Post: #101

(04-21-2013 12:37 AM)Rootless Wrote:  My first post is about a flake.... way to start.

So I called a solid 7 few days back to set a date (the third) for Friday (yesterday),
She:"bla bla bla I don't know my work schedule, let me call you back when I know".
No answer till now.

I guess I should forget about her?

pretty much done, i'd next her

Post: #102

I think I cock blocked myself the other night by being too drunk and cocky.

My friend from Vegas comes to town and meets up with his ex-girl who now lives here. She invites her sister along, and we're at a concert. We get introduced, but it's loud so it just a "hi, nice to meet you." But after the show she comes up to me and asks my name again. I tell her I'm new to town and she asks for my number right off the bat, within one minute of the start of the conversation. We flirt a little bit, then it's time to go home. We end up grabbing pizza on the way home and I say let's get it to go and head back to my house. Only problem is my roommate is in town and we have a studio, so I can't smash tonight, but no problem, she's into me. We start watching funny videos online while my friend is starting to pass out on his bed. I put my arm around her and she climbs in real fast, she seems real thirsty, so I give her a kiss. We start making out, everything seems fine. Then we start talking about how another mutual friend we have was in town last weekend, and she was mad because he didn't call. I start teasing her saying, "Yeah, he mentioned something about you I think, he said he was trying to avoid you." She thought it was funny, but then after that I don't remember much. I was trashed and everything gets fuzzy. The girl wasn't drunk and I was hammered, I remember at one point saying something like, "I think I'm way too drunk and you're way to sober." I think I said that because I said something to be a dick before. Next thing I remember she's leaving. somewhere in between I even mentioned how my roommate was leaving monday, and she said, "There's always my house." Which is pretty much insinuating sex. But the next day I invited her out, she was busy, I told her to hit me up after, but I never heard from her. I have a feeling I said some stuff to piss her off while in my drunken stooper. I didn't call her today, but I'm gonna try again tomorrow. Maybe she was just tired, she did go on a hike after all. I must of had to say some real dumb shit though, because she was coming onto me strong.

Post: #103

so the model wannabe I met on Saturday at Sbarro just flaked on me for tonight. Sent a message that said "Excuse me please, but I can't make out meeting tonight."

When I got out of the set I figured she would either not get back to me or flake (she didn't ask any personal questions about me really, then tried to give me her Whats App contact #, to which I said would be easier to exchange numbers so we did). But she actually got right back to me when I asked her out yesterday and even sent a smiley afterwards !!

I haven't responded, date is in an hour, wondering what my play is. Figure I can say something like "been busy , no worries, some other time" and then re-engage in a week or two....I figure I should respond at some point but might be a lost cause....

Post: #104

(04-23-2013 10:19 AM)Akula Wrote:  so the model wannabe I met on Saturday at Sbarro just flaked on me for tonight. Sent a message that said "Excuse me please, but I can't make out meeting tonight."

When I got out of the set I figured she would either not get back to me or flake (she didn't ask any personal questions about me really, then tried to give me her Whats App contact #, to which I said would be easier to exchange numbers so we did). But she actually got right back to me when I asked her out yesterday and even sent a smiley afterwards !!

I haven't responded, date is in an hour, wondering what my play is. Figure I can say something like "been busy , no worries, some other time" and then re-engage in a week or two....I figure I should respond at some point but might be a lost cause....

She was very polite about it (good sign) but didn't offer to reschedule (bad sign). I would chastise her and see how she responds. Words were nice enough, but her timing (action) was rude AND she didn't offer another time, so you gotta go with her actions.

Post: #105

How do you guys respond to flake texts?

Ideas right now:

1.- Ignore them and not reply
2.- Short reply like "ok"
3.- Saying something like "alright, we can meet another day"
4.- Playful: "alright, I'll have to take someone else for the night"
5.- "unsubscribe", like I read on some other forum post (could somebody clarify the meaning of this?)
5.- Call her out on/make fun of her bullshit excuse

Post: #106

I usually just radio silence and restart text after 1 week or 2 like nothing happened. if it was a legit flake, the girl usually text me before that mark. Though, I just assume it's done when she flakes for the first time and go game other girls.

