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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
(09-10-2017 09:59 AM)Vaun Wrote: I don't know if anyone here feels this way, but I currently can not see any real benefit for myself, for not fapping.
When I have ED I think its nervousness, and my own natural protection mechanism against women I shouldn't mess with anyway. There are some women I struggle at first with to get it up with, and others that I am practically busting a nut on before I get it out of my pants.
I'm naturally a high energy, aggressive guy, and have been my whole life. I workout a lot with intense exercise(HIIT, Crossfit, etc). I keep it under control with meditation and a strong self-oriented approach to people in general, I just generally withdraw from people if I need to. I physically remove myself from situations of randomness with other people, like clubs and random bar bullshit that always pops up.
I tend to over think, over react, over emote, etc. Fapping calms me down, and helps me go to sleep. I got to 5 days in a row once of no fapp, and its like my body completely shut down. I didnt feel right.
I suffer from ADD. Maybe not fapping could help with that? I dont know. I do however think that fapping too much is bad(more than 2x p day), and that excessive porn use is as well. I dont mind dropping porn, and get more excited with a plate sends nudes, than when I find one online.
Just random thoughts.
Have you gone more than 5 days?
Are you still fucking girls?
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
I've been on NoFap for about a year and a half now and it's honestly been one of the most transformative periods of my life.
I had always been afraid of rawdogging girls because of the amount of precum I produced, so I rarely did it with girls unless we were in an LTR and I knew for a fact that she was on birth control (it is possible to impregnate a chick with precum, contrary to popular belief, and with the amount I produced I wasn't risking it). A year ago I read a post on another forum about a guy who reduced his amount of precum by abstaining from masturbation (his theory was that excessive masturbation leads to weaker PC muscles) so I decided to try it. I did that for about 10 months while doing reverse kegels sporadically.
A few weeks ago I noticed while making out with a girl that I produced very little precum, which was a big step up from my previous state (in which my boxers would have been soaked). I'm not sure if it can be attributed to the reverse kegels, not masturbating, or both, but I doubt it's from the reverse kegels because I only did it every other month. Whatever the cause, I love the results.
I think of NoFap akin to Pascal's wager: much to gain, very little to lose.
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
(09-17-2017 05:51 PM)Swoldier Wrote: I've been on NoFap for about a year and a half now and it's honestly been one of the most transformative periods of my life.
I had always been afraid of rawdogging girls because of the amount of precum I produced, so I rarely did it with girls unless we were in an LTR and I knew for a fact that she was on birth control (it is possible to impregnate a chick with precum, contrary to popular belief, and with the amount I produced I wasn't risking it). A year ago I read a post on another forum about a guy who reduced his amount of precum by abstaining from masturbation (his theory was that excessive masturbation leads to weaker PC muscles) so I decided to try it. I did that for about 10 months while doing reverse kegels sporadically.
A few weeks ago I noticed while making out with a girl that I produced very little precum, which was a big step up from my previous state (in which my boxers would have been soaked). I'm not sure if it can be attributed to the reverse kegels, not masturbating, or both, but I doubt it's from the reverse kegels because I only did it every other month. Whatever the cause, I love the results.
I think of NoFap akin to Pascal's wager: much to gain, very little to lose. 
Great post thanks. I'm still on the fence about precum pregnancy, but we can agree that NoFap is a positive force in a man's life.
What kind of RK routine were you doing? I think I need to focus on them but I can never really get the "feel."
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
I think the PDE5 inhibitors increase your juice (the juice is loose) so unless they act on vasodilation of the crura or pelvic floor (possible) making it "relaxed" I'm not sure precum has any impact except for differing arousal.
My opinion on the differing states of arousal is an amalgam of all inputs: images, habits, but I think most of all, comfort. In a world where you were never desensitized to female images or sex, etc. I think you'd probably get boners in close proximity even to women, of course depending on your age. Now for those that hook up, a lot of times anxiety can be there (subconscious) because there isn't classic courting or comfort in being around one another frequently, anymore. Similarly, I think sometimes guys go for low hanging fruit and the girl just isn't attractive to their person or genetic profile, even though they feel they could blow up any moment.
In any case, it is certainly more vivacious to live without fap. So do it.
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(09-18-2017 09:05 PM)semibaron Wrote: Just want to say that for me, Tinder and Instagram bitches are almost as bad as porn for my dopamine.
Am definitely cutting them out.
This is definitely true.
For me it's worse when I get a strong prospect.
If I haven't nutted in a while and get a new lead in the pipeline, I get super horny. Not only do I have pictures to look at, I have proof that this woman wants my seed. I'll look through her IG/tinder and think (in vivid detail) what I would do to her.
To fix this I try to minimize screen time period...which is good for ALL areas of health. If I go for a walk I try to leave my cell phone so I can spend time de-cluttering my head.
I don't get triggered so much by random IG hoes because they're just pictures, but REDDIT can certainly do it for me. There are so many high quality porn subreddits, with exactly what you want, in high quality gif format. Point and click, and you've got a highlight reel of the porno. Wow.
Even just being on /r/the_donald is hard for me, because it's just a simple change of URL to get me on a porn subreddit.
Lately I've gotten back on using Self-Control on my laptop. I block all the porn sites AND instagram and reddit. I work from my computer so it's crucial to keep it (and my brain) porn free.
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
Annnnnnnnnd I'm back at day one.
Long story short, I went a week without beating it (ok - I edged, but didn't do death grip!). Last week my girl came over and I got close to finishing without using my hands, but it was just out of reach. Blue balls, however, were in reach. Frustrated, with heavy balls, I beat it and came on her face (to her surprise). Afterwards, I didn't go a day without beating it, the voice in my head telling me "It doesn't make a difference now!".
I swear, fapping is like eating pringles. You can't just eat one.
Luckily, I'll be working for the next 18 days straight. Here's to working so much that I don't have time stick my hands down my pants, except to piss in the woods.
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