Post: #1

Hey I'm seeing this girl as of late and had some questions I hope you guys could help me with.
We've been hitting it off well during our dates (3), plenty of kino from her, conversations flow well and plenty of kissing. The problem is in escalating to sex.
The problem lies here:She lives in a different city, about 45 minutes away
I don't have my own place and I don't even live in the city we meet up.
The solution seems to be to just rent a motel for the night and ask her to skip the last subway and just stay with me for the night.

However there's doubt with me that it would be that easy, she still lives with her mom and doesn't seem like the type to just stay the night on a whim.
Is there a way to hint at her staying the night before so the chance is bigger she'll be open for it?

And a side question, this girl does not text much at all, which is a relief during the date but has me doubting somewhat when we're not.
Is that anything to worry about? When I ask her out it's always yes or she gives me an alternative day to meet up, but no initiative from her to set up a date yet.

Post: #2

In my opinion, it looks like you are not her priority.

If a girl is into you, she will always find time.

Post: #3

(03-24-2019 02:41 PM)luigi Wrote:  In my opinion, it looks like you are not her priority.

If a girl is into you, she will always find time.

She finds time, and I haven't asked her to stay with me in a motel.
But the problem is it might not be easy for a 19 year old to just on a whim decide to stay in another city for the night, I'm trying to find out if there's a better way to get to there than just asking her on the night itself.

Post: #4

You don’t need a whole night to have sex. In fact, as little as 5 minutes is enough. Do the math.

Post: #5

(03-24-2019 03:32 PM)Montrose Wrote:  You don’t need a whole night to have sex. In fact, as little as 5 minutes is enough. Do the math.

Very good advise, could take her to see the city and then get to that point.

Post: #6

As another member said, you only need a couple of minutes and there are plenty of options: Accessible toilets, parks etc. If you think she is not that kinky, find a hotel that usually has rooms on walk-up and just take her there. If she starts protesting when you guys are at the reception, then better to cut the losses.

Post: #7

I used to have a girl whom I could only meet between 8 and 9 pm. So I fucked her in the disabled restroom in luxury hotels. These are usually spacious and nicely furbished with towels, sink and coathanger. It cost me two expensive drinks at the bar but it’s still cheaper than a room.

Post: #8

Alright so my plan now is to take her out to see some of the sights in the city, eventually ending up at the old harbor here, drinking the six pack I brought with me and escalating from there to fuck her some hotel/motel. Should have it all done before her last subway home goes.
Sounds solid?
Also getting a hotel/motel is not something I'll plan on doing a lot, costly.
A friend of mine is going on vacation in 2 weeks so I'll have his place to fuck her in, I just want to escalate now because my pitfall seems to be not escalating fast enough.

Post: #9

Get a hotel room.

At start of date, find some excuse to quickly visit the room "to get something" while there, giver her a "quick look around" and leave without escalating.

Later in the date, escalate and ramp up until you can use the "come back to hotel for quick drink before last train home" line.

From there its "have another drink" and bang

Post: #10

No idea about your area's logistics but what we used to do in Lebanon growing up in a not so sexually expressive society when we wanted to make sure the hotel room wouldnt go to waste is: Frame it as a roadtrip and basically she will know that there is a room in the destination and that we would be going there.

"Hey lets go to visit x area in the mountains friday (or insert any beach, touristy or nature destination) bla bla bla ill get us a room there".

This may cause her to have more time to think herself into refusing but meh, when we were 18 getting blueballeed after driving an hour and going broke for a room was more dangerous than getting denied from the start.

This might be overkill depending on the vibe you two have but since youre already going distances you could change course to somewhere else around.

Bishes love roadtrips.

