Met a girl at the bar last night. She initiated talking to me and was leaning up against me in a playful, not drunk, way while talking to me. Turns out she's a friend's sister's friend or something. Anyway she wanted me to send her a video of one person singing Karaoke. I didn't play my game right and some douche ended up talking to her the rest of the night. Any ideas how to play this? I already texted her that the video won't send but I never got a response. I can't think of any angles, might be a lost cause.

I've been getting baited a lot via text recently from okc recently.

A girl will get sexual or go along with im saying then their hamster will flip the next day and they'll say "we're looking for different things"

Latest pickup was yesterday. Here is today's text exchange:

Me: Hey Russian it was nice meeting you yesterday. (Callback humor because I told her she looked like she was from Russia.)
Her: Yes how was drinks with your friend?
Me: Went to a bar by his place, was good seeing him. Did you wind up going to the _____
Her: Noo I just went home after, I figure I'll come back next week.
Me: I'm out running a few errands. Are you uptown at all today?
Her: No I went home.
Me: OK, perhaps next week then. I know a couple of places you'll like.

I don't think this was bad. She asked a question, tried to build up a bit of rapport, and so on. Now, how should I re-initiate this? I think a feeler text in a day or so and then asking her what her plans are seems alright. If she answers the feeler I might just call.

(10-25-2014 05:29 PM)Libertas Wrote:  Latest pickup was yesterday. Here is today's text exchange:

Me: Hey Russian it was nice meeting you yesterday. (Callback humor because I told her she looked like she was from Russia.)
Her: Yes how was drinks with your friend?
Me: Went to a bar by his place, was good seeing him. Did you wind up going to the _____
Her: Noo I just went home after, I figure I'll come back next week.
Me: I'm out running a few errands. Are you uptown at all today?
Her: No I went home.
Me: OK, perhaps next week then. I know a couple of places you'll like.

I don't think this was bad. She asked a question, tried to build up a bit of rapport, and so on. Now, how should I re-initiate this? I think a feeler text in a day or so and then asking her what her plans are seems alright. If she answers the feeler I might just call.

I'd go for straight setting up a date and seein how she responds, cool if she's down for your date, good if she counter offers, not so good if she's wishy washy.

I usually will quickly touch base with the 1st test or add a date plan to it.

So little update on the previous challenges I had with the chick from Texas. Met at a convention and was cockblocked by my really good looking “friend”. Almost got the bang but no cigar. So like I was saying she went back to her hometown but she visits here frequently. And we left it open agreeing to stay in touch when she comes to town.

Well I have waited a couple of weeks and want to reengage to maintain a little contact. Nothing too heavy just keep in touch so we can make plans. So far not so good though. I texted her couple of days ago and this is what has happened so far.

Me: Hey there this is that sexy man from ____. (trying to open with something flirty.)
(almost exactly 24 hours later)
Her: Hey there! HRU?
(I waited about 12 hours)
Me: Young kid with a dream…just got off the driving range…what are you up to? (trying to get her to engage)

Its been two days and no response. I know the goal is to get her to chase me. But I am not getting there. What would you guys recommend? I know that my texts aren’t the best but that’s all I have. I cannot just create witty banter out of nothing. Especially when she is giving me nothing. Is this a case of just cut my losses and move on? Or should I just tell her to contact me when she comes out? Or my natural friend said he is a big fan of confrontation. And said to just send a humorous text like “you are breaking up with me already?” I didn’t like that one. Or maybe just ask to set up a meeting date and time. What would you guys do? I want to be aloof but if we are both aloof there is nothing to go on. lol

Need help with a couple of messages guys. I met these two girls at the Halloween house part I was at last Friday night and text them both Sunday night.

This one got back to me the next night and we exchanged a couple of playful texts to build rapport before the below.

Me: What day is good for you next week to grab a drink?

Her: Things are kind of crazy right now - work and I'm about to head off overseas for 5 weeks. I don't want to muck you around.


