Post: #26

What if I do Just one, pretty please? Just for the sake of it. I don't think any girl would make a big mess, though that depends on how well I screen them. I want to take it to the next level. Fvck the staring eyes. Realistically, worst case would be she just declines. Or what if I do it just for warm up? I know they're shy and will not oblige. But atleast I'll get into the approach mood. I'll just see how it goes throughout the week. Also, by their body language I could figure out if I come off as a guy who they would consider kissing or not.
I see it more as a learning experiment than a fun experiment. I just hope I don't chicken out like a bish. Strategy,
I walk into a girl, I ask her to stop.
(Polite behavior, because IND)
Me: can I ask you something?
Her: what?
Me: promise you won't mind.
Her: ok
Me: can we kiss?
Her: lol no / oh I don't know maybe
Now either I pull her in or let her go.

Post: #27

It's ballsy. Do it.

That said, one thing we should make clear:

I'm here to help you just like everyone else like Hoser and brokinetic. You DO NOT need our permission or even blessing to do any damn thing. As a matter of fact I would rather have you stand tall and tell us that "this is what I'm fucking doing."

Impress yourself first, others later. We are here to suggest what works. Following our suggestions or following your own is entirely up to you.

Post: #28

^ +1

Post: #29

Day 1 in gym (easy)
Duration : 30 minutes
- Did as many push ups as I could (5-3-2-2)
- 2-3 sets - 12 each for (right terms?)
Chest (machine) (sideways)
dumbbells (..20kg) upwards (laid on back)
Front (machine) (pulled down)
Back (machine) (pulled down)
Dumbbells standing up ( 3 sets of 20)
Break of 1 minute b/w each set.

Post: #30

^How do you feel?

Post: #31

Great.
When I came home my hands were tired, but they're normal now.
I feel motivated.

Post: #32

(03-13-2017 09:41 AM)Harami Wrote:  What if I do Just one, pretty please? Just for the sake of it. I don't think any girl would make a big mess, though that depends on how well I screen them. I want to take it to the next level. Fvck the staring eyes. Realistically, worst case would be she just declines. Or what if I do it just for warm up? I know they're shy and will not oblige. But atleast I'll get into the approach mood. I'll just see how it goes throughout the week. Also, by their body language I could figure out if I come off as a guy who they would consider kissing or not.
I see it more as a learning experiment than a fun experiment. I just hope I don't chicken out like a bish. Strategy,
I walk into a girl, I ask her to stop.
(Polite behavior, because IND)
Me: can I ask you something?
Her: what?
Me: promise you won't mind.
Her: ok
Me: can we kiss?
Her: lol no / oh I don't know maybe
Now either I pull her in or let her go.

The goal should be to get to a point when you do things because you want to. It is ok if you aren't there yet. It takes time.

When starting out, you should push yourself just beyond your comfort zone. That is where progress is made. You keep moving that bar further and further away from where you began. If you do this continually, you will look back one year from now and be amazed at your progress.

Post: #33

DAY 2 (somewhat easy)
Duration : 50 minutes
Cycling : 10 minutes
Push-ups (2×yesterday)
Dumbbells (3kg each)
12x5
- upwards? (On back)
- fly (on back)
- sitting alternate hands
Chest (machine) 3 sets of 12
- hammer (10x4)
I'm going everyday, next post will be when I see actually make Improvement (in any of the following : game, style, fitness)
Though I've a question for hoser

Post: #34

Where did your one rep point go Harami? It disappeared?

Post: #35

No idea .That was my question for hoser, as he gave it.

Post: #36

I'm going off track, loosing frame

Game wise I'm really slacking. I was at the usual spot for around an hour but didn't do any approach. In the end I just sat near two cute girls who I could see were older than me so I passed. They ended up getting in the same bus. So in total I was with them for about 20 minutes and didn't say a word.
Also I'm trying to ignore the girl in class completely but it's working against me, I don't want her but I don't want anybody else to have her either.

Post: #37

When I saw this other girl yesterday in college. I knew I had seen her before. But we were both running late to class.
It's these girls that stand out from the pack that I want to game.
I know about abundance. But I want to pursue these selected targets. Because random approaches just don't do anything for me (don't get me wrong, I'll still keep at it simultaneously, because these randoms will also turn into something)
But yeah, Is that part of the game?
Any advice is appreciated.