Post: #107

I stood up last night from a badoo girl.

2 hours before the date I text:

me: xxx at 6:15pm
grl: ok ill be there, kisses

I arrived at 6:15pm , she wasn't there. I called her but no answer. At 6:35 I left and called her out over text. Bitch. Then executed Plan B which was to daygame at a nearby uni. Got 2 numbers from a cute 8.5 (blonde, blue eyes, tall, my taste) and "cavala" 8.75. The rest will be in the approach thread.

Post: #108

Got this flake's number when leaving the local store where she works. Plans were set for Monday afternoon. Received the following the day before:

"Eh, actually how about not. I'm sorry to cancel on you, but it strikes me that you're probably looking to get a date. Thanks for patronizing the shop, I really appreciate it. It's cool to see fellow (our university) students there."

Little did she know- I had a significantly more attractive girl already lined up for that night (who I brought home and reached third base with).

Post: #109

An online girl flaked me today, date was set two days ago for this eve.
"Hello! I just for a call in for work tonight! ... Sorry for last minute cancellation!"

I should start doing the double booking method.

Post: #110

I'm not sure if this really counts as a flake, but it pissed me off:

My neighbor/friend Elle hit me up last night to come hang out with her and her two female friends. She has to convince me as I'm busy doing some small projects and am really tired. One of them is from my area of the state and now lives in Europe as a small time filmmaker. I have a good time with that one and do some dancing and flirting with her. The girls are buying drinks, they're commenting on how masculine/attractive I am, the filmmaker is giving me the eyes and the hair twirls and just obviously is into me.

The lights come on, we finish our drinks and head to my neighbor's place (where they're staying) for some afterparty. Wake up the roommate, who comes down and hangs out for a bit, the other girl offers to cook as they are all hungry, I walk home grab some ingredients she'll need to make good food (she's apparently a chef, so my fresh ingredients are music to her ears), but before I do I go up to the filmmaker (now sitting on the kitchen counter) and make out with her, takeaway and I'm off to my place.

We dine and the filmmaker and I are teasing each other, she's loving every second of it. It's time to sleep, I take the filmmaker to walk her home with me. My neighbor Elle and the chef girl are literally pushing the filmmaker out the door as she is resisting leaving with me. I pick up the filmmaker and set her outside with me, the girls close the door and lock it behind them. I think now the filmmaker is going to come with me, but she resists again. She said she can't do this. I try to work the anti-slut magic, she still resists, says she can't do this. I ask her why. She says she has a boyfriend and she can't. I tell her to just come stay the night and we don't have to do anything else (I'm fucking exhausted at this point and I really don't care if we just make out and nothing else happens), she insists. She won't budge. She says she knows that if she were in my bed she couldn't trust herself to not be with me.

Out of patience, I tell her good luck with that and turn and leave her on the doorstep and go home. Text Elle a big "WHAT THE FUCK?" and go home and try to pass out.

Long time since a girl pissed me off like that.

Post: #111

Girl from physio, mentioned in approach thread, flaked earlier. "Really sorry, completely forgot street party was happening today..." blah blah. I just replied "Ok". She replied "Next week I promise xxx"

Post: #112

Went out with a girl from pof and from the pics I thought she was about a 6.5 but I said what the hell. Maybe in person she'll look a little better i'll just give it a try. I meet her, and whoaaa the chick was about a 8.5 or a 9. This chick looked just like malibu barbie, I was shocked and happy at the same time, lol. Anyways we had a good date, I teased and made fun of her the whole date. Got some physical contact and touching going, game was on point. She tells me how sexy I am, and was glad she she went on this date. So I wait a few days then text her for another date and she's like sure let's go out again. And says Monday works for her I think it was Friday day of this text. Of course Monday comes and I get a text from her saying she can't do Monday, another day this week. Then later that same day I get a text saying I think your super sexy, and all but can't see this going past friends, ha ha ha!!!! I laugh my ass off, she looked good but was a dumb ditz type chick, just wanted to fuck the shit out of her.

