Post: #901

(08-25-2013 06:50 PM)Rosca Wrote:  Pokemon huntin at a frat party. My goal was to not worry on pulling but up my verbal/approaching game. And trust me, I got blown out.

Rosca "On a scale to 1 to awesome how do you feel?"
Pokemon "Awesome" (awkward face)

So many chicks there and so many of them in big groups it was weird for me. Best thing I did when I felt that way was either dance or chill outside for a bit.

Danced with some other chick and was play hitting her with a pillow. Didn't go as I expected.

What if the chicks approach us? Can we post them here as well?

Yeah!

Here are a handful of approaches from last night.

I was at this bar called Gators in dowtown dallas. A table with three girls all in workout gear seemed like a good opportunity. I sat down and said whats up. How are you guys doing? They acted strange from the getgo. One was so nervous and awkward that it was freaking me out! This other girl was kind of snappy and cold. The girl to my left was the only normal one who was active in the conversation. It wasn't going anywhere so I bounced out and played pool on the roof with this dude from Louisiana. Cool dude.

Later that day I went to The Omni Hotel bar.

First approach was this couple. I asked them what they were up to. The guy had a ring on his finger so I asked if they are married, he said yes, his girl said no. Had a decent time talking to them. Found out he was in the oil industry as well, they were visiting from Houston. Went nowhere. Bounced out and

Sat down at this table with three older career women. I must mention that I was slightly underdressed for this environment. I had a good conversation with them, one of them gave me her plate of french fries. They were in town visiting from Indiana on business. I went for the gold and suggested a party in their hotel room.
Didn't workout so I said thanks for the fries and left.

I saw two girls sitting at the bar and slid into the seat to the right. The girl next to me was digging me a lot. Her friend wasn't having it though. It was the birthday pf the girl I was next to, they were ending their night at the bar. I suggested an after party at their hotel room. The birthday girl seemed excited about it, the other girl was not into it at all. They were in their late 30s and told me I was too young. I was like "what! Too young? You don't think I can hang?" She laughed and then I saw it wasn't going to happen so I ejected.

I wandered around downtown dallas looking for a gas station so i could buy some smokes. Met a homeless guy named Harold Montgomery who showed me the way. I gave him $5. I walked back tot he hotel and a group of 8-10 girls were in the lobby taking pictures. All of these girls were hot as fuck. Dressed to the 9's, they had just gotten back from the club. One was wearing a tiara. Bacheloret party.

I walk up to a couple girls who were just standing their smiling. Found out what they did that night. They were going up to their suite to party. I invited myself along. Talked to a few other girls and made them laugh. Even talked to the bachelerot. She gave me a hug and said I could party with them.

Im on top of the world at this point. ~9 drunk girls all to myself!

We got into the elevator and this girl who I hadn't talked to, tells me to get out of the elevator. Im like no no its cool they invited me up. I look at the girls that I talked to for some support and all they did was stare and smile at me! Im like "oh come on!" And got out of the elevator because I could sense this girl was about to cause a scene.

I went outside and talked to the valet guys before catching a taxi to my car and driving home.

Post: #902

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Post: #903

Yesterday was the first day of school in the California State system. I decided that I would take my game to another level. My skills regressed a little over the summer because I had a cute 21yo who was keeping me satisfied.

This year, I am dedicated to becoming a real expert with this college day game stuff. I am nearly 38 years old. I know I only have a few good years left. I am going hard, really hard.

I got to campus around lunchtime, it was packed with cuties, literally thousands of approachable girls. I parked my car and hit the ground running.

As I am walking on to campus, I see a very cute, thin, brunette with perfect round, perky tits and nice clean milky skin.

I speed up my walk so we get to the staircase at the exact same time..

me: hey, i love that backpack
her: thanks
me: is that from Brazil?
her: no, urban outfitters
me: really, they have some cool stuff. That reminds me of the bags in South America
her: ya, its a cool store
me: how are your classes going?
her: im headed to my first one now
me: omg, are you nervous?
her: yes, very.
me: dont worry, you will be fine
her: i don't even know where it is, can you help me?
me: sure, what building?
her: here is the map.

We stop. I look at the map. I know exactly where we are.

me: ok, im going in that direction, i will show you
her: thanks are you a teacher here?
me: no, im a graduate student
her: oh wow cool
me: what do you study?
her: well im just a freshman but I wanna be a veterinarian.
me: oh i love animals
her: me too
me: they are better then people right? lol
her: lol ya most of the time
me: where are you from?
her: palm springs
me: oh nice, the desert.
her: and you?
me: born and raised here
her: i love SF

We got to her building..

me: here it is
her: thanks so much
me: no problem, you lucked out today
her: i did
me: do you wanna exchange numbers, I will show you the cool places around campus sometime?
her: ya sure

Get her number, move on.

*****

A few minutes later I see a cute Italian/Spanish looking girl walking behind me. I slow down to let her sort of catch up. I hear her behind me so I pretend that she sort of startteld me..

me: hey i like those avaitors (sunglasses)
her: oh thanks
me: those are my favorites
her: ya, i love them also
me: how was class
her: oh it was ok
me: what did you have?
her: english lit of the 18 century
me: oh that sounds boring
her: it was
me: whats your major?
her: english
me: gonna be a teacher?
her: yes
me: good for you 4 months off a year
her: thats right.
me: you look really nice today
her: thank you
me: i know I will probably never see you again, i wanna ask you for your number?
her: ohh
me: i know is random but...
her: no, its totally cool, im christina
me: im gio, nice meeting you
her: you too, what do you study?
me: pe
her: cool, i need to workout
me: no you dont you are very healthy, are you done fo the day?
her: yes, off to work
me: have fun, ill text you later in the week
her: sounds good.

I am just walking around campus surrounded by young girls..

*****

A cute blond walks right past me. I turn to go after her. She stops and lights a smoke..

me: time for a smoke break
her: yes
me: you look nice today
her: thank you
me: are you from around here?
her: no huntington beach
me: welcome to sf, it might be a little chilly for you.
her: i know, im learning
me: ya, get some cool scarfs and light sweaters, you will need them.
her: i seriously need to do that.
me: listen, i gotta run but do you wanna grab a beer or something sometime?
her: umm sure

Get her number, keep moving.

*****

I see a Black girl with a body that stops me in my tracks. I follow her into the elevator, just me and her..

me: hello, i love your outfit
her: thanks
me: of course, not every girl could pull that off, you are in great shape
her: i try
me: are you new here?
her: yes
me: from where?
her: i just graduated from oakland high
me: oh, welcome to sf

The elevator opens, she gets off, I get off also..

me: hey let me ask you something
her: ok
me: do you date spanish guys
her: yes i do
me: oh good, l wanna call you later and flirt with you
her: haha ok. i gotta go to class now but you can walk with me
me: sure

We get to her class, I get her number and give her ass kiss on both cheeks.

