Post: #601

This thread is so money. Approaching has always been the weakest part of my game. Historically I've relied on social circle game and girls approaching me to get laid. This thread has changed all that. So I'm going to keep on giving back.

Tonight: At my usual Tuesday night hang out. Just set PRs at the gym for my deadlift and squat so I'm feeling good. I've got the place locked down. I know the bar tenders and the hostess. I'm comfortable, no need to rush anything. I was making idle conversation with an eastern european dude, he wandered off. Two girls sit down next to me and start having an intese conversation. To my direct right is a brunette 7 and her friend is a blonde 8. I was waiting for the conversation to lull a bit so I could say something when the eastern european comes back. He asks me if I've been talking to the two girls. I say not yet and ask him his name and where he's from.

Me: <tap the brunette on the shoulder> Hey, I want you meet my friend xxx from yyy.
HB7: Nice to meet you xxx, I'm yyy.
EED: <something lame I can't remember>
HB7: Ok... <turns back to her friend>

EED tells me I'm a man of action and walks away.

I wait a few minutes, their conversation lulls
Me: <to the brunette> So it wasn't love at first sight with xxx?
HB7: No, I guess not
Me: That's a shame, I tried my best to make it work. Love is difficult.
HB7: Yeah, it is.
Me: How do you two know each other
HB7: We're roommates
Hb8: Hi I'm zzz

etc.

We talk for a bit, I tease them about their roommate relationship. Eventually the HB8 says she thinks she knows some local activity that I'd really enjoy. Boom.

Me: That sounds great, put your number in my phone.

Done.

We talked for another half hour or so and then they left. As they're leave she goes, be sure to call me about the thing.

Post: #602

I went out solo dolo in Brooklyn. I'm in no way a hipster nor do i cosplay pretend to be.

I play pool and get drunk and venue hop.

I talk to most people.

In between games I'm at the bar and make a comment to this girl sitting there about some stuff, the bartender and half the bar get involved for some reason I can't remember.

Later I come back and she is with a guy and another girl. Guy on one side and girl on the other. I sit next to the new girl because guy and first girl are trying to get it in i can tell™.

At first blush the new girl is not into talking to me but as soon as I engage, the other two kind of shut her out b/c theyre trying to get it on i can tell™.

I start talking a bunch of shit I cannot for the life of me remember.
Anyways, the girl mentions something about being a Taurus. i happen to be a taurus and she basically cold read me being a taurus. [i remember now i asked for a dollar]

I act like I am in awe of her psychic abilities and she is charmed. Absolutely.

Anyways we're vibing at the bar looking at phone stuff inour own world and it is fun and good but I'm not getting sexy vibes™ so I pull the don't roofie my drink bathroom move.™ She starts cracking up and says you wish. I flesh this out and it's ok but not 100%.

I go: "Please don't PRETEND like you're not remotely thinking about TAKING ADVANTAGE of me and running your little spells just because you happen to be a witch and know everything about my character and my past and the planets."

It's good when I come back we resume and the other two are making out PASSIONATELY. It is like a really PASSIONATE makeout™. It's turning me on but the girl next to me feels uncomfortable. So I'm like "Look at them. They are GETTNG IT oN."

She's like blushing and sinking far away from me. I'm confused.

I keep talking shit and doing a play by play of the makeout and she gets more comfortable. I'm asking her, "Doesn't that turn you on? DOn't you want to kiss someone like that."

She goes, "I do, BUT I HAVE A BOYFRIEND AT HOME."

wtf.

I take this as a soft denial. She's not within range to do anything and no real physicality has been developed. The guy randomly leaved the bar and the friend is bewildered, said he had to write a speech. The girl wanted to go home with him says he was the BEST kisser of her life. Really? Surprising.

So the girl I;m talking to starts talking about me to her friend and how i was commentating it and how passionate it was and we all start talking about why he left and speculating of whether he freaked out.

Turns OUT> They had known eachother for like SIXTEEN years and that was the first time he made a move™.

I think to myself: wow. of course. why not.

So I'm like yeah I want to kiss your friend like that and bet I think we could do better. The friend is laughing she's loving it at this point and she's like oh just kiss this girl she's single.

And the other girl is like expecting me too... I was not going to for other reasons involving vomit.

Anywho she says again she has a boyfriend. So i get up and say ok I'm going to play pool now.

