She doesn't want her friends to know her secrets. Take her to a club and pick up someone together.

I've seen her facebook. She's pretty "out there" with her wild sexual style and very vocal about it. Her friends know.

The club was the backup plan but I didn't want to do all that work.

Thoughts:

(05-31-2016 03:54 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  Invited a girl to a show I'm playing tomorrow:

Me: If you're not working tomorrow night, come to (location) my band is playing

Go shorter with your messages. Don't worry about whether she works or not, let her think about that. "My band's rocking x place tomorrow, come by"

Her: I actually don't work so I just might do that.

Me: Sweet, we play at 8pm

I think putting the "Sweet" in there is a bit eager. "Starts at 8" would've been fine.

Her: Whats the band name?

Me: The Kit Kat Killerz (her name is kat)

Her: Clever

Me: I was joking, our name is (name)

Sounds too much like an apology and you're completely in her frame of questioning you.

her: Haha I know i'm not THAT gullible

Actually a pretty positive response on her part.

Me: Oh yeah?

Decent response to take the frame back.

Her: (K)cats are smart

Me: Idk bout that, they are cute though.

Should've gone with something shorter like an emoji of a cat followed by a guitar and a party emoji.

Her: So are Kats.

tomorrow

What do?

(06-01-2016 07:05 PM)toejam Wrote:  Me: let's get crazy this weekend
Her: OK daddy
Me: bring a friend. I'll bring a dildo and a bottle of smirking
Her: I told you I don't have any friends

"So you want daddy's help"

"don't lie to daddy"

"someone needs a spanking"

"boring"

"I said crazy not boring"

There's so many different possible responses. Personally I think playing into the daddy thing since she offered it up is key.

I am thinking about writing my ex-gf. The situation began two months ago, when we met and everything went really quickly and it was really good. From begining it seemed to be my life triumph (really good looking, sporty, active lifestyle, well-cooking, non-promisculous history), I did very well (I did everything correctly, even though I didn´t know game rules) and I think she really liked me. But then started to make some beta mistakes (I forgot about keeping my frame, because I didn´t had serious relationship very long time) and in few days I fcked it up.
Everything was finnished from day to day when I announced her, that I will have to move to another city (I got quite interesting job that I dreamed of). I think, that this is the biggest problem, but big part have also my beta faults that I began to make when I felt sure about her. When she broke up with me, I felt time pressure (2 months to moving to another city) and made another faults (I knew I didn´t have time, so I tried to play on her feelings - well I know it doesn´t work this way).
One of the last things she wrote me, was like that "my problem is, that I think I can achieve everything I want to, but it doesn´t work this way" - (*it does!!). Last weekend during night I somehow texted her "I´ll get you anyway" ... no respond.

In a month, she is going to surgery and I am thinking about using it as my favor and trying it again (write her if everything went ok, how´s she feeling and so on). I know it´s really fcked up and there are not real odds for me. Maybe I only need to hear about forgeting her and I know it´s definitely the best option. But it´s difficult, because she´s the most quality girl I´ve ever met. OR is there anything I could write her later? But I don´t have time to wait 2 years until she changes another 5 guys and realize, that she liked me.

Move on, you have a job that makes you feel better, find better girls, she doesn't deserve your attention. Just question yourself if she would do the same for you, she took a decision and wants you out of her life. Whatever you write about the surgery she's gonna text back because girls when there's some kind of danger are very polite and look for any help if something goes wrong, unless she already replaced you with another guy. Text her if you want to start a pathological relationship.

Quick backstory...

I was hitting a girl significantly younger than me for several months. Our last time together, was the beginning of February 2015. I stuck a finger up her ass during sex. She didn't say anything at the time.

The next day I get a wall of text. I jokingly respond. She sends me another wall of text. I responded:

CP: "I didn't realize it was that big a deal to you. I apologize."

Another wall of text. I didn't respond. Next.

I saw she is back on OKCupid the other day. We had the following text exchange yesterday...

