Post: #251

Quote:Being overweight can cause low testosterone.

That could certainly be playing a role. Between that, and trying to lose weight, it's a double whammy. I've noticed that my libido always tanks when I'm in a caloric deficit.

Post: #252

We were planning on a hike yesterday but she cancelled and sent some long text suggesting a dinner and movie instead. I gave a short "maybe" reply and never heard back.

Post: #253

This thread is not going in the direction I was hoping for.

Post: #254

(11-06-2016 02:02 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  after the election.

The election was extremely entertaining!

I watched all of it.

But, don't allow politics to be more important than self improvement.

Trump won. However, your life will only improve if YOU TAKE ACTION TO MAKE IT CHANGE!

Trump winning does not equal pussy for you. You still have to do most of the work!

(11-06-2016 02:02 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  I can't attract girls who I'm attracted to

This pattern will continue ---- unless you implement NEW strategies and NEW self improvement techniques.

- heal your emotional issues
- improve your social skills
- make yourself more attractive
- upgrade your attitude
- change location
- more energy

(11-06-2016 02:02 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Might just be diet.

I know I keep harping on diet but.. I know how powerful food is..

Diet = self image.

What we eat shapes our body.

The shape of our body effects our confidence.

Guys can eat their way OUT of pussy.

Others can eat their way IN TO pussy.

Some guys choose the sensation of eating food over the work required to get pussy.

Food is easy.

Pussy is hard.

Don't take the easy way out!

Change your food = change your body = change your self image = change your life!

(11-10-2016 11:02 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Remember that Seinfeld episode where he kept changing his opinion of a woman based on different lighting? That's how I feel about this situation.

From the beginning, you said you were NOT attracted to her.

(11-05-2016 12:56 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  feels like another "chore".

Move on from this girl.

You don't like her.

When you like a girl, it doesn't "feel like a chore".

It feels amazing!

(11-13-2016 10:18 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  We were planning on a hike yesterday but she cancelled and sent some long text suggesting a dinner and movie instead. I gave a short "maybe" reply and never heard back.

When a girl suggests dinner and movie... She is trying to fuck.

You are not interested in fucking her.

That's why your response was low energy -- "maybe"

She didn't respond because she can sense that you don't like her.

Find a more attractive girl.

"Maybe" will become "hell yes"!

But, of course, in order to get a better girl, you must improve yourself.

So, it always comes back to YOU.. How much are YOU willing to change? How bad do YOU want change?

Post: #255

Rex!

Election is over!

We Won!

No more excuses!

Here's what you do.

No more sexless dates. Invite her over to "watch a movie and chill"

Or something along those lines.

THEN ESCALATE HARD!!!

Don't come back here saying you didn't do this!

Post: #256

^This.

Post: #257

Quote:When a girl suggests dinner and movie... She is trying to fuck.

Really? I thought that dinner/movie meant you're viewed as "beta".

Post: #258

(11-13-2016 12:47 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Quote:When a girl suggests dinner and movie... She is trying to fuck.

Really? I thought that dinner/movie meant you're viewed as "beta".

With this girl, dinner and movie means she's falling back into her sedentary ways. Former fatty would rather sit and eat than get some exercise.

Rex, just move on and find someone else.

Post: #259

(11-13-2016 01:00 PM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  

(11-13-2016 12:47 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Quote:When a girl suggests dinner and movie... She is trying to fuck.

Really? I thought that dinner/movie meant you're viewed as "beta".

With this girl, dinner and movie means she's falling back into her sedentary ways. Former fatty would rather sit and eat than get some exercise.

Rex, just move on and find someone else.

Rex, don't move on BEFORE you BANG this one.
Do this now, don't postpone or find excuses.

Action. Now.

Post: #260

(11-13-2016 11:09 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  This pattern will continue ---- unless you implement NEW strategies and NEW self improvement techniques.

- heal your emotional issues
- improve your social skills
- make yourself more attractive
- upgrade your attitude
- change location
- more energy

I've seen you do quite a few write ups giving in-depth advice into self-improvement. Do you have any explanations you've done before for the bolded sections? I'd really like to work on these areas too. Particularly the emotional issues.

Post: #261

Well, I invited her over for dinner. Didn't buy the condoms yet, though.

Post: #262

(11-13-2016 10:18 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  We were planning on a hike yesterday but she cancelled and sent some long text suggesting a dinner and movie instead. I gave a short "maybe" reply and never heard back.

Next...

Post: #263

I gave it the old college try but got a bunch of LMR after some heavy makeouts. She said she only slept with one person at a time and I wouldn't commit to that (even though I agree with it).

Post: #264

(11-14-2016 12:04 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  I gave it the old college try but got a bunch of LMR after some heavy makeouts. She said she only slept with one person at a time and I wouldn't commit to that (even though I agree with it).

So glad you keep pushing, RexImperator. Keep it up!

Post: #265

Wait, so you didn't get the bang cause y'all were talking and she only sleeps with one person at a time and you wouldn't commit to that even though you're not seeing anyone else? It was a hypothetical no from you? Why wouldn't you just cross that bridge when you came to it and have fun now?

Or she's fucking someone else and needs to break up with them before hopping on your hobby horse?

Post: #266

(11-14-2016 12:04 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  I gave it the old college try but got a bunch of LMR after some heavy makeouts. She said she only slept with one person at a time and I wouldn't commit to that (even though I agree with it).

I don't get it.
She only sleeps with one person at a time, how is it a problem for you?
She didn't ask you to sleep only with her.