Back outside and I continue the hunt...

*****

I see a cute Latina with a nice ass.. I walk along side of her

me: hey how was class?
her: it was ok
me: what did you have
her: pre-cal
me: oh thats a hard one, you better study
her: i know
me: you must be a freshman
her: yup
me: where are you from?
her: fresno
me: welcome to sf, how are you liking it so far?
her: i love it
me: its a big change from fresno right?
her: omg, a different world
me: are you liking it so far?
her: ya, i love it

We get to her dorm and she starts to walk away..

me: do you live here?
her: yes
me: i used to live here when I was a freshman, it was fun, how is your rommie?
her: she is cool, thank god, im meeting her for lunch now
me: ok, have fun, hey, you seem cool, wanna exchange numbers and maybe hang out sometime?
her: ya

Get her number, keep moving throughout the dorms..

*****

I see a cute mixed girl, maybe Black/White, she looks confused..

me: are you lost?
her: umm, ya , can you help me?
me: sure
her: which way is the dining hall
me: its this way
her: ok thanks

We walk and talk in the same direction. I can feel some chemistry by the way she is looking at me..

me: are you done for the day?
her: no i have class in an hour
me: you gonna go chill for a little while?
her: ya
me: good, how is everything going?
her: i really like it so far
me: are you from southern california?
her: ya how did you know?
me: i dont know i could just tell
her: lol thats funny, do i seem like im not from around here?
me: a little but thats a good thing, dont worry about it
her: where are you from?
me: right here
her:are you a teacher?
me: im a graduate student
her: ooh cool

We were really giving each other some good eye contact and I could feel the attraction.

me: so you just have an hour to kill?
her: ya
me: oh well...wanna hang out?

She blushed, she knew what I meant, she could feel it. I was asking her if she wanted to go fuck..

her: i cant i have a boyfriend
me: what?!?
her: ya for 2 years
me: oh ok

We looked at each other. I know she was thinking about it. I let her walk away. I should have asked to use her bathroom or something. I let her go to easily.

As I was walking away, I turned back to look at her ass, she was looking back at me. We caught eyes, it was seductive. Next time I see her, I will be all over her.

*****

I continue walking the campus. I see another cute Latina drinking an orange colored smoothie...

me: that looks good
her: it is
me: i was gonna get one but the line was so long
her: ya i waited about 15 mins but its worth it
me: what is that?
her: its thai iced tea
me: looks amazing, are you thai
her: lol no im Filipina and mexican
me: thats a cool mix
her: what are you?
me: wanna take a guess
her: some type of hispanic
me: ya basically, spanish and french
her: oh my best friend from high school is spanish and french

This is going good. Good eye contact, good vibes.

me: where are you from?
her: concord, how bout you?
me: sf
her: this is a cool city
me: isn't it, where do you live, in the dorms?
her: no im in the apartments
me: the only ting that sucks is that there isnt a lot of good places to eat over there
her: ya im learning that, where do you eat at?
me: well, there are a few places

Blah, blah, blah

me: wanna exchange numbers, we can get thai food or something
her: ya definitely.

Good prospect here.

I'm going hard all week so I will have more reports tonight. I will bang one of these freshman girls in the next few weeks or I will die trying.

Post: #904

Gio on fire , waiting for more brother ......

Post: #905

Gio, first off great job. Way to get back on track.

Not to get caught up on details but I am curious how the whole "graduate student" thing plays out. Are you actually a student there?

I find that if I pretend to be something I am not it cuts into the organic feeling of the interaction. As most of your approaches are fairly organic I would say, I am curious how you manage this.

Also curious, if one of these girls ends up becoming a regular do you keep the "graduate student" story going the whole time?

Post: #906

recently moved to a campus town and went out with a colleague this past weekend. i was being approached by college girls asking me what year i was among other things. I also love that theres no dress code at all here, so you can just about walk into a bar wearing anything. i was decked out in stanford basketball gear and still being approached. good times.

Post: #907

Today was great. Ever had that moment when you're just in the zone? And like openers/funny shit just comes out of your mouth no problem? Today was just one of those days where I really was in a funny and talkative mood.

Library Pokemon:
So I was in the library and saw this Pokemon next to me looking busy as fuck.
Ros "Whoa class hasn't event started yet and you're busy!"
Pokemon "Yeah. It's because I'm a graduate student"
Ros "Well that explains a lot"
Pokemon "And I'm an English major"
Ros "So you're gonna be making the books right?"
Her "Laughs I wish"

She asks me my major, I tell her. I didn't go for a number close. But a good example of me approaching.
--
Had to go to Walmart. Pissed off because I was late for the bus to take me back to campus, I just sat in a Walmart cart and told one of my friends that were protesting Walmart.

Luckily they knew a Pokemon that drove up there. So we waited for her to get her stuff and she gave us a ride.

Before I left, she tried to play me.
Pokemon "I don't think your protest at Walmart was good"
Me "Yeah next week were doing Target"

She laughed, I thanked her to giving me a ride and I went home.

Post: #908

(08-27-2013 05:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  Are you actually a student there?

No

(08-27-2013 05:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  I find that if I pretend to be something I am not it cuts into the organic feeling of the interaction.

Then don't pretend anything. Do what works for you. 100% authentic is usually a better strategy anyways.

I tell this white lie because I have to.

(08-27-2013 05:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  As most of your approaches are fairly organic I would say, I am curious how you manage this.

I don't have to manage it.

I say -- "I am a graduate student"

This puts their mind at ease and allows the interaction to continue.

When they ask about my classes, I say that I am talking just 1 class and I describe what I did when I was in grad school.

I have never had a problem from this white lie.

(08-27-2013 05:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  Also curious, if one of these girls ends up becoming a regular do you keep the "graduate student" story going the whole time?

Yes.

This way, when they see my around campus they think I am there for class.

I don't like to lie but what can I tell girls? I can't say that I am just on campus to meet girls. Maybe I could but I am just not on that level yet.

Post: #909

Yesterday was a different story. I was 1-10 in getting numbers.

This is the nature of cold approaching. Some days you are hot and other days you are cold.

Here are the ones I remember...