The second girl got back to me on Tuesday (a public holiday here) with the exchange below.
Me (Sunday night): Hey Steph, just a reminder to make sure you pay your fine on time or I'll have to issue a warrant for your arrest ;-) Officer Roardog (I had gone as a cop to the Halloween party and given her a fine for something I can't even remember now)

Her: Hey Roardog, thanks for the message. I have to say I'm feeling flattered and part of me would like you to issue that warrant but I'm afraid I haven't been entirely honest with you. I'm only a couple of weeks out of a long term relationship, so even though I'm tempted, I have to tell you I'm not in the right mindset to start dating yet and I'm sorry if you feel I led you on. I hope there's no hard feelings. S x

So neither of these is looking to date, which is 100% fine by me, but I'm unsure how to get that across to them without sounding like I just want to bang them. I feel like they have both left the door open as if they weren't interested they wouldn't have bothered replying in the first place.
Suggestions?

(10-31-2014 10:09 AM)reco2100 Wrote:  So little update on the previous challenges I had with the chick from Texas. Met at a convention and was cockblocked by my really good looking “friend”. Almost got the bang but no cigar. So like I was saying she went back to her hometown but she visits here frequently. And we left it open agreeing to stay in touch when she comes to town.

Well I have waited a couple of weeks and want to reengage to maintain a little contact. Nothing too heavy just keep in touch so we can make plans. So far not so good though. I texted her couple of days ago and this is what has happened so far.

Me: Hey there this is that sexy man from ____. (trying to open with something flirty.)
(almost exactly 24 hours later)
Her: Hey there! HRU?
(I waited about 12 hours)
Me: Young kid with a dream…just got off the driving range…what are you up to? (trying to get her to engage)

Its been two days and no response. I know the goal is to get her to chase me. But I am not getting there. What would you guys recommend? I know that my texts aren’t the best but that’s all I have. I cannot just create witty banter out of nothing. Especially when she is giving me nothing. Is this a case of just cut my losses and move on? Or should I just tell her to contact me when she comes out? Or my natural friend said he is a big fan of confrontation. And said to just send a humorous text like “you are breaking up with me already?” I didn’t like that one. Or maybe just ask to set up a meeting date and time. What would you guys do? I want to be aloof but if we are both aloof there is nothing to go on. lol

Waste of time. Girls are on their text game like flies on shit - if she is waiting days to respond to you then she is not interested. Next her and keep looking.

Now I have an interesting one. This is a girl I had a mini-relationship with that I would have liked to continue banging but she ultimately called things off. The whole "I don't see this in the long run" bit so she decided to end things with me (was about a month ago now). We dated for about 7 months and things ended on her terms with her gradually going dark on me then finally having a phone conversation or two about her not seeing us going any further whatever. Anyway she got word about a knee injury of mine and sent me a text today:

her(12:49pm): Sorry too hear about your knee! Wtf! How is this just coming forward?!
me(1:33pm): 6 weeks of pt wasnt making it better so I saw a specialist
her(1:35pm): I can't believe it didn't figure it out
her(1:36pm): *Pt
her(1:41pm): You must have been in so much pain early on

I recognize trying to parlay this casual reconnect into a bang may be a touchy event so I'd like a little advice.

(11-06-2014 02:15 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  Now I have an interesting one. This is a girl I had a mini-relationship with that I would have liked to continue banging but she ultimately called things off. The whole "I don't see this in the long run" bit so she decided to end things with me (was about a month ago now). We dated for about 7 months and things ended on her terms with her gradually going dark on me then finally having a phone conversation or two about her not seeing us going any further whatever. Anyway she got word about a knee injury of mine and sent me a text today:

her(12:49pm): Sorry too hear about your knee! Wtf! How is this just coming forward?!
me(1:33pm): 6 weeks of pt wasnt making it better so I saw a specialist
her(1:35pm): I can't believe it didn't figure it out
her(1:36pm): *Pt
her(1:41pm): You must have been in so much pain early on

I recognize trying to parlay this casual reconnect into a bang may be a touchy event so I'd like a little advice.

"I was. Still hurts, but the worst part is just sitting around. So boring."