CP: 9:08am "What's up? I saw someone who reminded me of you the other day."
Her: 12:42pm "Who is this??"

CP: 3:28pm "Really?"
Her: 7:39pm "Really what?"

A fellow RVFer suggested sending a pic of me between two other girls and say "i'm the hot one in the middle." Or a pic of me smirking.

I'd like to get this one back. I don't have oneitis but this girl was cute and much younger than me. She always came to me and always brought food. She was a cool girl and the sex was great. All I had to do was be at home.

I'd like to get her back as my Tues/Wed regular.

Suggestions?

^ "I'm the guy who put a finger in your ass."

(06-02-2016 06:13 AM)tomzestatlu Wrote:  I am thinking about writing my ex-gf.

Don't.

(06-02-2016 05:02 PM)Satoshi Wrote:  ^ "I'm the guy who put a finger in your ass."

Anyway seriously:

Quote:I'd like to get this one back. I don't have oneitis but this girl was cute and much younger than me. She always came to me and always brought food. She was a cool girl and the sex was great. All I had to do was be at home.

That is oneitis man. You already "nexted" her but now you are trying to find ways to win her back when she is dismissing you. Not saying you can't get her back, but just realize you are thirsty for her. Thousands of cute 18 year olds enter the world every day. Remember that.

(06-02-2016 05:21 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

(06-02-2016 06:13 AM)tomzestatlu Wrote:  I am thinking about writing my ex-gf.

Don't.

(06-02-2016 05:02 PM)Satoshi Wrote:  ^ "I'm the guy who put a finger in your ass."

I had the same reaction.

Anyway seriously:

Quote:I'd like to get this one back. I don't have oneitis but this girl was cute and much younger than me. She always came to me and always brought food. She was a cool girl and the sex was great. All I had to do was be at home.

That is oneitis man. You already "nexted" her but now you are trying to find ways to win her back when she is dismissing you. Not saying you can't get her back, but just realize you are thirsty for her. Thousands of cute 18 year olds enter the world every day. Remember that.

Reading it again, I realize it may come across that way. But I assure you it isn't. I haven't been pining over this girl and trying to think up ways to get her back.

I saw that her profile was back up and I figured why not? She was the easiest FB I have ever had. I don't mean that in a perjorative sense. I mean that I literally had to do nothing besides be home by 5:30 on the nights she was coming over.

Regarding other 18 year olds. I have been following Giovanny's playbook. Finals are next week.

I hope to meet up with another 20 something this weekend. See if she flakes or not.

Back to the topic at hand. Any text response suggestions (besides Satoshi's recommendation?

Something tells me my classmate might have been into me but I think I blew it. You guys see any way to recover from here?

^

Good stuff! Surely that's just a joke convo and not real...

(06-03-2016 02:25 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  ^

Good stuff! Surely that's just a joke convo and not real...

Let's fucking hope so...

Okay, so until recently I've felt my text game was passable, but lately I feel like I've gone full retard. So I'm going to throw this out there to see what you guys think:

Me: I met this cute girl named xxxxx and want to see her again but don't know her schedule, any idea when she is free?

Her: My schedule is going to be pretty hectic. I have a lot going on this month with my new work schedule


My take is that she isn't really interested in meeting up with me and I am thinking to just move on, but would like to hear other opinons if something thinks this can be salvaged.

Pacesetter,
Some guys will tell you to push but I think it's a lost cause. She didn't offer any counteroffers or anything like "let's try to meet up in a few weeks". If she was into you she'd find a way to keep you engaged.

To critique your line, it's old and doesn't say anything other than "let's meet up". It's better to invite her to a specific event and then let her tell you her schedule. "Hey xxxxx, lets go to the music festival Friday."

(06-05-2016 04:15 PM)Pacesetter20 Wrote:  Okay, so until recently I've felt my text game was passable, but lately I feel like I've gone full retard. So I'm going to throw this out there to see what you guys think:

Me: I met this cute girl named xxxxx and want to see her again but don't know her schedule, any idea when she is free?

