Post: #1

I had a "two-day ONS" with this girl Thurs/Fri. Even though we spent more time fucking than actually conversing I guess she took a liking to me because she keeps texting me, mostly little things "how is your day going?", "how's your night so far?"

She's a cutie and really sweet to boot so I'd like to keep her in rotation, but I'm not used these sorts of texts. For one, I don't know if it's genuine interest/attraction, or it's a shit test (I suspect it is interest). But secondly, I don't want to deal her all the time...so what do I do?

Do I ignore most of them, and only text her when I want to hang out with her? In this case, will she lose interest?

Do I tell her straight up, "hey you text me when I'm at work or at the gym, please lay back a little?" (I think it's a little too early-on for this).

So far, I've borrowed some responses in a thread a created rather precipitously last week here, or I've answered kinda short responses, "good" when she texts "how is your day so far." But I'm kinda at a loss how to proceed in order to keep her in rotation but not take up too much of my time.

Post: #2

yeah had sex. its not a shit test.

ignore most, text when you want to hang.

Post: #3

Don't ignore them all, that'd be rude.

Dude - The dynamics after sex are COMPLETELY different than before sex. You don't have to prove anything anymore. Don't worry about trying to seem cool. She's not really testing you, IMO. After sex she chases you, and that's perfectly natural. Your only necessary DHV is great sex.

Don't ignore them all, but don't text her every day. Or take 12 - 24 hours to respond. Be cool, don't tell her to lay back, that'd be rude. Just be cool. And man, don't worry about being a little genuine. It's okay to let her know you like her. What's the point of connecting with a girl if you can't let your real self connect with her a little?

Post: #4

Don't be straight up unless you want it to be over with.

If you have to, say something like, "Easy tiger I'll be free on xx or yy." Increase the lag time between your texts so you aren't texting back and forth all day, she will just assume you're busy.

Post: #5

Tell her you just found out you have herpes and she should get tested.

Post: #6

You fucked her over the course of two days. I'd say she's interested. It isn't a shit test - she wants to see you again. If you want to keep her in the rotation, answer her texts at some point. Totally ignoring her is counterproductive to your goal of keeping her in play. Of course, the difficulty is that she's asking you open-ended questions, which could lead to a back and forth conversation via text, which is annoying if you're actually busy. Reply that you're doing good, blah, blah, and that you're in the middle of something so she'll hopefully get the hint. Then deal with her more extensively later.

Post: #7

(04-30-2012 08:09 PM)Gmac Wrote:  Don't be straight up unless you want it to be over with.

If you have to, say something like, "Easy tiger I'll be free on xx or yy." Increase the lag time between your texts so you aren't texting back and forth all day, she will just assume you're busy.

This is how I play it. Lag time between texts, and flat out ignore some of them, but not all.

Post: #8

She's probably lonely and interested. You may have banged her after a long dry spell.

Post: #9

How old are you?

(04-30-2012 07:47 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  I had a "two-day ONS" with this girl Thurs/Fri. Even though we spent more time fucking than actually conversing I guess she took a liking to me because she keeps texting me, mostly little things "how is your day going?", "how's your night so far?"

She's a cutie and really sweet to boot so I'd like to keep her in rotation, but I'm not used these sorts of texts. For one, I don't know if it's genuine interest/attraction, or it's a shit test (I suspect it is interest). But secondly, I don't want to deal her all the time...so what do I do?

Do I ignore most of them, and only text her when I want to hang out with her? In this case, will she lose interest?

Do I tell her straight up, "hey you text me when I'm at work or at the gym, please lay back a little?" (I think it's a little too early-on for this).

So far, I've borrowed some responses in a thread a created rather precipitously last week here, or I've answered kinda short responses, "good" when she texts "how is your day so far." But I'm kinda at a loss how to proceed in order to keep her in rotation but not take up too much of my time.

Post: #10

Thnx for the advice all. Helped me figure things out a lot