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(04-19-2013 08:30 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  To the guys that do lots of day game approaches; how often do you guys get the "I have a boyfriend" line when going for the number?

You are going to get that a lot in the beginning, (A Girls way of politely saying she is not interested) or she wants you to jump through the hoops/Shit Test.

As you get better, Girls will be more attracted to you and will not bring up the BF and or not Shit Test you a lot.

Either way stay unfazed, give zero fucks and keep on proceeding with the Approach.

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04-20-2013 11:01 AM
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(04-20-2013 11:01 AM)Lothario Wrote:  
(04-19-2013 08:30 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  To the guys that do lots of day game approaches; how often do you guys get the "I have a boyfriend" line when going for the number?

You are going to get that a lot in the beginning, (A Girls way of politely saying she is not interested) or she wants you to jump through the hoops/Shit Test.

As you get better, Girls will be more attracted to you and will not bring up the BF and or not Shit Test you a lot.

Either way stay unfazed, give zero fucks and keep on proceeding with the Approach.

Word.

I got the bf card all the time when i first started (probably due to neediness and nervousness).

Now I hardly hear that from girls. Or if I do, it is at the very end of the conversation when I go for her number.
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(04-19-2013 08:30 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  To the guys that do lots of day game approaches; how often do you guys get the "I have a boyfriend" line when going for the number?

Literally just ignore it. Pretend like she never said it. Best way. No gimmicks or persuasion. Just keep on talking. Don't let her move you. You are an Oak.
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How to address when a girl says "I have a BF":

You: Of course you do, you're very beautiful. So how about I pick you up tomorrow around 8pm?

You: I'm not surprised at all. What are your plans this weekend?

You: I was guessing you might. So what brings you around this part of town?
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(04-20-2013 01:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  How to address when a girl says "I have a BF":

You: Of course you do, you're very beautiful. So how about I pick you up tomorrow around 8pm?

You: I'm not surprised at all. What are your plans this weekend?

You: I was guessing you might. So what brings you around this part of town?

There were some decent threads on this topic, try searching them.... From what I remember they are called the "BF Destroyer Lines"

Girl : I have a BF

You:

1. Hang on a sec ....We just met and you are telling me all your problems.

2. Good, That will give you something to do when I am not around.

3. OK.....Is he the Jealous Kind.

4. I have a pet.

5. I have a GF

6. Me too.

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(04-20-2013 02:57 PM)Lothario Wrote:  
(04-20-2013 01:56 PM)gandt Wrote:  How to address when a girl says "I have a BF":

You: Of course you do, you're very beautiful. So how about I pick you up tomorrow around 8pm?

You: I'm not surprised at all. What are your plans this weekend?

You: I was guessing you might. So what brings you around this part of town?

There were some decent threads on this topic, try searching them.... From what I remember they are called the "BF Destroyer Lines"

Girl : I have a BF

You:

1. Hang on a sec ....We just met and you are telling me all your problems.

2. Good, That will give you something to do when I am not around.

3. OK.....Is he the Jealous Kind.

4. I have a pet.

5. I have a GF

6. Me too.

I really don't like those lines to be honest. I think it makes a big deal out of the whole "bf" thing and seems awkward when I run through it in my head.

The reason I would rather say:

"and in no way I am surprised" when the says she has a boyfriend is that you can turn her telling you about her boyfriend directly into another way to flight with her.

If you say:

"I'm not surprised one bit" while holding eye contact with a smile is much stronger in my opinion.
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(04-18-2013 02:35 PM)gandt Wrote:  Second bartender # close:

Again, the same lessons as above apply:

*Initiate when the bar is not that busy
*Keep it concise and bold

This was at a pub that was just on the verge of getting busy.

Me and some buddies sat down at the bar and I was eyeing this cute bartender. She came over and we ordered some drinks. After chilling with my buddies and drinking a few I made eye contact with the bartender and signalled her to come over:

Me: "Hey, I know you're working right now so I don't want to get you in trouble but I'm home visiting family for a couple weeks before flying back to Denmark. To be straight up, I think you're extremely cute behind that bar and was wondering if you want to grab a coffee this week?"

Her: *smiles* "From denmark huh?"