Post: #11

Alright I have an update:

On Tuesday she messaged me to hang out and we did this Thursday.
Went to an odd hipster bar and then sat by the old harbor the rest of the night, went very well and there was plenty of making out.
I didn't puss out and did ask if she'd be up for me renting a room to fuck. She seemed overwhelmed but flattered.
She said she doesn't move so fast. Told me that she was surprised I kissed her on the first date, says she doesn't even do that on the first date. I took it well and simply said ''well you know where my intentions lie''.
Also something that came up yesterday was her saying that because she came out of a 3 year relationship a few months ago she isn't actively looking for one now. Says she wants to date to ''know people''. This was after I asked her so my alarm bells kind of went off and I said that I'm looking for more than just hanging out or dating forever. She said that if she was here ONLY to date that she wouldn't have seen me 4 times, implying that a relationship is on the table for her.

So yeah all in all I think a good night, did what I set out to do and never did before (ask to fuck) and there was plenty of making out involved but that interaction above has me wondering.
How do I proceed? Continue to ask her out and pushing for the bang?
Like I said I have a friends apartment for a while so preferable I'd have it done by then (next week).

Post: #12

It’s a good move you mentioned sex IMO. Next time, ask her out and give an appointment directly at your hotel (without mentioning sex). Get beers or wine and some snacks beforehand for plausibility (but don’t get her drunk obviously if you dont want to go to jail)

Post: #13

Avey

She's into you but is testing you. She wants to make sure you dont think she's a slut if she has sex with you "too soon". (No woman wants to be thought of as a whore...they just wanna get banged like one)

Push for another date. Make it at the hotel and as Montrose suggests dont bring up sex verbally. No need. She knows whats up. Just make your move near the end of the first drink

Post: #14

Good idea but there's one problem, there is only one reason for me to get a hotel and that is to fuck her.
I live 30 min away from the city so what would I even say when she asks why I got a hotel? I'd use the excuse of me going to a party after our date and just staying in the city, but of course there is no party and I'd spill plenty of spaghetti if she asked to go to it. Might be wrong but I think the better move is to own up to me just wanting to fuck her instead of lying about why I have a room.

Also she just hit me up again, asking if I can meet up with her soon, we've got a date planned for this Thursday

Post: #15

Of course everyone knows the only reason your go to a hotel is to fuck. But some things are better left unsaid. Just because something is true doesnt mean you have to say it. When a man talks to a woman, it is often the case that the only reason he does so is because he wants to fuck her. The woman knows it but doesnt want to hear it.

If you say explicitly that you are going to the hotel for sex she might back off because it seems ´you think she’s a slut’. She’s not going to ask why you want to go to a hotel btw. You don’t need to give a reason. Women know what is expected of them. If she does ask, it means that she doesn’t want to have sex with you.

Post: #16

You can say ‘let’s go to a hotel for sex’, it could work, but I advise against it. It was cute the first time you said it, it might be annoying the next time.

Post: #17

Okay I didn't follow the advise given above (sorry) but instead took her to a tower overlooking the city, was great, plenty of making out and ass grabbing from my part.
Now I have the apartment and a date with her this thursday, the way I see it I have 3 options of getting her there, she likes not being told what we're going to do so she has no expectations:
1 - Just take her back to the apartment right away, maybe say something about watching a movie there or whatever.
2 - Take her out to 5Guys before hand(mentioned she like fastfood(not fat though)), this has a plus in that it means we have to meet up earlier so she can stay longer, which is nice since her last ride home is at the latest 11 PM
3 - Take her to a bar and then back home, doubtful about this one since she has said before she much more enjoys things like sitting at the old harbor rather than bars. Also the worst option because of time constraint.

Any other advise would be welcome.

Post: #18

Alright so it went well and I got the bang, first one I didn't have to pay for
I didn't cum but she did, made the mistake of jacking it in the morning and the Five Guys made me slightly ill.
Thanks to Roosh and the people who posted in this thread!

Post: #19

How did you approach the apartment? Was it an Air BNB?

Post: #20

(04-13-2019 01:22 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  How did you approach the apartment? Was it an Air BNB?

I'm catsitting for a friend so I have his apartment for a while.
I approached it by saying I was tired after being at work the entire day (true) so I proposed going back to the apartment and just chill out there.
Barely made it trough an episoide of Nathan For You before I made my move, undressed her, carried her to the bed and the rest is history.
She's coming over this monday as well