I see a cute, thin, brunette walking towards me wearing those black tights that all girls wear..

me: hey i need a new personal trainer, can i hire you?
her: oh sorry im not a trainer
me: oh your not?
her: no
me: what do you do for exercise?
her: just walk mostly
me: really you ust have a good diet?
her: no i eat whatever I want
me: you just have great genetics
her: i guess so

Blah, blah, blah. She is an exchange student from Germany, very cute.

me: nice with chatting you, would you like to get a drink or soemthing soemtime?
her: oh no thanks

*****

I see a hot little blond behind me, I slow down to ket her catch up. When she get very close to me, I turn to open her over my shoulder, just at that moment, she almost walks into pole because she is looking at her phone..

me: hey be careful dont walk into the pole
her: omg haha seriously
me: you almost killed yourself, luckily i would have been here to give you CPR
her: ha that was close
me: that must be an important text
her: yes it was
me: are you new around here?
her: yes im a freshman
me: from where?
her: burbank

Blah, blah, blah. We walk and talk for a while.

me: nice to meet you
her: you too
me: wanna hang out sometime, maybe get a drink?
her: oh thanks but I have a bf
me: dont tell me all of your problems yet, we just met
her: haha bye

*****
I see a cute brunette in front of me, I speed up to walk next to her..

me: hey i love your skirt
her: thanks
me: do you listen to fleetwood mac
her: who
me: fleetwood mac. have you ever heard of them?
her: no
me: you should look them up, you have the same style as the lead singer
her: oh really
me: yes
her: i will do that
me:what about olivia newtomn john
her: who is that?
me: she is the one who started this whole leg warmer thing. im giving you a lesson in fashion history
her: ha

Blah, blah, blah

me: nice chatting with you, wanna exchange numbers and maybe talk again sometime?
her: no thanks

*****

I am ready to go home but I decide that I will do one more. I see a cute Asian walking ahead of me. I speed up to walk right past her. As I am passing her I say..

me: hey i love your moccasins
her: oh thank you
me: they look very comfy
her: yes they are
me: i used to have a pair with the fur on the inside, i miss those shoes, girls can wear thise with anything but for guys its a little harder
her: ya i dont see guys wearing them
me: you know Ugg boots were originally made for surfers
her: ya i saw tom brady in a n ad for them
me: a guy has to have alot of swag to pull that off
her: ha
me: how was class?
her: pretty good
me: what do you study?

Blah, blah, blah. We walk and talk for like 5 minutes. I want to eject and go home but she is very into the conversation. Good eye contact and good vibes. Finally, I say..

me: wanna exchange numbers and chat again sometime?
her: ya sure

*****

Its lunchtime. Time for me to hit another university campus!

Will have more reports tonight!

Post: #910

Damn, I've done hundreds of approaches at night game but I've done only One approach at the grocery store before (I was nervous, I could even tell I had a shaky voice face palm)

Today, I went to the grocery store to pick up sushi real quick and didn't plan on approaching someone. While walking, I made an eye contact with this really cute young little college girl.
I just kept walking but had some good feeling. So I walked towards where she was and we ran into each other. I gave her little smile and she did too. But I kept walking again. Because of her little smile, I thought I had to do something.
I saw her walking towards produce section so instead of following her from behind, I walked around big circle to run into her. When we were close, I could tell she was lingering around.

I approached her by saying 'are you a good cook?' and talked about I don't know what to cook tonight and sushi I was holding. I finished conversation pretty soon and gave her my business coupon. Not sure, she will come to my store but I hope this would be a turning point

Post: #911

Loving your approaches, Gio.

Might not want to drop old-school references to young girls. It just throws off interactions.

Post: #912

Here are some of Wednesdays approaches:

I walk onto campus and immediately see a sexy Latina who I have spoken to before. She is walking right towards me. I lean in her direction, kind of wave my arm, and say..

me: hey how've you been?
her: hey good you?
me: great did you have a good summer?
her: ya just busy busy
me: you look great, are you still playing soccer?
her: no not as much as i'd like
me: well thats not good, you gotta play more
her: ya i work too much
me: i think i called you to play last year?
her: really i dont remember
me: ya we play on fridays right behind the rose garden
her: ya i heard
me: wanna come play sometime
her: if i can find the time
me: give me your number, ill call you when we play
her: well...umm
me: you have a man dont you?
her: ya
me: it will just be a friendly game
her: haha ok

She gave me her number but she's not interested. I don't care. I'm still gonna try. I've got nothing to lose. If she doesn't want me, she is gonna have to tell me that. I'm not gonna take myself out of the game.

Still, the chances I bang this girl are 0.0014

*****

I walk across campus, near the library, I see another cute Latina, young and thin. She is also walking right towards me. I time it so it appears that I about to enter the library just a she is passing by the entrance..

me: hey cool sweater
her: thanks
me: i have never seen one like that, where did you find it?
her: i got it online, its from korea
me: korea has some really cool stuff
her: ya they do
me: where are you from?
her: LA
her: norwalk
me: is that east la?
her: no
me: are you a freshman?
her: yes
me: how are doing so far?
her: ok
me: its a little scary huh?
her: a little
me: whats your name?
her: giavanna
me: no way! im giovonny
her: haha seriously
me: yes how funny, nice to meet you giavanna
her: you too giovonny
me: welcome to sf
her: thanks
me: its gonna be cold and the mexican food around here sucks
her: yes im learning that
me: lets exchange numbers, i will show you to the best little tacos places around here.
her: um ok

Texted her today -- "hey giavanna, nice meeting you, lets get some tacos soon -giovonny"

She didn't reply. Not a great sign but I will try again in 3-4 days.

Chances I bang this girl are probably not too good.

*****

An hour and a few rejections later, I am in front of the dorms, I see a beautiful young Latina, great skin, great body, perfect round athletic breasts...

She walks past me without noticing me, I turn and walk quickly in her direction, I pretend to be on my phone so she can hear my voice and get a feel for my personality and vibe, just as I pass her, I end my fake phone call and open her..

me: hey you look great
her: thanks
me: are you new around here?
her: yes
me: where are you from?
her: LA
me: oh cool, how do you like sf so far?
her: i love it
me: voce e brasiliera?
her: huh?
me: are you brasilian?
her: haha no do i look brazilian?
me: ya kind of, what are you?
her: mexican
me: oh im half mexican, the mex food around here sucks
her: really?
me: ya but i will show you good local places
her: haha
me: i gotta run to class but why don't you give me your number and ill text you soon
her: um.. well..i dont know..
me: listen i know its random but i will never see you again, i think you look really nice and i want to have a drink with you sometime..
her: well..ok

I texted her 10 minutes later-- "mucho gusto nayeli, you look really nice today -giovonny"

She texted me right back.

I banged her last night on the first date. In her dorm room.

Post: #913

This is my first daygame approach since the beginning of summer, ive been away from school and other people and it hampered my game. It wasn't a very good turnout and this following post is mainly documenting errors I made that others can hopefully learn from. I did get a FB close but.. Well fuck a FB close. LONG DETAILED POST WARNING.

Orientation day at XX So Cal college campus. 

Foreword: It was way eariler than I was accustomed to being up so my stomach got upset and started burbling by the time I got onto campus. 
I ended up having to find a bathroom QUICK to take a massive shit before I could I even LOOK at any girls much less approach or conversate. My stomach felt like imploding on itself and continued feeling off for quite some time after that. 

