Post: #101

CS is hit and miss. In Mexico, I got maybe 80% response rate last year. I dont know if he same would happen this year. Here in Bangkok, I have no respone at all. I keep my message short. In town for a month you seem interesting we should get some coffee somewhere. 8/10 in Guadalajara responded. 0/12 in Bangkok.

I stopped messing with it. CS, POF, and OKC are starting to fall off for me. 5 hours a week and no bangs dont seem to be worth the trouble.

Post: #102

(04-05-2013 02:14 PM)Vicious Wrote:  Roll call. Who wants to swap references?

Your PM is full brother. Tried to PM you some NYC intel.

Post: #103

(04-06-2013 12:49 AM)MaleDefined Wrote:  

(04-05-2013 02:14 PM)Vicious Wrote:  Roll call. Who wants to swap references?

Your PM is full brother. Tried to PM you some NYC intel.

Damn. I've done this a bunch of times. Nearly emptied out everything not 100% essential now. try again everyone.

Post: #104

Roll call. Who wants to swap references?
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I am down too

Post: #105

I am down too.

Post: #106

(04-05-2013 01:51 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(04-05-2013 01:38 PM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  

(04-05-2013 01:16 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  Fake references are pretty easy to spot IMO. I'm running my fake girl profile in a different city and some dude hit me up with two fake references of hot blonde girls. One of the girl's photos is someone well known. And the fake compliments he gave himself were so over the top I couldn't stop laughing. Many of them will have only one photo too, always a big tipoff considering that attractive girls can't help but plaster their profile with cute photos of themselves. The guy also didn't have the common sense to stagger the dates these references were left. I guess it was just coincidence that the girls left the references on the exact same day, LOL. And that these girls had no friends or references but him! I couldn't help but write back and call the dude out.

Have fun with it if you want but all this scheming to lure girls seems like a bit much when you can probably get the same or better conversion ratio on OKcupid or hitting a nearby bar and with better looking girls.

It's really crazy, in Portugal the guys are acting like idiots all the time too... For example, now there is this page for each city where anyone can post wharever comes into his/her mind, and frequently girls are using it to invite ppl to go out or even to ask for couch. The guys do not even have the decency to send them a private message and revert to the girls in the main page itself, where everyone can spot them! And the messages are somtimes hilarious ("hey, you can stay at my place, as long as you go out to this latino bar with me and dance together", and crazier stuff).

Yup. I see that all the time too. Some guys will just post "hey, just sent you a message!" I'm thinking what idiots. Why even reply to her on the forum? Just send a private message. She'll see it.

If guys post replies that are too over the top the white knights in the forum will call them out with the creeper label.

I think in their innocent minds, the guys think that if they answer first to the girl in the forum, other guys will not "dare" to send another message since she is already "owned" by them, because they were the first. Or that there would exist some kind of ethic in CS, like first come first served, lol. It's rather hilarious to see what's going on and hopefully there are not many smart and cool ppl using CS in Lisbon until now!

Post: #107

(04-09-2013 10:55 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  It's rather hilarious to see what's going on and hopefully there are not many smart and cool ppl using CS in Lisbon until now!

CS Lisbon thinks we're bad, bad people.

Post: #108

(04-09-2013 01:12 PM)Icarus Wrote:  

(04-09-2013 10:55 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  It's rather hilarious to see what's going on and hopefully there are not many smart and cool ppl using CS in Lisbon until now!

CS Lisbon thinks we're bad, bad people.

That is hilarious.... Aline is not bad either. that is one CS girl i wouldnt mind couchfucking

Post: #109

(04-09-2013 03:00 PM)klosck Wrote:  

(04-09-2013 01:12 PM)Icarus Wrote:  

(04-09-2013 10:55 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  It's rather hilarious to see what's going on and hopefully there are not many smart and cool ppl using CS in Lisbon until now!

CS Lisbon thinks we're bad, bad people.

