Post: #101

Did you pay for the trip or go dutch? Under most circumstances a trip is just so inherently fun that even two people who don't make a very good couple wind up having a great time anyway. You're away from responsibilities and everyday stress and can just have a honeymoon-like existence. That's why if you have a great time you can't draw conclusions. But the reverse...for a woman to be miserable like that is truly pathetic and probably the reddest of red-flags. It would be a red-flag if she were miserable even one day of the trip let alone the whole two weeks.

Post: #102

(06-06-2017 10:13 AM)questor70 Wrote:  Did you pay for the trip or go dutch? Under most circumstances a trip is just so inherently fun that even two people who don't make a very good couple wind up having a great time anyway. You're away from responsibilities and everyday stress and can just have a honeymoon-like existence. That's why if you have a great time you can't draw conclusions. But the reverse...for a woman to be miserable like that is truly pathetic and probably the reddest of red-flags. It would be a red-flag if she were miserable even one day of the trip let alone the whole two weeks.

Travel is stressful for some people and I can understand quarreling with someone you don't know well a bit.

Behaving like a lunatic child, though, is something else entirely.

Post: #103

(06-06-2017 10:13 AM)questor70 Wrote:  Did you pay for the trip or go dutch? Under most circumstances a trip is just so inherently fun that even two people who don't make a very good couple wind up having a great time anyway. You're away from responsibilities and everyday stress and can just have a honeymoon-like existence. That's why if you have a great time you can't draw conclusions. But the reverse...for a woman to be miserable like that is truly pathetic and probably the reddest of red-flags. It would be a red-flag if she were miserable even one day of the trip let alone the whole two weeks.

We went dutch. But it was still my money being wasted on a fucking miserable trip.

Post: #104

What's the verdict on this one? Banging irregularly for a year, finally cut her off a week ago. Called me 85 times yesterday:


Good Morning dear. How was your night? Is not yet over, I won't let you waste my time and love life for years just like that. You are still my boyfriend I just want you to change and start treating me the right way, let me know that I have a boyfriend who really care. I know there is something good in you but I just don't know what is preventing you from showing me how much you love me. I love you bae. My Mr White Dick. You are mine if I can't have you, then no one else... We both won't rest or have peace of mind. So get ready my baby.

Post: #105

(12-05-2017 06:06 AM)Akwesi Wrote:  What's the verdict on this one? Banging irregularly for a year, finally cut her off a week ago. Called me 85 times yesterday:


Good Morning dear. How was your night? Is not yet over, I won't let you waste my time and love life for years just like that. You are still my boyfriend I just want you to change and start treating me the right way, let me know that I have a boyfriend who really care. I know there is something good in you but I just don't know what is preventing you from showing me how much you love me. I love you bae. My Mr White Dick. You are mine if I can't have you, then no one else... We both won't rest or have peace of mind. So get ready my baby.

Let me guess. She works with machetes for a living?

Post: #106

(12-05-2017 06:06 AM)Akwesi Wrote:  What's the verdict on this one? Banging irregularly for a year, finally cut her off a week ago. Called me 85 times yesterday:


Good Morning dear. How was your night? Is not yet over, I won't let you waste my time and love life for years just like that. You are still my boyfriend I just want you to change and start treating me the right way, let me know that I have a boyfriend who really care. I know there is something good in you but I just don't know what is preventing you from showing me how much you love me. I love you bae. My Mr White Dick. You are mine if I can't have you, then no one else... We both won't rest or have peace of mind. So get ready my baby.

If you're serious I feel bad for you. Ghost her

Post: #107

The only correct answer to this is zero-tolerance for BPD and other personality disorders. Her fucked-up shit will fuck you up. BPD, bipolar etc - get the fuck out the moment you find out.

Post: #108

Much of my concerns with western women is crazy. Just far too much. I had propositions from married women #GROSS! I've picked up crazy at the bar. SML?ONS. She ended up ghosting and then, called me go figures, when i am pulling some other girl that I picked up. Just my luck. Then, she disappeared. Ended up heavily into cocaine and dating some loser who does it with her. Mom killed herself. Another girl I picked up at the bar was early 20s. Check mark on top form SMV but, I get her back to my place. She is crying and talking about her mom feeding her dad drugs in his food and killing him. Needless to say, I wasn't getting turned on, and just made a point of my early day the next morning.

Post: #109

(12-05-2017 07:58 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

(12-05-2017 06:06 AM)Akwesi Wrote:  What's the verdict on this one? Banging irregularly for a year, finally cut her off a week ago. Called me 85 times yesterday:


Good Morning dear. How was your night? Is not yet over, I won't let you waste my time and love life for years just like that. You are still my boyfriend I just want you to change and start treating me the right way, let me know that I have a boyfriend who really care. I know there is something good in you but I just don't know what is preventing you from showing me how much you love me. I love you bae. My Mr White Dick. You are mine if I can't have you, then no one else... We both won't rest or have peace of mind. So get ready my baby.

