Senateguy
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Online Dating - Closing First Night
Anyone ever f-closed an online date on the first night? I can get my share of dates on sites like Match etc....but I always take it slow because that seems to have the most success. When I push it, they usually get scared away, but if i go out first date, don't touch them, lay back, become a challenge, i usually get a second date and then we are off.
But I'm starting to think that maybe i should just run higher numbers and try to close on the first date instead of doing the basic "meet-up" date that online dating seems to make famous. I have also noticed that even when i push hard on the second date, they get scared away and flake even if i have success. It's like i need to wait until date four to f-close in order to build enough comfort and keep them from freaking out.
For instance, last night, went out with this chick from eastern Europe and we grabbed a drink, but I kept it short and ended the date early so I can create some challenge. I'm pretty sure I have the second date locked up and that's where I'll move more phsycial, but I was just curious if there are guys out there that try to close dates online on the first night and if they had success?
I know in Roosh's book Bang he says to push hard early, but I feel like online dating is a bit different than getting some chicks number in the open and then setting up a date.
What do you think?
(This post was last modified: 04-02-2012 10:39 AM by Senateguy.)
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Gmac
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RE: Online Dating - Closing First Night
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Hotwheels
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RE: Online Dating - Closing First Night
Since I live in the country, outside a small town (a small town to me is 2500 people, not 50K like some here), I run online game a bit differently.
Saying that, I have around a 90% F close rate on first dates. This is because I spend a lot of time communicating with these broads before ever meeting as I usually have to travel an hour or more and do not want to waste a trip for no ass. Or, I am simply in town for work and will not be staying long. I get sexy talk going by dropping innuendos to get her going and simply escalate from there.
I also generally don't meet for dates, rather go to her place or she comes to the hotel I am staying at. The most I'll do for a date is meet at a bar for a few drinks, some are nervous about meeting in private even after all the shit they say on the phone, before heading back to wherever we are going to close the deal.
I may take a week getting a broad warmed up before meeting her and yes, some drop out but not very many. The ones that stick it out are almost guaranteed to be DTF when we do finally meet.
And no, sex is not all I talk about but it is consistently there so they know what's gonna happen. I'm just not blunt about it generally.
Like GMAC says, after the prep work it's like a second or third date when we finally meet as we know a fair bit about each other.
Well, I know more about her than she knows about me...
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BoneDaddy
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RE: Online Dating - Closing First Night
In my experience, a first date bang with a girl I've met online is more the norm than an exception. I do my online gaming on POF for the most part and I could count on one hand the number of girls that I didn't close by second meet, many on the first.
Like a previous poster accurately pointed out, when you're gaming online, you can establish a lot of attraction and comfort via email, TXT and phone game before you even meet. When you do meet, I find things progress much more quickly.
I typically exchange a few emails, then TXT, then phone and then meet for a drink. If I've done my work properly beforehand, a quick bang is almost guaranteed. These POF girls, especially in my area are DTF quickly.
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RE: Online Dating - Closing First Night
(04-02-2012 12:26 PM)Hotwheels Wrote: Since I live in the country, outside a small town (a small town to me is 2500 people, not 50K like some here), I run online game a bit differently.
Saying that, I have around a 90% F close rate on first dates. This is because I spend a lot of time communicating with these broads before ever meeting as I usually have to travel an hour or more and do not want to waste a trip for no ass. Or, I am simply in town for work and will not be staying long. I get sexy talk going by dropping innuendos to get her going and simply escalate from there.
I also generally don't meet for dates, rather go to her place or she comes to the hotel I am staying at. The most I'll do for a date is meet at a bar for a few drinks, some are nervous about meeting in private even after all the shit they say on the phone, before heading back to wherever we are going to close the deal.
I may take a week getting a broad warmed up before meeting her and yes, some drop out but not very many. The ones that stick it out are almost guaranteed to be DTF when we do finally meet.
And no, sex is not all I talk about but it is consistently there so they know what's gonna happen. I'm just not blunt about it generally.
Like GMAC says, after the prep work it's like a second or third date when we finally meet as we know a fair bit about each other.
Well, I know more about her than she knows about me...
This is the key right here. If you've communicated online enough before that first meeting, you can build comfort. Try to take your communication off-site, to chat or webcam/videocall. Naturally, talking by phone also. It's also important which site you used. Some, like Match.com and eharmony are geared towards relationship/marriage, not hookup. Pick a site where chicks are more likely to not want to bullshit and go right in hard. Of chicks I've fucked off of sites, I did the messages on site, to chat, to videocall, to cell, to meeting, to fucking the first in-person meeting. The one I hit in London was second night just because she had to get home. We went out again the next night and I closed. For local chicks you should be able to progress much quicker.
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