Post: #126

(06-18-2013 09:38 PM)NewGamer Wrote:  Nebraska girl i number closed Saturday night flaked today for our drink meeting. Text exchange from beginning, cant figure out if/where i fucked up but she still seems interested.

Me: Hey ****, are you following my fashion advice today? dark with light?
Her: haha, who is this?
Me: ****, your fashion advisor Nebraska gal
Her: haha, i cant say i remember us talking about fashion but good lookin out!
Me: you are a bad listener.how did you do in school?
Her: haha, graduated with honors, not a bad listener just a good drinker.
me: speaking of drinking, whats your schedule like on tuesday? lets grab a drink.
Her: i might be able to make some time for my self-proclaimed fashion advisor.
me: great, tuesday 7 pm..Venue.
Her: Sounds good
Today, standard confirmation text.
Me: I'll be waiting by the main entrance.
Her:(Two hours later):Hey, oh my i just got off work and totally forgot about this! Im about to get on a train and i dont think ill make it back to the city in time, can we reschedule? im sorry.
Me: (Two hours later) Ok, lets do tomorrow then, same time.You live in the suburbs, that sucks.

No reply yet. idk if she will reply tom but we will see. thoughts?

I've seen that generic reschedule request enough times to know that if it doesn't happen in a day or two, throw it far back on the backburner of things that take up your thoughts and time. Her delay in answering should give you enough of an answer here as far as her interest.

Post: #127

Had a date planned for tonight. Chick flaked. Tried rescheduling, and now radio silence.

Post: #128

Its amazing how bitches flake with stupid excuses that they think your stupid enough to believe. I wish these bitches would tell the truth for once and stop lying to "avoid hurting our feelings." Yeah stupid bitch, we know youre not interested. You dont have to lie about it.

Post: #129

Met this girl while she was a bit drunk, during the "Fête de la musique" the 21st June.
Went direct, kino'ed, she asked for my number.
3 days after I called her, she did not remember who I was, I refreshed her memory while being direct again, she asked me for a pic and a mail to explain in detail how did we met. Did that, got her during tuesday to accept a date for today, 15h(after work)
Texted her yesterday again to confirm the place and the date,everything alright.
Now today, 1h before the meeting:
First text: I'll not last too long I have a tight schedule.
Second text 10 mn later (I did not answer the previous one, was taking a shower):
Can we postpone it later? My schedule is tighter than expected.
A bit angry, I reminded her that we chose that time because of her tight program that day. She said "Sorry again, I did not expect it to be that much"
I ask her to give me a reschedule, she did not answer.

TLDR: I just got flaked.

Post: #130

met a woman at a bar the other night, a bit older chick. I am 28, she's 36...Very cute woman.

I was waiting for a seat at the bar since it was packed, so I sat down next to her and ordered a drink from cocktail waitress. We started chatting, my game was tight, I had to leave to meet some friends somewhere else so she gave me her number and told me to text her during the week about meeting up for drinks. Texted her, got no response. Deleted her number.

This happens all too often, unfortunately. I was a bit surprised that a woman that age was so flakey. For some reason, I expected an older, professional woman to be less flakey but I guess that's not the case.

Post: #131

What's interesting is that a lot of women I've met (especially from online) often times will tell me when we first meet that they "almost cancelled on me". I always act surprised and ask why and they'll give some stupid excuse about being nervous, had a bad previous experience, etc. What's funny is a lot of those I end up banging on the first date.

Post: #132

I'm not sure if this qualifies as true flake but it still sucked badly. Went on my first Tinder date with an Asian 7.5. Really hot, tan skin, totally my type. In the days leading up to our date she was blowing up my phone texting me non stop and I would sporadically reply, trying to keep her at arm's length.

Fast forward to tonight we met at a Sushi bar, shared a roll and we each had a drink. She seemed to be having a good time, I was doing lots of kino, teasing her, getting her to laugh pretty much non stop.

When we were done with our drinks I suggested we bounce to the brewery across the street. She enthusiastically said yes so I paid the check (she wanted to help and I said I'll get this and you get the next round at the brewery) and we left. As we walked outside she started rubbing her eye saying her contact lens was bothering her. She said she needed to run to the car and get some eye drops and she would meet me in the bar. After sitting in the bar for 15 minutes I glanced at my phone and saw this text from her:

"Hi. Listen. My eyes really bugging me and no eye drops. I have to leave! Thank you for tonight!"

I'm like WTF!?! I've been on hundreds of dates and gotten every kind of rejection possible (or so I thought), been stood up, been told point blank they're not attracted to me and it pretty much rolls off my back. For some reason this time I seriously feel like I was sucker punched in the balls. At least have the decency to tell me you're going home to my face...

Post: #133

It could be an elaborate escape hatch from a date or an innocent reason to go home. I say use it against her later playfully. On another note I knocked a contact out of a girls eye with my dick once, true story.