Actually a poli sci major aiming for a career in conflict resolution
Let me guess. She works with machetes for a living?

Post: #110

I registered on this forum board exactly to write about my 7 years long relationship with a polish girl from Gdynia with impulsive borderline.

Some of the things she did during these 7 years:

1.She hitted me over my face impulsively with 4 knives, during a verbal disagreement. She was few mm close from cutting out my eyes. Later she said she forgot what was in the bag and behaved like it didn't matter and that her reaction was justified.

2.After this, she hitted herself in the head with the knives until she was bleeding and showed it to me as being my fault.

3.I kid you not, she literally begged me 4 times to defecate in her mouth and she happily ate all the fecals. She was happy out of her mind, I found it very strange. But she was beautiful so I didn't say no. She was extremely horny almost all the time in the first year. She also asked me to drink all the pee I produced for about 4 months, then she lost interest in that too.

4.Sex was indeed very good but only in the first year. Then she lost interest, and it became much much rarer and short.
She gave me 3 times three different sexually transmitted diseases.
Later I found out that she practiced prostitution as a "fulfillment of a fantasy she had"

5.She was cutting herself, has cutted her wrists while in highschool, and she knew exactly how to cut herself to cut only superficially. To her exboyfriend she broke his head with his mobile phone, because he tried to stop her from cutting herself by hiding her razors.

6.She tried almost all the drugs she could get for free. She chose her "model" nickname Codeine, one of her favourite substances she was overdosing herself with to give her strong emotions.

7.She told me in some mornings "Everytime you sleep I watch you and I want to kill you. But that's normal, everyone feels the same, but don't worry we only think about it, we don't actually do it"

8.She told me literally: "My mother got scared of me when I told her that all children with small heads must be killed"

9.She hitted me impulsively with whatever she had in her hand more than 5 separate times, although she promised she will not do it again.

10.She practiced prostitution for 2 months, and she chose for herself a fake name "Analel", which she said it was the name of a demon. When I pointed out that it was basically an invitation to anal sex (her favourite), she denied it repeteadly.
Then I lost most of my friends, when I continued to talk to her even after she practiced prostitution and got infected with sexually transmitted diseases of course.

11.In bed she preferred extremely dirty sex in the first year, she would ask me for deep anal, and then eat all the fecals
from the organ.

12.She bullied 1 or 2 of her highschool colleagues into suicide. Then later, after few years, she was still visiting their cemetery graves and asked me to come and show to me. She was also telling me about she horrible smells from the cemetery.

13.She isolated me from all my friends, often she would say horrible things like "You beat up kids! They are not your friends, they hate you or they don't care about you, you are too old," and many of such insults.

14.In the last year it was 5% good moments, and 95% of extreme insults, violence against me, provocations, breaking up with me and then messaging me desperately after 2 days to help her with her imagined new recurring illnesses (she imagines she has recurrent candidosis, which is not the case, and she takes no treatment, but she tells to doctors about it and then blames the doctors as incompetent)

15.Often she could not fall asleep until 4-5am in the morning, and she had to watch horror movies in order to fall asleep.

16.She had an obsession of noticing immediately any satan or demons reproductions in her surroundings, and then call them as "religious

17.She was pushing with stick eyes of dead animals, watching them from closely, even when they were full of worms.

18.She bullied her younger brother until he became agoraphobic and asexual.

After such a relationship day by day the effects was the alienation and losing my family and my friends, as she manipulated and insulted my friends and me publicly and also in front of my friends constantly. With made-up dramas out of nothing.

People escaping out of a relationship with a BPD
often develop Post Traumatic Stress disorders.
I definitely have too, even a long time after.

19. Any smallest disagreement with her usually sent her into rages of fury in which she will discuss for many hours
how everything is very wrong.

20. She can never save any money, she always spent all the money she had, the moment she touched the new money
no matter if it was her money or not.

21.She made alienating false accusations, without any connection with reality, with which she convinced her family and
friends that I am some sort of monster. She was twisting the truth in very absurd ways.

For example at night she came and walked on my head with her feet, without any care, while I was sleeping. I woke up and I tried to defend myself. She threw herself on the floor and said I pushed her and that I am "women-beater"

22.She made up past rape and past "I was abused".