Her: My schedule is going to be pretty hectic. I have a lot going on this month with my new work schedule


My take is that she isn't really interested in meeting up with me and I am thinking to just move on, but would like to hear other opinons if something thinks this can be salvaged.

She doesn't want to make plans with you. Delete her number and move on. Also, romantic comedy-style line is cheesy and cringe worthy. Should just be:

Pacesetter20: whats your schedule like this week

^no punctuation or capitalization is intentional

Simple, to the point, and obviously lets her know you're looking to make plans. She straight forward will just tell you what her sched is like, or she'll give you that token "schedule is pretty hectic" "not sure when I'll be free" "friends is in town" "dog is sick" "<insert other evasive answer>" which just means she's not interested in making plans. In that case move on.

Alright, I need some input (might be off topic since its tinder texting, but Im looking to move it over to text asap)

I have had a nice little tinder talk with a cute little 23yo hottie that seems DTF (

We matched last night, here are the details of our convo:

8:37PM Me: You look like trouble
10:03PM Her: I will neither confirm nor deny
10:22PM Me: Considering you threw a Glomar response at me, you must be trouble..
10:38PM Her: I don't throw responses around, you're the one throwing accusations. Alos; I have the right to remain silent
10:41PM Me: But anything you say can and will be used against you. Don't make me come get you'
10:58PM Her: Plot twist: Hes actually a full-blown psycho that will come and get her
11:05PM Me: Damn, you got me. Open up your curtains again, I can't see you anymore
11:08PM Her: You must have the wrong window.. mine is the one with the black tinted glass
11:10PM Me: Found you (I attach a gif of some drag queen who looks creepy) Thats me in drag. What I wear when stalking chicks on tinder
11:12PM Her: Liking this new take on stalking. Fuck blending in when you can be fabulous instead
11:16PM Me: We should switch clothes sometime, be fab together. Meet me on Thursday, I'll pick a place
11:21PM Her: Only if its in an alley or some deserted shed in a shady area
11:24PM Me: I wont spoil the surprise. Here are my digits xxx Send me a text and I'll respond with a time and place
11:31PM Her: Me and orders don't really mesh that well, but I'll sleep on it
Today at 1:18PM Her: Two things before I give you the right to stalk me: where are you from and how often do you do shots at 2am? And yes, there are right and wrong answers to both questions.


phew

I quite enjoyed the conversation, I was laughing out loud a few times.

I feel she is right there for the picking but unsure how to move forward with my response. The way I see it I can work in 3 different ways.

1. I answer her questions (thus giving her a sense of control). "Im half British and half Swedish, 2am shots is the last thing I do before taking the chick Im with home for a nightcap"
2. I ignore the question and respond with something like "all will be revealed on Thursday etc" or "text me and I might respond to your questions"
3. I completely ignore her and tomorrow evening or Thursday lunch I get back to her with a time and place for our date

Maybe I should just tell her to text me and we can continue conversation there. Hell I hate text game and just want to keep it simple. I don't want to give her more then she deserves.

Any input would be much appreciated!!

cheers,

CS

I'd answer her questions in a caddish way. She has already signaled she'll meet you. You just have to prove you're cool. She is playing along. You need to too. if you completely avoid or wait a few days she'll next you.

(06-07-2016 09:27 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  I'd answer her questions in a caddish way. She has already signaled she'll meet you. You just have to prove you're cool. She is playing along. You need to too. if you completely avoid or wait a few days she'll next you.

Bro, I hear you.

I don't want to play along anymore though and feed into her self-esteem.

Ill probably just ignore the first part of where I am from. Don't really feel like telling her. Maybe i'll make her guess at a later point.

What about this: "It depends on the venue as I prefer my shots taken from between the breasts of a large chested woman"

I think this is where guys get lost. In this instance, I don't see it as feeding her self esteem. She is joking and contributing.
Guys seem to get hung up on overdoing the "I can't let her get the upper hand" mentality. When this girl is giving you the green light, she's just trying to figure logistics (do you live far away, with your parents, with your wife) and see if you are down to drink until 2AM.
Your line is cool though.

