Post: #1

I dated this girl at my college for a little over a year and she eventually dumped me in the spring because I was clingy and needy. I have since learned game and improved my look, resulting in more self-confidence.

We are both currently away from university as we are both studying abroad. I have been dating the girl here, along with getting with another girl on the side. There are a decent amount of pictures of me and a girl that I have been dating on Facebook. She is a little better looking than my ex.

Out of the blue, this ex sends me an e-mail the other day basically saying “how are you, it looks like you are having a good time abroad from the pictures, hope all is well.”

What do I do? We left on bad terms and I told her to not talk to me again, which was about six months ago. I am thinking of replying with basically all is well and bust on her for stalking me, keeping it short and simple. I want to show her that I am indifferent to her and it seems by not replying it shows that I am still upset.

I also go to a relatively small school (3,000 students), so I will run into her in the spring. I will not be staying together with the girl I am currently dating. I probably do not want to get back together with the ex if she wanted to, although I am not entirely sure.

Post: #2

From your text, it is not clear (to me, at least) if you are talking about 3 girls: ex, new gf and a fb on the side.
-Are both you and your Exgf at the same place (abroad) right now?

Your case is book-text common, I would answer her shortly and succintly and leave it at that. She will probably reply again and ask more details and then you decide what is next. But don't go over the moon, she is just curious, not stalking or wanting you, that is how girls are, specially young ones.

If you improved your game and "confidence" then you should keep at gaming, you are college aged, so you don't need any woman, just play all of them until you get tired or meet a very special one (those that don't exist hehe)

Post: #3

When I broke up with my girlfriend I completely disconnected myself from her and it's probably the best thing I've done for myself since the relationship. Right after we broke up, we both went on a sort of rampage trying to make each other jealous. I decided the best way to move forward wasn't to play these games anymore, and to just move on and block her from my life.

Post: #4

Well look at that.

Now you're looking good and got a few interesting stories to tell and she's back on your dick.

Read the other dudes info about female jealousy. To hell with this girl, but let that jealousy run wild. Especially in your little 3000 person environment. I live on an island and work the "everybody knows everybody" angle every day.

Have a crazy ex or two, chicks love that.

Aloha!

Post: #5

My suggestion: "I'm doing great, thanks! Take care."

Post: #6

Why even say anything? Just ignoring it will be much more powerful and effective.

I had this happen to me one time and I just ignored the bitch's message. We ran into each other some time later and she was all like I sent you a message why didn't you respond. I was all like oh man I've been hella busy (fucking other bitches) and got a lot going on right now. Well it's nice seeing you I hope you're doing well.

Wait for it. Wait for the right moment then rub that shit in good. It'll drive her crazy.

Post: #7

(11-22-2009 08:09 PM)Roosh Wrote:  My suggestion: "I'm doing great, thanks! Take care."

+1 .. move on dude

Post: #8

Ignoring the email sends a stronger message than responding with some generic nonsense. I'd send what Roosh wrote with an additional sentence discussing the weather and how swamped with homework you are just to make it more impersonal.

Post: #9

It doesn't matter what you send her back, or if you send anything at all. You want to show her you're indifferent to her? Then actually be indifferent to her. You want to show her you're indifferent to her to make yourself feel better, but it won't make you feel as good as actually being indifferent to her, no matter what she thinks.

Post: #10

Ignore (Silent treatment)...and she will be wondering rest of her LIFE what exactly happened to you.

Trust me...

Post: #11

(11-25-2009 01:54 AM)charmer Wrote:  Ignore (Silent treatment)...and she will be wondering rest of her LIFE what exactly happened to you.

Trust me...

The only reason for him to give two shits about what she wonders for the rest of her life would be that he was still into her or in loooove. In which case your response should be to come over for a glass of wine to catch up.

You don't owe her anything nor vice versa, be mature, polite and continue your life. I fucking hate when X's, especially the ones who break it off with ME try to come back.

Post: #12

Answer: Hi, I'm doing great. Hv. a nice day.

Keep her in your shelf, u know. Don`t be rude. there is no need for that, but take the control of the situation. And, if u move one some day, probably u might hv casual sex wth her and no guilty.

(teaching a guy to be an asshole... that's is different... lol)

Post: #13

If you didn't give a shit you wouldn't respond. Short and stupid will make you look bad. So your options are a detailed message dictating how much fun you are having or ignoring.

Nothing in between. "Have a nice day" is stupid - shows you care.

If I were you, I'd ignore. But since you cared for her, you are going to respond, so my advice is rise over the fray and act like its all good. On the second message you send to her after the reply, mentionthe chick you are baning.....always a plus

Post: #14

have a nice day = I'm finishing this conversation.