Me: "yeah I moved there a year ago for work"

Her: "One sec"... (has to go attend to other customers)

*I go back to drinking with my buddies shooting the shit. 10 mins goes by and I completely forgot about her but then....

She strolls up and puts her business card on my pint of beer. I look at is and read out:

Me: "Sarah, nice to meet you. I'll be sending you a text tomorrow"

The End.

Good shit, mate. I think the fact you come from Denmark helps a lot too.
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Thanks for all the helpful posts everyone, however, I was literally asking how frequently this occurs during approaches though(the actual frequency in numbers). I'm very aware of shit tests and the proper replies to them, my bad.

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Met a smokin 18 year old driving my cab Saturday, we had about a 5 minute talk before I dropped her off at a bar. Number closed. She seemed pretty surprised I was interested in her, in a good way.

So I texted her once that night "Jaylow btw". She texted me twice today and I decided to phone her instead of playing the texting game since that hasnt gotten me anywhere lately. Kind of got caught off guard because I phoned her 30 minutes after the 2nd text and I had woke her up. Dont think I apologized, just kept talking to her. Had a light conv about her night before (probably a mistake, what would you guys have started off with?) then she dropped something about having an exam early tomorrow morning so I cut it short and told her she should come downtown with me Tuesday night. She said wed/thurs during the day is when shes free.

I am thinking I could have fucked her tonight if I responded to her text right away instead of intentionally delaying since she went to sleep right after she texted me. She also said she didn't study for the exam in the morning so I didn't have to cut the conversation short and instead made vague plans for a day date "wed or thurs" that probably won't go through.

I only got one DHV in (don't you have a car?) What would you guys have done in the above situation? Any standard DHV's you use for younger girls?
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(04-19-2013 05:29 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  
(04-18-2013 03:21 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  
(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently Tongue can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw Wink

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

Jesus you're headed in the same direction as some of your other text game examples. Please call her or just invite her out to do something harmless like go for a walk. You'd be better served going a little beta than continuing down your bad text game path. You already had her eye fucking you without ever talking to you, don't open your mouth/text and have her change her mind!

Called her a couple of hours ago- didn't pick up. Guess I'll make my next contact on Monday.

Told me she's free tomorrow night and wednesday afternoon. Locked in date for tomorrow at 9 pm.

Her last text: Alright. coffee at (venue)?

The place we're going to has both a cafe and bar (on the opposite side). How do I convert this into a drink rather than coffee date? Or, do successful nighttime coffee dates actually exist?
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saw a cute from far away blonde. increased pace to open her over my shoulders, using her book as prop. got personal too quickly myself about how i know someone who got into grad school with her major. she quickly called me out for playing stupid during convo. couldn't close.

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It's hard for me to break this down because I don't have alot of information.

I will try my best because you asked me..

(04-21-2013 11:52 PM)Jaylow Wrote:  I phoned her 30 minutes after the 2nd text and I had woke her up. Dont think I apologized, just kept talking to her. Had a light conv about her night before (probably a mistake, what would you guys have started off with?)

I would have started off with whatever she was doing at that moment.

"hey whats up, what are you up to?"
"you are sleeping, were you up all night studying?"
"you are sleeping, oh okay, just call me later"


It's hard to say. It really depends on her vibe.

Did she eagerly wake up and want to talk to you? Or, did she suggest that she wanted to go back to sleep?

It all depends on that..

If she really was asleep. I might have just let her sleep. I don't like to wake people up. I hate people that wake me up.

(04-21-2013 11:52 PM)Jaylow Wrote:  What would you guys have done in the above situation?

I would have just talked to her and/or texted with her and tried to build some connection. Make her laugh, find something in common, etc.

The biggest thing is to SET A DATE.

If she is not ready to set a date, I would just play it cool and call/text her in a few days.

(04-21-2013 11:52 PM)Jaylow Wrote:  Any standard DHV's you use for younger girls?

I don't use DHVs.

They should be able to sense your value just by the way you speak and the way you carry yourself.

I don't have to verbalize it. I just treat her like I am a man and she is a little girl. Obviously, she is inferior to me. She can feel this by the way I talk to her.

I think being older is a natural DHV.

Young girls are insecure. If you assume you are superior, they will assume that they are inferior.