That is hilarious.... Aline is not bad either. that is one CS girl i wouldnt mind couchfucking

That's right, and she'll happily "surf" your couch. Here's what Aline says:

Quote:Well, we are sexual beings. But for me, sex is natural and can happens (and happens) in CS, no problem.

Post: #110

I just saw this message in CS Lisbon Last Minute Couch Request forum. I think it sums up everything that can go wrong in an answer sent to a girl. And he sent it publicly in the forum, ahah

The funny thing is, this kind of guys is probably the less dangerous in couchsurfing, since they completely announce (even to the world!!) their intentions, so the girls are informed in advance of all the plans.

"37 / Male
Portugal “ Hi!

I would be thrilled to host you!

I am an open minded, fun loving Lisbon born guy who enjoys having a good time. And I would love to share experiences with such a nice young woman.

I am fond of chilling out, drinking a cold one or two... and letting things happen

I do not drive, but I AM an avid public transportation user, can show you around, if you wish/are up to it and we can have a good time. If you become tired from all your traveling, you can even get a relaxing massage

By the way, my apartment has only one bedroom, so privacy is not very high"

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"I would love to share experiences with such a nice young woman", "letting things happen", "If you become tired from all your traveling, you can even get a relaxing massage": WHAT THE FUCK??

"I do not drive, but I AM an avid public transportation user", WAS THIS INFO REALLY NECESSARY? PERHAPS BETTER TO KEEP IT TO HIMSELF AND TELL HER THAT LATER? AND MAYBE SAY "THE CAR IS IN THE GARAGE" INSTEAD? COME ON, 37 YEAR OLD GUY WITHOUT A CAR?

"By the way, my apartment has only one bedroom, so privacy is not very high" - A BIT TOO MUCH CREEPY FOR A FIRST ONLINE CONTACT NO?

Post: #111

(04-15-2013 05:45 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  I just saw this message in CS Lisbon Last Minute Couch Request forum. I think it sums up everything that can go wrong in an answer sent to a girl. And he sent it publicly in the forum, ahah

The dude is utterly clueless. I've just checked his profile and it looks like he's yet another virginal omega who studied computer science at IST. However, there's no need to humiliate him in public. Please do consider removing his last name, so that his present or future employers cannot find his pathetic beta messages posted on RVF.

Post: #112

(04-15-2013 06:45 AM)Icarus Wrote:  

(04-15-2013 05:45 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  I just saw this message in CS Lisbon Last Minute Couch Request forum. I think it sums up everything that can go wrong in an answer sent to a girl. And he sent it publicly in the forum, ahah

The dude is utterly clueless. I've just checked his profile and it looks like he's yet another virginal omega who studied computer science at IST. However, there's no need to humiliate him in public. Please do consider removing his last name, so that his present or future employers cannot find his pathetic beta messages posted on RVF.

You're right. I did not notice the name was attached. Will remove it after the 60 mnts limitation here.

Post: #113

Couchsurfing has always had sex mixed in with it, like it or not. In the past things were less sexually charged and it was easier to have more genuine interactions with people from there. More genuine interactions = Less pressure = more sex. Over the years the amount of interesting girls that respond to my profile have fallen off. You can still meet cool people on the site.

As to one of you that did an experiment and set up a profile for a hot girl and demonstrated how now there are often only welcome messages written to hot women I have something to say. Back in the day 4-5 years ago there was a volunteer group that would write every new member saying hello in a personal way. I contributed to this group and welcomed a lot of people in the couchsurfing world. I wrote emails to hot chicks and to ugly chicks and interesting and not interesting guys. I respect that someone is new and would probably appreciate a hand in things, I know I did when I started.

