(02-23-2015 10:32 PM)Vacancier Permanent Wrote: So you want to bring a girl with you to Canada? Make sure you really really get to know her, he family. I'd strongly recommend one who is from a solid middle class background with a Uni degree and a decent job already. Stay away from te pretty but poor ones for anything other than just short time fun. You'd be marrying not only her but her entire extended family. And stay away from girls with kids!
Heck if I were you, I'd keep her in the Phils and find a way to either relocate myself there or at the very least, get a seasonal trade or build an online biz. Bringing a foreign girl to Canada or the US or any of the Anglosphere countries is a very bad idea!
All the best man but do not rush it! Take your time to really get to know her and her family before ever thinking of bringing a girl back home man!
^Listen to what he says. Confirmed by multiple on the ground experience by me.
Screening for what Westerners would consider parasitism is REALLY REALLY important, there is a level of accepted parasitism in the Philippines that is not even conceivable to someone from a first world country.
It ranges from at worst, assuming you will send her something like several hundred dollars a month to support her once you start fucking her with no strings attached while you are back in Canada or elsewhere.
Then when you marry her and bring her to your mid-range house and multiple car lifestyle in the first world country ("What? You don't own a house?") she will expect to live an upper middle class lifestyle while you bust ass and she polishes her fingernails, posts on Facewhore, and gets fat.
PLUS OF COURSE you will be sending a couple hundred bucks plus more for medical emergencies and tuition for brothers and cousins... .
That's an exaggeration but a very slight one slight one for a pretty, lazy girls who's heard tales of luxury from friends already in the USA.
The girl you DON'T want:
--Doesn't have a job- she says she's a student at over 22 years of age. And isn't full time enrolled.
--Didn't graduate high school. (This indicates real problems in basic functioning-- you can't even APPLY for a job at 7-11 without a high school degree, so they were very poor/rural/dumb/had mental problems if they didn't get a high school degree. )
--Can't sleep over and can't tell her family she's seeing you. She's not going to totally change her social worldview and her family's so she isn't leaving the country with you. You're a fling.
The girl you WANT
-has a job, plus probably a degree
-when you warn them that you don't give girls money and you won't be sending her family money , they act surprised and say "Why would you do that?" or the like. They didn't even THINK of mooching off you. They RESIST when you try to buy them shit.
They genuinely don't see why you would feel responsible for her family.
NOW there's still the problem is her family is poor and lazy, because she will be thinking "Well, of course I will pay for my family when I get to Canada and get a full-time job. "
So if she works, she send all the fucking money back to buy beer for her lazy brothers and be too exhausted to be a good wife.
So you've also go to specify "You can only send 1/3 of the money you make back home."
Usually if you hammer on this personal responsibility stuff early and often, the parasitic ones ( it's not really considered parasitism in the Phils, it's fairly normal. ) she'll will stop getting back to you. You are lucky you screened her out.
I hammer on "I only have enough money for myself and my wife."
Also another red flag: She just casually asks you buy stuff when you go into a store with her. She'll just walk up to the counter with something in her hand. Shampoo, soap, hand sanitizer. She' s not aware it's rude.
Then when you buy it she doesn't even thank you!! Fatal.
If you are serious about a girl, I believe you've got to do some boot-camp level shit, confronting her about parasitism, because Filipinas don't really listen, they smile and pretend agreement, so you've got to force her to mouth the stuff herself to see if she convinces you.
Usually, when you hammer hard she'll start to rebel and admit "it's really important for me to buy my father a house" as she feels it's righteous to have that AS A FIRST GOAL MORE IMPORTANT than your marriage to her.
All these examples are from real life that I have personally experienced.
PS: Block quickly and brutally on your cell phone once she gets pissy about you setting limits and telling her about parasitism. That way when she feels like she can get back in your good graces, you don't even know and don't get distracted from what you should be doing-- meeting more women.