Because of my digestive difficulties I decided to hang back for a minute and note/screen potential targets while I got all my registration stuff done. Looking back, this actually hampered my whole day thereafter. The campus was brimming with confused freshmen and transfers mulling around aimlessly while they waited for orientation to begin. 

First target I noted was a FINE ass skinny white girl with giant milky natural tits in an army green tank top showing all sorts of cleavage. It looked like her nipples were fighting to get through the fabric. It shivered my timbers quite nicely. I later found out during the transfer presentation that she was coming in from University of Hawaii. We'll call her HB Hawaii. 
Although I noted lots of good potential targets HB Hawaii was the highest quality as of yet. 

As I rounded a corner through the hallway, the campus people directed all the transfer students (which is what I am) into the auditorium. I decided to hang back at a drinking fountain by the auditorium doors, which was a decent choke point to keep an eye on a potential congruent targets as they were walking in. 
   On my way there I noticed a girl parting ways with what looked like her dad. Cute petite white chick with striking blue eyes, but not quite as slutty-looking as HBHawaii. We'll call her HBdad. She was taking forever to say goodbye and I was about to be late so I walked into the auditorium. 
I noticed HB Hawaii off in the distance, and she had already developed two beta orbiter/white knights. Typical definition of white knights too; broadchested and totally bro white guys with flip flops and baseball caps. She seriously got me horny with those tits but I figured the set was too much trouble now with the brosefs. Ah well.. Onward.

  I was late so I found a seat quickly which was a bad decision. It was a shitty seat with no hot girls in my row or even remote vicinity. There was one alright chick, id say a 6 in the row in front of me and this beta was all over her leaning in like a mofo and fake smiling like an idiot. I was beginning to feel pretty upset by this point, both at myself and my cursed bowels.
**When you enter a classroom for the first time, plant yourself in the front of the room and scan the crowd like a hawk. Take your time before you sit down! Otherwise you have terrible classroom/lecture logistics and get stuck with the grenades and SIFs for all eternity. **

Presentation is over, its lunch time. All the students were directed to eat in the commons, a large cafeteria. This was my chance to escape my horrible seat and pounce.
I looked for hot girls sitting alone, as they struck me as the easiest targets. HBHawaii now had a large worship circle sitting around her at her table. Cleavage lol. HB dad was sitting alone looking rather morose and absolutely anchored to her phone. She was also sitting at a far corner table at the farthest away seat, away from the crowd. I approach the cafeteria line, while keeping an eye on the crowd. I decide if no better targets present themselves by the time I fill my plate, then I will walk up and sit down with HBDad. Even though she did have the approachability of a jagged rock..

At the end of the buffet table I see sitting in a far corner the HB6 that was being smothered by the beta, and an artsy chick who looked cute from the back. Artsy girl looked like a southern belle, with a cute white skirt and pretty brown eyes that had the color of raw amber. I got good vibes.
Target acquired. UAV online. 
I decide to pass on HBdad and approach their table instead.

Coming in from the side:

Afg: Hey, im gonna sit at your guys' table. You guys have a nice view of the campus below from here
HB6: Yup. I picked this table because of the nice view lol
Afg: Plus I figured this is where all the cool kids sit at
HBArtsy: Yeah right were not that cool!
*At this juncture as I sat down HBArtsy made strong eye contact and locked it for about 5 seconds. Smiles*
Afg: Nah cause you can see everybody in the cafeteria has their little cliques. You got the hot girls sitting over there *dramatically points off in the distance*, the muscle guys over there, the soccer players at the next table.. (I just keep categorizing the people around us in ridiculous ways. Both girls giggle at this and open up a little)
Afg: Thats why I came to this table. You guys have this cool artsy vibe and I figured this is my assigned clique, since thats basically what I do. (bait drop).
HBartsy: YOU'RE an artist? (she lights up)
I ignored her question
Afg: Where you guys coming from?
They start mentioning cities blahblah
Afg: No I mean what school
Girls: x school and y school
Afg: What kind of art do you guys make?
Girls: blahblah art and marketing bs
HBArtsy: How about you?
Afg: DHV story about my path in art and life

This goes down pretty well with HBArtsy, she is asking me lots of questions about my art major etc
HB6 is almost silent during this time. I would prod her with a question or tease her every few minutes just to keep her in the convo, even though HBArtsy was a lot hotter and seemed to like me more.

After some more random convo..

HBArtsy: blahblahblah my husband did X the other day
Afg: *shrug* Thats cool. *promptly changes subject*

A little later HB6 also brought up that she has a bf out in Oregon. Damn. Double-headed shit test. I needed to get them to stop talking about their men and more about themselves (or me).

Afg: Did you guys know that Ben Affleck will be the new batman?
Girls: Ewww/no/why/really?
Afg: I agree. Ben Affleck is more like me, a laid back dude that just is. I don't think I could pull off he Batman suit either. 
HBArtsy: Yeah but you're...like..balanced. Like your creative but you can also categorize things in a really methodical manner (I didn't know what to make of this. She actually repeated the same thing verbatim later in the convo)
Afg: You know what I like the most about art? It usually involves a good story behind whatever is being conveyed. People put a lot of emphasis on a good story, and if you think about it, most of what we admire and love in life involves a story behind it. People underestimate how powerfully a good story can tug on our emotions and affect us on the deepest level. Thats why I always try to have a good story about myself behind the art I make. 

Long pause with HBArtsy, as if shes taking in what I just said.
 During the entire conversation my EC with her was direct and I held it longer than I normally would. This seemed to go over well. 

Lunch is over, and before going back to the auditorium we're supposed to walk around and check out the various booths/tables for different clubs. For the first ~7 minutes of this both girls kinda follow me around, which I liked. But then they started checking out stupid tables and I didn't want to follow them around like a puppy so I broke off and tried chatting up a few other girls. Didn't make much ground unfortunately.

  As I walk back into the auditorium I realize that im late again! Not only that but the seats are all sat in and I dont see HB6 or HBArtsy anywhere! Dammit dammit dammit. 
  I take my time scanning the crowd this time. As im looking for a suitable target, I see a slender hand shoot up in the air off in the distance and start waving. It Artsy and 6! They actually saved me a seat. Im crossing the row and apologizing to each person as I saunter past them in that awkward way you have to do with lecture halls and theatres. 
  I made a loud comment about how everyone in the row is going to hate me when I have to get up to pee in 15 mins. This made everyone in the row laugh, including Artsy. There were 4 other girls I had to pass to reach them. I said to them that id better exit through the other side when I pee because they dont seem as mean over there. This got a good reaction from the 4 girls and I started to feel good.
 During the presentation I tried to be funny and keep it upbeat but it was difficult with the lecturer going. HBArtsy's body language started closing off slightly during this time and I took note and backed off a little. It was towards the end of the whole orientation, so everyone was pretty burned out.
 During the closing minutes of the lecture HBArtsy quietly grabbed a piece of paper from her notebook and jotted something down.
 HBArtsy: Hey, this is my facebook. Add me. There is a guy on there who is in the same study as you and if you go through my friends you can find him and check out his work. 
Afg: Word? That sounds cool. Ill check it out. 