23.She had times when she acted like possesed by demons, with an extreme force she tried to insert things in my body,
in order to "show me how it is to be raped" although I was fighting hard to not let her do this

24.Another time she jumped naked in bed next to me, pushing her ass in my face, violently trying to put objects inside my ass
while I was shocked and trying to defend myself and saying all the time "NO! NO!", then she farted close to my face
and laughed

25. 2 or 3 times, just before after telling me to finish (ejaculate) in her, she tells me coldly that "she wants to have 2 kids with
a gypsy", another time in the same situation/moment while having sex she says "I am in love with a guy from work I want to have kids with him" and the 3rd time, same timing, says "I want to have a black boyfriend with big muscles"

Post: #111

I'm assuming all 25 of those things didn't happen at once. So, why the fuck didn't you run after the 1st one? Let alone 25?

Post: #112

As many others pointed out, borderline girls have this characteristic of giving very intense long sex of any kind you may want at the beginning of the relationship, so it was catchy and interesting at the beginning.

I have never been before with a girl who was literally cutting herself with razors.

Also the fact that she appeared to me as having beauty.

Then step by step, they push away and alienate your friends, your groups of interest, your family, while them (the borderline girls) turn more negative,
the sex stops, and what is left in the end is just insults, violence and negativity from her part, but you still dream about the beginnings or something

Post: #113

Do you not take any responsibility for your actions and suscpeptbility to these manipulations while (once again, I assume) your family and friends were advising you to the contrary? How about your base instincts telling you that a woman who whores, mutilates (herself and the dead apparently), and enjoys shit in her mouth is wrong? What about concern for your health after not one, not two, but 3 STDs were contracted?

Everyone is young and dumb once. Most people get scammed in their lifetime. Everyone makes bad decisions. At the end of the day you made them though. So rationalizing them away while not taking responsibility is pretty sad.

The only answer to my question that I could even imagine sympathizing with was "I was stupid, I fucked up". If you're looking for some victimhood-esq support group I doubt you'll find it here and I certainly won't be a part of it. I hope you learned from your experience and I hope you won't put yourself in situations like this again, and I hope your health is still good.

Let your story serve as a warning to people foolish or desperate enough to ignore all perilous signs you did.

Post: #114

No, my health is not good.

I absolutely do not advise anyone to have any relationship with a BPD.

However guys will not stop from entering destructive relationship with borderline girls because of the intensity and the quality of sex from the honeymoon period at the beginning of the relationship.

I am not looking to appear as any victim, I am just describing things as they were, and after such relationship it definitely ends with a hard case of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I take responsibility for not having a better choice or staying in a kind of comfort zone with a borderline, just because she was beautiful and intensely passionate at the beginning of the relationship.

Everything went downhill shortly after the honeymoon period ended,
borderline only strive and feel at home when there is intense drama.

They need strong emotions, intense dramatic turmoil, intense brutal experiences (most of the times she begged me for very brutal sex)

Post: #115

understandbpd - you have no rep, no history & no credibility on this forum. There is no reason for anyone to believe what you are writing.

And in the slim chance you are telling the truth (which you are not cause you are a troll & liar) and really are the type of guy that lets a girl drink your urine & eat your feces, we don't want people like you on this forum.

If you are lying we don't want you here.
If you are telling the truth we don't want you here either.
Either way you lose

Post: #116

I must admit, this is either a tragic act of stupidity on your part understanbpd, or you have a very sick and vivid imagination.

Post: #117

Yes, it was quite much of a tragic act of stupidity, because I let my guards down because of her youth, beauty and the intensity of her sex drive.

What hapenned was that I managed to get her from stopping to cut herself, but she redirectioned her violence and aggressivity towards me instead,
and I understood this process too late.

There are hundreds of similar stories on other forums and on the forums dedicated to borderline personality disorder.

The fact that I read so many others went through the same things, it did help get over this relationship and I realised it's just human biology of about 6 - 10% of females.

From the 9-12 characteristics/symptoms of BPD, this girl had all of them.

I described a little too crudely some things that are related to dirty, intense sex that she preferred, in the "honeymoon" period at the beginning of the relationship.

Post: #118

This thread is terrifying. It should be required reading for all men.

Post: #119

(05-26-2017 05:57 PM)Rigsby Wrote:  But you've never really experienced a BPD girl until she has totally fooled you and fucked your life up.

Also, if you aren't a sort of fucked up co-dependent type of personality, then you still can't appreciate the damage a true BPD can do. You need to have had your life stolen from you by your parents. Then, the BPD moves in and wreaks her damage.

BPD girls will get you beaten up, raped, accused of rape, killed, and just generally emotionally wrecked, if they can. And the stronger you are, the more they will enjoy wrecking you.

Know your enemy. Coz they sure as fuck will know you better than you know yourself.

I think this is the best post I have ever read about BPD, it describes so exactly the borderline girls, and unfortunately, I am co-dependent, and had a tyrrannic mother that always criticized and beated me,
so the damage done by the very highs and the very lows of this very long relationship with a BPD was tenfold multiplied.