Then whenever she responds, you should say something along the lines of, "maybe you could come entertain me, we can catch up"

Plausible deniability. No reason not to take advantage of your present situation. Keep it short, she's giving you good responses, may be interested.

(11-06-2014 02:21 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  "I was. Still hurts, but the worst part is just sitting around. So boring."

Then whenever she responds, you should say something along the lines of, "maybe you could come entertain me, we can catch up"

Plausible deniability. No reason not to take advantage of your present situation. Keep it short, she's giving you good responses, may be interested.

There's a little more to it than that - I've been living with this injury for the entire time I knew her, but I just went to a specialist finally last week and learned the extent of the actual damage and will need surgery to correct it. She knows I'm still moving around until I actually get the surgery. She is messaging me upon finding out that I will be getting surgery in the near future.

(11-06-2014 02:26 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  There's a little more to it than that - I've been living with this injury for the entire time I knew her, but I just went to a specialist finally last week and learned the extent of the actual damage and will need surgery to correct it. She knows I'm still moving around until I actually get the surgery. She is messaging me upon finding out that I will be getting surgery in the near future.

Just feign interest, "catching up" type deal. Just be positive and then see if she wants to meet up for a drink or a bite to eat depending no how she's reacting. Best of all, you've already dated her, so I'd get her on the phone. Yeah, cliche for texting vs non-texting argument, but you're going to do better on the phone than over text with this kind of thing.

Source: My own multiple injuries and meeting with girls who I'd dated casually.

what do I text next guys. even though I'm dating others....I Want to keep the door open on this ex as she's cool. Here's the situation:

I saw her at whole foods today and she was friendly. She said " the hair on my neck stands up sometimes when I come here cause I know I'm going to see you" We broke up about a month ago as she wanted to date a long time ex.

We were in the parking lot saying goodbye....and we hugged. I said "Hey" and went in for the kiss....she stopped me rather emotionally and said "No No" I just smirked at her , looked in her eyes and said "You look beautiful" She said thank you. I said "have a good weekend " and walked off.

SHe just text me " Robreke it is hard enough resisting being too friendly and comfortable around you when I see you as it is...I truly wish you wouldn't try to kiss me like that when you see me."

She did sleep with him toward the end of our relationship I know this though she's never admitted it. Though her and I were never exclusive but working in that direction. I'd kind of like to say "well your current boyfriend didn't respect the fact that you and I were going out apparently.....that is assuming you told him we were"

Don't want to be too smart aleck in my response...but tell her it's hard for ME to resist kissing her after the hot relationship we had. WHat's a good text comeback?

(11-07-2014 03:46 PM)robreke Wrote:  what do I text next guys. even though I'm dating others....I Want to keep the door open on this ex as she's cool. Here's the situation:

I saw her at whole foods today and she was friendly. She said " the hair on my neck stands up sometimes when I come here cause I know I'm going to see you" We broke up about a month ago as she wanted to date a long time ex.

We were in the parking lot saying goodbye....and we hugged. I said "Hey" and went in for the kiss....she stopped me rather emotionally and said "No No" I just smirked at her , looked in her eyes and said "You look beautiful" She said thank you. I said "have a good weekend " and walked off.

SHe just text me " Robreke it is hard enough resisting being too friendly and comfortable around you when I see you as it is...I truly wish you wouldn't try to kiss me like that when you see me."

She did sleep with him toward the end of our relationship I know this though she's never admitted it. Though her and I were never exclusive but working in that direction. I'd kind of like to say "well your current boyfriend didn't respect the fact that you and I were going out apparently.....that is assuming you told him we were"

Don't want to be too smart aleck in my response...but tell her it's hard for ME to resist kissing her after the hot relationship we had. WHat's a good text comeback?

Door sounds open to me, you have a few options:
1) Radio silent, see if she responds, if not throw a restart text
2) Stop talking to her, she's an ex that cheated on you with an old ex
3) Respond with a funny remark that isn't about her new BF or your relationship, parlay into meeting up.