*At this moment didn't feel that "I don't do/have fb give me your digits instead" would work in this situation since SHE closed ME out of the blue. The whole thing front to back was a really positive interaction and I didnt want to push it too far. I also felt that she wanted to keep any potential connection appearing cordial on accout of her husband. *

When orientation got out the girls had to ask the presenter questions and I needed to leave anyway. I tried to make a closing statement but they were both swept up in the post-lecture rush of people vying for the presenter's help. If I wanted to talk to them anymore I would have had to follow them down the steps to the front of the room, and wait for them to talk to the speaker, which I wasnt about to do. So I had to leave a bit unceremoniously unfortunately. im going to add artsy on my FB like right now. She doesn't know my name but gave me hers. 

How would you guys play this? I don't want to entertain a FB close but its better than nothing. She is married (only for 2 months as I found out during convo) so I could use some ideas. Sorry for the long post.

Post: #914

Gio, love your breakdowns. Always an inspiration. However, I have a question.

I have been doing street approaches lately. I find myself hesitant on approaching because of the (authority) eyes around me, eg in malls, campus etc. Sometimes I walk for hours without approaching because of this, although I understand that this is an irrational fear.

But in your breakdown, I'm surprised to see that you approach that many girls in a day and in a campus you frequent that much without catching any heat. I read a post on the forum that a member got reported by one of the girls he approached previously and got into trouble. Of course, the difference is that you are going direct and he was asking the same indirect question over and over.

That said, if someone sees you regularly and decides to hate on you, there could be a problem. Do you keep an eye on spectators or do you approach anyway regardless of your surroundings?

Post: #915

(08-31-2013 01:29 PM)Blon Wrote:  I find myself hesitant on approaching because of the (authority) eyes around me, eg in malls, campus etc. Sometimes I walk for hours without approaching because of this, although I understand that this is an irrational fear.

You walk around for hours without approaching because you are afraid someone is watching you???

This is a mild form of insanity.

You are creating imaginary problems in your head and these imaginary problems are effecting your perception of reality.

Many people in the modern, western world suffer from these types of neurosis and paranoia.

I recommend taking a break from civilization and getting out into nature for at least 72 hours.

You need to clear your head and return to your default natural state of mind.

Man sees woman -- Man approaches woman -- Nothing can be more natural then this!

This is how our species survived and evolved. This is life.

If you afraid to spread your genes, you are literally afraid to evolve.

(08-31-2013 01:29 PM)Blon Wrote:  I'm surprised to see that you approach that many girls in a day and in a campus you frequent that much without catching any heat.

I do catch heat. There are people who have noticed me.

But, I operate on large campuses.

I move to a new campus every few weeks.

I do take efforts to stay off people radar.

I like large universities because more people = more girls and less chance of detection.

Don't stay in one area, change your hunting ground.

(08-31-2013 01:29 PM)Blon Wrote:  Do you keep an eye on spectators or do you approach anyway regardless of your surroundings?

I always keep an eye on my environment. I am always aware of my surroundings.

I often abort approaches because too many people are watching and listening.

I am very careful, I don't want to get a reputation.

I go on to these campuses and I try to blend in as a student.

I have been practicing this for years.

You sound like you are trapped in your own head. Your problems are not external, they are internal.

Feel free to ask more questions, you ask good ones..

Post: #916

I am back to full strength!

I had a mini-relationship over the summer so my game atrophied a little bit.

When the new school year starting and thousands of girls coming back into my neighborhood, I wanted to get back into my flow of approaching hard everyday. I was determined to make it happen. I got it done!

I decided that I would approach 10 girls a day.

Most of them, I posted in this thread. Here are a few from last Friday:

A forum member and I were walking though the mall parking lot. 2 Latinas were walking in the middle of the street. A car was coming, they were just fooling around and didn't really see the car...

me: hey, get out of the street, you are gonna get hit by a car, are you girls crazy or what? (playfully with a big smile on my face)
her: omg!
me: good thing i was here to save you. if you got hit i would have to give you mouth to mouth CPR
her: haha

I gently touch the girls arm and guide her onto the sidewalk..

me: whats the matter with you guys? are you on drugs? (jokingly)
her: lol no
me: you not from around here are you?
her: no, we're from the valley

At this point the other forum member is having another conversation with the other girl. She was way hotter and his type so I decided that I would just be a good wingman and occupy the other chick while he gamed the cute one.

I playfully chatted with my chick while he playfully chatted with his chick.

Next thing I know he grabs my girl and gives her a salsa spin.

Things are going well and without much effort we exchange numbers and the girls invite us to a house party later. We approach a few more girls, workout, have dinner but eventually they flake on us.

Maybe my buddy can get the other girl out on a date but it might be a long shot.

*****

We walk onto a college campus and immediately I see a nice Russian girl. I don't hesitate...

me: excuse me, let me tell you something really quick
her: huh?
me: you look really nice today, are you from london?
her: no
me: its the way you dress, where are you from?
her: im from russia
me: oh ya, i cant wait to visit, how long have you been here?
her: oh about 4 years
me: do you like it?
her: yes i love it

Blah, blah, blah

me: listen, i have to go but why don't you give me your number and we can grab a drink sometime
her: oh thats ok no thank you

*****

We are having dinner. We see a young cutie about to leave the restaurant. Its a tough situation but I decide to go for it..

I time it so I get to the door just as she is about to leave. I enter thru the right door and with my left foot I block the other door that she is pushing on to exit..

me: whats up cutie
her: hi
me: you nice today
her: im only 17

I remove my foot and let her leave.

*****

This year, I'm going to a whole nother level!

Post: #917

What's up guys. I've been lurking the forum for a couple months now. I've learned a lot over the past year since swallowing the red pill. Back in 05'-06' I started doing PUA stuff mostly focusing on daygame. I was the guy running around on campus stopping girls to tell them they're cute and try to continue from there. Got one lay(almost SNL) out of that from doing over 100 approaches. I think I might have developed a (bad) reputation on campus because I was mostly approaching cute Asian girls.

Anyways, I never really had a girlfriend so I got into a relationship that last about 3 months. She broke it off because I got too needy which left me heartbroken like a beta chump. Then I ran an almost perfect game on this freshman and she fell for me hard. She agreed to whatever arrangement(fuck buddy) I wanted. At first it seemed great at first but then I got lazy and she wanted more like all girls. Then I proceeded to have a 3-year relationship with her which left my soul drained out of me. By the end I was not like myself at all, all of the improvements I had gained vanished, I was an empty vessel. I tried to end things with her but cried like a little bitch when I did. I broke up with her immediately after I read Manipulated Man which put me on this red pill journey. I instinctively knew she was going to break up with me sooner or later.

