Post: #951

There's a good guide over in the lifestyle section on bartending.

Post: #952

Been in Spain where at 71 Fahrenheit and sunny people are still wearing huge winters coats and came home for the start of spring in my home city of Glasgow at 52 Fahrenheit and sunny. Girls in skirts everywhere and then opened by a pleasant Polish girl in my gym over borrowing equipment. She got my number instead. Love it.

Post: #953

Hate to spoil it for you, but isn't it better to get a girl's number instead?

It's not as if you're Orlando Bloom, so that you can be sure that she'll call you.

Post: #954

(04-10-2019 11:21 AM)Cation Wrote:  Hate to spoil it for you, but isn't it better to get a girl's number instead?

It's not as if you're Orlando Bloom, so that you can be sure that she'll call you.

Living in the player past buddy.

a) women don't call
b) women will text you when they get your number when they are horny or need validation
c) doesn't matter what is "better", what is best depends on the situation at hand

Post: #955

I am sure he will let us know when she calls him and he gets a date.

That way he can prove me wrong

Post: #956

The Power of Belief

I remember reading the story of Roger Bannister as kid and its one of the many anecdotes that has informed my POV and served me well and I thought I'd share it here in the hopes that catches on with some or even one of you younger guys.

Most people probably know the story behind the iconic sports image



Roger Bannister was the first man to ever break the four minute mile. Before Bannister broke the four minute mile on May 6th, 1954, on Iffley Road Track in Oxford, physiologists, doctors, and athletes themselves had contended that running a mile in under four minutes wasn’t only impossible, it might actually lead to death. The human body simply wasn’t equipped to accomplish such a feat, they said. On a deeper level the message was clear: there are certain limits about ourselves that must be observed, certain limits that we simply can’t surpass. Bannister had a different belief. At the time, himself studying to be a physician, Bannister didn’t just think that the human body could, in fact, run a mile in under four minutes, but that he was the one to do it. And after he broke the record that day in Oxford, running an amazing 3 minutes, 59.4 seconds, just 46 days later, the record was broken again.

Again and as incredible a physical triumph as this was for a specific individual what's even more amazing is a feat that was once universally accepted as impossible was duplicated again just 46 days later. Moreover it was achieved again 115 times in the next two years or so. Its now done hundreds of times a year*. Once people knew that it could be done it became easier Such is the incredible Power Of Belief

Oh I know some of you will say "Oh well here goes PT again with his boomerism,Tony Robbins, inner dialogue, fear and desire, spiel again. He doesn't realize that the world has changed and our generation was fucked before we got started etc..."

We Are Meant To Self-Actualize

The trouble with thinking that we can’t do anything is that these imposed glass ceilings simply don’t fit what human beings were meant to do. Abraham Maslow, the American psychologist who created Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, defines self-actualization, the highest need, as the need for every person to realize his or her full potential, to reach a level of “self-actualization.” Maslow believed self-actualization wasn’t just a vital component of a healthy life, but a biological need for mastery. To prove his theory, Maslow studied mentally healthy individuals instead of people with serious psychological issues. Focusing on self-actualizing people, Maslow noted that they often have “peak experiences” or high points in life that correspond with recognizing their potential – often potential they didn’t know existed. These peak experiences fulfill an inherent need to grow, improve, and stretch beyond our limits, to achieve a sense of mastery. People, Maslow believed, are wired to see what they are made of, to push themselves past limits, past the four minute mark, the two hour mark, and any other self-imposed limitations, because it is this very process that makes us human. And it’s not a stagnant process. What we achieve today, we will want to better tomorrow. That’s the way of mastery – it’s not a destination. It’s a journey. A journey that we take every day, because it’s who we are. And yet when we impose preconceived limitations on ourselves – believing that there are things we simply can’t do – not only do we rob ourselves of the journey, but of the joy in finding out just what we are made of.

