Post: #3276

Great work kosko.

I'll never forget a conversation I had with my college girlfriend.

One of her roommates had a relationship that was constantly "on the fritz." See, the roommate...we'll call her Lisa, always had low self esteem, naturally, as part of her personality. Her boyfriend, Jim...he had erectile dysfunction.

Low self esteem girl + soft dick guy = big issues

Even though Jim claimed it wasn't because of her...Lisa couldn't help but think that she wasn't attractive enough to make Jim hard. When you can't get hard, you don't have regular sex, and the relationship crumbles even more.

One day I was soaking up the post coital bliss with my girlfriend. We could hear Lisa & Jim arguing down the hall, Lisa in tears from not having sex. My girlfriend turns to me and says, "You know...you've never had issues getting it up. That makes me feel really good."

It was then that I knew I had to continue avoiding porn to keep my erectile strength. I'm a serious horn dog now and I don't care because I know girls enjoy it. Sometimes a strong breeze is enough to get me up when I'm with a sexy girl...I'll put her hand on it just so she knows what's up

Post: #3277

If you've been on it a while you have to start and stop a ton, I feel like you blow so fast even with a hat

Post: #3278

I made it to 41 days without watching porn and 42 days of no fap and then I blew it (pun intended).

This isn't my fist time of nofap. However, it is the first time I really cut out the porn. The other times I was on nofap I would sometimes edge and still look at porn.

Anyhow, I really made progress this time compared to the other times I did nofap. I had more morning woods and my erections were stronger than the other times I did nofap.

So, the main point - which is nothing new if you have been reading this thread - is that porn is the real culprit. Masturbating is ok. However, I am still going to abstain from it.

Post: #3279

78 Day NoP streak after a previous fail.

If you fall off the wagon, get back on fellas!

Post: #3280

Just started recording the 2 different targets of noporn and no fap as I had been recording it as 1 thing before. The no porn is going well and doing much better on that. Used a browser blocker which only takes 20 seconds to get round but being lazy that extra effort has helped me abstain more easily.

The no fap is still causing issues. Had to reset again yesterday.

Post: #3281

Went 7 days without looking at porn and then 9 days with nofap.

Had sex yesterday and noticed that I could feel way more, and came without having to finish myself off, for the first time in 3 years. Then later couldn't resist looking at the porn I saw earlier and fapped twice to it - but made conscious effort to not use death-grip and found I didn't need to.

I plan on configuring my settings to block all porn on my computer. Anybody know a good way for that?

Anyhoo - back on the wagon I go.

G

P.S. In case I didn't say so earlier, I have two goals:

1) Completely eliminate porn from my life
2) All but eliminate fapping from my life so, at least for up to a year

Purpose - rewire my brain and reward circuits (dopamine), and get rid of my porn-afflicted E-D before it gets a chance to become a permanent condition.

Post: #3282

(08-16-2017 07:00 AM)Geomann180 Wrote:  Went 7 days without looking at porn and then 9 days with nofap.

Had sex yesterday and noticed that I could feel way more, and came without having to finish myself off, for the first time in 3 years. Then later couldn't resist looking at the porn I saw earlier and fapped twice to it - but made conscious effort to not use death-grip and found I didn't need to.

I plan on configuring my settings to block all porn on my computer. Anybody know a good way for that?

Anyhoo - back on the wagon I go.

G

P.S. In case I didn't say so earlier, I have two goals:

1) Completely eliminate porn from my life
2) All but eliminate fapping from my life so, at least for up to a year

Purpose - rewire my brain and reward circuits (dopamine), and get rid of my porn-afflicted E-D before it gets a chance to become a permanent condition.

K9 can easily be configured and is free but you might feel that it blocks too many other sites that you need access to. http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

If you are a Chrome user then you could just install a plugin like "Block Sites" from the Chrome store and then add your porn sites to that.

Using Block Sites myself and it is easy to disable but I find that little extra effort really helps.