Post: #134

That is brutal, but if the date was going as well as you suggest there's a good shot it was legitimate. Agree with above poster, wait a day or two and then ask her how her terminal pinkeye is doing.

Either that or she didn't bring any money with her and wanted to weasel out of buying you a drink...

Post: #135

A little earlier today I sent her a text replying to her flake text last night. Said "Hey, too bad last night ended the way it did. Take care" No response and I don't expect one.

So, the question I now have is: Is this chick a candidate for getting sent a dick pic?

Post: #136

I made plans with this chick to go out tonight. Got this text, the biggest crock of shit I've gotten in my entire career. "hey Jesse. I'm really not feeling 100 percent tonight. I won't be able to make it out tonight". Not feeling 100 percent? Thank the sweet baby jesus for all the other numbers in my phone. I just assume the flake nowadays.

Post: #137

@RCron that was shitty, FWIW next time a girl try to pull off stuff like that go with her to the car\[place] to get the eye drops\[whatever] and if she isn't up and ready within the minute eject first and say something along the lines of "was fun but maybe we should continue some other time\when you see properly"

I think that it's the best way to counter when a girl make a move like that.

Post: #138

I was scheduled for a 7:30pm drinks first date tonight with a 31 year old girl from OK Cupid. Got a message from her at 6:30 that she was stuck at work and had to work late cause she was out on vacation this past Monday. I get that shit happens and sometimes you have to cancel, but it really pissed me off she waited so late to tell me. Especially because I had a different girl that asked me out on a first date tonight but I told her I couldn't because of these plans.

Instead I went to the gym and did leg day. I'll almost assuredly get more long term benefit out of that than from this girl that flaked.

Post: #139

The following text message exchange took place the day we were set to meet: (2 to 3 days earlier, initial plans stated it would be that night. No precise time given, but she agreed).

Me: meet me at 9:30
Her: I made other plans because I didn't hear from you

Post: #140

(06-29-2013 12:48 AM)RCron Wrote:  ... She said she needed to run to the car and get some eye drops and she would meet me in the bar. After sitting in the bar for 15 minutes I glanced at my phone and saw this text from her:

"Hi. Listen. My eyes really bugging me and no eye drops. I have to leave! Thank you for tonight!"

I'm like WTF!?! I've been on hundreds of dates and gotten every kind of rejection possible (or so I thought), been stood up, been told point blank they're not attracted to me and it pretty much rolls off my back. For some reason this time I seriously feel like I was sucker punched in the balls. At least have the decency to tell me you're going home to my face...

I've had something similar happen to me once or twice. Women are just selfish as hell. One little thing isn't perfect with either you, or them, and they scoot. I just laugh at this crap. When this happens is THE best time to just game the hell out of other women at the bar.. so she looses too by default.

I also think when this happens, 99% of the time it's planned.

Post: #141

I haven't gotten flaked on yet but I think I might. First, I met her at a bar that was having this dating event. I had talked to her for a little bit then went to talk to someone I knew. She came over and basically pried me away and we ended up talking for the rest of the night, like 2 1/2 hours. We exchanged numbers and I gave her a hug. Mistakes learned: not isolating her and not going in for the kiss (I thought it might be weird, which is still too beta).

I call her 2 days later at 830, no answer so I tell her to call me back. She texts me at 1030 saying she was sorry she missed my call, texts again at 1040 apologizing for a typo, and again at 1050 telling me good night talk to you soon. I texted back around 1120 telling her good night we'll catch up later.

Next day I was busy all night getting a notch, but I woke up yesterday to find 2 texts she had sent at 1130, the first was apologizing for being so busy this week, the second suggested getting together for dinner Saturday night. I wrote back when I got to work telling her I could do saturday night but couldn't do dinner until 8, and made some joke about how hot it was. She responds around 600 last night with an lol (and more) about the heat joke, then says she can't do Sat night. I was waiting for a friend at the time, so I wrote back asking how next week would work for getting some drinks.

So far I haven't heard back, on the one hand I feel like she wants to get together, but on the other hand she's easily a 7 maybe an 8 and I imagine has a slew of guys she's going through. I know she's going through therapy for a broken bone, but that can't take up all her time. My plan is to wait at least a day to reply to anything she texts me (although if my reply falls on Saturday I'll wait to Sunday). If she doesn't text me I'll send her something Monday, maybe a smart ass comment. As far as her text goes, if she says she can do something I'll do it, but if she writes back and says she's busy all week I'm thinking it's a lost cause and I cut her loose.

Any thoughts? It was probably a mistake to agree to Saturday.

Post: #142

Met a hot spanish dame named Isabela. SHE asked ME to hang out when we got back to Berlin. We messaged a little and planned to meet at 9:30. She ditched me to go to a lame bar with all the other fucking nerds in our program.