Fixed Ceilings and Fixed Mindsets

Carol Dweck, Stanford Psychology Professor and author of "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" says that there are two types of mindsets we can have: Fixed or Growth. The first, a growth mindset, sees our abilities as malleable, and directly linked to the effort we put in. To get better, we simply need to try harder, and if we are not getting the results we want, we can improve by committing more effort. Further, what Dweck found is that when people with a growth mindset experience failure, they actually try harder. Is this not the very cornerstone principle of this forum? It certainly is what drew me here 5 years ago

Those with fixed mindsets, on the other hand, see their abilities as predetermined and unchangeable. When they don’t get the results they want, it is not because they are not trying hard enough, it is because they are not equipped with the right skills, provided the right opportunity, etc.. (Does this sound familiar?) And no matter how hard they try, or how much effort they put in, their abilities are fixed. Setbacks, for people with fixed mindsets, don’t make them try harder, they make them give up. Having a fixed mindset, is like having a glass ceiling. There is only so far you can go, and no matter how much you try, you will never pass that point. Once you believe that, you simply stop trying to go any further. There is only so much you can run, write, invest, work, and do, and only so much you are meant to accomplish. And most importantly, you don’t imagine anything more. But the problem is, as Sir Ken Robinson, creativity expert, and author of the bestselling book, "The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything", says, imagination lies at the heart of every great human achievement. In short, when we stop imagining more, we stop achieving more.

Fixed or Growth?

Make a decision because no decision is a decision...Unknown

The Gift Of Uncertainty

There is one thing that glass ceilings may do very well. They make life certain. When we know exactly what we are capable of and what the future has in store, we also know exactly what to expect. There are no surprises, and we take comfort in the idea of knowing that we know. And where there are no unknowns, there is no uncertainty. The problem is, a world like this doesn’t exist. From Christopher Columbus first crossing the Atlantic on a flat Earth, to Danny Way jumping the Great Wall on a skateboard, people have been breaking barriers that were never thought possible. But these barriers were self-imposed. There was no rational reason to think that a person couldn’t jump the Great Wall on a skateboard, except that it had never been done before. And that is just the problem with imposed limits. They tell us that just because we can’t imagine it being done, it can’t be done.


But doing anything starts with imagining it: The Power Of Belief. Another anecdote that illustrates this "power" is the Jane Elliot A Class Divided experiment might have thought as much when she famously told the blue eyed children in her class that they were smarter than the rest of the children in her class. By the end of the day, the blue eyed children performed much better on class assignments than the rest of the children. When Elliot reversed her position the next day and told the brown eyed children that she had been wrong and that, in fact, they were the more intelligent children, it was the brown eyed children that performed better on class assignments. Elliot’s work has since been replicated in numerous studies and sheds light on a powerful truth: what we believe about our abilities becomes our abilities.

When we believe that we can’t run a four minute mile, try as we might, we won’t break that barrier. And when we believe that we can’t write a book, start a business, get the hot girl , buy a home, or lead the sales for our company, we also won’t break those barriers. Like glass ceilings, our beliefs will hold us down, and we become hostage to them.

And while life may be more certain when we know exactly what to expect from ourselves, it is in the uncertainty – in the not knowing, not being sure, and not having answers – that the extraordinary happens. It is when we don’t know what to expect, but we try anyway, that we find abilities we never knew existed. We find strengths we never realized we had, and we reach heights we never imagined possible. It is then – in that uncertainty – that we might realize out true potential. That is, until we reach into the vast unknown again.

The saying goes "Knowledge Is Power" But I say when Belief is betrayed by one's knowledge it is weakness, not strength

Every day there are young men out there in the real world that will achieve what they want because they believe they can or blissfully dont know they cant.


Happy Saturday Gentlemen

*RVF Bonus: No woman has yet ever run a sub 4 minute mile

Edit: Citations-


https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/04/obitu...-dead.html

https://www.spiked-online.com/2018/03/08...nute-mile/

https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/

https://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/his...am-maslow/

Post: #957

(04-20-2019 12:45 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  ...

*RVF Bonus: No woman has yet ever run a sub 4 minute mile

It's simply not possible.



Seriously, though. Brilliant post.

Post: #958

(04-20-2019 12:54 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  

(04-20-2019 12:45 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  ...

*RVF Bonus: No woman has yet ever run a sub 4 minute mile

It's simply not possible.



Seriously, though. Brilliant post.

Thank you sir.

Post: #959

That's a speedy white man.

Aloha!

Post: #960

If you just press down, keep yourself focused on a task and get through it, eventually you will achieve your goals, no matter how hopeless or tedious it appears.

Today I just finished blocking every single member of the forum except Kona.

Post: #961

I was a lanky teenager and I intend to be that again, but supercharged. I had girls asking did I work when I was on the beach despite never having foot in a gym when young.