These were more of the red flags, but I didn't get out. She didn't allow me to break up with her. I improved her life constantly, convinced her to give up cutting herself
and give up drugs, in return she took all the violence and abuse she was
doing to herself, and redirected it against me.

26. Her favourite movies were all about demons and satan possesions, and the titles of her favourite movies were predictable: "Possession", "the antiChrist", and so on.

27. In highschool she bullied 1 or 2 of her colleagues until they committed suicide. Then often she visited their graves in the cemetery, and it seemed like this was seen by her as an achievement.

28. She told few times that she wishes her parents die, because they did not help her brother go to university

29.In front of a friend, when I went to show him the city, she begged and started to cry:
"Please don't go, everytime you leave me alone,
other men come and rape me, you should protect me, my exbf was going everywhere with me".
It was so nuts, but it worked into getting the attention of my friend.
She told me she hates seeing her bf spending time with any other friends.

30. She loved small cats, small pigs, she was making childish songs about them, which were endearing and cute.

32. Few times we literally stayed in supermarket for more than 45 minutes, because she could not decide what chocolate she wants. Basically I had to choose a type of chocolate myself, in order for her to finally go and choose a different one.
She would ask me what clothes I like when she was trying out clothes, and then pick up exactly those that I did not like.
She was asking my preferences only so that she can choose impulsively the opposite.

33.She convinced her family and her friends that the trip to Spain for which she bought the tickets herself
was actually me KIDNAPPING her and keeping her prisoner in a basement!!! She repeated this story
to multiple persons , without no connection with reality, she simply noticed that it made me shocked and
I could not understand why she did that.

34. She told me that she loves me, and then just few hours later she was screaming at me insults
just to tear down my self esteem in the most extreme ways: "You are idiot, analphabet, old, digusting,
you stink, you smell like my grandfather!" . By the way I am 27years old and she was 25 years old.

35. Since early highschool she shocked her teachers telling them she was watching everyday the website rotten dot com just decapitations and violent, disgusting deaths of people

36. In front of my friends, she started crying and saying how "if you go from here, men will come and rape me again, they always do" which left me and them speechless


37. She had basically just 3 close friends, one of them was a troll who would just say crazy things in order to annoy people,
and the other 2 were radical feminists full of tattoos and piercings, whose only interests were smoking, drugs, tattoos and you guesses right, demonical possesions and satan...

38.She often put into situations where each of the options I would choose, was always the wrong one.

39.Her interest in a new passion usually lasted only few months, then she abandoned it. She changed many passions, to later abandon them completely forever.

40.When I was late at a meeting even for 3-4 minutes, she was getting very angry and aggressive, would call many many times,
and staying angry and negative for many hours. However she was late sometimes and she didn't apologize.

41. Was extremely stressed and anxious about many of the things she saw during a day, she would complain very much
and say everything is wrong, and she had revenge fantasies.


42.Said often things like "all men are dirty rapists, 50% of men should be exterminated" etc, stuff that she really believed.

Post: #120

I think I just met one.
I'll see where it goes - living on the edge.

Post: #121

I assume that the movie called "Possession" is this one:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Possession_(1981_film)

It's not so much a horror movie, as a portrait of madness. I'm very much into the horror genre, and if a woman mentioned this as a favourite film, you wouldn't see me for dust.

Post: #122

The real question is how many forum members banged this guy's girlfriend in Poland? Gives a varied perspective on the phrase, "How does my ass taste?" Over Under --> 6.5

Post: #123

(07-24-2018 04:56 AM)understandbpd Wrote:  It was so nuts, but it worked into getting the attention of my friend.
She told me she hates seeing her bf spending time with any other friends.

This was enough right here.

The rest is gravy.

Post: #124

Ladies with BPD will fuck like jack rabbits and are adventurous. Just don't be the sucker looking for LTR and deal with the consequences of crazy when her meds needs adjusted or she stopped taking them because she believes with her new sucker catering that she will be fine with out them.

Post: #125

(07-30-2018 12:24 PM)Nordwand Wrote:  I assume that the movie called "Possession" is this one:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Possession_(1981_film)

It's not so much a horror movie, as a portrait of madness. I'm very much into the horror genre, and if a woman mentioned this as a favourite film, you wouldn't see me for dust.

Yes, that is the movie, at our first date she brought this movie to my place and she bended over to insert the movie in the TV player, showing me her naked asshole (she was not wearing panties) and asked me to enter her without protection, because "her body is allergic to condoms". So from the approximately 7th minute of our date, we were already having sex.

I know all these are red flags, but the thing is that being borderline, she was so good and
so passionate when having sex, I didn't have a comparable experience before,
and then got addicted for the next months.

Yes, that one and antiChrist are two of her favourite movies.

She mentioned many times wanting to have "unexpected brutal sex with demons and serial killers".