After I moved out of our place (she still owes me $2000), I moved back with my parents. For 3 years, I didn't really game or anything. Just focused on working out and building my business. Now I finally moved out to a place on my own, I can finally get some freedom. I got some time and money so the only thing holding me back is my own self doubt and beliefs.

I'm doing 3 approaches every day to get back the hang of things. Any tips or feedbacks are much appreciated.

Here are some approaches I did yesterday.

I was sort of excited and nervous at the same time determined to do approaches. Despite my inability to do any approaches last week on campus, I still wanted to do my first approach and pop my cherry again so to speak. I went to an outdoor mall to begin my approach. There weren't that many people there. I guess everyone already did their shopping over the labor day weekend. I walked around and I got a call from my client. As I was on the phone, I was a really cute blonde with revealing clothes walking on the other side of the street. After I got off the phone, without any hesitation, I walked across the street and ran after her.

I did the Yad stop and opened her.

Me: Excuse me, can I tell you something really quick.
Her: (She seemed surprised) Yeah.
Me: I was just on the phone with my friend and I saw you across the street. I wanted to say that you look really nice.
Her: Thanks.
Me: You look like you are referee going to a game. (Black stripe shorts with low cut white top)
Her: I'm just shopping.
Me: You haven't bought anything yet?
Her: No, I'm just looking around.
Me: You look like you are looking for a new purse or a new pair of shoes.
Her: No, I'm not shopping for anything in particular, just looking.
Me: Ok…. Later.

She didn't seem interest through what she was saying but she did kept playing with her hair a lot. Either she's nervous or she's interested. I did have trouble breathing. Either I was too nervous with my first approach or because I was running a little. I should have kept going with different topic or just ask for her number.

Then I went to a community college. I walked around the campus and lost two opportunities to approach. My excuse were there were some people around and the scene was quiet so everyone can hear me. I sat down at a bench and browsed my phone. Another client called and I scanned for cute girls. I finished my call but lost my chance because everyone went to class already. As I was walking to my car, I see a cute blonde walking towards me to campus. I decided to approach her.

We were about to cross path on the street with a car trying to cross between us. I stopped and said excuse me. She didn't hear me or pretended not to. I tapped her on her arm. By the time she turned around, she was on the sidewalk and I was on the street. I walked back and signed to her to take her earbuds off.

Me: Can I tell you something really quick?
Her: (Looked a bit pissed off) What?
Me: You look really nice today.
Her: Thank you.
Me: I think it's her style. You have a white dress and your black belt really matches it. (Doing the Aaron Roger pose)
Her: That's so sweet. Have a nice day.
Me: You too.

Not the ideal situation. I didn't stop her in her tracks and I had to turn around to talk to her. She didn't seem interested anyways.

I left the campus and went to B&N. I saw a cute girl looking for a place to sit but didn't open her. As I was about to leave I saw a cute Asian girl going down the escalator. I noticed her bright pink Nike shoes. She paused a table to organize her stuff. I went straight in.

Me: Hey, I love those shoes.
Her: Thanks. I love them too.
Me: They really stand out from the crowd. You get a lot of attention of them.
Her: Yeah they do. But that's not why I got them.
Me: Where did you get them?
Her: A friend bought them for me at the outlet mall.
Me: Your friend knows your shoe size?
Her: Yeah. He saw them and bought them for me.
Me: You should have a checklist for items you want to buy. I want a shirt, pants…
Her: Lol. He likes to buy stuff for me.
Me: (Pause) Alright. Later.
Her: Bye.

I ran out of stuff to go on. She seemed interested and wanted to continue the conversation. I actually I think I made it awkward not to continue or even just ask for her number. Thinking back, I could have kept it going by clowning on her friend or switch to a different topic like what are you doing here?

I noticed that the topics don't really matter as much as the vibe I'm presenting. I can see why the indirect-direct approach works the best during the day like Gio said. I'm going to try to do more approaches that way.

Post: #918

One from this weekend..

I was at the mall in downtown SF with another forum member. I was not "in state". I was very thirsty. I needed to buy a shirt. I was wearing a wife beater with a cardigan sweater over it. Not the look I wanted as I was literally on my way to the store to buy a new shirt.

I was not ready to start gaming yet, I needed to take a piss..

Of course, I see a cute girl standing by herself texting. Young, thin, maybe half asian-half white.. I walk past her slowly..

me: are you getting any reception down here?
her: huh?
me: how is the wifi signal down here?
her: oh ya sorry
me: is everything ok?
her: ya i just had a brain fart
me: oh haha that must be an important text
her: no not really no big deal
me: how is your shopping going today?
her: im actually getting ready for work
me: oh here in the mall?
her: ya forever 21
me: oh cool i like that store

Blah, blah, blah...

We chat for a good 10 minutes about food, our nationalities, San Francisco, etc.

We talk a little about food. I sense some attraction..

me: hey i gotta run but is nice chatting with you, lets exchange numbers and get korean bbq sometime.
her: ok

I also got rejected about 5 times on this day but I never post my rejections!

Post: #919

(09-04-2013 09:21 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  What's up guys. I've been lurking the forum for a couple months now. I've learned a lot over the past year since swallowing the red pill. Back in 05'-06' I started doing PUA stuff mostly focusing on daygame. I was the guy running around on campus stopping girls to tell them they're cute and try to continue from there. Got one lay(almost SNL) out of that from doing over 100 approaches. I think I might have developed a (bad) reputation on campus because I was mostly approaching cute Asian girls.

Anyways, I never really had a girlfriend so I got into a relationship that last about 3 months. She broke it off because I got too needy which left me heartbroken like a beta chump. Then I ran an almost perfect game on this freshman and she fell for me hard. She agreed to whatever arrangement(fuck buddy) I wanted. At first it seemed great at first but then I got lazy and she wanted more like all girls. Then I proceeded to have a 3-year relationship with her which left my soul drained out of me. By the end I was not like myself at all, all of the improvements I had gained vanished, I was an empty vessel. I tried to end things with her but cried like a little bitch when I did. I broke up with her immediately after I read Manipulated Man which put me on this red pill journey. I instinctively knew she was going to break up with me sooner or later.

After I moved out of our place (she still owes me $2000), I moved back with my parents. For 3 years, I didn't really game or anything. Just focused on working out and building my business. Now I finally moved out to a place on my own, I can finally get some freedom. I got some time and money so the only thing holding me back is my own self doubt and beliefs.