Post: #3283

Relapsed

Post: #3284

Been on the no fap wagon since the beginning of August and still going strong. The first 2 weeks were mostly smooth ride with no hiccups but in the last few days I’ve been feeling the struggle. Today I had hit an especially difficult roadblock. While I was reading I started getting hit with this huge wave of horniness. I’ve felt this same sensation the other times I’ve attempted no fap, particularly around the 2 week mark but the intensity of what came over me was especially strong and potent to the point where the effect wasn’t just mental but also physical. I felt this strange energy pulsating and burning through out my entire body; the best way I could describe what this energy felt like was a duller version of icy hot. It pretty much ruined my concentration so I went for a quick walk around the block. I felt like a drunkard while walking,; the force that was inside me was so overwhelming both mentally and physically that I had to consciously keep my balance and tell myself to walk in a straight line.

I got back and immediately started praying to God. My prayer was that I knew my own will and strength wasn’t sufficient as proved by the many times I’ve tried to overcome similar situations with my own power and failed and that I needed His strength in order to resist. I had a small Bible containing just the New Testament plus Proverbs and Psalms which I opened and started reading. While doing all of this I was at the height of my horniness and it felt like I would succumb but gradually I managed to throw off what was afflicting me. What at first was my urges dragging me off to where it wanted to go turned into a tug of war and then eventually the feelings completely subsided.

The main point I want to emphasize with this is that if you are on the wagon you need to realize that during the times where temptations are strongest is that these feelings will leave eventually. I think lots of people give up because they figure the urges will last until they get release so that they might as well just give in but it’s just plain out not true. If you resist eventually there will be relief. If you drop two guys off in a desert and tell one that a helicopter will come in 3 hours to pick him up and don’t tell anything to the other guy who do you think is more likely to just give up and lay down and die? A lot of guys that fail I bet probably have the mentality of the latter rather then of the guy who knows that help will come if he waits.

Post: #3285

(08-19-2017 12:56 AM)Wutang Wrote:  Been on the no fap wagon since the beginning of August and still going strong. The first 2 weeks were mostly smooth ride with no hiccups but in the last few days I’ve been feeling the struggle. Today I had hit an especially difficult roadblock. While I was reading I started getting hit with this huge wave of horniness. I’ve felt this same sensation the other times I’ve attempted no fap, particularly around the 2 week mark but the intensity of what came over me was especially strong and potent to the point where the effect wasn’t just mental but also physical. I felt this strange energy pulsating and burning through out my entire body; the best way I could describe what this energy felt like was a duller version of icy hot. It pretty much ruined my concentration so I went for a quick walk around the block. I felt like a drunkard while walking,; the force that was inside me was so overwhelming both mentally and physically that I had to consciously keep my balance and tell myself to walk in a straight line.

I got back and immediately started praying to God. My prayer was that I knew my own will and strength wasn’t sufficient as proved by the many times I’ve tried to overcome similar situations with my own power and failed and that I needed His strength in order to resist. I had a small Bible containing just the New Testament plus Proverbs and Psalms which I opened and started reading. While doing all of this I was at the height of my horniness and it felt like I would succumb but gradually I managed to throw off what was afflicting me. What at first was my urges dragging me off to where it wanted to go turned into a tug of war and then eventually the feelings completely subsided.

The main point I want to emphasize with this is that if you are on the wagon you need to realize that during the times where temptations are strongest is that these feelings will leave eventually. I think lots of people give up because they figure the urges will last until they get release so that they might as well just give in but it’s just plain out not true. If you resist eventually there will be relief. If you drop two guys off in a desert and tell one that a helicopter will come in 3 hours to pick him up and don’t tell anything to the other guy who do you think is more likely to just give up and lay down and die? A lot of guys that fail I bet probably have the mentality of the latter rather then of the guy who knows that help will come if he waits.

Through my other bouts of NoFap I was hit HARD with those same feelings at about the two week point.

However I found that personally, I NEED some sort of energy spending activity during the day in order to sublimate that sexual energy into a usable source of energy. One of my jobs is really labor intensive. Carrying heavy shit a lot up and down stairs, working in no AC, etc. I find that this is the best relief to the horniness and urges. When I'm not at that job for a full day I make sure to go to the gym and lift some heavy ass weight. That way I just get rid of some of my energy. It may be placebo effect but thats just how it works for me.