Recently CS was sold to General Catalyst partners and the CEO is Tony Espinoza, before this it was held by Casey Fenton (pretty decent fellow from the time I met him other than him fucking over the volunteers that contributed their time and effort into making the site what it is today). You can see the link between Tony and the General catalyst partners company here:"http://www.generalcatalyst.com/companies". Interestingly enough the group also owns Airbnb and the types that do Couchsurfing often as an alternative stay at Airbnb places (a lot of friends of mine have started staying at places they found there). Couchsurfing has been loosing the tight-nit group oriented structure that made it what it was. From what I see travelling internationally it seems that more and more people are disillusioned with things in the CS world especially the charismatic personalities that used to lead things. It didn't help that the Couchsurfing organisation kicked out an influential Berlin ambassador that I used to work with when I was in Berlin that had raised some security and maintenance of personal information issues that the site had/has.

Post: #114

(04-16-2013 06:36 AM)Dr. C Wrote:  Couchsurfing has always had sex mixed in with it, like it or not. In the past things were less sexually charged and it was easier to have more genuine interactions with people from there. More genuine interactions = Less pressure = more sex. Over the years the amount of interesting girls that respond to my profile have fallen off. You can still meet cool people on the site.

As to one of you that did an experiment and set up a profile for a hot girl and demonstrated how now there are often only welcome messages written to hot women I have something to say. Back in the day 4-5 years ago there was a volunteer group that would write every new member saying hello in a personal way. I contributed to this group and welcomed a lot of people in the couchsurfing world. I wrote emails to hot chicks and to ugly chicks and interesting and not interesting guys. I respect that someone is new and would probably appreciate a hand in things, I know I did when I started.

Recently CS was sold to General Catalyst partners and the CEO is Tony Espinoza, before this it was held by Casey Fenton (pretty decent fellow from the time I met him other than him fucking over the volunteers that contributed their time and effort into making the site what it is today). You can see the link between Tony and the General catalyst partners company here:"http://www.generalcatalyst.com/companies". Interestingly enough the group also owns Airbnb and the types that do Couchsurfing often as an alternative stay at Airbnb places (a lot of friends of mine have started staying at places they found there). Couchsurfing has been loosing the tight-nit group oriented structure that made it what it was. From what I see travelling internationally it seems that more and more people are disillusioned with things in the CS world especially the charismatic personalities that used to lead things. It didn't help that the Couchsurfing organisation kicked out an influential Berlin ambassador that I used to work with when I was in Berlin that had raised some security and maintenance of personal information issues that the site had/has.

I am also seeing the same thing happening in my town... Aside from those corporate matters and the loss of some charismatic figures, I think CS has implemented some changes that have contributed to it becoming more similar to a dating site.

The most important one was allowing people (ok, girls) to publicy announce that they're going to visit a city and that they're looking for a couch. I remember that some 2 years ago, they would have to send a couchrequest, and that the hosts did not have a chance of actively inviting girls who they are aware were going to visit their hometown. By then, I surely received much more invitations than now.

And the only way that these creepy guys could contact girls would be by actually proposing to travel to their hometowns, which costs money and time. Hence they would not have an incentive to massively send messages to girls who they knew they were not giong to meet. They could also try to contact local girls, but the effectiveness of this tactic (at least on a one to one msg and not in CS groups) would not have much more chances of success as sending a random message through fb to a local.

Perhaps the best route for CS would be for it to take a step back and remove this open CS request function, as well as the possibility of sending messages to the main page of the city. These new options, while enabling more ways to meet ppl and interact, are turning CS into a normal dating website with some features of tourism.

Some years ago, ppl were not different than they are now. But what perhaps made CS be different, was the fact that these kind of behaviours were not publicly disclosed, and their was a certain "illusion" (as they say in cinema, a "suspension of desbelief") that it was a 100% "pure" website. This illusion needs to be reborn again

Post: #115

Right now they only care about growth of membership and not the quality of people coming to the site. They went from a million members in 2009 to 5 million now. I'm sure the admins of CS if they're honest with themselves know that the possibility of sex with vacationing girls is a huge motivation in having men sign up. Whether they like it or not. A segregated couchsurfing where women could only host women would implode. Publicly of course they'll say it's not a hook up site, but as long as membership is exploding as investors want, they aren't going to pull out the things that make it feel like a hookup site. I set up my fake female profile in two cities and it got around 60 replies between the two of them, not one was from a woman.