It doesn't feel bad man....
It


She said next week. Yeah so have a fun weekend out then, broad

Post: #143

(06-28-2013 12:35 PM)Klasmatic Wrote:  met a woman at a bar the other night, a bit older chick. I am 28, she's 36...Very cute woman.

I was waiting for a seat at the bar since it was packed, so I sat down next to her and ordered a drink from cocktail waitress. We started chatting, my game was tight, I had to leave to meet some friends somewhere else so she gave me her number and told me to text her during the week about meeting up for drinks. Texted her, got no response. Deleted her number.

This happens all too often, unfortunately. I was a bit surprised that a woman that age was so flakey. For some reason, I expected an older, professional woman to be less flakey but I guess that's not the case.

I wouldn't quite call it a flake. That's just a part of playing the numbers game, even the best players are not immune to it. Rather than getting pissed off and deleting her number, make her a mass-text candidate. There have been so many cases where guys have ended up banging these 'flakes' on first dates once they get them to reply.

Post: #144

Same girl I mentioned in post #139:

Her: Tomorrow night could work
Her: What did you have in mind?
Me: (venue) and (activity)

Her: How interactive
Her: I'll let you know tomorrow

As expected, the next day rolls around and I never heard from her. Good thing I double-booked and shagged my main girl.

Post: #145

So I get a text Saturday afternoon from a girl I know. Just a friend. She's trying to setup a bar meet up later with a group of friends. We all know each other. So she gets everyone to agree on a time and place. She goes out for dinner prior to the bar with a girlfriend. Ends up just going home and going to bed.

Meanwhile all of us that agreed to her night at the bar find each other. We're all like what the fuck? Where is she? Everyone's calling and texting her. No response. I get a reply the next morning saying she felt sick after dinner and went right to bed. She just couldn't be bothered to let anyone know about it.

I called her on her flaky behavior and her response was "Fine don't hang out with me anymore".

Fucking unbelievable bullshit.

Post: #146

(06-27-2013 07:46 AM)mikado Wrote:  Now today, 1h before the meeting:
First text: I'll not last too long I have a tight schedule.
Second text 10 mn later (I did not answer the previous one, was taking a shower):
Can we postpone it later? My schedule is tighter than expected.
A bit angry, I reminded her that we chose that time because of her tight program that day. She said "Sorry again, I did not expect it to be that much"
I ask her to give me a reschedule, she did not answer.

TLDR: I just got flaked.

I'm learning anymore that when the first flake text comes in, to ignore it and all the rest. Try to make lemonade outta lemons and go solo game in the wake of the flake.

Hell, if you hook up or meet a new girl, maybe if you can nonchalantly squeeze off a pic with a new girl, respond with a pic-text to her final flake text and say;

"that's alright, I met someone else while waiting for you and we really hit it off.." jealousy card out the gate....

Post: #147

(06-28-2013 12:35 PM)Klasmatic Wrote:  met a woman at a bar the other night, a bit older chick. I am 28, she's 36...Very cute woman.

I was waiting for a seat at the bar since it was packed, so I sat down next to her and ordered a drink from cocktail waitress. We started chatting, my game was tight, I had to leave to meet some friends somewhere else so she gave me her number and told me to text her during the week about meeting up for drinks. Texted her, got no response. Deleted her number.

This happens all too often, unfortunately. I was a bit surprised that a woman that age was so flakey. For some reason, I expected an older, professional woman to be less flakey but I guess that's not the case.

I'm in my late 30's and believe me, these broads are just as f-ed up as the late 20's crowd.. some are worse

Post: #148

Saved by the confirmation text.

Was supposed to meet a girl on Wednesday but got stuck at work, rescheduled for today, sent the confirmation text "I'll run 20 minutes late" to which she replied "Meant to text you earlier, can't make it tonight, sorry".

On the brighter side, I get to chill with my friends instead.

Post: #149

Theres a girl who is my ex's sister. We hooked up twice when she was visiting. But her home is states away from me. I had not spoken to her for four months, and she hits me up on facebook out of nowhere saying she misses me and her and her boyfriend are taken a break. We were also talking about her visiting (I wasnt gonna pay of course).

Well for the past few weeks since we have been talking, it seems like I was always the one hitting her up and she made no intentions of furthering our plans. She would say she was down with it and stuff, but I was the only one trying to pop things off.

Last we talked she seemed all upset over her boyfriend. So Idk if you wanna call it a flake, but she clearly hmu as a backup dude and is caught up over her current boyfriend again. no point in fuckin with it.

Post: #150

Flaked on last night. POF chick that I talked to a fair bit for about 4 days prior. Tried to stay pretty aloof and cocky, and she was sending lots of 'lols' and smiley faces. Called her over the lunch hour and left a message with the time and place like I said I would. No response back.

What do you guys think is worse: a bull shit excuse (ie. 'I think I have for poisoning, so I can't make it tonight '), or no response at all.

I like the idea of double booking. Takes the pressure off trying too hard in either of them, and increases your chances of not getting flaked on.