My mind is brought to a concept that Zan Perrion wrote about in his book The Alabaster Girl. He talks about how it is important to "Show up as a man" in at least one aspect of life everyday. You approach a girl and she rejects you, I walk away smiling. Because I showed up as a man and I asked her to show up as a women. I did my part she didn't do hers. Just like lifting. Its hard work, and after I sweat my ass off in a hot sauna and freeze my ass off in a cold shower, same thing. I showed up as a man, using masculine energy to further develop my masculinity and do what mens primary primal function is; pick up and put down heavy shit.

Turn everything that you don't want to do into a positive attribute to get you where you want to be in life and you will never fail. I like to use the moniker "showed up as a man" for its wide use of range. There is motivation behind the phrase too.

Same thing goes for NoFap. You resisted the urge to give into your own body, therefore strengthening your mind even further. You most certainly showed up as a man that day.

Post: #3286

Relapsed. Got myself trapped in a loop of lustful thoughts about next weekend, which I'm about to spend with a girl after 1 month of not seeing her. I got extremely horny and decided that watching some hoes on instagram wouldn't be that much of a deal. Welp. Here I am. Aiming for 1 week.

Post: #3287

Cut out porn for at least a couple years now, after a friend spoke to me about his ED (even when he had a really hot gf, he needed porn to get it up).

Just broke my nofap streak of about 2 weeks last night and feel guilty as fuck.

One thing I've noticed since I started nofap is that I have less control over my orgasm than I did. I am still on board with the nofap train but am interested to hear other's experiences.

Do you do kegels? Should I start to edge?

It's tough to edge because most of the time I just bust my nut and then feel guilty afterwards.

Post: #3288

^ no, don't edge, don't do Kegels. Just fuck women. If you bust early, no big deal, she'll want round two. Or three. Or four. Or twelve.

Keep at it lad.

Post: #3289

(08-19-2017 02:19 PM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  Cut out porn for at least a couple years now, after a friend spoke to me about his ED (even when he had a really hot gf, he needed porn to get it up).

Just broke my nofap streak of about 2 weeks last night and feel guilty as fuck.

One thing I've noticed since I started nofap is that I have less control over my orgasm than I did. I am still on board with the nofap train but am interested to hear other's experiences.

Do you do kegels? Should I start to edge?

It's tough to edge because most of the time I just bust my nut and then feel guilty afterwards.

"Babe, you just turned me on so much something came over me. I'll be down for round two in a few minutes."

Make her wait patiently (or better yet have her make you a sandwich in the mean time(for recovery purposes)) until you get back on the horse again. It's a win win, your helping set frame with her by making her wait, and your turning her on even more by you not being able to control yourself when you're fucking her.

Post: #3290

(08-16-2017 07:00 AM)Geomann180 Wrote:  Went 7 days without looking at porn and then 9 days with nofap.

Had sex yesterday and noticed that I could feel way more, and came without having to finish myself off, for the first time in 3 years. .

Just wanted to highlight this post.

How many men are secretly having the same issue, where they can't finish without jerking themselves off? Desensitization

Or, how many guys can't fuck in condoms because their boner can't contain strength?

These issues are widely underreported because men don't want to admit failure in their willy.

The first step to fixing a problem, is admitting you have a problem, and I'm glad you're on board Geomann.

Now go enjoy busting in some girls mouth. It's a beautiful thing.

Post: #3291

One of the key understandings I've got from having multiple set-backs is that most of them come when I'm bored. Currently the following things have helped me to easily reach to the 14 day mark, something that would be tougher in the past:

1. Buying a PS4 and playing a game of FIFA when I'm bored, instead of watching porn.

2. Going out and smoking a ciggerate when real boredom sets in (I do realise smoking is not good but I'm a light smoker and have been so for almost a decade but its just that previously I never used them as a replacement for porn).

3. Buying a lock-box timer which I use to place my laptop charger in on the night I'm drinking as alcohol was almost a sure-shot trigger for me to relapse as all inhibitions just went away.