Even if she did, what was the problem?
Say whatever makes her spread her legs, get the bang, continue to bang her if she's good in bed, while searching for other plates on the side.
You don't have to report on what you do with your life to her.

Let's say she senses you're chasing on the side, it'll only make her want you more.
Just don't openly admit it.

I really don't get why you didn't get the bang here.

Post: #267

Quote:Say whatever makes her spread her legs, get the bang

No, I don't want to do that. I think that goes too far in being deceptive.

Post: #268

^^

Stop thinking that way! You're at RVF for years now and you should know they'll do it to you before you can even say "fuck".

I think it might be just what you need to get yourself fired up and start taking steps towards fucking the girls you DO want to grab by their hair so you can pull them into your cave.

As my mom told me when she found out I had sex for the first time "once you taste it, you can't stop eating.."

This girl will be your first taste is a loooooong time. She'll make you hungry (motivated) for more!

Post: #269

(11-14-2016 12:04 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  I gave it the old college try but got a bunch of LMR after some heavy makeouts. She said she only slept with one person at a time and I wouldn't commit to that (even though I agree with it).

Good, at least you tried. Next time you'll probably get the bang. As for what she said about fucking only one person at a time, she is implying she's seeing someone? If so, just smash this ho and move along to the next one.

Post: #270

(11-13-2016 03:58 PM)King of Monkeys Wrote:  

(11-13-2016 11:09 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  This pattern will continue ---- unless you implement NEW strategies and NEW self improvement techniques.

- heal your emotional issues
- improve your social skills
- make yourself more attractive
- upgrade your attitude
- change location
- more energy

Do you have any explanations you've done before for the bolded sections? I'd really like to work on these areas too. Particularly the emotional issues.

* Healing Emotional Issues * ?

Seek professional help!

There are specialists who are specifically trained to help us resolve our emotional issues.. There are experts who study the most common emotional dysfunctions and how to fix them!

Find a good therapist who has experience working in your problem area.

That is #1.

We get help with out taxes (accountants), we get help with our body (fitness trainers), we get help with our business (consultants), we get help with our "game" (RVF), we get help with our health (doctors)...

WHY WOULDN'T WE GET HELP WITH OUR EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES???

OUR MINDSET/ATTITUDE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN OUR LIVES!

Get professional help!

(I admit, many therapists are shitty but some of them are amazingly helpful and can recommend books, courses, strategies, etc.) (Try multiple therapists/psychologists until you find one that you like)

-----

AND..

Google it!

Here is a Google search for "Healing emotional issues for men"

Look what comes up...

Books
Articles
Tips, advice, suggestions

A wealth of knowledge!

Read this stuff. Use it!

-----

AND..

Find a friend with similar issues.

Work together. Help each other.

Build a support network of people that you can talk to about this.


Educate yourself on this subject.

This post about dealing with fear was my most popular post from 2012-2014..

"Eliminating Fear"

**********

* Improving Social Skills * ?

Again, it is simple to research this topic..

What worked for me was:

- lots and lots of practice

- reading the RVF to get advice from other guys

- studying comedians

- observing and emulating people with good social skill

- talking to any and everybody

**********

* Upgrading Attitude * ?

Again, this can be researched...

What worked for me was:

- making a serious decision that I needed a better attitude

- studying and talking to people who had a great attitude

- reading books about people with a great attitude

- surrounding myself with humor, passion, and love

- studying people who had a worse life than myself in order to keep a good perspective

- A "spiritual" practice of some sort (being grateful)

**********

* More Energy * ?

What has worked for me is

- better sleep

- better food and fitness

- more passion

- less bullshit

- more fun

- quitting my boring job and find more stimulating work

Also, PM me if you want to talk.

Post: #271

Wait, I thought you weren't attracted to the girl? This is the former fattie we are talking about right? Be her activity partner if you want, but why are you trying to bang her if you aren't attracted?

Post: #272

Quote:Or she's fucking someone else and needs to break up with them before hopping on your hobby horse?

Hmmm. You know I didn't even consider that. I thought she was trying to find out if I was a "playa".

However, that might explain the LMR. She did say she enjoyed what we were doing but felt guilty about going any further or something along those lines.

She also said,"Do you want to ask me anything?"

I don't know what will happen. Even though she had grabbed my dick earlier, we ended the night with a "hug close".

Interestingly, today's fortune from a fortune cookie read, "You have had a good start. Work harder!" I guess Gio is working for a Chinese cookie company?

Post: #273

Rex, your sense of humor is great.

I wish I was hearing these stories from someone else I know. You're already doing better than him.

These are steps in the right direction.

Post: #274

Damn this thread! I wanted to quit it 2 weeks ago but I can't keep away. I'm glad Rex tried to put the moves on her. But I'm confused like others: is she in a relationship or does she think you're a player? If she thinks you're a player -- that's good. She believes you can pull other bitches. But if she's in a relationship -- its probably a LTR that's now sexless because of her weight gain. She drops 100 lbs to get her man attracted again or find another guy. If she passed the boner test and you can deal with her having a bf -- fuck the shit outta her. That's no strings attached fun!

Post: #275

She is more likely in my view to be insecure about her figure and looking for reassurance from you than she is to be fucking someone else. You have been completely apathetic most of the time, whilst also occasionally showing interest. It's not congruent, and she can probably smell that a mile off. It's the sort of thing that perhaps, depending on the rest of your demeanour, may give off an element of the player vibe without quite showing enough of another side of you for it to be congruent that you're a player.