Went from 102kg to 82kg since December 2018. So a little over 3 stone to you Americans, went from borderline obese to now dead in middle of the weight range I ought to be. Abb finally showing Only 4kg off my goal of 78.5kg. Thank you keto and zerocarb subreddit.

And I got my motorcycle leaner permit today.

And I'm still sore from cycling 36km the other day, I actually stopped in a empty church along the way and prayed for the strength to get back despite being only 3km left to go on the return journey, my ass was in agony every time I got off the seat. I would walk the bike most of the way back except for the downward hills, I would pick a weed/shrub on the side of the road and that was 10 meters (or alternatively just count to 10 and stop) make it my world to reach that, only that exists, and over and over again countless times, using the David Goggins mindset. Stop as much as you need, as long as you get there in the end. Make your peace with that.





How'd I do it, lose the weight?

Here:

Step 5 - HIT THE SELF DEVELOPMENT HARD

There are no periods of productivity followed by rewards. You're not a fat woman. You don't get a ****ing mud cake after your ****ing run. You don't get a bottle of coke after your ****ing workout. THIS IS A LIFESTYLE. You're either in it or you're out. Don't let your mind cheat. That voice - that's the cause of all your depressions and failures in the past. When it tells you to hit the ice cream tub, you tell it to shut the **** up.

And hit the weights. If you can't afford gym or equipment - buy some 5 litre bottles of water and do curls - whatever. It's the principle that counts. Run and do pullups on tree branches. This is your life now. You're the captain. Stop expecting to be spoonfed, to use guides made by someone else on equipment owned by someone else. And don't you miss a day. Don't miss a day if you're depressed, sick, tired, frustrated. Dedication isn't for everyone. You either can, or you ****ing can't, and if you decide you can't, go institutionalise yourself.

Read. Read as many books as you can. I don't give a **** if you don't like it or you never developed a taste for it. Get to work. Devour the literature, force yourself. Read non-fiction. Whatever interests you, read up on it and you will feel your views expanding. Read books on business if you want to be a businessman, it doesn't matter that you failed college. You can fail at college, you can't fail yourself. Many people considered to be wise often stress the importance of self-education over organised education.

Post: #962

Spent the day with a lady that paid for mostly everything we did down in denver. Networked a bit at a cars and coffee and met a dude that owns my dream car. We exchanged info because he said he’d help me look for one.

Stopped at a gas station where this dude pulled up in a lowrider , I chopped it up with him real quick about his car and i got info about a big show in a month or two .Before leaving he told me about a car show that was happening at a dealership about 20 mins away . I decided to go but i missed it by 2 hours, but it was a dealership that sold exotic cars so i still went and shot some pictures of what they had ,i was about to leave until to employees came up to me and told me to go back and go downstairs where they had a shitload of cars worth millions altogether .

Denver is beautiful .cant wait to go back and i didnt even go downtown yet.








The girl likes her hair pulled so im gonna play with her later on tonight

Enjoy your weekend folks.

Post: #963

(04-20-2019 06:07 PM)Syberpunk Wrote:  I was a lanky teenager and I intend to be that again, but supercharged. I had girls asking did I work when I was on the beach despite never having foot in a gym when young.

Went from 102kg to 82kg since December 2018. So a little over 3 stone to you Americans, went from borderline obese to now dead in middle of the weight range I ought to be. Abb finally showing Only 4kg off my goal of 78.5kg. Thank you keto and zerocarb subreddit.

And I got my motorcycle leaner permit today.

And I'm still sore from cycling 36km the other day, I actually stopped in a empty church along the way and prayed for the strength to get back despite being only 3km left to go on the return journey, my ass was in agony every time I got off the seat. I would walk the bike most of the way back except for the downward hills, I would pick a weed/shrub on the side of the road and that was 10 meters (or alternatively just count to 10 and stop) make it my world to reach that, only that exists, and over and over again countless times, using the David Goggins mindset. Stop as much as you need, as long as you get there in the end. Make your peace with that.





How'd I do it, lose the weight?

Here:

Step 5 - HIT THE SELF DEVELOPMENT HARD

There are no periods of productivity followed by rewards. You're not a fat woman. You don't get a ****ing mud cake after your ****ing run. You don't get a bottle of coke after your ****ing workout. THIS IS A LIFESTYLE. You're either in it or you're out. Don't let your mind cheat. That voice - that's the cause of all your depressions and failures in the past. When it tells you to hit the ice cream tub, you tell it to shut the **** up.