(06-07-2016 08:00 AM)CynicalSwede Wrote:  Alright, I need some input (might be off topic since its tinder texting, but Im looking to move it over to text asap)

I have had a nice little tinder talk with a cute little 23yo hottie that seems DTF (

We matched last night, here are the details of our convo:

8:37PM Me: You look like trouble
10:03PM Her: I will neither confirm nor deny
10:22PM Me: Considering you threw a Glomar response at me, you must be trouble..
10:38PM Her: I don't throw responses around, you're the one throwing accusations. Alos; I have the right to remain silent
10:41PM Me: But anything you say can and will be used against you. Don't make me come get you'
10:58PM Her: Plot twist: Hes actually a full-blown psycho that will come and get her
11:05PM Me: Damn, you got me. Open up your curtains again, I can't see you anymore
11:08PM Her: You must have the wrong window.. mine is the one with the black tinted glass
11:10PM Me: Found you (I attach a gif of some drag queen who looks creepy) Thats me in drag. What I wear when stalking chicks on tinder
11:12PM Her: Liking this new take on stalking. Fuck blending in when you can be fabulous instead
11:16PM Me: We should switch clothes sometime, be fab together. Meet me on Thursday, I'll pick a place
11:21PM Her: Only if its in an alley or some deserted shed in a shady area
11:24PM Me: I wont spoil the surprise. Here are my digits xxx Send me a text and I'll respond with a time and place
11:31PM Her: Me and orders don't really mesh that well, but I'll sleep on it
Today at 1:18PM Her: Two things before I give you the right to stalk me: where are you from and how often do you do shots at 2am? And yes, there are right and wrong answers to both questions.


phew

I quite enjoyed the conversation, I was laughing out loud a few times.

I feel she is right there for the picking but unsure how to move forward with my response. The way I see it I can work in 3 different ways.

1. I answer her questions (thus giving her a sense of control). "Im half British and half Swedish, 2am shots is the last thing I do before taking the chick Im with home for a nightcap"
2. I ignore the question and respond with something like "all will be revealed on Thursday etc" or "text me and I might respond to your questions"
3. I completely ignore her and tomorrow evening or Thursday lunch I get back to her with a time and place for our date

Maybe I should just tell her to text me and we can continue conversation there. Hell I hate text game and just want to keep it simple. I don't want to give her more then she deserves.

Any input would be much appreciated!!

cheers,

CS

"Endor, and it depends on if the Wookies are still up"
"Oz, and it depends if I'm driving that fucking lion home again"
"Hollywood, and it depends if DiCaprio is driving"
"[Anywhere], and my mom makes me be home by 9"

This is an easy one.

<quote> "Endor, and it depends on if the Wookies are still up"
"Oz, and it depends if I'm driving that fucking lion home again"
"Hollywood, and it depends if DiCaprio is driving"
"[Anywhere], and my mom makes me be home by 9"

This is an easy one. </quote>

Fucking amazing! I went with the classic orphan/bruce wayne angle though and that did the trick


Thought I'd give you guys a continuation for those of you who are interested. The chick actually ended up inviting ME out yesterday;


