Post: #351

(05-24-2018 07:42 PM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(05-15-2018 12:47 PM)Kish Wrote:  John Cena is in need of this thread.

Wow. I have no idea who this guy is but as he breaks up and pours his heart out each of the womens' reaction around 5:12 is quite telling. The one on the left rolls her eyes and the one on the right looks at the other and smirks/pulls a face.

Keep your dignity.

The one on the right has an askance expression basically the entire time.

I feel bad for that guy, but also...not.

Post: #352

I was sent here after a recent thread in the newbie forum. I broke up with a 1.5 year LTR that I was living with.

My phone has been blowing up ever since. She has gone from being sad to angry. She says the way I left was shocking and disrespectful. I told her that a long protracted breakup would have been more painful, that I left in the best posssible manner I could come up with. She wants to talk more, says she has no support in her life to deal with her issues. I’m a little worried that she’ll show up at my job and start a scene if I don’t answer. Her opinion is that I left by surprise, that I betrayed her by not communicating about her emotional and mental issues before breaking up. I had, many times mentioned how out of control her tantrums were, I never threatened to end the relationship over them, but that should have been apparent.

I suspect it is time to initiate radio silence, do you agree.

Post: #353

(05-27-2018 10:49 AM)Silver_Tube Wrote:  I was sent here after a recent thread in the newbie forum. I broke up with a 1.5 year LTR that I was living with.

My phone has been blowing up ever since. She has gone from being sad to angry. She says the way I left was shocking and disrespectful. I told her that a long protracted breakup would have been more painful, that I left in the best posssible manner I could come up with. She wants to talk more, says she has no support in her life to deal with her issues. I’m a little worried that she’ll show up at my job and start a scene if I don’t answer. Her opinion is that I left by surprise, that I betrayed her by not communicating about her emotional and mental issues before breaking up. I had, many times mentioned how out of control her tantrums were, I never threatened to end the relationship over them, but that should have been apparent.

I suspect it is time to initiate radio silence, do you agree.

Her post-breakup behaviour will die down sooner than you think. I wouldn't go total radio silence for now, but keep your contact with her minimal. Be supportive and caring, while also maintaining distance (a fine line, I admit). Do this until the madness subsides. Don't talk on the phone if you can help it, just text. Most girls will not carry out any threats, nor will they do crazy shit like causing a scene at your work, but only you know if she might be capable of such a thing. If she does, you'll need to be firm with her or/and contact the police.

Post: #354

(05-24-2018 07:42 PM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(05-15-2018 12:47 PM)Kish Wrote:  John Cena is in need of this thread.

Wow. I have no idea who this guy is but as he breaks up and pours his heart out each of the womens' reaction around 5:12 is quite telling. The one on the left rolls her eyes and the one on the right looks at the other and smirks/pulls a face.

Keep your dignity.

This guy is pathetic, but I don't agree about the reaction. I think they are quite taken with his story and the eyeroll is not making fun of him, it's like eyerolling to heaven as if to say oh wow true love really exists. Also, this guy is ripped, good looking, and famous, he already has so much superficial alpha cred this is their dream: Turn a dude like that into a weeping, ruined mess. They are loving this, but they're not mocking him. They're in a romance novel.

Yes, this stuff dries girls up in a hurry and it's not what they really want, but it is what they think they want. They genuinely cry their eyes out to this crap in movies and books. Every woman thinks she wants to be loved like this (by some dude who is turning down every other woman on the planet on her knees in front of him just to hang out with her).

Post: #355

Probably the hardest to do

was in an LTR for almost 3 years, didn't realize it was toxic but had the classic "wife material" (cooking cleaning, South border mex woman) then boom altercation. Long story short year of basically probation for assault and every week we have to mention our ex and talk about it for 6 months in these counseling classes. one day best time christmas eve next day locked up christmas day and you lose your apartment and almost your job and potentially career.

its been difficult to get over because I get reminded of it every week and we did go on and off constantly for the past 2-3 months but seemed like she was trying to take control and my beta ass kept feeling like I messed up because I lost control.

last week we argued again and I was firm and no emotion then I told myself burn the bridge and lets just say she didn't exactly like that.

not sure exactly what to do at this point. I keep getting reminded of her.