And hit the weights. If you can't afford gym or equipment - buy some 5 litre bottles of water and do curls - whatever. It's the principle that counts. Run and do pullups on tree branches. This is your life now. You're the captain. Stop expecting to be spoonfed, to use guides made by someone else on equipment owned by someone else. And don't you miss a day. Don't miss a day if you're depressed, sick, tired, frustrated. Dedication isn't for everyone. You either can, or you ****ing can't, and if you decide you can't, go institutionalise yourself.

Read. Read as many books as you can. I don't give a **** if you don't like it or you never developed a taste for it. Get to work. Devour the literature, force yourself. Read non-fiction. Whatever interests you, read up on it and you will feel your views expanding. Read books on business if you want to be a businessman, it doesn't matter that you failed college. You can fail at college, you can't fail yourself. Many people considered to be wise often stress the importance of self-education over organised education.

+1
I read this post, when I was eating my lunch before going to work and it hyped me very much. I totally agree with you, it´s either you do it, or don´t. Nothing between counts. Also 20 kg in so little time is awesome!

To share something positive.

(03-05-2019 07:57 AM)tomzestatlu Wrote:  I just got back from another trip to Balkan and it was awesome as usually. I met there with my local friend and we had really good times.
Anyway, everything seems to be getting better now. As the spring comes, it fullfils me with a lot of energy. Few weeks ago I was going through dryspell and now I´m back in game again, with few plates to bang and approaching in the streets again.
I will get almost 20% raise in job, so my sallary would be pretty good to comparison to other jobs. Previous period was difficult, because I had evaluation, but I passed it. Anyway my long-term career plan with really low chance is actually being still in the game. There were too many points where it could get stuck and now after more than a year, it hasn´t stucked yet. Soon I will see if I get to final point, where it will be just about what I´m capable off.

Here we go, in one month I am showing myself up. I have been training for months and I have few weeks to fix last details.
Three years ago at university I was crushing my life shape and I was thinking "Okay, this is you in best shape of your life, because you will never have so much free time to train and rest". Now I feel like crushing it again, even though I work 10-12 hours a day including weekends and have no time to take a proper rest. Fuck excuses.

Post: #964

After 8 years sold my online biz for over $220k last January (good riddance stress!), wasn't the exit i'd hoped for but gives me some breathing room now to finally have time to focus on other goals such as

*Getting my Portuguese to the next level (intermediate to advanced)
*Learn programming
*Go even more psycho at the gym
*Jiu Jitsu,
*Banging more and hotter chicks
*Having more time on RVF to call people out who have no fucking idea what they are talking about

Post: #965

I am just thankful and grateful for the situation that I am in.

I read the statistics the other day that 1.1 billion people on the planet do that have proper identification.
This means that they cannot marry, vote, travel to other countries, claim real estate or even open up a bank account for that matter. They are more prone from sexual assault, human trafficking, financial problems, etc.

Blockchain technology has the potential to eradicate this problem, allowing them to have all of those privileges.
Reading these statistics reminds me of how blessed I am..

Post: #966

I got a an email from the company that I am receiving a raise.

Today, I met with my supervisor/boss and when I mentioned it a little bit and thanked him, he told me to keep my mouth shut. Guess he doesn't want me talking to other guys reporting to him. LOL

Anyways, dam it feels good.

It's around 10% raise on my hourly wage, but I get almost 20 hours of over-time, so overall a pretty decent chunk of raise.

Two raises or promotions technically in about 6month period.
My hustling and grinding by going MGTOW paying off lol

Post: #967

I just caught a big ol fish.

Aloha!

Post: #968

^Pics or it didn’t happen!

Post: #969

(05-06-2019 02:56 AM)scotian Wrote:  ^Pics or it didn’t happen!

Aloha!

Post: #970

It's all about scale.



Fish pun intended.

Post: #971

I have the week off so I'm doing chores and renting movies from the library. I recently rented Godzilla (2014) and Kong: Skull Island.

Post: #972

Getting a lot of looks from women I'm taking classes with. I'm very happy that local women find me sexy. The one thing now is to go to places when I'm alone.

Post: #973

Liverpool delivered an amazing game and are now in the CL final. That was football at its finest.

Post: #974

After good 3 years, I finally got a job in that I can use my education. Also I found out I pass that fucking CS Exam, after 6 months thinking I failed.