Post: #1

The girl i'm seeing seems to think so, what do you guys think?

Post: #2

Hello no, a lot of my past girls watch porn themselves

Post: #3

(10-18-2018 04:59 PM)zamfir112 Wrote:  Hello no, a lot of my past girls watch porn themselves

What if she has a problem with it?

What if I'm addicted to porn more than I am to her, that's her concern...so she said.

Post: #4

Then she has self esteem issues

Post: #5

If she thinks it's cheating it's her problem but if you're paying more attention to porn than her it's your problem. You should be fucking her instead and that's what she wants.

Post: #6

You aren't cheating on your girl if you're jacking off, doesn't matter porn/toy/etc.

Stop watching porn, start fucking more.

Porn is destroying your sex drive and rewiring your brain.

If you're addicted you need to quit that shit ASAP.

The more you game and fuck women in real life, the better.

(10-18-2018 05:18 PM)zamfir112 Wrote:  Then she has self esteem issues

You need to go into detail about this.

What are her self esteem issues?

Are they major red flags?

Can you help solve them?

Post: #7

(10-18-2018 05:18 PM)zamfir112 Wrote:  Then she has self esteem issues

Not to side with her, but sometime I do rather go onto pornhub and do quick fap than get it on with her.
Or am I with the wrong person? I do like her though.

Post: #8

Yeah, it's cheating yourself.

If you blow your load to a computer screen instead of the real deal, you've just cheated yourself out of energy, motivation, reward and accomplishment.

It's a last resort when you're ultra desperate/horny and have ZERO options.

By the way, tell your girl that you're going to go jack off to porn, if she has a problem with it then she can offer to give you the porn-star experience...

Post: #9

(10-18-2018 05:21 PM)kaotic Wrote:  You aren't cheating on your girl if you're jacking off, doesn't matter porn/toy/etc.

Stop watching porn, start fucking more.

Porn is destroying your sex drive and rewiring your brain.

If you're addicted you need to quit that shit ASAP.

The more you game and fuck women in real life, the better.

I don't know if it's the changing of season that's making me lose my libido around her,

(10-18-2018 05:18 PM)zamfir112 Wrote:  Then she has self esteem issues

You need to go into detail about this.

What are her self esteem issues?

Are they major red flags?

Can you help solve them?
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She was fine in the beginning and even wanted to watch some with me. It's when I started to lose interest, and she found out I kept looking at porn, then she had a problem.

Post: #10

It sounds like your dick isn't interested in her.

The Boner Test never lies.

So you lost interest in her because she was watching porn with you.

Basically you weren't attracted to jacking off with her around.


Do this test: stop jacking off and watching porn for a week or two.

See how your libido is and how you react around her.


Odds are, you'll ravage the shit out of her because you're so horny.

You should also should try and spice up of her life - as in have her wear lingerie, try new positions, get some toys, etc.

Post: #11

(10-18-2018 05:41 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Do this test: stop jacking off and watching porn for a week or two.

See how your libido is and how you react around her.


Odds are, you'll ravage the shit out of her because you're so horny.

You should also should try and spice up of her life - as in have her wear lingerie, try new positions, get some toys, etc.

Great advice, thanks!

Post: #12

(10-18-2018 04:57 PM)karma101 Wrote:  The girl i'm seeing seems to think so, what do you guys think?

Are you dating an ex of mine from years ago?

The answer is "no". If you are with a chick there is always an understood "look but no touch" when you are out in public. Porn is all look and you touching/stroking yourself in simulation. No foul, but it's stupid (for you). If you want a porn chick, make your girl into her or find another for you who will be that. I agree with @kaotic generally: porn rewires your brain to higher expectations and lowers your real-life pleasure.

Post: #13

If you rub one out periodically to a skin flick, no big deal. However, if porn is a weekly replacement for sexual encounters, then I would be looking to curb that.

Either way, it's really none of her business. There no need for any woman to know about your porn catalog and viewership. Same thing goes for information regarding your sexual past - none of her business. Her job is to drain your balls when they need draining and not to be a pain in the ass. Oh yes...and dinner. She needs to make dinner.

Post: #14

Tell her you will stop watching porn when she gets of social media ...Both are bad....

Post: #15

I dunno we could spin this the right way:

Tell her you have a huge sex drive and need sex all the time.