I hope this helps you. Sorry, I couldn't be more specific. This is just not alot of information to work with.

Like I said, you can call me or skype me anytime.

Good luck, let us know what happens.
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A few days ago...

I am in the elevator at my local junior college. The door starts to close, suddenly, a cute, thin, Latina squeezes herself through the door just before the door closed. I was impressed with her athleticism, balance, and grace. She was so feminine and cute about it.

The elevator is crowded. Immediately, I say, "Nice squeeze"

She looks at me, smiles, and says "thanks"

me: you are a good athlete
her: oh no, im not
me: maybe just a good dancer then..
her: she just laughs and smiles at me.


The elevator door opens. She gets off. Approach over.

I continue walking around campus gaming girls. About an hour later guess who is walking right towards me. The girl from the elevator.

me: hey how was class?
her: oh hey, it was just a lab, it was cool


She stops.

me: what class was it?
her: science. how was your class?
me: oh it was okay. Are you done for the day?
her: yeah
me: time to relax
her: its so nice today
me: yeah i want to go to the beach
her: oooh i love the beach
me: are you from around here
her: no im from LA
me: oh you guys have better beaches down there
her: ya the beaches up here are to cold and windy
me: ya most of the time they are
her: where are you from
me: here but i have lived in brazil and mexico
her: oh wow how cool
me: ya brazil is amazing
her: you look like a soccer player
me: haha i am
her: me too i love it
me: do you wanna sit down?
her: sure


We sat on a bench.

me: so whats your name?
her: samantha
me: my name is gio


Blah, blah, blah. We chat about soccer, school, and life. She is 18. Tight young body. Pretty face.

me: nice chatting with you, should we exchange numbers or something?
her: umm yeah
me: cool do you have your phone? just call me.


She does. My phone rings. I answer..

me: hey samantha, what are you doing wanna go to the beach and play soccer?

her: ya, i would love too.

me: okay, ill call you


We were joking. But, we were kind of serious too. I couldn't go to the beach at that moment so I didn't push for an insta-date.

We say our goodbyes. I put my face right up next to hers and tell her to kiss both sides of my face. She does.

That worked out well.

She texted me a few hours later. I don't respond cause I'm busy. She texts again a few hours after that. I still don't respond. Later that night she calls me. I answer. We have a great conversation. We have alot on common.

We make plans to go to the beach. We have been texting/talking non-stop.

This is looking good!

This was sort of similar to the "Softer Approach" concept. I could have pushed for more in the elevator but I didn't want to force it since it was a small junior college and I figured I would see her again.
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(04-19-2013 08:30 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  To the guys that do lots of day game approaches; how often do you guys get the "I have a boyfriend" line when going for the number?

When my game was shitty, I got that all the time. It's just an easy way for them to reject you.

Now that my game is much better, I rarely get that.

In fact, when your game is really good. They will lie and say that they DON'T have a boyfriend.

Best thing to do is just make a joke and continue talking to her..

"we just met and you are already telling me all your problems" is a good one.

She will likely not change her mind and become interested in you but you just continue talking to her for the sake of practice.

If you eject yourself, you eject from your practice.

Just keep working, you will get better.

Edit: Oops, Lothario already answered this question perfectly.
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Gio, love that elevator story. Gotta remember to be talkative.
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(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently Tongue can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw Wink

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

Sweet baby jesus.... Is nothing said here about how to text sinking in?

Never read it, but Roosh has some dealio about texting on his blog I think. Buy it and do not send another fucking text until you read it.

There are also some threads around here on the subject I believe.

I do it a lot different than most guys, but your style is just a complete turn off. "I'm too entertaining." Really? She doesn't know you from Adam.

Hint-Do NOT use the examples in the Memorable Text Exchanges thread as the vast majority of those are trolling broads.

Maybe we should start up a text help thread again, where you post what she said and we give you a response. Mech did this once it seems.

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(04-22-2013 06:58 PM)slubu Wrote:  Gotta remember to be talkative.

Always!

And, be light-hearted!

These 2 things create many a casual conversation.

And, smile.

And, be dressed sharp and interesting.