I'm doing 3 approaches every day to get back the hang of things. Any tips or feedbacks are much appreciated.

Here are some approaches I did yesterday.

I was sort of excited and nervous at the same time determined to do approaches. Despite my inability to do any approaches last week on campus, I still wanted to do my first approach and pop my cherry again so to speak. I went to an outdoor mall to begin my approach. There weren't that many people there. I guess everyone already did their shopping over the labor day weekend. I walked around and I got a call from my client. As I was on the phone, I was a really cute blonde with revealing clothes walking on the other side of the street. After I got off the phone, without any hesitation, I walked across the street and ran after her.

I did the Yad stop and opened her.

Me: Excuse me, can I tell you something really quick.
Her: (She seemed surprised) Yeah.
Me: I was just on the phone with my friend and I saw you across the street. I wanted to say that you look really nice.
Her: Thanks.
Me: You look like you are referee going to a game. (Black stripe shorts with low cut white top)
Her: I'm just shopping.
Me: You haven't bought anything yet?
Her: No, I'm just looking around.
Me: You look like you are looking for a new purse or a new pair of shoes.
Her: No, I'm not shopping for anything in particular, just looking.
Me: Ok…. Later.

She didn't seem interest through what she was saying but she did kept playing with her hair a lot. Either she's nervous or she's interested. I did have trouble breathing. Either I was too nervous with my first approach or because I was running a little. I should have kept going with different topic or just ask for her number.

Then I went to a community college. I walked around the campus and lost two opportunities to approach. My excuse were there were some people around and the scene was quiet so everyone can hear me. I sat down at a bench and browsed my phone. Another client called and I scanned for cute girls. I finished my call but lost my chance because everyone went to class already. As I was walking to my car, I see a cute blonde walking towards me to campus. I decided to approach her.

We were about to cross path on the street with a car trying to cross between us. I stopped and said excuse me. She didn't hear me or pretended not to. I tapped her on her arm. By the time she turned around, she was on the sidewalk and I was on the street. I walked back and signed to her to take her earbuds off.

Me: Can I tell you something really quick?
Her: (Looked a bit pissed off) What?
Me: You look really nice today.
Her: Thank you.
Me: I think it's her style. You have a white dress and your black belt really matches it. (Doing the Aaron Roger pose)
Her: That's so sweet. Have a nice day.
Me: You too.

Not the ideal situation. I didn't stop her in her tracks and I had to turn around to talk to her. She didn't seem interested anyways.

I left the campus and went to B&N. I saw a cute girl looking for a place to sit but didn't open her. As I was about to leave I saw a cute Asian girl going down the escalator. I noticed her bright pink Nike shoes. She paused a table to organize her stuff. I went straight in.

Me: Hey, I love those shoes.
Her: Thanks. I love them too.
Me: They really stand out from the crowd. You get a lot of attention of them.
Her: Yeah they do. But that's not why I got them.
Me: Where did you get them?
Her: A friend bought them for me at the outlet mall.
Me: Your friend knows your shoe size?
Her: Yeah. He saw them and bought them for me.
Me: You should have a checklist for items you want to buy. I want a shirt, pants…
Her: Lol. He likes to buy stuff for me.
Me: (Pause) Alright. Later.
Her: Bye.

I ran out of stuff to go on. She seemed interested and wanted to continue the conversation. I actually I think I made it awkward not to continue or even just ask for her number. Thinking back, I could have kept it going by clowning on her friend or switch to a different topic like what are you doing here?

I noticed that the topics don't really matter as much as the vibe I'm presenting. I can see why the indirect-direct approach works the best during the day like Gio said. I'm going to try to do more approaches that way.

@ MiscV - I like your quoting of the words used, and description of your attempt to figure out how to improve your approach.

I would like to know a little more about your geographical area and the demography of the students - though of course, students are students, however, it may not make a considerable difference b/c some campuses will have different specialties and ratios of women to men, and things like that.

And, if you get various follow ups from the women, are you planning to tell them that you are taking classes or have another reason for being in the campus area?

Post: #920

Gio -

It always takes a while to do my first approach. I get stuck in my head too much. And the killer Texas sun is not helping either. Not fun walking, sweating trying to approach girls. Any tips on overcoming it?

Jay -

I'm in Austin. We have a good mix of students here. I think there are more women here than men. And it's a pretty liberal city. Like Gio, I tell them I'm a grad student here. If they push, I tell them I'm doing part time EE grad.

Here are some approaches from yesterday:

Today I went to UT campus to do some day game. For more than an hour I couldn't for the life of me open a single girl. There were a lot of girls to be opened for sure. After walking around in the scorching sun of Texas. Finally I just wanted to get it over with and go home. I finally decided to approach.

I saw a cute Asian girl walking in the distance away. I sped up my walking pace until I was next to her. I looked at her shoes and made a comment.

Me: I like your shoes.
Me: They look like modern Roman gladiator shoes.
Her: Thanks. (She didn't stop and I walked along with her)

I finally stopped and she stopped too. She said she has to go but I just continued the conversation. I asked her about her ethnicity, major, year, etc. She seemed really nervous (maybe because she's a freshman or my vibe was off). When I asked her for her number, she hesitated. I pulled out my phone and told her to enter her number. She said I don't give out my number to stranger.

I noticed her body language is a bit closed off and we had a distance between us when we were talking. I tried to encroach a little by stepping in a bit as it was making me uncomfortable talking from a distance.

I saw a blonde walked towards me with sunglasses and earbuds on. I tried the Paul Janka move.

Me: Excuse me.
Her: (Smiled but didn't hear me and took her earbuds off) I'm sorry.
Me: Do you know where the student union is?
Her: Umm… If you walk North.. (she sounded unsure)
Me: You sound unsure. Should I even trust you?

Then she went on about it by pointing out where it was based on the main building. I knew where it was but she didn't. I didn't even want to transition out of the topic so I just went on.

I saw a brunette standing out sidewalk (didn't know she was eating). I noticed she had a tattoo of the number 20 on her left leg. I went up to her and asked.

Me: Did you just turn 20?
Her: Oh, no. I was in group 20 when I competed in the triathlon this weekend.
Her: This a temporary tattoo. But it's really hard to get it off.
Me: Like those tattoos for kids.
Her: Yeah. I had to scrub off the one on my arm.
Me: How did you do?

We went on and talked about how she did and what each event was. We talked for about a good 3-5 minutes. Then she said she had to go to class. I didn't ask for her number.

Post: #921

(09-04-2013 09:21 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I can see why the indirect-direct approach works the best during the day like Gio said.

Yes, this is the best way to approach!

"Indirect-Direct"!

It's genius!

I would love to join you one day at The University of Texas!

Good work. Keep it up.

(09-05-2013 09:41 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  Gio -

It always takes a while to do my first approach. I get stuck in my head too much. And the killer Texas sun is not helping either. Not fun walking, sweating trying to approach girls. Any tips on overcoming it?