Post: #38

(03-18-2017 11:14 AM)Harami Wrote:  When I saw this other girl yesterday in college. I knew I had seen her before. But we were both running late to class.
It's these girls that stand out from the pack that I want to game.
I know about abundance. But I want to pursue these selected targets. Because random approaches just don't do anything for me (don't get me wrong, I'll still keep at it simultaneously, because these randoms will also turn into something)
But yeah, Is that part of the game?
Any advice is appreciated.

If a question can be answered by opening the girl, then you should open the girl.

Don't worry about abundance mentality right now. Work on your approaches and anxiety.

Post: #39

What question? My question? How will it be answered?

Post: #40

Damn. IRTs will always be IRTs.

I get a lot of shit from the Indian community regarding how I reject my kin and don't help them. For the record, I only reject help when they commit a pattern of weird shitty behaviors and don't heed advice as in this case. It's like a never ending circle with this shit.

I thought maybe Harami was the exception and spent some time on him. I was wrong. Shocking!

The reason why Indian dudes have to work so much harder than any other race is because of people like Harami. No one wants to waste their time including chicks. For once, I don't blame them.

Dude was such a ...Harami, which in urdu means .... Bastard!

Post: #41

(03-20-2017 07:48 PM)Cobra Wrote:  Damn. IRTs will always be IRTs.

I get a lot of shit from the Indian community regarding how I reject my kin and don't help them. For the record, I only reject help when they commit a pattern of weird shitty behaviors and don't heed advice as in this case. It's like a never ending circle with this shit.

I thought maybe Harami was the exception and spent some time on him. I was wrong. Shocking!

The reason why Indian dudes have to work so much harder than any other race is because of people like Harami. No one wants to waste their time including chicks. For once, I don't blame them.

Dude was such a ...Harami, which in urdu means .... Bastard!

At least he din't pick FUDI as his name.

Most Indian guys I know even in Malaysia are messed up. And in India you have this bullshit

Creepyness at its best I would say.

Post: #42

These self improvement threads are always interesting to read. Why did OP get banned?

Post: #43

I said fcuk.
Anyway,
STYLE
Simple shirts that work for me. Trying to add new pants in my wardrobe, waiting for the weekend. Having a hard time finding the chukka boots. Started wearing a belt but shirt not tucked in, feeling a huge difference.
FITNESS
Going to the gym everyday except rest on Sunday. Always feel great when I come home.
Chest, Back, Shoulder, Triceps, Biceps, Legs. That's how the week usually goes.
GAME
I've shifted my attention to particular targets. One at the first location, two at the second location (they come at different time), in the classroom, gonna let go on one, and focus on the other one. I'm the campus as whole, I found one with green eyes. And there's one more with a very nice face.
Day game is not working. Though, I don't take out time for it, I don't have to most of the time. Girls are everywhere. I do one approach if I'm feeling it. I think I'm getting closer, but progress is very slow.
I think my SMV isn't high enough. But people can feel my attitude, I'm getting more distant from everything.
Aloof or lost?
Not much progress in the last 10 days. Mixed emotions.

Post: #44

^
We know you are Harami but what you didn't realize is that you have revealed you are also Nidall.

Have 2 / 3 accounts unbanned. NICE.

Post: #45

^
Remember when nidall asked a question and I answered and u liked that answer
/thread-61429...pid1517191

I guess I have to ask,
Should I still continue this thread and am I going to get any advice?

Post: #46

This is interesting. I got your PM last night Harami. In that PM you mentioned you got banned for saying "fuck." Do you understand that's NOT why you got banned?

Let's go to Exhibit A, this post:
/thread-61786...pid1531370

Now tell me, what was wrong with this post. Actually, other members should probably chime in as well because that will be interesting.

Post: #47

I understand I was being too smart with those pickup lines and was out of place, considering how OP there was actually more experienced than me. But at that exact moment in time I was just feeling too cocky.

But I still think fcuk was the reason for the ban as I was already on 20% warning for ''grammar and punctuation error" (that too was for saying fcuk in some other post as well.) I was actually expecting more warning and gambled.