Post: #356

(07-05-2018 04:45 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  last week we argued again and I was firm and no emotion then I told myself burn the bridge and lets just say she didn't exactly like that.

not sure exactly what to do at this point. I keep getting reminded of her.

Well done on making a decision about your future.

Not sure what strategy you can use about being reminded of her on a weekly basis. Being reminder of her is outside of your control.
What's in your control is whether you contact her or not and how you respond to her conflict. Understand that it doesn't mean you have to contact her though.

Get out there and find a new woman.

Post: #357

(07-05-2018 04:45 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  Probably the hardest to do

was in an LTR for almost 3 years, didn't realize it was toxic but had the classic "wife material" (cooking cleaning, South border mex woman) then boom altercation. Long story short year of basically probation for assault and every week we have to mention our ex and talk about it for 6 months in these counseling classes. one day best time christmas eve next day locked up christmas day and you lose your apartment and almost your job and potentially career.

its been difficult to get over because I get reminded of it every week and we did go on and off constantly for the past 2-3 months but seemed like she was trying to take control and my beta ass kept feeling like I messed up because I lost control.

last week we argued again and I was firm and no emotion then I told myself burn the bridge and lets just say she didn't exactly like that.

not sure exactly what to do at this point. I keep getting reminded of her.

So from what I'm reading you had a fight with you girlfriend on Christmas day, beat her up, got arrested and are now on probation for assault?
And after all of that she is still talking to you?

I don't know which of you is dumber.

Post: #358

(07-06-2018 02:23 AM)Roardog Wrote:  

(07-05-2018 04:45 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  Probably the hardest to do

was in an LTR for almost 3 years, didn't realize it was toxic but had the classic "wife material" (cooking cleaning, South border mex woman) then boom altercation. Long story short year of basically probation for assault and every week we have to mention our ex and talk about it for 6 months in these counseling classes. one day best time christmas eve next day locked up christmas day and you lose your apartment and almost your job and potentially career.

its been difficult to get over because I get reminded of it every week and we did go on and off constantly for the past 2-3 months but seemed like she was trying to take control and my beta ass kept feeling like I messed up because I lost control.

last week we argued again and I was firm and no emotion then I told myself burn the bridge and lets just say she didn't exactly like that.

not sure exactly what to do at this point. I keep getting reminded of her.

So from what I'm reading you had a fight with you girlfriend on Christmas day, beat her up, got arrested and are now on probation for assault?
And after all of that she is still talking to you?

I don't know which of you is dumber.

oh trust me I told myself wtf was I thinking, I made a bad judgement call that night. I won't say beat up more of took her to ground because she started hitting me. What sucks is I get reminded of it every week with my classes im ordered to take. Ups and downs of that relationship and I had to have contact for a while too because of my stuff and the apartment lease.

Post: #359

(07-05-2018 10:57 PM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(07-05-2018 04:45 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  last week we argued again and I was firm and no emotion then I told myself burn the bridge and lets just say she didn't exactly like that.

not sure exactly what to do at this point. I keep getting reminded of her.

Well done on making a decision about your future.

Not sure what strategy you can use about being reminded of her on a weekly basis. Being reminder of her is outside of your control.
What's in your control is whether you contact her or not and how you respond to her conflict. Understand that it doesn't mean you have to contact her though.

Get out there and find a new woman.

yeah I been getting my priorities together and seeing other women, almost 3 years caused a big roadblock in my life. You are right though that is out of my control.