I wasn't surprised by the bullshit though, I always leave room in my brain knowing that it might happen. So i'm only half way invested in these broads. So it's always on to the next, these chicks are a dime a dozen no sweat.

Post: #113

Girl I meet who graduated two years ago. Was supposed to go to this thai food place near the mall with my friend and his girl. She just texted me with "Hey so tomorrow we're having reporters come out and later my grandma's birthday so I can't go...sorry:/"

So you're famous now?

Post: #114

Could use some input. This is probably the third time this has happened to me.
Seemed like a slam dunk. The girl seems excited when texting, we make plans, I text her the day of our plans to nail down the time and I get no response. Texting seems like a weak point for me. Not pressed on this particular girl; just want to improve in general.

The Story:
She came into my work on a Sunday and offered me her number. Told her I didn't have a phone at the time and I would hit her up when I got one. Apparently on the way out she told my coworker, “OMG I finally gave Young T.R. My number.”

Tuesday:

Me: hey i got a phone. whats up

No answer, but on Saturday I see her friend who says the girl in question was wondering why I hadn't texted her yet. So it seems like she legitimately missed it. Her friend tells me to text her again. I had a crazy weekend though so I forgot to. But she hits me up on Monday.

Monday:

Her: Oh hey sorry I just now saw your text lol how are you? (8:09am)

Me: hey about to get off work. what you up to (5:40pm)

Her: About to eat crabs haha! How was work? What are you up to? (5:42pm)

Me: ha workish. want to hang out sometime this week (6:17pm)

Her: Yeah that would be fun what days are you available? (6:46pm)

Me: tues and wed i'm off at ten. we could play pool and chill for a couple hours. if you're not a night owl like me i'm free all day thurs to do whatever (7:11pm)

Her: Im off thursday! I close tomorrow but I open Wednesday (7:16pm)

Her: Where do you play pool? (7:17pm)

Me: “xxxxx” its a bar but they never card at the door. (7:21pm)

Me: thursday sounds pretty good (7:27pm)

Her: Hahah yeah im not old enough yet but if they dont card that would be cool if thursday works for you I can do it! (7:47pm)

Me: sounds like a plan (8:21pm)

Her: Yep sounds like it (8:50pm)

Her: What are you up to? (8:50pm)

Me: working on some music/dozing. how about you (9:05pm)

Her: Smoking my hookah with some friends! (9:09pm)

Her: What kind of music are you listening to? (9:09pm)

Me: sweet I love hookah. i'm making the music. trying to remix ace hood w buena vista social club. random as hell i know. (9:15pm)

Her: How do you remix stuff? (9:19pm)

Me: laptop. if you look up my name you can see what i mean (9:25pm)

Her: Ill check it out whats your last name? (9:58pm)

Tuesday:

Me: my bad fell asleep. “xxxxx” is my last name. (9:33am)

Her: Haha its okay I figured that ill check it out then (9:53am)

Me: sweet. yeah i was real tired (10:12am)

Her: Haha working to hard at [my job]? (12:57pm)

Me: ha something like that. about to go back in. (3:42pm)

Her: Haha I know the feeling have fun (6:43pm)

Wednesday: [Nothing]

Thursday: hey whats up (12:05pm)

Nothing. Maybe she didn't like my music. lol.

Post: #115

you gave her your last name, maybe she looked you up and found stuff. the mystery is gone? dont give you last name out. either way, girls will be flaky NEXT

Post: #116

I always go with "I'll meet you at x at y" on the day of a date. That way, they'll either cancel in which case you know where things stand or they'll confirm with you. None of this not texting back bollocks.