With the rapid growth and few new users having any idea what the value of the community is, it's inevitable that there's going to be some sort of tragedy that becomes public. Like some psychopath may infiltrate. When I made the fake profile, a huge number of guys had no references, no vouches or anything. A girl would have to be crazy to stay with a lone guy who has no connections on the site. But they do it regardless and something really bad is bound to happen that will make news and scare a lot of women away.

Post: #116

(04-16-2013 09:06 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  And the only way that these creepy guys could contact girls would be by actually proposing to travel to their hometowns, which costs money and time.

Quote:"By the way, my apartment has only one bedroom, so privacy is not very high" - A BIT TOO MUCH CREEPY FOR A FIRST ONLINE CONTACT NO?

Frank, watch your vocab. I can see you are very fond of using the new N-word. It is a bad and feminine tic. Just to let you know...

Hope this helps.

Post: #117

(04-16-2013 10:48 AM)speakeasy Wrote:  I set up my fake female profile in two cities and it got around 60 replies between the two of them, not one was from a woman.
When I made the fake profile, a huge number of guys had no references, no vouches or anything.

What the fucking fuck

This is worse than I thought. Looks like I best stick to stick to my plan of setting up base in SEAsia to reel in horny tourists..
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Post: #118

do you any of you use this for meetups? hanging out with visiting or current girls in the city but not hosting them

Post: #119

(05-01-2013 06:01 PM)Gloaf Wrote:  do you any of you use this for meetups? hanging out with visiting or current girls in the city but not hosting them

I've gotten a few good leads, make outs and one bang from CS (Couchsurfing). Its handy, especially since I get nervous with cold approach and night game. You can choose to do a group hang out like an event, or if a girl posts that she's looking for someone to show her around, PM her.

I've gotten two Korean girls back to my place using CS and the First Date bang thread. Didn't fuck either of them, but getting them into my room and into my bed was achievement enough and proof this shit works.

CS has typically younger and wilder girls than meetup.com, of course it will depend on your city and the actual meetup groups you join. CS girls are more DTF I think.

Post: #120

(05-01-2013 06:01 PM)Gloaf Wrote:  do you any of you use this for meetups? hanging out with visiting or current girls in the city but not hosting them

Sure we do, but chances of bangind are not as high as when you host them... There is more competition from other guys and afterall it's just a regular date that you could set through Badoo or other channel. But there are plenty of opportunities now for dating CS girls without hosting them, you only need to check the main page of your city.

Post: #121

(05-02-2013 02:39 AM)augen sehen Wrote:  CS has typically younger and wilder girls than meetup.com, of course it will depend on your city and the actual meetup groups you join. CS girls are more DTF I think.

I dunno man, CS girls never strike me as "wild". Unless this is a recent development. I don't really host anymore.

Post: #122

Maybe my experiences also reflect the fact that I used Meetup.com mostly in the US, specifically Cali, and CS outside.

I found it far more likely that I would end up at a party with everyone drunk and someone lighting up on CS than on Meetup.

Post: #123

Today in the Facebook page of my hometowns CS group, one guy posted about somebodys Couchsurfing profile stating that he "was on CS looking for a girlfriend", and 2 girls commented on how pathetic that was.

Funny part: all three of them fuck exclusively within CS, and/or met their former/current partners on CS.

I was going to tell them all how hipocritical they where, but tought, why bother?

Post: #124

(05-02-2013 12:38 PM)germanico Wrote:  Today in the Facebook page of my hometowns CS group, one guy posted about somebodys Couchsurfing profile stating that he "was on CS looking for a girlfriend", and 2 girls commented on how pathetic that was.

Funny part: all three of them fuck exclusively within CS, and/or met their former/current partners on CS.

I was going to tell them all how hipocritical they where, but tought, why bother?

You should call them out. But then they'll tell you they weren't looking for one, it "just happened".