Post: #360

Personally I still contact my ex every 3-4 months. I send her a dick pic or asshole vulgarities once in a while just to piss her off. After we broke up (because I cheated on her) I used to cry like a baby about how inhuman I had been to her and she was so perfect and nice to me. Now with time I understand she was probably planning to move on anyway and texting other guys. What "broke her heart" was probably that I was the first to make a move and initiate the breakup. She was very vicious with me as she made sure to be the perfect girl to me until the end of our relationship. So that now I am having trouble finding someone of her level. I understand her strategy very clearly now. +100 lays later and still nothing worth her.

Post: #361

I posted this in game but was told I should of posted in here. ok me and megan met at a bar through a mutual friend she was a little flirty nothing crazy. Didnt think anything of it. fast forward we meet again and we get a little flirtier. after that I took her on a bus to an event to which she was immediately holding my hand when she got drunk and all crowded up on me. Not sexually but almost like a little girl and her dad type thing in a way. As weird as that sounds. we slept at my buddies house because she wanted to leave so bad but she was wasted so I didn't let her drive. The entire time she wanted her "Fuzzy blanket at her place. I tried to kiss her but a peck is all I got then she she quickly made out with me and said I shouldn't of done that I shouldn't of done that. Next day I take her home and she kisses me goodbye. week later I'm like me and you are going out. she didn't respond for 2 days then said sorry I'm having family issues what day is good for you. I said Friday. we went out had a good time and she finally made out with me and I fingered her a little but she pulled my hand away immediately. After that we hung out for 2 months almost every weekend and week. I would sleep over she would sleep over etc. I mentioned myrtle beach and she said I wanna go I wanna go let's go. Me being an idiot was like ok late go so I booked the trip. we hung out for another month everything was fine until one day supposedly got a new roommate and told me get used to them taking me out alot. I laughed and said what do I have to book you to take you out. Week later her texts got shortttt. she responded a few days after one text and said sorry had a family emergency and have been stressed out. in her lame ass defense her brother did get busted with heroin. I said to make you feel better I'll take you out Friday to take your mind off it. she said sure I'll let you know. I then said you ready for myrtle beach?! it was scheduled for that sat 2 months ago. Friday rolls around and I get nothing. i had already went out with my boys and got drunk and like an idiot texted her hey saying no would be easier then standing me up dude. this was about 2 months ago and I have gotten absolutly 0 response from this girl. like she wont even view my stories on snapchat wont respond to anyone who even knows me. comptely and utterly ghosted the shit out of me. I actually saw her at a bar and she was so discombobulated from seeing me she was stuttering talking to her friend. I danced with her friend a few songs in front of her to which she kept getting closer and closer to us. I eventually walked up at the end of the night and said look it's all good let's out this behind us. to which she looked at me and said I'm so trashe right now. I just walked away. havent spoken to her or reached out since. I really liked this chick and her ghosting me messed with my headspace so much. in person she was the sweetest most innocent acting girl ever.

Post: #362

(07-10-2018 03:16 PM)kross1989 Wrote:  I posted this in game but was told I should of posted in here. ok me and megan met at a bar through a mutual friend she was a little flirty nothing crazy. Didnt think anything of it. fast forward we meet again and we get a little flirtier. after that I took her on a bus to an event to which she was immediately holding my hand when she got drunk and all crowded up on me. Not sexually but almost like a little girl and her dad type thing in a way. As weird as that sounds. we slept at my buddies house because she wanted to leave so bad but she was wasted so I didn't let her drive. The entire time she wanted her "Fuzzy blanket at her place. I tried to kiss her but a peck is all I got then she she quickly made out with me and said I shouldn't of done that I shouldn't of done that. Next day I take her home and she kisses me goodbye. week later I'm like me and you are going out. she didn't respond for 2 days then said sorry I'm having family issues what day is good for you. I said Friday. we went out had a good time and she finally made out with me and I fingered her a little but she pulled my hand away immediately. After that we hung out for 2 months almost every weekend and week. I would sleep over she would sleep over etc. I mentioned myrtle beach and she said I wanna go I wanna go let's go. Me being an idiot was like ok late go so I booked the trip. we hung out for another month everything was fine until one day supposedly got a new roommate and told me get used to them taking me out alot. I laughed and said what do I have to book you to take you out. Week later her texts got shortttt. she responded a few days after one text and said sorry had a family emergency and have been stressed out. in her lame ass defense her brother did get busted with heroin. I said to make you feel better I'll take you out Friday to take your mind off it. she said sure I'll let you know. I then said you ready for myrtle beach?! it was scheduled for that sat 2 months ago. Friday rolls around and I get nothing. i had already went out with my boys and got drunk and like an idiot texted her hey saying no would be easier then standing me up dude. this was about 2 months ago and I have gotten absolutly 0 response from this girl. like she wont even view my stories on snapchat wont respond to anyone who even knows me. comptely and utterly ghosted the shit out of me. I actually saw her at a bar and she was so discombobulated from seeing me she was stuttering talking to her friend. I danced with her friend a few songs in front of her to which she kept getting closer and closer to us. I eventually walked up at the end of the night and said look it's all good let's out this behind us. to which she looked at me and said I'm so trashe right now. I just walked away. havent spoken to her or reached out since. I really liked this chick and her ghosting me messed with my headspace so much. in person she was the sweetest most innocent acting girl ever.