Post: #117

DUPLICATE POST, SEE BELOW

Post: #118

(06-07-2013 04:06 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  My comments in BOLD

(06-06-2013 08:51 PM)Young T.R. Wrote:  Could use some input. This is probably the third time this has happened to me.
Seemed like a slam dunk. The girl seems excited when texting, we make plans, I text her the day of our plans to nail down the time and I get no response. Texting seems like a weak point for me. Not pressed on this particular girl; just want to improve in general.

The Story:
She came into my work on a Sunday and offered me her number. Told her I didn't have a phone at the time and I would hit her up when I got one. Apparently on the way out she told my coworker, “OMG I finally gave Young T.R. My number.”

Tuesday:

Me: hey i got a phone. whats up

No answer, but on Saturday I see her friend who says the girl in question was wondering why I hadn't texted her yet. So it seems like she legitimately missed it. Her friend tells me to text her again. I had a crazy weekend though so I forgot to. But she hits me up on Monday.

Monday:

Her: Oh hey sorry I just now saw your text lol how are you? (8:09am)

Me: hey about to get off work. what you up to (5:40pm)

Her: About to eat crabs haha! How was work? What are you up to? (5:42pm)

Me: ha workish. want to hang out sometime this week (6:17pm) Your response about work is boring as fuck. Better to ignore her question than answer that boringly. You asked her a really open ended question, better to invite her to something cool/specific.

Her: Yeah that would be fun what days are you available? (6:46pm)

Me: tues and wed i'm off at ten. we could play pool and chill for a couple hours. if you're not a night owl like me i'm free all day thurs to do whatever (7:11pm) Not bad, not good.

Her: Im off thursday! I close tomorrow but I open Wednesday (7:16pm) She sounds excited about hanging with you on Thursday

Her: Where do you play pool? (7:17pm)

Me: “xxxxx” its a bar but they never card at the door. (7:21pm)

Me: thursday sounds pretty good (7:27pm) Thursday what time?

Her: Hahah yeah im not old enough yet but if they dont card that would be cool if thursday works for you I can do it! (7:47pm) I don't even know why but she's still wanting to submit to your schedule/frame at this point.

Me: sounds like a plan (8:21pm) BORING

Her: Yep sounds like it (8:50pm) She's bored. She is comitting but not comitting since there's no time defined.

Her: What are you up to? (8:50pm) Really bored

Me: working on some music/dozing. how about you (9:05pm) EVEN MORE BORING

Her: Smoking my hookah with some friends! (9:09pm)

Her: What kind of music are you listening to? (9:09pm)

Me: sweet I love hookah. i'm making the music. trying to remix ace hood w buena vista social club. random as hell i know. (9:15pm) You put her activities on a pedestal, then downplay yours and even almost insult your own activities.

Her: How do you remix stuff? (9:19pm) She is still somehow interested even though you keep saying boring shit.

Me: laptop. if you look up my name you can see what i mean (9:25pm) Better answer would be ANYTHING.

Her: Ill check it out whats your last name? (9:58pm)

Tuesday:

Me: my bad fell asleep. “xxxxx” is my last name. (9:33am) Why are you apologizing?

Her: Haha its okay I figured that ill check it out then (9:53am)

Me: sweet. yeah i was real tired (10:12am)

Her: Haha working to hard at [my job]? (12:57pm)

Me: ha something like that. about to go back in. (3:42pm) BORING

Her: Haha I know the feeling have fun (6:43pm) She is losing interest hard

Wednesday: [Nothing]

Thursday: hey whats up (12:05pm)

Nothing. Maybe she didn't like my music. lol.

She lost interest. She gave you so many opportunities, you were on a pedestal. All you had to do was not fuck it up, but you were just plain boring and did not maintain any frame and she got turned off. I'm not a young girl and even "I" got bored. Imagine a young girl with attention EVERYWHERE who is already interested in you. The worst thing you can do is just plain bore her and talk yourself down form the pedestal she already had you on.