And, project your voice with confidence and power.
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Got a few done on Friday at the mall. It was uncharacteristically quiet and there was room to walk around with a bit of freedom for once (Westfield, Stratford) and I'd just had my hair cut and felt good, so thought I'd see what I could pick up.

First girl blew me out pretty quick, and a couple of people were watching from one of the nearby stands that were selling some nail cleaning kit and other comestic shite. Now that I'm a bit more experienced, I laughed it off with them as I walked past whereas a few months ago I probably would've just walked on past trying to avoid eye contact and not wanting to engage. I said "ah well, I think she was a lesbian" and the girl had a shocked but amused look on her face while the dude found it funny.

The girl I stopped was that lighter shade of black skin, taller than average girls, had these black leggings on with white plimsols and a shirt acting as a sort of tiny dress. She looked like a typical English girl hairdresser but her ass was jiggling nicely so I went for it. I'd give her a 6.5 overall

Here's how it went:

Me: Hey (after jumping out in front of her)
Girl: Hi...
Me: I had to stop you -
Girl: I'm sorry I have to get somewhere

She tries to walk away

Me: Listen, for one second

I grab her arm and she stops dazed. I can see she's not sure what to do

Me: I'm not trying to sell you anything
Girl: Ohhhhh
Me: Do I really look like the type? (cocky smile)
Girl: I dunno...
Me: Listen, I stopped you because I wanted to tell you that I think you're really fucking cute
Girl: Haha, erm, okay...
Me: Yeah, I saw you stomping along and thought I-
Girl: I'm really sorry but I do actually have to be somewhere

She's itching to get away, so I just let her scurry away as it wasn't gonna go anywhere. I got a bit embarrassed with the people watching me but as soon as I said the lesbian line to them I felt a lot better.

Next girl unfortunately was English too. She was walking around by herself looking everywhere really slowly trying to take everything in, and I knew she'd be up for being approached. I'm trying to make it almost compulsory for me to hit on girls when I see them like this because they're the best targets.

Anyway she was kind of short, was wearing a little white blazer and some tight-ish jeans with her hair down to her shoulders. Better than the other girl, but not amazing. I'd say a 7 but only because she'd dressed quite well.

I walk up in front of her as I spotted her from a distance. When we get closer we're making eye contact and I hold my hand out at the right distance away from her to get her to stop.

Me: Hey
Girl: Hii (bright smile)
Me: Didn't your mother ever tell you it's rude to stare?
Girl: (giggling) Yes she did! I'm sorry!
Me: I just literally got my hair cut, what do you think?

I can't remember the thread I saw it on but it was about asking a girl "do you think I'm attractive?" and I liked the concept of that. I kind of had it in mind since I'd read the forum before I left that day and said to myself if I got the opportunity I'd give it a go

Girl: Yeah, it's nice. It's curly!
Me: Yeah, a lot of girls say that to me
Girl: I'm so jealous, I really want curly hair
Me: Why do you say that?
Girl: Because you can do so much more with it, like mine is really boring

I look at her hair really obviously

Me: *grunt in agreement*

She pulls a playful shocked face and is still smiling

Me: Is that why you were perving on me? Because you wanted to mug me for my hair?
Girl: (laughing) Yeah it is actually! I've got my scalping kit in my bag as a matter of fact!

I smile, but not too much. More of a "hey, good effort"

Me: I'm Matt (I hold my hand out)
Girl: I'm Lucy (she takes it and we shake)

I'm going to start giving two kisses here on either cheek rather than just shaking hands. I don't know why I haven't done it sooner to be honest but I imagine the results will be better if that initial attraction spark is there from the off.

Me: So why are you wondering around like a lost little mouse, Lucy?
Girl: I've never been here before and am just checking it out. It's not as big as I first thought it'd be
Me: How long have you been in London?
Girl: I was born here! I've just never come here before, I live in Ealing (complete other side of London) so I normally go to the other Westfield (shopping mall)
Me: I see
Girl: What about you?
Me: I wasn't wondering around like a lost little mouse
Girl: (giggling) I knoooow! What are you up to today?
Me: Well I'd initially planned to have the whole day getting my afro (joke) sheered but it didn't take as long as I'd thought
Girl: Oh my God! Did you have an afro?! (hook, line, and sinker)
Me: Oh yeah, I looked like the guy from that band LMFAO
Girl: (confused) Err..who?
Me: You don't know who they are?
Girl: Nooo...
Me: Silly girl