First of all, for the love of god, paragraphs.

Secondly, why are you so hung up on a girl that you haven't even banged, let alone was actually in a relationship with?
Plenty more fish in the sea. Her loss, don't sweat it and find someone else.

Post: #363

I know man. just for some reason messed with my head. for once I finally had a "connection" with this girl. even though shes a mess

Post: #364

(07-11-2018 12:47 PM)kross1989 Wrote:  I know man. just for some reason messed with my head. for once I finally had a "connection" with this girl. even though shes a mess

Read your other thread, lots of good advice made there. You need to get over it and grow up.
This is not no contact material.

Post: #365

your exactly right. why is it no contact material though?

Post: #366

(07-12-2018 08:57 PM)kross1989 Wrote:  your exactly right. why is it no contact material though?

She's ghosted you. You're out of moves, she's not trying to contact you and is ignoring you.

If you read through this entire thread you'll see guys who have ended a relationship or have had relationships/dated but the woman is trying to get back in touch with them. Otherwise they are battling with recontacting an ex who is still communicative or considering staying friends with them.

I don't think you're in any of those categories unfortunately.

The advice is the same. Move on.
Hanging onto any idea of rekindling some shit is prolonging your own misery.

Post: #367

your right fuck her

Post: #368

Question

I had a dog I brought into the apartment when we lived together but couldn't bring it back home (temporarily with parents until end of year). my ex has my dog, what do you do when you really want to see your dog? bought my dog before she moved in.

Post: #369

6 months of no contact.

I think my ex baited me yesterday.

One of the viewers of my Instagram stories on Monday was a profile with my ex's picture. I've blocked the accounts I know of.

What's weird is that this new account has a fake name "Lauren" and only 20 followers - but she has used her own genuine photo. Which is a very strange way to stalk anonymously.

Post: #370

(07-13-2018 07:19 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  Question

I had a dog I brought into the apartment when we lived together but couldn't bring it back home (temporarily with parents until end of year). my ex has my dog, what do you do when you really want to see your dog? bought my dog before she moved in.

I would reach out and see about retrieving the dog. I wouldn't count this as breaking the no-contact rule as it's a very utilitarian reason to reach out and there is literally no other way to go about getting your pet back except to talk to her about it, just don't get suckered in to getting emotional, reminiscing, or rekindling anything. You are only contacting her because it is necessary to correspond to get your dog back.

Post: #371

(07-31-2018 11:29 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  

(07-13-2018 07:19 PM)gomez556 Wrote:  Question

I had a dog I brought into the apartment when we lived together but couldn't bring it back home (temporarily with parents until end of year). my ex has my dog, what do you do when you really want to see your dog? bought my dog before she moved in.

