Post: #26

(10-13-2013 01:47 PM)mastauser Wrote:  

(10-11-2013 09:19 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Studying the human mind and psyche
Resolving emotional scars from childhood
Getting in as many repetitions as possible to broaden my perspective as fast as possible

what do you mean with 'repetitions'?

I mean doing instead of thinking/wishing/hoping.

Approaching girls instead of just reading about game.

Talking to people instead of trying to figure things out in my head.

Going for the bang. Experimenting. Pushing the limits.

Taking specific action.

Post: #27

(10-11-2013 09:19 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Resolving emotional scars from childhood

It would be good if you could talk about this more!

I personally find this material quite difficult to access and it doesn't come up very often.

Post: #28

(10-14-2013 02:41 AM)tiggaling Wrote:  

(10-11-2013 09:19 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Resolving emotional scars from childhood

It would be good if you could talk about this more!

I personally find this material quite difficult to access and it doesn't come up very often.

Hallucinogens combined with meditation. Seriously. Take two tabs of acid, take a walk around the park, find a nice place to sit down and just reflect on your life. When your ego is dead, you see the "real" you. Don't be afraid to go deep. Going deep is what gets you to catharsis. All your fears will disappear and you'll be like the Buddha, even the months following your trip.

Did it once and I feel like doing it again.

Post: #29

Learn the game like how a child learns how to play, ride a bike, learns to talk. The child doesn't care if it makes mistakes but for some reason when we grow up we care others seeing us in a bad light. I still suffer from this now but recently I have been acting shameless as a child and those were the times I learned the most. Failing to get what you want hurts but in the relative long term you will forget it. Just like how a child does.

Post: #30

Accept that it's OK to suck at something, and the only way not to is to keep doing it anyway.

Post: #31

I have been known to take 10 tabs of acid (or equivalently strong psychedelic) in remote places and get crazy and it doesn't always bring up "emotional scars from childhood"

Post: #32

Open up conversations with girls, is a booster in your confidence.
Dress nice and make exercise, eat well.
Put your financial matters in order.

Post: #33

(10-14-2013 02:41 AM)tiggaling Wrote:  

(10-11-2013 09:19 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Resolving emotional scars from childhood

It would be good if you could talk about this more!

Most of us have "issues".

Unresolved anger, sadness, rage, etc.

This can sit in our hearts and effect our current relationships. They can poison us for years and even decades.

I try to face my issues head on.

I think about them, I identify them, I talk to people about them. I get HELP!

I have talked to a few therapists. They helped me a lot.

Basically, we should heal our "inner child".

It really strengthens are Inner Game.

I have written about this before:

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(07-06-2011 04:26 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  Another way to increase confidence is to deal with any unresolved emotional issues that you might have. I think that stuff is deep Inner Game. Carrying around alot of emotional baggage can have a negative effect on your vibe. Sometimes you gotta just stay home alone for a few days and really think about stuff. If you have more internal peace, you might be more comfortable and have more confidence.

Talking to my parents about why they divorced helped me get over alot of anger and pain.

Which allowed me to be more relaxed and soften my vibe so that it was more attractive to females. My sense of humor picked up and my attitude was more playful and less intense. I started dressing with more swag because I was more comfortable with who I was.

Forgiving someone, forgiving yourself, having a heart to heart talk with a parent or sibling, these kinds of things can sometimes release weight off your chest and allow you to display more of your "best self".

(10-14-2013 03:44 AM)Edmund Dantes Wrote:  Hallucinogens

Yes, the plant medicines have also helped me a lot.

Post: #34

1. I started showing up and talking to chicks even when I was scared shitless.

I get approach anxiety to this day. And I conquer it every time I feel it.

I used to have the mistaken idea that one day I'll stop being nervous and be cool and smooth and this and that.

But a clunky approach is better than no approach (shit...might even result in a bang!) and it gets the jitters out so your mojo is strong on the next approaches.


2. I came to Thailand with a few hundred bucks and a dream and somehow, barely made it work.

This is the experience I credit with making me a man.

I refused to ask anybody for help, financial or otherwise, and found resourcefulness and inner strength I never knew I had.

You can drop me naked in the middle of a country I've never been to and I'm confident I can find a way to rise above the situation. Or I'll die trying, and I'm not scared of death.


3. I learned to meditate.

I got really into Osho for a while and learned a lot about meditation, the ego, and how to be happy from him.

The Western approach to dealing with the mind has been to try to make an abnormal mind closer to normal, which is the aim of psychiatry.

The Eastern approach is fundamentally different, in that it considers the Mind, itself, to be the source of misery and anxiety.

For the longest time, I took an aggressive approach to inner game by trying to will my thoughts into certain patterns with affirmations, visualization, exercises, etc. I'm not saying that stuff was useless but now things are qualitatively different.

My mind can yammer with all kinds of nonsense but I can just observe it like a watcher on a hill. This aloofness is priceless in game.


4. I fell off a waterfall and thought I was going to die.

When I slipped on a rock and started flying down, time froze. I feel like I lived that moment for eternity. And I wasn't the least bit scared.

That was the most beautiful day of my life. I realized that I've known life, truly known it. So if death were to come, I'll welcome it. It's the one thing I haven't known yet and I'm curious to see what it's like.

I woke up in an ambulance with my girl looking down at me solicitously as if to say "you...don't do that ever again!!"

Post: #35

Lifting is huge. I notice a real difference when I do.
Experiment with different hairstyles and facial hair. 10 day stubble is supposedly the most attractive to women.
Buy a great watch ( goes along with clothing)
Buy a few fitted suits. Then, get them fitted exactly to your body. See brooks brothers fitzgerald and Milano styles.
Don't forget nice top end shoes.
Listen to audio books while you drive around instead of mindless music all the time. Audible is a great app.
Watch alpha males in movies. Read about them. Emulate.

Post: #36

This journey will look different for everyone, but here goes;

1) Achieved confirmation that my core desires are completely attainable. (Having game in EE did this for me.)

2) A complete and total surrendering of my concept of self. (Took a lot of suffering.)

3) Allowance of the deepest understanding; that I can choose to be awake within this dream. (Now I create my experience. (This is so simple it seems complicate.))

Post: #37

Robreke - I like what you wrote.

Tell me the feedback you get from wearing a nice watch?

Post: #38

(10-24-2014 09:50 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  Robreke - I like what you wrote.

Tell me the feedback you get from wearing a nice watch?

Ironically, I don't even own a watch now.

In the past when I have, I owned sporty diver looking watches. Rugged and sporty looking. I would get some comments from girls from time to time.

A nice watch just adds to the whole picture of perceived higher value. Kind of like wearing a fitted nice suit. Girls think, 'he must make good money/ be somewhat important'

I was considering buying one of those leather strapped dressy watches with the roman numerals , but I think that may be too snobby/rich boy looking so my next one will probably be a badass looking dive watch again.

In the end, as you know, make sure it's stylish, but get what you like. That's what alphas do.

Post: #39

1 - Switch jobs to something more rewarding, less stressful, where I could do something constructive (whereas before I only had the power to argue and complain)
2 - Put up reminders somewhere visible in the morning to stay on target
3 - LIterally talk myself up when I need it

Bonus - Wake up early and begin working on a new skill or project, so I start the day having accomplished something