I pull my phone out, do a quick google search and show her

Girl: Oh my God that's so cool! You shouldn't have cut it!
Me: But you said it looked good. Were you lying to me Lucy?
Girl: (laughing) No! I think afros are cooler
Me: Well, that's rude. I was just starting to like you too
Girl: (laughing more) I guess I'll have to try harder
Me: So what are you really doing here today? (totally misread the cue)
Girl: I've got to go and get some things from x shop and one of my friends who I've not seen forever lives around here so I'm going to meet up with her
Me: I see
Girl: What about you? Why aren't you at work?

General chit chat from there for a few minutes to be honest. I kind of messed it up as I'd pussied out of taking the cue to get her qualifying some more to me at a coffee shop or somewhere else because "instadates" aren't really my thing, but is something I need to work on. The vibe kind of went down and there was a moment of "is he going to ask for my number or not" look on her face. So I cut the talking short and did the standard "put your number in my phone please" followed by "I'm going to take you out some time" that you'll have seen from my other approaches. She put it in, I said I'd text her some time and we'd go from there.

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(04-22-2013 03:03 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
(04-21-2013 11:52 PM)Jaylow Wrote:  Any standard DHV's you use for younger girls?

I don't use DHVs.

They should be able to sense your value just by the way you speak and the way you carry yourself.

I don't have to verbalize it. I just treat her like I am a man and she is a little girl. Obviously, she is inferior to me. She can feel this by the way I talk to her.

I think being older is a natural DHV.

Young girls are insecure. If you assume you are superior, they will assume that they are inferior.

Totally agree with this. Though I do verbalise my DHVs from time to time and do some stacking on a bit of bait in the conversation, I think your persona or how you act in her presence is a DHV in itself.

I don't know why, but if a really pretty girl tells a guy that she plays video games, for example, the guy's reaction is something along the lines of "oh my God that's amazing!" as if girls don't play them.

That's an example, but when she throws a bit of bait out to DHV herself, as all girls love to do, not taking that bite on it shows her straight away you're different. Teasing her about it no matter what it is works in your favour, again separating you from all other guys, or something like "oh, okay" in response gets her thinking subconsciously that she's not impressed you when normally everyone gets impressed by that story. It throws her off and she sees you in a different light. No lines, no stories, just a simple "oh, okay".

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04-22-2013 08:53 PM
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Made eye contact several times with a girl at the gym. Didn't approach, cuz I'd prefer to stay focused on my workout. I eventually leave, and she does too a bit after. I slow my walk, and she walks in front of me. With a little slow walk, perhaps "presenting". I notice she's going for a bike, and I open her with the bike.

We talk about her bike for a while, then I branch off to talking about her tattoos. This is where I was able to lightly touch her by pointing at her tattoos. Turns out she's from Spain, been in San Diego for 5 years for education. Started running GALNUC until we hit a fork in our paths. She's 3 years older than me, and she suggested we hangout. Told her I don't carry my phone with me to the gym, and she took down my number. Parted ways with a hug (with that post-gym sweat).

Rookie move to put the ball in her court. Past experience tells me this is another dud.


BTW, I don't know how you guys remember approaches word for word.
04-22-2013 10:17 PM
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(04-22-2013 08:53 PM)MattC Wrote:  I don't know why, but if a really pretty girl tells a guy that she plays video games, for example, the guy's reaction is something along the lines of "oh my God that's amazing!" as if girls don't play them.

That's an example, but when she throws a bit of bait out to DHV herself, as all girls love to do, not taking that bite on it shows her straight away you're different. Teasing her about it no matter what it is works in your favour, again separating you from all other guys, or something like "oh, okay" in response gets her thinking subconsciously that she's not impressed you when normally everyone gets impressed by that story. It throws her off and she sees you in a different light. No lines, no stories, just a simple "oh, okay".

Ive actually got this a couple times before. I think girls even use this as a shit test more often than not since a lot of guys rather play videogames then do anything else with their spare time. I respond by explaining how people waste their lives away in front of a screen and I rather have real life adventures and meet interesting new people. They always end up agreeing with me.
04-23-2013 01:17 AM
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I hit a new low yesterday.