Observations:
-She ejected and got on an ex's dick, it's a high possiblity she'll come back around to yours. (actions speak louder than words)
-She obviously has IOI (hair on my neck stands up, it's hard enough resisting)
-DON'T call her out or insult her about her actions against you, especially if you're trying to keep that bridge open.
-DON'T tell her it's "hard for me to resist" <-this shows thirst and you'll feed her ego

How about..."I understand...ill promise you this I wont ever be the one to initiate a kiss again...have a good weekend."

Also...when ive bumped into her a few other times post breakup...she has seemed nervous and not very open.

I would like to respond but not come off as apologizing....her text made it sound like I did something wrong in her mind.

(11-07-2014 04:11 PM)robreke Wrote:  How about..."I understand...ill promise you this I wont ever be the one to initiate a kiss again...have a good weekend."

Also...when ive bumped into her a few other times post breakup...she has seemed nervous and not very open.

I would like to respond but not come off as apologizing....her text made it sound like I did something wrong in her mind.

i'd just write 'k', and then wait a week and try to set a meet up. what you are writing is a little bit too thought out and butt hurt.

(11-07-2014 04:11 PM)robreke Wrote:  How about..."I understand...ill promise you this I wont ever be the one to initiate a kiss again...have a good weekend."

Also...when ive bumped into her a few other times post breakup...she has seemed nervous and not very open.

I would like to respond but not come off as apologizing....her text made it sound like I did something wrong in her mind.

You didn't do anything wrong, she stopped you, and you stopped.

That's it. Don't ever apologize for that, it'll make you look weak in her eyes.

She feels nervous and not open because she still has attachment/emotions towards you, I guess a bit intimidated. It's like a sick feeling in your stomach when you see an old love.

Honestly I'd put this on ice for a bit and reach out to her later, emotions are still high it seems.

Hate to sound condescending but you it sounds like you're still stuck on this girls a bit.

In the meantime focus on these other girls you're dating.

(11-07-2014 04:41 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(11-07-2014 04:11 PM)robreke Wrote:  How about..."I understand...ill promise you this I wont ever be the one to initiate a kiss again...have a good weekend."

Also...when ive bumped into her a few other times post breakup...she has seemed nervous and not very open.

I would like to respond but not come off as apologizing....her text made it sound like I did something wrong in her mind.

You didn't do anything wrong, she stopped you, and you stopped.

That's it. Don't ever apologize for that, it'll make you look weak in her eyes.

She feels nervous and not open because she still has attachment/emotions towards you, I guess a bit intimidated. It's like a sick feeling in your stomach when you see an old love.

Honestly I'd put this on ice for a bit and reach out to her later, emotions are still high it seems.

Hate to sound condescending but you it sounds like you're still stuck on this girls a bit.

In the meantime focus on these other girls you're dating.

I just texted her "Ok Kate...have a good weekend"

She texted 15 minutes later...."I think if you were the person I was seeing you wouldn't want me kissing other people"

"Other people" she writes. Haha. Like I'm a random person in line at mcdonalds. I know what she's saying but still....

I am SOOOO tempted to text her something like " So you didn't kiss ( or fuck ) someone else when we were seeing each other?"....or even something subtle and sarcastic like "Yeah...when we were seeing each other...I guess you never kissed......anyone else."

I suppose the best thing is just to go no contact for a few weeks ( my plan )...but damn it's tempting to respond with something else to her last text...especially when I know she was banging her ex the last few weekends we were seeing each other when she was driving down to her parents...

(11-07-2014 05:18 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(11-07-2014 04:41 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(11-07-2014 04:11 PM)robreke Wrote:  How about..."I understand...ill promise you this I wont ever be the one to initiate a kiss again...have a good weekend."

Also...when ive bumped into her a few other times post breakup...she has seemed nervous and not very open.

I would like to respond but not come off as apologizing....her text made it sound like I did something wrong in her mind.

You didn't do anything wrong, she stopped you, and you stopped.

That's it. Don't ever apologize for that, it'll make you look weak in her eyes.