1:18PM Her: Two things before I give you the right to stalk me: where are you from and how often do you do shots at 2am? And yes, there are right and wrong answers to both questions.
5:34PM Me: Im an orphan, a bit like Bruce Wayne except Batman ain't got shit on me <insert 2am shot joke here>
6:56PM Her: As long as you don't have an Australian accent you're good
7:01PM Me: If you don't behave I can pull off a really bad Australian accent
7:20PM Her: You are welcome to do n Australian accent if you want to see me cringe and run
7:30PM Me: I haven't made my mind up yet
7:39PM Her: Indecisiveness is not attractive
7:47PM Me: On a totally unrelated note, if you have Netflix, check out The Fear of 13. Watching it right now and its pretty amazing (I needed a quick recovery from her last message, and to show her I was focused on the documentary and just passing time texting her)
7:56PM Her: I have not, but it sounds like something I could watch. So you are on a date with Netflix tonight then?
8:10PM Me: Jealous? I could make you my date. Got food and wine. Call it /insert my name/ Wine and Dine if you will. Netflix would understand
8:38PM Her: I will most definitely call it that. However Im out drinking way more beer then my liver approves of, so that might have to wait
8:39PM Her: Because Beer
8:46PM Me: You are hilarious
9:03PM Her: I know right
9:04PM Her: You're welcome to join if Netflix turns out to be a bitch
9:05PM Me: Where ya guys at?
9:06PM Her: We are about to head to /insert location/
9:36PM Me: You intrigue me. Gonna take the mutt for a walk first. Let me know when you arrive. I'll meet you at the bar solo and if we hit it off i'll join your group. If not ill bounce and live to fight another day. Like Batman
9:53PM Her: Well, Im here now. Hoes goes before bros, but Im willing to give you this deal. Mostly cause Im confident you will not hate me
9:58PM Me: Agree to disagree on hoe part. I'll jump in a car and head over. I'm dressed like Johnny Cash. I'll be with the cool kids
10:01PM Her: I'm dressed like a weeping widow so its a great match. Let me know when you are close by, I'll go out for a smoke. PS I smoke
10:05PM Me: I knew you were trouble
10:09PM Her: You know nothing /My name which is close to John/ Snow
10:14PM Me: Now is a good time to go out for a smoke

And the rest is history. As soon as I walked in I introduced myself to her friends and then she focused on me. I chatted with her for two hours and had a few drinks. Her friend was staying with her so I said goodbye and ordered a cab. She walked me out and we kissed. We made plans for Thursday and she texted me at 1am officially giving me her number. I have yet to respond but will be back with an update. Going in for the bang

Not bad considering how snarky she seems over chat. Her texting mannerisms are a huge turnoff for me but if she's cute and her sarcastic ass toughbitch attitude broke down in person then that's cool.

Crazy milf from my other thread (kicked me out her house 2 weeks ago) is back lol

"Hey just seeing how everything is"

Obvious choice is to ignore but Im compelled to reply..

Newbie question but I wanted to know what other guys do.

If you schedule a date via text message or phone some days before the date, do you guys talk to the girl in the mean time?

Or do you not call or text at all and only contact her the day of the date to make sure she shows up?

My situation: I scheduled a date with a girl today (Monday) to meet her on Thursday.

When I was younger, I would not text or call the girl at all between setting up the date and the date itself. I would schedule date and then not contact her until the day of the date to make sure she shows up.

But now with so many other dating apps that weren't around when I was younger, women have shorter attention spans, it seems.

I had carried on a conversation with this girl via text message so she is interested. But I am not sure if I need to continue to text her everyday until the day of the date.

Thoughts?

(06-13-2016 01:21 PM)therealpoder Wrote:  Newbie question but I wanted to know what other guys do.

If you schedule a date via text message or phone some days before the date, do you guys talk to the girl in the mean time?

Or do you not call or text at all and only contact her the day of the date to make sure she shows up?

My situation: I scheduled a date with a girl today (Monday) to meet her on Thursday.

When I was younger, I would not text or call the girl at all between setting up the date and the date itself. I would schedule date and then not contact her until the day of the date to make sure she shows up.

But now with so many other dating apps that weren't around when I was younger, women have shorter attention spans, it seems.

I had carried on a conversation with this girl via text message so she is interested. But I am not sure if I need to continue to text her everyday until the day of the date.

Thoughts?

This is actually a well discussed subject earlier on this thread. I think consensus is not to keep talking and only send a confirmation text earlier in the day. "I should be there by 7:00 tonight." The point is, text should be only for logistics once you set up the date. Otherwise you run the risk of scaring her off. If she is going to get distracted and flake, she's going to do it either way. It's better to appear busy and that you have a life.