Saw this cute girl on the street. Felt like I was dressed sloppy in my business attire (ie. poor fitting suit), then began to engage in mental masturbation:

"ah i'll probably just get blown out"

Finally i turned around and pursued but by that time she was gone. Fuck, haven't done this in a few years now. Time to up the fashion game and be on the ball 24/7.
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(04-23-2013 05:26 AM)gandt Wrote:  I hit a new low yesterday.

Saw this cute girl on the street. Felt like I was dressed sloppy in my business attire (ie. poor fitting suit), then began to engage in mental masturbation:

"ah i'll probably just get blown out"

Finally i turned around and pursued but by that time she was gone. Fuck, haven't done this in a few years now. Time to up the fashion game and be on the ball 24/7.

Or cultivate the attitude of just not giving a fuck. The last SNL I got was while wearing dirty jeans and a rag of a t-shirt. I'd gone out with no intention of meeting or talking to anyone but the opportunity presented itself and I jumped on it. If I'd been worried about what I was wearing it wouldn't have happened. Clearly looking your best helps, and if it makes you feel better than do it. But not looking 100% isn't necessarily a deal breaker for some chicks and you'll never know if you don't approach.
04-23-2013 06:49 AM
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(04-23-2013 06:49 AM)Ensam Wrote:  
(04-23-2013 05:26 AM)gandt Wrote:  I hit a new low yesterday.

Saw this cute girl on the street. Felt like I was dressed sloppy in my business attire (ie. poor fitting suit), then began to engage in mental masturbation:

"ah i'll probably just get blown out"

Finally i turned around and pursued but by that time she was gone. Fuck, haven't done this in a few years now. Time to up the fashion game and be on the ball 24/7.

Or cultivate the attitude of just not giving a fuck. The last SNL I got was while wearing dirty jeans and a rag of a t-shirt. I'd gone out with no intention of meeting or talking to anyone but the opportunity presented itself and I jumped on it. If I'd been worried about what I was wearing it wouldn't have happened. Clearly looking your best helps, and if it makes you feel better than do it. But not looking 100% isn't necessarily a deal breaker for some chicks and you'll never know if you don't approach.

You are 100% right. I always tell myself that too. I'll get it back on that approach horse now.
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A wise man once said, when your posting here about a girl your already too invested. Only reason I am asking for step by step here is because she is the hottest girl Ive gotten digits from yet

me: whatsup
her: just finished at the gym. You
me: otwb from boston pizza feelin pretty good
her: yummy wish i could eat that
me: Ya i did some eatin 2.lol. Too many goodbyes lately, why is everyone leaving town
her: Lol I'm on a diet. Wehh ill miss pizza and fries. AndI know. But many of my friends are staying too ((qualifying herself twice to me?))
me: one of my buds just went back to (beach town). I see many trips out there this summer Smile ((not true, i know shes the type of girl that would like beaches and has no vehicle))
her: haha nice Smile
me: Im heading downtown tmrw u should come
her: like bars ?
me: U said during the day. No im gona get some CDs at (store) n walk around, grab food prob
her: im off thursday
me: i work both jobs thurs. U still busy tonight?
her: wats your other job
me: Jiggalo. I sell my body to the night
her: ahah cute
me: lets go for a walk its so nice out
her: Now ?
me: 30 min ill be at rez k?
her: Nooooo.
her: I'm in pjs. No makeup. Rat nest hair
me: that sounds so fuckin sexy you have no idea
me: I think you can b presentable in 30. Plus itll b dark
her: Haha, it takes me a while to be ready
me: Im gonna take a shower. When I check my phone again it better have some good news on it
her: Its all around a bad night. I have really bad cramps I wanna be curled up

Not gonna send her another text for a few days since I am busy till Sunday. I was thinking about sending "is that an invite to cuddle" but I think I pressed hard enough here. After I said "that sounds so fuckin sexy you have no idea" I let that comment linger longer then my other replies and she didn't send anything so I sent the next text. Thoughts on my text game overall?

I was replying faster in this conversation since she was mostly sending me instant texts and because my theory from our first interaction I posted was she was DTF that night and me delaying may have cost me since I woke her up.
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