Post: #48

(04-09-2017 07:28 AM)Cobra Wrote:  Actually, other members should probably chime in as well because that will be interesting.

(04-09-2017 10:17 AM)Harami1 Wrote:  I don't understand how this will be interesting. You make it sound like this won't end in my favor.

Ask and you shall receive.

Just to note one example - you repped Ksmbs as follows:

Quote:Harami (0) - Last updated 03-05-2017, 11:50 AM
Positive (+1): "How many guys have ever grabbed or stroked a girl's hair 2 minutes into meeting her? Probably none. Be that guy."

This is a bit disturbing given that the advice seems to have been offered in the context of approaching incidentally, during the daytime. Now, let me put this in simple terms:

Please do not touch women's hair within 2 minutes of meeting them during the daytime.

If you or anyone else would like to argue along the lines of generalisations such as "if you are Alpha enough you can do anything and girls will roll with it", or "when you are learning you gotta push things sometimes", I suggest you take the following into consideration in this case;

{1} If you lack social-sexual skill and experience with physical escalation, yet you still use intimate touch shortly after an incidental cold approach, you are opening yourself up to number of personal risks (like a hard verbal shutdown, physical push-back or -- in extreme cases -- an accusation of assault). Therefore, if you are new to the game and have problems interpreting a woman's interest in relation to your physical touch, or don't know when/how/where to touch a woman, it's best to err on the side of caution.

{2} What's more, touching a woman's hair is a highly intimate act and should not be done so soon. It is anti-seductive. Even if you just creep the chick out and don't suffer any personal consequences, this can only make women more defensive in general. Therefore you contribute to making the dating game worse for others.

{3} On a personal note, I've banged over 40 women purely from incidental approaches during the daytime, on public transport and so on, and none of them involved touching her hair within a few minutes. In my experience such quick touching is 100% unnecessary. What's more, context is really important...

{4} If you want to try quick physical escalation from a cold approach, try the beer-infused dancefloor of a loose backpacker bar at 2am on a weekend. Not in a bus.

{5} The tendency to touch strangers is likely to be an outward manifestation of inner thirst, and I mean extreme thirst. If you are this horny or desperate, please do your bit for humanity and jerk it before you go outside so you can chill out a bit.

{6} Your praise of Mr Ksmbs' uncalibrated advice is justifiably concerning when viewed alongside other, worrying self-reports such as you:

- Using highly inappropriate kino as an opener,
- Speculating about more *ahem* hairy gambits,
- "Plotting touching strategies",
- Wishing to trick women into thinking you 'accidentally' touched their tits, and,
- Appearing confused about Brokinetic's clear use of sarcasm in relation to your boob-touching plan.

Your supporting quotes follow:

(03-06-2017 11:10 AM)Harami Wrote:  ...On Friday, I tapped the head with one finger of the girl sitting in the seat in front of me. She turned slightly, scowled and turned her back again.

(03-06-2017 11:48 AM)Harami Wrote:  ...the hair approach... It's in the experimental stage. I could play along and pretend to take it out for them.

(03-04-2017 10:47 PM)Harami Wrote:  ...By feeler do you mean touch? Because right from the next approach, I'm plotting touching strategies. On one hand I want to be subtle, but on the other, I want touch their b00bs and say 'oops, excuse my hand's manners' or something.

(03-05-2017 01:29 AM)Harami Wrote:  ...I don't mean I'd be doing that with one hand and this with other.
I was using the 'on one hand' in a argument statement manner ._.
I can't really touch a girl in that manner in public anyway. Or can I?

Bonus point:

{7} And then... well... I really don't know what to make of this:

(02-25-2017 03:15 PM)Harami Wrote:  Harami harambe, hoser poser, dream medicine bleam medicine, "bleam me up, Scotty!" You won't get it.
Hoser the major
Dream medicine cream manipedi
Just trying to satisfy my ego ._.
Aloha!

Post: #49

Don't make anything of the last quote. It is indeed embarrassing.

It's hard to initiate any kind of kino in day game other than a handshake and even that has to be timed right, so I think that's why I found ksbms' quote inspiring. But he deserved a rep from me anyway.
I guess you're right when you say I lack social-sexual skill and experience with physical escalation.

Post: #50

Going back in before the ban.