You use porn to make it easy on her, since she couldn't possible cope with your needs and satisfy you.....

See how that works out!

Post: #16

^
Sounds like girl isn't gettin enough dick as it is. Sounds silly in this context.

Stop watching porn. If you got pussy available to you all the time its a bit dumb. Whenever I watch porn now which isn't often I get mad and think "this is whack, I should be out fucking girls like this not watching it, tf am I doing". Even ruins my nut sometimes.

To answer your question directly porn is in no way cheating. Now if you and your girl have an agreement that you are not to watch porn (youve lost all frame and soon respect of the girl, scuttle the ship cap'n) then you can break trust or be considered a liar. But no, porn isn't cheating that's retarded.

Post: #17

Another benefit of not watching porn, or rather, not fapping, is that having actual sex starts feeling much, much better than it already does.

You'd be surprised what caliber of girls will start passing your boner test as time goes on. Whether that is a good thing or not I will leave up to you.

Post: #18

The problem with porn is that your brain hasn't evolved to know the difference between screen girls and real girls. When you watch porn flicks and scroll through 100 tabs of different girls, your dopamine gets lit the FUCK up as your brain thinks you're banging 100 different 10's.

You'll find that by quitting porn, your relationship (sexually and emotionally) will improve 100x. That's because as you ween off the porn, you'll start channeling your sexual energy into your girl, which, judging by your post, she desperately needs.

Post: #19

(10-19-2018 05:47 AM)redbeard Wrote:  The problem with porn is that your brain hasn't evolved to know the difference between screen girls and real girls. When you watch porn flicks and scroll through 100 tabs of different girls, your dopamine gets lit the FUCK up as your brain thinks you're banging 100 different 10's.

You'll find that by quitting porn, your relationship (sexually and emotionally) will improve 100x. That's because as you ween off the porn, you'll start channeling your sexual energy into your girl, which, judging by your post, she desperately needs.

100% this.
You lose touch with reality, you think you are inside a porn movie, your expectations from sex are porn like and thus fake. You're watching a sex scene that has a script, stops 100 times to take 20 good minutes, with lighting, make up and other shit and 10 other people around to make it happen, this is not real sex. Porn rewires your brain the wrong way. The worst thing that might happen is that you will eventually stop getting pleasure from sex and only achieve orgasm through jerking off which is sad.
The goal of porn is to have as many basement fat losers jerking off and not going outside!
STOP IT NOW!

Post: #20

(10-18-2018 04:57 PM)karma101 Wrote:  The girl i'm seeing seems to think so, what do you guys think?

>Implying that his girl have something to say about what he does...

Post: #21

(10-18-2018 09:47 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  I dunno we could spin this the right way:
Tell her you have a huge sex drive and need sex all the time.
You use porn to make it easy on her, since she couldn't possible cope with your needs and satisfy you.....
See how that works out!

You make it sound like that's a made-up excuse.

Maybe I'm an addict but very rarely have I been in a situation where I get all the sex I need from my partner. Logistics alone gets in the way. IMHO, this is a big reason why men agree to cohabitate, the hope of all-you-can-eat sex.

Now, opting for porn when you DO have all-you-can-eat...THAT is a red-flag.

Post: #22

Make her watch FFM threesome porn with you.

Then tell her she needs to show up with a new pussy as youre tired of the old one. If she cant bring a new pussy herself then she should find someone who can... or you will have to do it yourself.

Eventually she'll get it

Lemonade from lemons gentlemen.

Always lemonade

Post: #23

I understand the watching porn thing, but if you absolutely have to fap why not whip out old nudes/sex journal/spank bank? That way you're at least getting off to a past conquest and not rewiring your brain to crave porn.

Post: #24

(10-19-2018 09:20 AM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  I understand the watching porn thing, but if you absolutely have to fap why not whip out old nudes/sex journal/spank bank? That way you're at least getting off to a past conquest and not rewiring your brain to crave porn.

And there lies the second order problem - men aren't just addicted to porn, we're addicted to the variety and intensity that free high speed internet porn provides.

Post: #25

Tell her that watching porn is not cheating. Period.
On an honest note I would not see her again, because if you are just seeing her and she is already spitting out such a non-sense, means two things:
1) She is controlling/jealous
2) She is dramatic

You don't need controlling/jealous people and you don't need drama in your life.