Fast forward 10min.- she finds me in the back and asks me to smoke a cigarette with them before she leaves. I'm confused again at this point. I can't drag her to my place i live in queens and for some reason I told myself no numbers.

I go, whatever, fast forward shes about to leave and were talking a little shit were standing and she has her coat on so i grab the bottom of her coat and put tension on it, pulling her towards me. But she just looks at me and says "i can't." my boyfriends like 6-8 etc etc.

time span: 1 hr

The end.

What would you guys have done or was that tl;dr?

Post: #603

Fourth venue of the night I walk in.

Order a huge beer. Spot this girl sitting in a booth alone. I step to her booth.

ME; "I should probably cut myself off. This beers gna finish me."
"I should probably do like you and drink water. i usually do though."

Her: Yeah, it's water. I'm pretty much done.

Me: Cool, but i'm going to be a trooper and [sitting down]
finish it. It'll will probably take a minute but I'll finish.

Me: You mind if i sit here for a second I'm kinda beat.

Me: Who are you here with [figured she might be w a bf].

Her: Just SOme friends.

Me: Anything good happen tonight?

her: dslkfjdfjadlfkjdfkjadkl

ALLL OF A SUDDEN a GANG of dudes come to the booth i guess they were playing video games and they are grilling me like who the fuck is this.

SHe goes to me: no its ok stay

me: oh these are your friends [i look at them and smile]

her: yeah but its ok you can stay.

the booth logistics were all kinds of fucked up so i EJECTED.

p.s. these approach FR are depressing bc i look at them as failures.

Post: #604

On the train.

I'm standing up, to a girl sitting down.

Me: hey

*she looks*

Me: have you ever had a period in your life that was a huge memory, an important part of yourself that you'll pretty much always remember but it's in the past now. and there was a person in that time youll never forget but of course its over but THEN you see a person in the street and it's them. and you freak out because your mind takes you like a time machine back to when you were 15.it turns out its not that person. you can pretend though and your mind takes that journey anyway and these EMOTIONS come out of nowwhere? [im paraphrasing]

Girl: *enraptured* yeah it happened with a pet and etc

me: i wish we had a time machine so i could get to my bed.

She was cool as hell and that kind of freaky look i like. [this was kind of abridged we were vibing for a min]
NC

BTW i get so many numbers on the train its absurd. Nobodys out here doing it like me. if you want more details lmk.

Post: #605

Whoa... Refill. Ritalin. Prescription. Quickly.

Post: #606

(04-12-2013 06:03 AM)MattC Wrote:  Haha, I was with bojangles and we were leaving. No way was I gonna ditch him for some silly girl.

I wouldn't have stayed with her to chat and leave Bojangles hanging but I definitely would have said:

"hey listen, my place is right around the corner and I am a little bored of this bar. what do you say we go have a drink at my place and talk some more?"

THEN I would leave bojangles hanging.

Post: #607

(04-10-2013 07:01 PM)MattC Wrote:  Me: Don't be so negative. (To the Czech) Is she always like this?
Czech: She's a very nice girl

I honestly love all your approaches you post due to the genuine vibe and in the moment creativity you use given the situation.

But this 2 set with the Slovak girl seemed very "gamey" and structured to me. But whatever works I guess. Maybe it is more difficult to bring out that genuine vibe when you are rolling with a wing.

Post: #608

(04-17-2013 02:53 AM)gandt Wrote:  

(04-10-2013 07:01 PM)MattC Wrote:  Me: Don't be so negative. (To the Czech) Is she always like this?
Czech: She's a very nice girl

I honestly love all your approaches you post due to the genuine vibe and in the moment creativity you use given the situation.

But this 2 set with the Slovak girl seemed very "gamey" and structured to me. But whatever works I guess. Maybe it is more difficult to bring out that genuine vibe when you are rolling with a wing.

Thanks mate.

This set was quite hard, I don't have as much experience opening 2 sets as I would like but the Slovak was really interested and her mate was ice cold to the point where her presence made the Slovak embarrassed and less willing to chat to me. I had to try get her involved to get her on board so I guess it was kind of "gamey" but when Bojangles took her away it was fine. I've been on a couple of dates with her and she's coming over on Saturday night.

Regards to having a genuine vibe with a wing, how do you mean?

