Post: #1

I know once a woman smells a whiff of the stench of beta in you, she will resent you for it & there is no way you can salvage the relationship.

However, months or years down the road, given that you've improved yourself in every way possible, is it possible for her to forget that stage of your life and chase you again ?

Post: #2

(04-29-2013 11:49 AM)LibertarianBootyHunter Wrote:  I know once a woman smells a whiff of the stench of beta in you, she will resent you for it & there is no way you can salvage the relationship.

However, months or years down the road, given that you've improved yourself in every way possible, is it possible for her to forget that stage of your life and chase you again ?

I have been contacted recently by a couple of ex's that both dumped me. However under no circumstances would I go back with them. I have moved on and then there is the case of your dignity and self respect which is important to have in any man. If a women even senses that you are desperate or clingy, she will have you by the balls. Bitches are utterly ruthless, in fact more so than men.

I do still keep in contact with another ex whom we parted mutually a while back. That's an entirely different set of circumstances.

Post: #3

Yes. It was one of my first posts on this forum. I pined for her for so long, would up getting back together with her once I got my shit together. Lasted for just under a year until I wanted out.

Post: #4

dont do it , its just not worth it no matter how cute she is.

there really are plenty of fish in the sea and getting stuck on just one is a recipe for unhappiness and slavery, especially an ex.

Post: #5

Every time. The thing is, once you've got your shit together you realize how fucked up their shit is. At that point if you stay with her one of two things is likely to happen: She'll be motivated by you to get her shit together, or she'll pull you back down to hell with her.

Post: #6

Taking back an ex is beta

Post: #7

(04-29-2013 09:17 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Taking back an ex is beta

Thanks brahs !

I'm not trying to take her back. I just want her to come crawling back so i can lead her on a little bit, fuck her a few times and then reject her. I get an boner just thinking about that scenario.

Post: #8

It's a nice ego boost. It can be a pretty passionate fuck too.

However, if your value truly went up, you trade up.

WIA

Post: #9

(04-29-2013 11:49 AM)LibertarianBootyHunter Wrote:  I know once a woman smells a whiff of the stench of beta in you, she will resent you for it & there is no way you can salvage the relationship.

However, months or years down the road, given that you've improved yourself in every way possible, is it possible for her to forget that stage of your life and chase you again ?

The lord of darkens thus spoketh

Yes, dear serpent it is begetable; but logistics will rule the interaction.

If you can hang out with her spitting tight soft-alpha game than it may work. Befriend and gain trust by having her alone in dark or in your bed and not escalating, reel her in until she starts to wonders - WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY?.

Than hit it one day.

Moving on is best outcome, ain't worth banging a hoe.

P.S: Soft-alpha because you can't be too aloof or truly asshole alpha with her since you are giving the day to someone who dumped you.

Post: #10

Dont take them back, when she brings up wanting to get back together say "I talk about important things like that in person" and then fuck her. Ive pump and dumped 2 different exs after 6+ moths of no contact. Sex was awesome, having them beg you then get pissed off at you afterwards is a very pleasurable experience.

Post: #11

funny!

i was just creeping on some ex's facebooks. Probably the hottest chick I ever dated I saw just get married to the dude she cheated on me with about a year ago. She looked so fuckin hot in the wedding pics, mostly because her smile was so genuine and heartfelt, and it looked as if she was so very truly happy.

Of course, this fills me with bitterness and resentment, hahahaha

But then I checked out the profiles of a couple other hoes who are attracted to me, and I think to myself, "fuck yeah, move on, there's even hotter bitches and I want to fuck them all. fuck yeah, roar."

Post: #12

(04-30-2013 12:47 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  It's a nice ego boost. It can be a pretty passionate fuck too.

However, if your value truly went up, you trade up.

WIA

+1

Post: #13

i'm in a kind of similar situation
ex is flirting with me, has asked me when we can meet up
have no intention of getting back with this chick, but i wouldn't say no to a roll in the hay or possibly some sexytime via webcam
i'd say both are runners, the way things are going
even though there seems to be another dude on the scene
i think it could be a shit test of sorts, to see how i respond
anyway, interesting times, we'll see how it transpires...

Post: #14

i was in a similar situation when I started out in game, resenting my ex for our break up and thinking 'i'm going to show her etc.' I think it's a stage that has to be done; you need something to kick start you and it got me working out, making more money and approaching girls. It is only the abundance you get with girls that will make you forget her. Push through.. get your shit together and before long she'll just be a memory like all the rest, no more special.