She feels nervous and not open because she still has attachment/emotions towards you, I guess a bit intimidated. It's like a sick feeling in your stomach when you see an old love.

Honestly I'd put this on ice for a bit and reach out to her later, emotions are still high it seems.

Hate to sound condescending but you it sounds like you're still stuck on this girls a bit.

In the meantime focus on these other girls you're dating.

I just texted her "Ok Kate...have a good weekend"

She texted 15 minutes later...."I think if you were the person I was seeing you wouldn't want me kissing other people"

"Other people" she writes. Haha. Like I'm a random person in line at mcdonalds. I know what she's saying but still....

I am SOOOO tempted to text her something like " So you didn't kiss ( or fuck ) someone else when we were seeing each other?"....or even something subtle and sarcastic like "Yeah...when we were seeing each other...I guess you never kissed......anyone else."

I suppose the best thing is just to go no contact for a few weeks ( my plan )...but damn it's tempting to respond with something else to her last text...especially when I know she was banging her ex the last few weekends we were seeing each other when she was driving down to her parents...

See I told you, you shouldn't of texted her, don't feed her hamster, silence is golden.

Messages a Sloot on OKC. Gave her an amazing neg

her response: "not funny. You're a jerk, good bye"

got her riled up just the way I like it but I layed an egg and don't know how to proceed

Scenario:

Girl you banged a few times and haven't talked in 2 weeks, do a restart text

(Note: She told me this before, we got matched on tinder, I had better options, I follow up, then she says the same thing)

We match on OKC get her number, then bang a few times.

Then this happened:

Kaotic: Did you die of Ebola or what ?
Plate: I did
Kaotic: well that's boring, what else is new ?
Plate: I met someone.

Response:
1. Radio Silence.
2. Well that's boring.
3. Right on, good luck.
4. Well when you're bored of him, I'll talk to you then.

I'm going to go radio silent on her, however I'm curious to what other players would do in this situation.

(11-10-2014 07:28 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Scenario:

Girl you banged a few times and haven't talked in 2 weeks, do a restart text

(Note: She told me this before, we got matched on tinder, I had better options, I follow up, then she says the same thing)

We match on OKC get her number, then bang a few times.

Then this happened:

Kaotic: Did you die of Ebola or what ?
Plate: I did
Kaotic: well that's boring, what else is new ?
Plate: I met someone.

Response:
1. Radio Silence.
2. Well that's boring.
3. Right on, good luck.
4. Well when you're bored of him, I'll talk to you then.

I'm going to go radio silent on her, however I'm curious to what other players would do in this situation.

High road game : "All the best...if it doesn't work out give me a shout"

just got a crazy response to a text:

I direct opened a girl on the sidewalk a few days ago. Told her I thought she was cute. Asked her if she wants to get coffee sometime and she said "maybe" chatted a few minutes and had good eye contact. Number close.

texted her within 30 minutes and she texts back within like one minute.

Then...today texted her how her week was going and she texted this within 2 minutes:

"Yeah been pretty busy with Christmas coming. Robreke don't take this the wrong way but I'm not wanting to be in any sorta relationship with you other than a friend"

How to respond? She texts back quick.....maybe it has something to do with the direct open? Ideas?

(11-11-2014 06:23 PM)robreke Wrote:  just got a crazy response to a text:

I direct opened a girl on the sidewalk a few days ago. Told her I thought she was cute. Asked her if she wants to get coffee sometime and she said "maybe" chatted a few minutes and had good eye contact. Number close.

texted her within 30 minutes and she texts back within like one minute.

Then...today texted her how her week was going and she texted this within 2 minutes:

"Yeah been pretty busy with Christmas coming. Robreke don't take this the wrong way but I'm not wanting to be in any sorta relationship with you other than a friend"

How to respond? She texts back quick.....maybe it has something to do with the direct open? Ideas?

I texted her back "who said anything about a relationship...haha. that's cool with me. I just thought you seemed cool and it would be nice to get to know each other over coffee or a drink one day."