I wouldn't have left Bojangles hanging regardless to be honest. SNLs aren't a massive deal to me as I know I can get the girl anyway, but if I get her number and she doesn't reply or whatever then I'm not particularly arsed. I'd sooner go home with my dick in my hand than ditch either of my two best mates. Most of my other mates I would though as they're all blue pill.

Post: #609

(04-17-2013 06:00 AM)MattC Wrote:  

(04-17-2013 02:53 AM)gandt Wrote:  

(04-10-2013 07:01 PM)MattC Wrote:  Me: Don't be so negative. (To the Czech) Is she always like this?
Czech: She's a very nice girl

I honestly love all your approaches you post due to the genuine vibe and in the moment creativity you use given the situation.

But this 2 set with the Slovak girl seemed very "gamey" and structured to me. But whatever works I guess. Maybe it is more difficult to bring out that genuine vibe when you are rolling with a wing.

Thanks mate.

This set was quite hard, I don't have as much experience opening 2 sets as I would like but the Slovak was really interested and her mate was ice cold to the point where her presence made the Slovak embarrassed and less willing to chat to me. I had to try get her involved to get her on board so I guess it was kind of "gamey" but when Bojangles took her away it was fine. I've been on a couple of dates with her and she's coming over on Saturday night.

Regards to having a genuine vibe with a wing, how do you mean?

I wouldn't have left Bojangles hanging regardless to be honest. SNLs aren't a massive deal to me as I know I can get the girl anyway, but if I get her number and she doesn't reply or whatever then I'm not particularly arsed. I'd sooner go home with my dick in my hand than ditch either of my two best mates. Most of my other mates I would though as they're all blue pill.

How are things going with that fly German girl?

Post: #610

We've got Sunday night set for a date. Whether it happens or not is another thing but we've been talking a fair bit so it seems alright.

Post: #611

Here is a CAR approach from last week:

8pm (20:00) at night. I had just exited my condo building, I see a girl at the bus stop. Cute, Filapina, younger, thin, black yoga pants, long brown hair.

I drive right past her. We make eye contact. I come to a red light. I look around, I see no one behind me. I say -- "Fuck It!"

I reverse my car back about half a block. I stop at the bus stop. I roll down the window and smile..

me: excuse me
her: yes
me: i know this is crazy but i thought i should come back and say hi
her: oh hi
me: hi my name is gio, i saw you and we kind of looked at each other and I thought oh shes cute, whats your name?
her: stella
me: hi stella are you from around here?
her: umm ya kind of
me: i live right here in this building, do you?
her: ya i do
me: well nice to meet you neighbor haha
her: (smile)
me: im headed to the city and i thought you might want a ride?
her: ummm

She looks at me and looks at my car.

her: where in the city are you going?
me: im going to xyz high school
her: oh my god i went there, thats the neighborhood im going to now
me: well get in lets go

She gets in. We chat. It's going okay. It was a short drive. As we are getting close I say:

me: do you want to exchange numbers. You gotta give a chance to take you out or something sometime
her: umm ya sure

We'll see what happens..

Post: #612

My mum always said don't get in cars with strangers. Especially creepy men who hang out at high schools.

Haha! Great work.

Post: #613

Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

Post: #614

(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

By never texting her again. Call next time. You already know your text game is horrible. Call her up in a few days and try to convey your strong personality, which sold her on you in the first place.

Post: #615

(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

Jesus you're headed in the same direction as some of your other text game examples. Please call her or just invite her out to do something harmless like go for a walk. You'd be better served going a little beta than continuing down your bad text game path. You already had her eye fucking you without ever talking to you, don't open your mouth/text and have her change her mind!

Post: #616

Gym Approach:

Was feeling sluggish all day since I did not leave the office till late. Got home, went to the gym.

As I am lifting this cute girl starts running on the treadmill. This was my first gym approach and I was definitely nervous given logistics. But I said fuck it and did it anyway.

She got off the treadmill, so I met her at the water fountain and said...

"listen, I am about to leave but I just wanted to say you're absolutely gorgeous"

She was extremely shocked "really? all sweaty like this"

I said "yeah I couldn't help it".

We started talking and bantering back and forth bla bla bla... small talk...

I didn't have my phone on me so she ended up taking my number and calling my phone so I would have hers.

See where this goes...