I would reach out and see about retrieving the dog. I wouldn't count this as breaking the no-contact rule as it's a very utilitarian reason to reach out and there is literally no other way to go about getting your pet back except to talk to her about it, just don't get suckered in to getting emotional, reminiscing, or rekindling anything. You are only contacting her because it is necessary to correspond to get your dog back.

update

she kept saying I can't go over yet says I have to pick him up. I had to let go my own pet. I don't want to deal with that anymore plus she is basically using my pet as a weapon to control me.

Post: #372

I am flying through my ex's city tomorrow.

She emailed to ask when I would be flying through (forgot to block). I answered August.

It would be cold to just fly through without letting her know. Anyway, I have a few hours between flights and makes sense to meet. Closure and all.

Either there's still a spark or there isn't. Either back in the game or something to pursue.

Bad idea?

Post: #373

(08-13-2018 06:28 AM)sterlingarcher Wrote:  I am flying through my ex's city tomorrow.

She emailed to ask when I would be flying through (forgot to block). I answered August.

It would be cold to just fly through without letting her know. Anyway, I have a few hours between flights and makes sense to meet. Closure and all.

Bad idea?

C'mon man, your male hamster is spinning wildly here.

Sounds like you've still got some investment in this girl, which makes it not worth it to meet. What are you really going to get out of it?

She's your ex, whether you broke up with her or she broke up with you, you are separate people now. You don't owe her any closure. It's not cold to simply fly through and not say anything.

Remember that. You owe her NOTHING.

Post: #374

Brothers, I need help in handling my last LTR breakup.

I know about game, I know about the abundance mentality, I know about everything. I'm just a weak beta with a Messiah complex about her. Please tell me I'm retarded and I need to move on.

We've been together for several years. She has been retarded and cheated on me because she couldn't stand my alpha rules (no going for drinks 1vs1 with her beta orbiters, not allowing hitting on her by her 5+ beta orbiters...). She took my rules as "limiting her"; fascist, patriarchal, and a load of shit.

We broke up for at least several weeks a couple of times. While she kissed a couple of guys during those periods, I fucked a couple of girls. Of course, I didn't feel obliged to tell her (when we made up) because we weren't together, and besides, I thought she was also fucking other guys.

I forgave all of her bullshit because she was inexperienced and genuinely wasn't a slut (only 1 notch before me; kissed those guys in spite of me, etc.)

When she found out I fucked those girls, she left me.

I'm sure I wouldn't marry her as she had cheated on me, but I admit I still love her because of my Messiah complex. I've been trying to make wife material out of her for years.

Tonight I found out she's fallen in love with another guy. I'm sure as hell he isn't going to love her as I did - maybe he's equally or more handsome than me, but he surely won't fuck her, treat her or love her better than me.

Please stop me from going to her place tomorrow morning and telling her all of that and sending her to hell. Please.

EDIT: we broke up a couple of months ago. I've tried picking up other girls, but my oneitis is still raging strong. Please help me...

EDIT 2: I admit, I still go crazy, way irrationally crazy over her. "This street, OMG we used to walk down this street." "My bed, OMG we fucked so many times and we were so happy here." "A dog, wow, She had a dog."
I'm going fucking crazy, I need to get over her.
I have several bitches in my pipeline that are a grade or more lower than her, so I can't easily forget. I kissed a couple of girls and approached a couple more already, but I still can't force myself to fuck one.

Although she was practically a virgin before me, she still had several big red flags, but I fell in love so hard I couldn't move on and still tried to make wife material out of her.

5+beta orbiters, mostly male friends from childhood, couldn't understand guys in clubs were trying to fuck her and not form friendships, etc. I cared so much and tried to rectify those things, but to little avail.

Post: #375

^^^ Follow these steps and you'll be saved.

1) Get off the internet.

2) Go to the gym.

3) Take a shower.

4) Go to the bank.

5) Get some cash.

6) Get to the nearest strip club.,

7) Make every stripper there want you.

8) Do not mention the bitch is question.

Aloha!