I do a few things on hot summer days..

-Approach when the sun is not so hot -- (Before 12pm - After 4pm)
-Wear comfortable clothing
-Stay hydrated, drink cold drinks
-Stay in the shade

And, most importantly, game in the air conditioned parts of the school.

Here is what I do when I am over-heating...

I sit in the shade drinking water or in an air conditioned part of campus; I wait to see a girl that I want to approach. When I see a girl I want to approach, I get up and approach her. Afterwards, I return to the shade and wait for the next girl to walk by.

If you are "stuck in your own head" then you are probably hesistating and thinking. Don't think, don't hesitate. When you see a girl you like, just go and do your approach.

Girls come from outside your head, not inside.

You simply have to be more brave.

Less thinking, more instinctive, primal reactions.

Post: #922

(09-05-2013 01:24 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(09-04-2013 09:21 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I can see why the indirect-direct approach works the best during the day like Gio said.

Yes, this is the best way to approach!

"Indirect-Direct"!

It's genius!

I would love to join you one day at The University of Texas!

Good work. Keep it up.

(09-05-2013 09:41 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  Gio -

It always takes a while to do my first approach. I get stuck in my head too much. And the killer Texas sun is not helping either. Not fun walking, sweating trying to approach girls. Any tips on overcoming it?

I do a few things on hot summer days..

-Approach when the sun is not so hot -- (Before 12pm - After 4pm)
-Wear comfortable clothing
-Stay hydrated, drink cold drinks
-Stay in the shade

And, most importantly, game in the air conditioned parts of the school.

Here is what I do when I am over-heating...

I sit in the shade drinking water or in an air conditioned part of campus; I wait to see a girl that I want to approach. When I see a girl I want to approach, I get up and approach her. Afterwards, I return to the shade and wait for the next girl to walk by.

If you are "stuck in your own head" then you are probably hesistating and thinking. Don't think, don't hesitate. When you see a girl you like, just go and do your approach.

Girls come from outside your head, not inside.

You simply have to be more brave.

Less thinking, more instinctive, primal reactions.

That would be awesome! I would pull out the red carpet for you.

Thanks for tip Gio. I will use less energy and approach when there is an opportunity instead of walking around the campus.

I think the main reason I'm stuck in my head is I'm being outcome dependent, wanting an reaction from the girl, which I know is bad. Also I care too much of what other people think around me when I approach, especially when there is a lot of people around.

Those are the two biggest sticking points I have right now is become outcome independent (just expressing myself) and not giving a shit about what other people thinks.

Post: #923

(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I think the main reason I'm stuck in my head is I'm being outcome dependent, wanting an reaction from the girl

Good self-analysis. You have identified your sticking point. Now, try to fix it..

Let me offer my advice on this..

THIS IS ABOUT YOU. This is not about the girl. The girl presents an opportunity for you to become more authentic in who you are. It doesn't matter how she reacts. What matters is the fact that you do the approach with courage. If you do that, you have succeeded.

As a beginner, you are not approaching for sex, you are approaching for the practice of facing your fears. Sex is a by-product of this fear elimination. When you have removed your fear of talking to women, sex will come.

The outcome does not matter, being brave is all that matters.

Approach for your own personal development. Approach to get in touch with your masculine powers. Some girls will like you, some won't. It doesn't matter as long as your get stronger with each approach.

In time, you will become more and more attractive to girls as your fear dissolves and your inner confidence grows.

Numbers, dates, and bangs are not the goal. Fearlessness is..

(09-06-2013 09:17 AM)MiscVs Wrote:  I care too much of what other people think around me when I approach, especially when there is a lot of people around.

Yeah, this is a tough one. I also get a little embarrassed if a lot of people can see and hear me approach a girl.

I have learned to talk quietly but loud enough that the girl can hear me. I often approach a girl in a crowd but I keep calm and speak in a soft voice. Many times, the people around don't know what I'm taking about. They see me talking to her but maybe they think that we already know each other.

I will just walk right up to her and softly say -- "excuse me, can I tell you something, you look nice today, are you European?"

She will most likely smile and laugh and it will not look strange at all because people only see us smiling and laughing.

I also try really hard to catch girls while they are walking or sitting by themselves so that no one will be able to hear what I'm saying.

If a girl is in a crowd of people, I will often wait until she leaves the crowd and is in a better position for me to approach.

Post: #924

I am happy with my result today. Just broke the assumption I had during the whole time I was sitting right in front of her and the assumption most guys will have, whey they are near cute girls they want to talk to.

'I don't think she would want to talk to me. She doesn't even look at me. I would maker her feel uncomfortable. I should leave her alone'

I saw this very cute chick, dressed very fashionable who seemed very quiet and shy.

I sat in front of her in this communal table at this coffee shop. I was pretending doing some websurfing with my phone. She obviously knew I was there. I tried to make eye contacts but she seemed very cold and was only focusing on her laptop. (Like how I would act when I am next to some guy, old woman or unattractive young girl)
Coughing, laughing at the phone and waving my hand to get rid of flies didn't catch her attention.
(usually, they kind of look at you and you can make eye contacts and give some smile)

I figured this girl wouldn't want to talk to me and I shouldn't bother her.

But I wasn't 100% sure. She seemed like one of those shy at first girls. I used to be shy like that too.
Some of my friends said they felt I didn't want to socialize. I was just shy.......
So I kind of guessed she might have personalities like I did. Just being shy with a stranger....

I was going to say 'hey, are you American?' (she has northern european looks)
(Btw, if you like stylish girls who seem like they came from europe, this is a good opener)

'hey'
'hi ' her cold, poker face turned into a warm, smiley face right away. I call this 'christmas light effect'
'can I ask you a question?'
'sure'
'actually I just figured out'
'???'
'I was going to say if you were American but I heard your accent and I know you are an American'
'LOL where did you think I was from?'
'I say norway or sweden. especially that bangs you have, a lot of swedish girls have the same style'

So the conversation continued. I gave her my number. she txted me later when I got home.

So bottom line, you never know how those girls will react when you just say 'hey'
You can't just rely on girls who will give you a warm invitation.

Plus, saying 'hey' and talking about something common is not a crime.
(this is my daily coffee shop and I can't hit on girls like I am at a bar. If I throw an indirect opener to a girl, she and people around her obviously know what I am doing. But it's not something they can 100% claim 'he is just trying to pick up chicks'. so I don't think there would be any risk approaching in such ways.)

Post: #925

I did an approach today and secured the girl's digits. As we were wrapping up, she stuck out her hand for a handshake. I brushed it aside and said "handshakes are for interviews, let's do this the proper way" and gave her a hug. She giggled and said "that's so sweet."

I think I'm going to use that line again.