Post: #617

(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

That's a smooth approach, nice work. I agree with the other guys - call her dude

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

-- Nothing wrong with this


Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along

-- Sounds like you are blowing your own trumpet, cut that line out next time

Her: Evidently can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw

-- Even with the wink emoticon it comes across like you're a bit pissed off at her. You need to make it seem like you don't really mind that she can't go out that night

Post: #618

This is one of my favourite approaches I have done...

Scenario: Two buddies and I were sitting in a casual cafe/bar and behind the bar I see this tall, brown haired, eastern european looking bartender with an ass that makes you want to invite her to sit on your face.

It was before the busy part of the night so I basically followed my dick all the way up to the bar and...

Me: i dont even want to look at the other bartenders, i just want to order a drink from you and talk to you (with swag and a smile)

HUGE BLUSH while playing with her hair and smiling.

Me: what is your name?

Her: Jelena

Me: Nice to meet you Jelena. I'll have a gin and tonic please.

*comes back with drink

Me: So Jelena, what do you do in this city? I am assuming you don't work here every night...

Her: Yeah I am studying actually and only work here a few nights a week.

I used this avenue as an opportunity to connect with her on a deeper level about her future aspirations, dreams, and goals and related to her on an emotional level.

Me: Listen, I'm going to get back to my friends but I will see you around.

This is an example of Gio's "Softer Approach" whereby you make an initial impression and are absolutely confident in leaving the conversation hanging because you know you will see them again.

*I go back up to order another drink and we talk more about her background

The Close

Me: Listen, I had a really good time talking with you. My friends and I are headed out but give me your number and I will text you some time.

Her: Ummm.. I don't know (she is on the fence)

Me: Trust me, I understand that night after night you get all these drunk weird men coming up to you and hitting on you but as we both know, I am not one of them. In fact, I am 100% sober right now

Her: We aren't supposed to give our number out while working...

Me: Tell me your number and I will remember it

Her: *says her # aloud

Me: Cool Jelena, have a good night and I'll message you soon

Had a day 1 with this girl where went to play pool, which was an extremely sexual activity when you try and help girls with their form. We had a private room and were making our and I was grabbing her gigantic ass in both my hands while doing so.

Let this be a lesson:

not trying = failure

Even the bitchiest of girls can wind up sucking your cock later that night. If you don't go for it you will never know.

Bartender Insights:

These situations are always hard. Bartenders have a job to do and are busy most of the time.

So make sure to talk to her when the bar is not too busy so she can spare 5 minutes here and there.

Get her to qualify herself by asking her about herself, her interests, goals. Try and find out "is this an interesting girl I would like to spend time with?" This moves the situation from her being the prize to YOU BEING THE PRIZE.

Make is easy for her to give her number - use my mental memory technique (they will be even more impressed when you actually text them afterward.

Be patient and don't feel the need to number close right away. Keep it playful and confident and go back to the bar off and on to continue the interaction.

Be persistent. At first she wanted me to write down my number but I kept persisting and got her to blurt hers out.

Don't be a drunk idiot.

Her feedback:

When we met on a day 1 she was going on about how bold I was and how it was such a turn on. There you have it fellas!

It was great insight in what it is like to be that hot of a girl. As we were walking through a mall head would literally turn and this one guys jaw literally dropped open.

It was like being with a celebrity.

You get to hear about all the bullshit they have to deal with from guys on a daily basis, which is why she was so drawn to my style.

Peace!

Post: #619

Really good shit mate. One of the things that you have to work through is that they're hesitant to give their numbers out in a bar or a restaurant if they're working there, not because they don't want to, but because they don't want to be seen by their boss and they don't want other guys coming up and having a go.

I always say to them "have you got a pen and paper?" which of course they do. Then I tell them to write their number down on it and it looks as though you're just ordering something, which if you tell them that too then they're more willing to do so.

Post: #620

(04-18-2013 07:24 AM)MattC Wrote:  Really good shit mate. One of the things that you have to work through is that they're hesitant to give their numbers out in a bar or a restaurant if they're working there, not because they don't want to, but because they don't want to be seen by their boss and they don't want other guys coming up and having a go.

I always say to them "have you got a pen and paper?" which of course they do. Then I tell them to write their number down on it and it looks as though you're just ordering something, which if you tell them that too then they're more willing to do so.

Exactly, I have done this in retail stores before when the girl just runs some paper through the till and then writes her information on that. Works perfectly.

Post: #621

Second bartender # close:

Again, the same lessons as above apply:

*Initiate when the bar is not that busy
*Keep it concise and bold

This was at a pub that was just on the verge of getting busy.