Post: #119

Damn. I think you nailed it on everything. Thanks for your honest criticism and taking the time to break it down; that's exactly what I was looking for.

Post: #120

I agree with AneroidOcean's post.

Though when she mentions that she is off Thursday, you should have quit texting and just called her to set up exact plans. Looks like you punched yourself out.

Post: #121

(06-08-2013 01:51 AM)Young T.R. Wrote:  Damn. I think you nailed it on everything. Thanks for your honest criticism and taking the time to break it down; that's exactly what I was looking for.

No problem, great that you take it as criticism and don't get butt hurt. The beauty of it is that there is LOTS you can improve on and a little effort/analysis can take you far.

When you talk about what you're doing, put it in the best light possible. You don't have to exaggerate, but as an example you said, "working on some music/dozing. how about you" when she asked you what you were doing. You could've ignored her question and redirected, or you could've described what you were doing this way:

"Dozing, bed SO warm, jump in" - This throws in some fantasy, let's her imagine your bed and her jumping in it with you. Obviously she's not going to think you're REALLY inviting her into your bed, but she gets to imagine and boring sleeping becomes something much more intriguing. I recommend not saying you're going to do something boring or low energy unless you can talk about it in a way that it will get her imagination/interest going.

"Mixing some tracks, this x song with y song combo is killing it"

"Spinning some new shit up on the laptop"

Or go with something more joking like, "DJ'ing, gotta get ready to open for Tiesto, think you can fit in my suitcase?"

Seriously, you can just make shit up with women and if you do it decent they'll eat it up. Don't be boring.

Post: #122

Other online flake, read all about it:

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Post: #123

Didn't get flaked on per se, but it would have been better. Met this girl (7.5 with a big ol' buttocks) at a party a week ago and she was way into me. I was handsy and she was even more so. I felt like my game was way tight. I got the number and set up a date for tonight, but I got the feeling she was gonna flake from her texts. I had backup plans ready just in case. Sure enough she asked if a friend could come. I said no figuring she'd bail and I'd be free for the night to do my other shit. Well... She showed up after all and just refused to talk. I tried to joke with her, but she just wouldn't respond. We had dinner and I suggested she go home. That, my friends, is why flaking isn't bad. If a girl who's not interested some how does end up out with you, she'll make sure you know she's not interested the whole time.

Post: #124

(06-18-2013 08:27 AM)Skotch Wrote:  Met this girl (7.5 with a big ol' buttocks) at a party a week ago and she was way into me. I was handsy and she was even more so.

You didn't take her home or bang her at the party why? I BOLDED the important part above. If she was more handsy than you and you thought your game was tight, you could've gone much further with this chick and she WANTED you to. Still, your text conversation could've killed it too. You might want to throw it in the player's log/lounge and see what feedback you get. Would be a good learning opportunity.

Post: #125

Nebraska girl i number closed Saturday night flaked today for our drink meeting. Text exchange from beginning, cant figure out if/where i fucked up but she still seems interested.

Me: Hey ****, are you following my fashion advice today? dark with light?
Her: haha, who is this?
Me: ****, your fashion advisor Nebraska gal
Her: haha, i cant say i remember us talking about fashion but good lookin out!
Me: you are a bad listener.how did you do in school?
Her: haha, graduated with honors, not a bad listener just a good drinker.
me: speaking of drinking, whats your schedule like on tuesday? lets grab a drink.
Her: i might be able to make some time for my self-proclaimed fashion advisor.
me: great, tuesday 7 pm..Venue.
Her: Sounds good
Today, standard confirmation text.
Me: I'll be waiting by the main entrance.
Her:(Two hours later):Hey, oh my i just got off work and totally forgot about this! Im about to get on a train and i dont think ill make it back to the city in time, can we reschedule? im sorry.
Me: (Two hours later) Ok, lets do tomorrow then, same time.You live in the suburbs, that sucks.

No reply yet. idk if she will reply tom but we will see. thoughts?