Post: #15

anyone ever try the "no contact rule" for getting back with a girl that dumped you? Maybe just for a bang?

No contact says after "the LJBF" talk...or whatever BS she give you. Go no contact for about 30 days or more. Then, reinitiate with light hearted banter.

The theory is, by then, she'll be missing you....you'll be less emotional and more logical...and since people remember the past with rose colored glasses usually...she may not be thinking much about the reason she ended it.

Of course, sometimes they'll get in touch with you before the 30 days. Experiences with this here?

Post: #16

i've gotten an ex back for a couple months of heavy and hot banging. It was great fun, and the sex haunts me to this day...however, it caused my true self improvement to backslide some, and cost me a few new notch counts. She lost interest again when she could detect I was catching feelings again.

It was a fun time, but it was not a great idea. Proceed with caution, it WILL NOT make you a better man.

Post: #17

(08-29-2014 08:30 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  i've gotten an ex back for a couple months of heavy and hot banging. It was great fun, and the sex haunts me to this day...however, it caused my true self improvement to backslide some, and cost me a few new notch counts. She lost interest again when she could detect I was catching feelings again.

It was a fun time, but it was not a great idea. Proceed with caution, it WILL NOT make you a better man.

A question and an observation:

1. How did you get her back? Ignore and she called you...how long did she take to call if so? Or did you reinitiate...and if so...after how long?

Observation- I find it incredible how women can fuck without getting emotionally involved and men do get emotionally involved. From an evolutionary standpoint....it seems it would be opposite. That women should get emotional and start falling in love after an alpha fuck and men would be more aloof.
If guess it has to do with the feminization of society and the fact that women lose bonding capabilities after so many partners ( read cocks in their twats )

Post: #18

^^^ It's because they're already emotionally invested. Once they've given you clearance to enter their fortress of solitude, it will never be revoked.

Post: #19

(08-29-2014 08:36 AM)robreke Wrote:  

(08-29-2014 08:30 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  i've gotten an ex back for a couple months of heavy and hot banging. It was great fun, and the sex haunts me to this day...however, it caused my true self improvement to backslide some, and cost me a few new notch counts. She lost interest again when she could detect I was catching feelings again.

It was a fun time, but it was not a great idea. Proceed with caution, it WILL NOT make you a better man.

A question and an observation:

1. How did you get her back? Ignore and she called you...how long did she take to call if so? Or did you reinitiate...and if so...after how long?

Observation- I find it incredible how women can fuck without getting emotionally involved and men do get emotionally involved. From an evolutionary standpoint....it seems it would be opposite. That women should get emotional and start falling in love after an alpha fuck and men would be more aloof.
If guess it has to do with the feminization of society and the fact that women lose bonding capabilities after so many partners ( read cocks in their twats )

we had lived together for many years and she had to come by to get some stuff. I had initiated NC for several weeks prior, she sent texts like "i really miss talking to you etc". I ignored them.

She stopped by, I was looking good, dressed well, been working out, my place was looking mint, ignored her pretty hard, then kino'd her a little bit, and pulled her in for this kiss. This kicked off a bang session of epic proportions.

But hear me on this: I DO NOT FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT OR PROUD OF IT. It was like I was giving her back the power. It was hot as shit, and the sex was amazing, but it cut me down a few steps and took my self rebuilding back a couple months. I don't really regret it now, since it didn't have much long lasting effect on my life, but I wouldn't recommend doing this.

Like others have said earlier in this thread, if you TRUELY improve yourself, you should be aiming for an upgrade anyhow. The girl I am seeing now is an upgrade for sure, and I am wondering how I was so stuck on my ex back then.

Post: #20

(08-29-2014 08:42 AM)heavy Wrote:  ^^^ It's because they're already emotionally invested. Once they've given you clearance to enter their fortress of solitude, it will never be revoked.

It will certainly be revoked if they dump you.

Post: #21

Reinitiating with an ex is like living life whilst only looking in the rearview mirror.

DON'T DO IT. Shoulder check before moving forward, as necessary.

Post: #22

Hm 'if you cant have me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best' who posts that quote on fb.....guys or girls....

Post: #23

Actually, yes. It happened to me a couple of weeks ago when she just had sent me a text out of nowhere. She figured that I would still want to chase after her after she decided to initiate the conversation, (I haven't spoke to her in four months).

Unfortunately, for her, I moved on a long time ago. I used the No Contact period for growth, not for an artificial aloof game tactic.

Post: #24

Once I went red from blue I noticed my ex getting more interested in me despite the fact she had a "boyfriend". No emotional investment but I still got her naked and in my bed.