Me and some buddies sat down at the bar and I was eyeing this cute bartender. She came over and we ordered some drinks. After chilling with my buddies and drinking a few I made eye contact with the bartender and signalled her to come over:

Me: "Hey, I know you're working right now so I don't want to get you in trouble but I'm home visiting family for a couple weeks before flying back to Denmark. To be straight up, I think you're extremely cute behind that bar and was wondering if you want to grab a coffee this week?"

Her: *smiles* "From denmark huh?"

Me: "yeah I moved there a year ago for work"

Her: "One sec"... (has to go attend to other customers)

*I go back to drinking with my buddies shooting the shit. 10 mins goes by and I completely forgot about her but then....

She strolls up and puts her business card on my pint of beer. I look at is and read out:

Me: "Sarah, nice to meet you. I'll be sending you a text tomorrow"

The End.

Post: #622

Approach #1 in my new town (well not really that much of an approach). She was the cashier, 30 and not really bangable, but I saw 2 hot chicks. One with a jacked dude and the other in the produce section. I lost sight of her before I could get into a favourable position (was going to ask about organic apples). Going to try the new to town city boy who is confused that everyone likes country music and wal mart angle.

me: not very busy in here...
her: yea, it never is.
me: how long have you guys been here
her: oh since last october at least
me: I haven't been in town in forever, so much has changed I heard theres a new mall on the other side of town. ( being from out of town was bait, probably should have waited for a response rather than bringing up a new topic/asking a new question)
Her: yeah theres a huge store over there its scary big has everything you'll want
me: you'll never have to leave.

This went on for another minute or two. She got less friendly after I brought up that they're opening a bar over there.

Not bad considering I haven't approached in well over a month ha. Good warmup interaction, I'm going out again soon so I might be able to capitalize on that... if I see a bangable girl.

Post: #623

#2

stopped a girl who works at my new gym (looks like chicks who are working will be my best source of hot poon since there are uggos EVERYWHERE) and elderly'd her about gym memberships/everything about the facilities. A few mins or so later we go over to the cash register so I can get set up with a membership, I tell her I want the student discount she asks for ID. I show her and she goes "done already? my boyfriend has exams there till the end of the month and just blabbered for a good 5 minutes while I was paying and staring with a glazed over look.

She mentioned he was in med school so I said "looks like you're the smart one in the relationship" with a smirk. She stares at me blankly while the gears grind in her head and she finally gets it and says "youre a funny one" Then I went to lift. A few hotties, but I'll have to scope the place out a bit more.

I'm excited about this, I've got no girls to fall back on so I have to go out there and game every day!!!

What I learned from #1 + 2.

- women want the monotony of their daily lives broken by a handsome stranger (duh)
- I mumble/talk quietly, its incongruent with the wit I can display. (which I don't think many girls here will get)
- girls will not stop talking once you tap into something they're really interested in (in #2 it unfortunately was her boyfriend).
- I need to get a new gym outfit. People wouldn't stop staring at me.

Post: #624

(04-18-2013 03:21 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(04-17-2013 08:50 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Number closed an 8+ blonde today. While passing the side of a library, we made eye contact through the window. She looked back at me again (eye fucking) and smiled. I strolled up confidently and tapped on the glass. As she walks over, I take out my cell and made a subtle gesture with it. She writes down her name and number on a notepad and holds it up against the glass. A couple of hours later, I send the following text:

Me: Hey (her name) this is (my name). Nice miming earlier
Her: Haha thanks for the pleasant distraction from homework

Me: I'm too entertaining. Going to (venue) tonight for (special weekly novelty drink)- come tag along
Her: Evidently can't tonight :/
Me: Enjoy your dull hw

Although it was an unorthodox initial encounter/number close, she seemed genuinely interested. How do you fellas recommend I proceed from here?

Jesus you're headed in the same direction as some of your other text game examples. Please call her or just invite her out to do something harmless like go for a walk. You'd be better served going a little beta than continuing down your bad text game path. You already had her eye fucking you without ever talking to you, don't open your mouth/text and have her change her mind!

Called her a couple of hours ago- didn't pick up. Guess I'll make my next contact on Monday.

Post: #625

To the guys that do lots of day game approaches; how often do you guys get the "I have a boyfriend" line when going for the number?