She immediately texted back " Okay awesome the main reason is because I am 18 " ( holy shit !)

I then texted her asking her if she was free for coffee tomorrow or Thursday and she texted back "got to work thurs. and I'm busy tomorrow :/ "

she's returning texts within 1 or 2 minutes.

.....ask her when she's free or go cold?

(11-11-2014 06:44 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(11-11-2014 06:23 PM)robreke Wrote:  just got a crazy response to a text:

I direct opened a girl on the sidewalk a few days ago. Told her I thought she was cute. Asked her if she wants to get coffee sometime and she said "maybe" chatted a few minutes and had good eye contact. Number close.

texted her within 30 minutes and she texts back within like one minute.

Then...today texted her how her week was going and she texted this within 2 minutes:

"Yeah been pretty busy with Christmas coming. Robreke don't take this the wrong way but I'm not wanting to be in any sorta relationship with you other than a friend"

How to respond? She texts back quick.....maybe it has something to do with the direct open? Ideas?

I texted her back "who said anything about a relationship...haha. that's cool with me. I just thought you seemed cool and it would be nice to get to know each other over coffee or a drink one day."

She immediately texted back " Okay awesome the main reason is because I am 18 " ( holy shit !)

I am early 40s but look a lot younger. She seems game to meet..for coffee I guess since drinks would be out....

Plausible deniablity on her part, that's fine.

Who says drinks are out ? That's what those mini liquor bottles are for and the hard starbucks plastic cups OR gatorade bottles. You get the picture.

If she wasn't interested she wouldn't be replying and be keen on meeting.

Ok I think I may have fucked this one up but maybe not. So there is this really attractive MILF that I was banging about a year and a half ago. I was pretty beta back then and she eventually moved away. I was learning enough about game back then to know not to try to chase her or to reach out to her. So last week she calls me out of the blue I was really surprised. She wanted to meet up. Sounded like she was good to go. And this over a short phone call. I acted surprised but not needy just yeah let me see if we can work something into my schedule. We live in different cities but I go to her city for work all the time its driving distance.

We go back and forth on some dates and times and even do a little sex texting. She gets all into it and masturbates gets an orgasm, her words. Then things go a little south. On last Thursday I propose a time to meet for Monday at 12 to meet do lunch and spend the afternoon fucking, and no word for a day. No big deal here is the text exchange after that.

Her: Good morning! I got them late last night when I got home. The part of my phone that charges won't charge in the car and it died on the way to work luncheon yesterday morning lol. No phone all day & night (went to karaoke with mom) Yes! Monday sounds fun 7:44 AM (plausible excuse, remember she is trying to see me though)
Me: Cool busy day call you later 9:20 AM (not being too needy about the long delay, this was on Friday morning)

(Monday morning)
Me: Good morning sexy 7:55 AM (I waited for the entire weekend before contacting her, probably a fail here)
Me: Let's meet out front by the venue at 12 9:29 AM (notice she had not replied to me above)
Her: You said you were going to call Friday so when I never heard from you all weekend, I made a job interview today. Sorry! I figured you weren't interested lol 9:35 AM (its obvious she is butthurt which is not like her)
Me: Hmm...it had been a really busy week and weekend but I was interested 9:43 AM (responded but did not enter her frame)

Remember she is used to me being beta and over-communicating. I am wondering if my different alpha ways will even work with her. We had a good thing for a while and there was a lot of chemistry sexually between us.

So far no contact between either of us. I am looking at two options. Say nothing and wait for her to contact me. Which may not happen. Or send her a feeler text just saying how was the interview, and suggesting another time to meet up.

What do you guys think? Maybe one day I will quit fucking these things up.

I think you are reading too much into it. It sounds like she is interested but isn't going to put her life on hold for you, hence scheduling the job interview when she didn't hear from you.

You shouldn't have apologised with your last message or overtly expressed interest, that was Beta.

You're still in it so just try and schedule another time for later in the week and this time don't end the conversation without locking in the day. Leave the details for confirming on the day, but at least confirm that yes, X day we are meeting up.