my head which I like.

Probably gonna hit the city and do some daygame too, Im rusty as shit and really wanna get back into it.
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11-28-2013 05:17 AM
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Took a hail mary shot at a 9 .. 2 min before her metro train was coming.. While she was on the phone.

Will post naked pics asap!!!11~

(Jk she has a boyfriend)
11-28-2013 05:51 PM
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Lights, underage girls flake all the time. Focus on building comfort if you want them to come around. It can take more than one meetup at a train station.
11-30-2013 06:33 PM
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(11-30-2013 06:33 PM)horn Wrote:  Lights, underage girls flake all the time. Focus on building comfort if you want them to come around. It can take more than one meetup at a train station.

I hear ya.
12-01-2013 01:37 AM
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Ran a little Museum Game today.

When I have nothing to do on saturdays or sundays, I usually pick a place to go run some day-game.

Usually it's central park…other times it's union square, a shopping area, etc.

I woke up this morning and randomly remembered being at the Museum of Natural History, maybe 4 years back, on a school trip, having a couple really hot french-looking students eye fuck me, and being too pussy to say anything to them.

So I hopped outta bed, woke up my boy who had slept over, and headed back to the Museum for some long overdue redemption game.

Glad I chose the Museum of Natural History - while there are lots of little kids and families there, there are also plenty of hot girls…it's what I now consider one of NYC's Watering Holes, much like Bethesda Fountain in central Park.

1) 1st approach was a gorgeous Danish girl walking around the African Mammals Section and reading the signs posted next to each exhibit
Me: I thought I was the only person who actually read the info
Her: (giggles) Yes, I'm trying to educate myself
…I then went into interview mode, instead of a friendly ramble, and she proceeded to tell me she was traveling here visiting her boyfriend for the holiday. A nice warm up, which reminded not to ask personal questions too quickly…Didn't want to waste my time with a boyfriend situation, so I moved on.

2) My 2nd approach was the first time I approached a girl that was with her family.
I said something similar about reading the info, and joked about us getting smarter at the museum.
Me: You better take this info home with you, everybody I see is just walking around looking at the animals
Her: Yes, I'm visiting here so I need to remember as much as I can!
Me: I notice you have an accent, you sound British
Her: No I'm actually Australian
Me: Knew it was 50-50 Australian or British, I was close
Blah Blah about her visiting NYC for a few weeks
…her mom says to her we have to go soon
Me: Hey I don't wanna keep you from hanging with your family…lemme grab your number and we'll hang soon.
Her: Yeah sure

3) My 3rd approach was in the NYC birds section, as I spot 2 young cuties walking around
Me: Hey, you 2 look like museum experts here, I'm gonna let you be my tour guide.
Her: haha, no we're trying to figure out how to use this map
Me: Lemme take a look……screw it, let's just walk around. I'm Spider btw.
..Blah Blah, we happen to all be juniors in college, it was one of the girls birthday, teased her a bit about spending her birthday looking at dead birds glued on a wall.
Me: Me and my buddy are gonna head outta here, let me get your # and the 4 of us will hang out next time ur in the city.
Her: sounds good

Museum of Natural History was full of attractive foreigners, so now I've got another fun spot to go work day-game. The museum is cool in and of itself - hot tourists are a plus.
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Best place to pick up hot foreigners in NYC is definitely the MoMA based on personal experience. Esp in summertime when the Brazilians arrive en masse leaving their winter for sunnier climate. I have picked up some legit stunners there over the years.

Besides, you know how girls think, 'Drunk and on vacation doesn't count...'
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