Post: #3292

Why no kegels?? Just starting my nop/nof journey, day 5. Back 5 or so yeqrs ago I use to do kegels all the time and the hardness of my erections was out of this world, even while desensitized from porn.



Posted by YoungBlade - Yesterday 02:25 PM
^ no, don't edge, don't do Kegels. Just fuck women. If you bust early, no big deal, she'll want round two. Or three. Or four. Or twelve.

Post: #3293

One important thing to note is that under 30, you make sperm every day.

After 30, you make sperm every (3) days. Fuck accordingly and keep tabs of this "cycle". Abusing sex is not the best idea for your prostate.

No fap challenge is easier to follow when you have regular sex. I don't think abstaining from it is going to make you enlightened. Everything in moderation. I built my business online this way. I'd need a fast relief and then I'm back to the grind again. Just don't let it hinder you from meeting girls in real life.

Speaking from my own experience, wasting sperm on pixels is the only real negative associated with pr0n.

Post: #3294

Nothing succeeds like success.. Yesterday, while casually browsing Facebook, I happened to come across a fitness model's photoshoot and even though she was covered fully, I got such a rock hard erection that just wouldn't go away no matter what I did...Don't remember the last time this happened without having to resort to porn..It just felt so awesome, as if something in my body has been healed and made me feel really powerful.

It also makes me realise that we should not feel too disappointed about relapses because let's say you relapse after a 20 day streak, somewhere your brain neural pathways did get stronger. I'm starting to see this as a game of averages. Multiple relapses also mean that on an average, you healed much more that what wold be the case if you never tried noporn at all.

And as years go by, this cumulative effect will start to show its positive effects. I started all this in july 2015 and since then must have relapsed more than 50 times, but ironically, I'm more confident of maintaining my current streak than ever before because I'm learning mroe about myself and can see the benefits.

So my advice would be to show a strong will but don't consider relapses as the absolute end. Instead see them as an end to a positive recovery phase, all of which is adding slowly to the result you desire. It takes the negative pressure off you and keeps the morale high.

Post: #3295

Lost it on Day 25.

The moment I broke I felt all my energy leave and started to get a lot of negative thoughts. Shit, it's like opening Pandora's Box.

Getting back on this asap.

Post: #3296

(08-25-2017 07:34 AM)Sanguine Wrote:  Lost it on Day 25.

The moment I broke I felt all my energy leave and started to get a lot of negative thoughts. Shit, it's like opening Pandora's Box.

Getting back on this asap.

Welcome brother. Keep that feeling in your memory for when you feel the urge again.

I broke my NoFap streak (to memories) and also looked at porn for around two minutes two weeks ago. I then had trouble staying hard for my 21YO girl. Coincidence? I think not.

Stay strong gents.

Post: #3297

Didn-t remember this was so difficult, 1 week in or so. Today is being hard, but the gym was a walk on the park, I killed that deadlift. Anyhow, I will have sex soon, so that is a relief.

Post: #3298

Successfully finished my no fap in August pledge. It's September 2 as I write this and I have no intention of stopping. Since I've had that huge attack that I described in my previous post on this thread I haven't had any big scares. The temptation is still there but much more easier to manage now that I know that I am able to resist the big temptations (with help from above). No flatlines or anything either. The last few days I've been reading more about flatlining since with the streak I'm on right now I'm currently in uncharted territory (my last personal best was about 3 weeks) and I'm wonder when the flatline will kick in,.

Post: #3299

The cliché question will come up again, even while in No Porn Tho, how often really should you fap? No girl at the moment and that is ticking me off. If I spend a week without fapping I go nuts. Sure, I should just try to get girls again but cumming in 1 minute as opposed to 30-40-50-1hr as I said before is embarassing.

Post: #3300

Went about 3 months clean. Now I'm a couple months back into watching most nights again. I noticed many benefits when I quit. Had more confidence, great self-esteem and a private feeling that I was superior because I had no dark secret anymore, something I knew many men around me would have.

Finding it hard to quit again.